Threesome to get pregnant?

My wonderful and loving man is infertile but I am able to have children. We don't have extra thousands of dollars to spend on treatments or adoption. He has a friend who finds me very attractive and willing to have a threesome with us to try and get me pregnant. I need advice, I am not sure if I should go this way or not. I have never had a threesome before.

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  • I think as long as the physical sexual act that conceived ur child involved ur husband then it wouldn't be the same as simply sleeping with the other guy ??

  • I have a friend and we team up on his wife all the time. They claim it even makes their relation stronger.

  • I have a same situation, I'm fertile and my husband is not. We wasted 7 years, I'm 41yo now and more challenged. He finally agreed if I try donor IUI. But it's expensive, it's small chance, frozen sperm is alive for only 24 hours after injection. And at my age I am not sure about my exact ovulation time. I was so depressed I went to spa resort and stayed there for 2 weeks and got pregnant from random guy. Unfortunately my pregnancy was terminated cuz of my moral issues: "who is the father and etc".... I really regret of this and gonna try again. I don't have time for new husband, new relationships, adaption is very complicated. Yes, I wanna be "selfish" and get my own baby asap. I hope god will forgive me, and help me. Every woman has right to be a mom. Moral doesn't warm up our hearts, it kills possibility to become happy mom

  • I will give u a baby any time you want...if you don't mind the fact that I am black. I wish you well.

  • Oh god yes!!! I got asked this very thing by a friend once, me being the horny guy I am took him on the offer me him and one other friend bang the living shit out of his wife, she loved it and so did we. God i never busted a nut like I did that night, she did get pregnant from that night and they have a 2 year old girl, and are happy, me on the other hand still to this day jerk off to the though of that night. i mean i was able to bust a nut deep down and get off the way I did, hell ya its worth it!!!

  • If you wont mind that I am a black guy,I will help you become a mom ASAP.Got an email?

  • If it were me, I'd go the expensive route. I did and I'm happy I did. If I fell in love with the other person, no telling where that would go. You might want to eventually leave your husband for him. Believe me, we looked at adoption and artificial insemination. It's better. s******* another man is a whole different ball game. I've been down tthat road a bit, and it just got me into hellish trouble, confuses me. So do yourself a favor and stay away. It's exciting, too, but only for a few minutes.

  • A lot of people are a*******. What you and your husband are planning to do is the right thing, if he's okay with it you may consider a pluralistic relationship with the potential father, let him seduce you and actually make love to you, That way he's less a sperm donor and more a love to you. It may take several tries to actually get pregnant, so enjoy the experience, the journey is the destination.

  • Do NOT DO THIS! Consider adopting or getting a sperm donor. If you care at all about her husband, the origin of your child should be completely impartial.

  • I think that if you are good potential parents, and communication is clear, go for it. Just make sure to include both men as much as possible so hubby doesn't get hurt. These things can inspire jealousy that wasn't expected. You have a decent solution here.

  • Please do NOT do it! Think about it for a looooong time. All your crying and carrying on is totally ridiculous. You will be sorry for the rest of your life! This involves more than just you wanting a baby.There will be many problems you have not thought about!

  • My wife had a fantasy of a MMF threesome. We have been married since 1988 and have had some problems but none from this. My friend went fishing with us one night and she came on to him. We ended up f****** her on three different occasions. Our relationship has not changed, even with my fishing buddy.

  • I'm sorry but what you're suggesting is all kinds of selfish. You are not only whining about wanting a child "of your own" rather than adopting one of the many, many children in need of a good home right in your own country, but you're expecting your husband to change his view of you and his friend just so you can get pregnant. Your husband would never, ever see you (or his friend) the same way again. There are all sorts of legal ramifications for this as well; the friend might say today that he's willing to give up all paternal rights to the child, but he may change his tune once a baby is born. And what about the child his/herself? What happens when they get older and find out how they were made, or that their "real" father is someone completely different than they thought? I know you're trying to rationalize this to yourself, but you and the friend are both disgusting and shouldn't be parents.

  • True ^^^ but she did say that she didn't "have the money" to adopt, honey if you don't have the money to adopt then you def. don't have the money to become parents. Adopt an older child, you are selfish if you just want a baby. Babies don't stay babies; will you just return it once it reaches the terrible twos?

  • You are very lucky to have such an understanding husband. Arrange a night (during your fertile time) with 2 or three guys then no one knows who the father is.

  • Uuum you don't have to f*** in order to get his sperm inside you.

  • Don't do it. So many things are going to be wrong in the future. He'll tell you to marry the other guy every time you guys fight.

  • How much does it cost just to go to a sperm bank and make a withdrawal? THAT would be a better idea than KNOWING the biological father of the baby. You never know- he might have a change of heart and decide HE wants to be the father. After all it would be HIS baby too. I dunno. If you're seriously thinking of going through with this, I'd speak to a lawyer and see if there is any way you can have a contract drawn up to prevent the bio-dad from any parental claim to the child. Also- you don't really have to have s** with him. Just get a 'donation' and a turkey baster or something.

  • I think that you need to think about the legal aspect and the fact that having a second man involved could seriously affect your relationship (forever) with your husband and have serious potential legal ramifications. Also, you say that you know that he is infertile and that you are fertile, but don't have the money for treatments - how do you know that are correct as to which one of you is infertile? Did you have testing done to find that out? Maybe it's not infertility but stress around wanting to have a baby - I've heard so many stories around stress leading to "infertility" or couples being declared medically "infertile" adopting and then later having a natuaral born child. In the end, you should consider adoption or treatment in another country to solve this problem... otherwise it sounds like you/your husband would be simply playing out someone's sexual fantasy.

  • Why does it have to be a threesome? Why does your husband want to be in bed with the guy? If you do get pregnant he will know it is not his, so why a 3some?Sounds fishy to me!

  • I seriously think that you should do a gang bang. That way you won't be tied in any way later to a guy that just might want to have something to do with the kid.

  • why don't you go rent a kid first and see how well that goes before you have you own, and then instead of having somebodys kid that ain't your husbands, adopte one.

  • That would be a bad situation in a long run. This guy isn't going to just sit back and let another man raise his kid.. he may just be in it for the s**. If you can be sure that this guy is just trying to help you out, write up a contract and go for it.

  • Please do NOT do that! You will be so sorry later.Is your husband pushing you to do it? If so, you should not do it.That is NO way to get pregnant.Actually that is sicken.

  • I am the original poster and thank you for reading and commenting. No he is not pressuring me. But I think he feels bad that he is unable to get me pregnant and trying to offer an alternative. Overall I feel really bad for even thinking about it. But what is one to do when you really want something (a baby) but no good way to go about it (too expensive or unethical. I can't even look at other people with kids without crying.

  • This is so stoopid! just stop already. this sheet is stoopid enough without this sheet.

  • you don't have to have a threesome just to get knocked up, thats just the s*** side of you comming out, and if he does, the kid won't be your husbands, and he'll damm well know it, perhaps even disown the kid, and you, but its your choice.

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