A Love confession
I have been abused from age 2-18 I was recently Adopted by a 48 year old female. I am a female age 18. I was never really "touched" in a nice way. What are some things me and my new mom can do to form a bond. And what can she do to comfort me? I'll take answers from anyone please!
Anonymous
Your new mom may be over-compensating by keeping her distance from you. If you can find it within yourself to discuss what happened and let her know that your need for affection is still intact, it might help. Keep in mind that it might take time.
Anonymous
I don't live with her, I wish I did. I would probably get more cuddles if I did though.
Anonymous
I'm the girl who was also sexual abused who commented on your other confession. Just please tell us something, is your other mother in jail for what she did? I really hope so :( I hope she's paying for it.. How can people do this to kids?
Anonymous
This is that same shy guy who just commented on your newer post.
I'm really sorry you had to go through that, no one desires that :( It's kind of weird to try to think about how my mom comforted me when I was young, its really not something I think about. It's really hard to describe in words how she acted... Its like she just put her hand on my shoulder and love flowed out. When I was sitting at the dinning room table struggling with homework she would stand next to me, put her arm a cross my back and put her hand on my shoulder (opposite of the side she was standing) she bend/squat down to read the piece of paper with her side pressed up against my side and with the arm a cross my back, she would genitally squeeze my shoulders together in a one armed hug. It's impossible to describe a mother's love, you just feel it. I hope your new mom is a caring woman. Think of her as the mom you should have been born to, not your legal guardian! If you love her, I'm sure she will love you, you can't push for closeness, it will just come.
**hugs**
P.S. Give your new mom a hug when ever you come home from school or when she comes home from work, that way she will be more comfortable to show you physical affectionate, nice kind of course :)