15 Year Affair

 
Have been married for 28 years. Met a beautiful woman 15 years ago and still continue to have an affair with her. Our sex is wonderful and orgasms are the best ever... Much better sex than with my wife but we could ever be together for longer than a few days. We are not in love just lust and treat our friendship like we found the right person..however reality sets in and we go back to our spouses. Still love my wife but having this affair makes me a better person..I'm more relaxed with great sex.. Is it wrong to continue this?
A Relationship confession by: Anonymous
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    Thank you for your answer. This helps clarify some of the reasons. Yes there is guilt and society may not accept this but we don't consider this cheating..perhaps just posting this is a sign of guilt..still not sure about that. All I know is that I would be half a man if I didn't have this. She makes me feel like a man and is the best lover ever. Sometimes you can't have the perfect situation so we make do with what we can get. The key here is not hurting anyone and making sure expectations are set on all levels. So I hear you saying it's ok to carry on..keep a low profile, don't get caught. respect all involved.

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    Absolutely, yes: I think your head is on straight about this situation and about both relationships. Your life is immeasurably enriched by your mistress, and you should be continually, if you aren't already, telling her so. She is a vitally important part of your life, and your world, and that fact taken together with the incredible sex life the two of you share --- despite your suggestion that it isn't love --- certainly seems like love: at an absolute minimum, there's a purity and beauty to it that most people never experience. We can love more than one person, certainly, and so you just have to consider the answers to two questions: 1. If this isn't love, why is the sex soooooo fucking good? And 2. If this isn't love, how could it possibly have lasted so long? And with no signs of EVER ending? My guess is that the relationship is fifteen times stronger now, and that the sex is fifteen times better now, than it was in the first year. You didn't ask for our opinions, but yes, I think this is love . . . for BOTH OF YOU.

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    Yours is the best-case argument in favor of extramarital affairs. You're both aware of and are willing to assume the risk involved --- and with the two of you, the risk is probably a substantial part of the thrill, is it not? --- and you've established and maintained a long-term relationship despite the significant challenges of the thing. You may think of it in predominantly sexual terms, but the two of you support one another as well, even if it's occasionally only the knowledge that the other one cares. So, yes, this is a relationship every bit as important as the one you have with your wife. In addition (and this is purely personal opinion), your observation about being a better person is perfectly valid, because the adulterous arrangement strenghtens you, relaxes you, encourages you and excites you, in your daily life and, ironically, even within your marriage. For what it's worth to you, my two cents is that it's not wrong to continue the affair, so long as you and your mistress acknowledge the risks and decide the benefits outweight them. Best wishes.

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    At this point, why would you even ask?

    by: Anonymous

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