A Sex confession
I've been married for nearly 6 years. My wife is beautiful, caring, compassionate...truly a great woman.
But for the past 3 years I've been "hobbying", going to a mix of prostitutes, brothels, and massage parlors. I have no other explanation than I love sex and always have. I was and still am big on porn, very visual, and the hobbying is a manifestation of alot of that. My wife and I have a mediocre sex life. She's gorgeous and I'm not bad (but not as attractive as she is), but she has a more reserved personality about that stuff and porn has never been a part of her life.
It feels like it's really just about the sex for me. I don't want to marry another woman, I just love the physical act of these places. I know if I truly loved my wife, I'd put her ahead of myself in this regard, but I feel like I do in every other area in life. I pay all the bills, take care of our assets, help her with her schoolwork, take care of all my in-laws business affairs.
So I don't know what to do. I've probably spent over $10,000 hobbying the past 3 years, and she doesn't know about it. I feel guilty but I can't stop going. I just love being stroked by this women, especially in a table shower. Everytime I'm in a new city alone (I travel quite a bit) I look online for places to visit.
I don't want to break her heart, but I'm afraid she'll find out eventually and that would really devastate her and me. I don't have any signs of disease, but still...I don't want to do this anymore. But then I do.
Anonymous
Join the club dude. I just need to fuck different women, all the time. Been visiting massage parlors for almost 15 years now. Not counted the money I've spent
Anonymous
Yea, the funk part worries me, too. Neither of us have signs of anything but I wonder if I should just get tested anyways.
I'd also add we don't have kids.
Anonymous
you will (if you havent already) bring a nasty funk home to momma.
Anonymous
I served 20+ years in the Air Force and we had a saying "What goes TDY stays TDY" TDY - Temporary Duty away from your current duty station. It's kind of like the what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas slogan. As long as you're doing these things while traveling and not when home with your wife I wouldn't sweat it too much. Yes, technically you're cheating, a sinner, a loser, and any other negative name you can think of but if you have needs that aren't being met at home and you can satisfy those needs while traveling then go for it. Just be careful and don't bring home any nasty funk to momma.