Ok so I have been with my boyfriend on and off for 4 years and we have had a very rocky relationship. We have broken up numerous times over stupid things and this one time when we broke up and he said some very nasty things to me (e.i I don't want you anymore and leave me the f*** alone) so me being in love with him and thinking he was never going to come back to me I started talking to this guy from class. I wasn't in love with this guy nor did I like him very much, just thought he was kinda cute so I started txting him. He called me one night and we had phone s**. Well it was more like him trying to get me to have phone s** with him and me just boredly complying so I won't hurt his feelings. Fast forward to about a week later. I stop talking to this guy because I obviously loved my ex and I was just fooling mself by talking to this guy and I stopped talking to him about 2 days after that I start talking back to my ex whom I was still in love with and we get back together. I would like to know is this considered cheating even though we broke up? I have never ever cheated in a relationship and im totally new to this whole dating thing period so Im really confused and I feel so guilty. My friends say its not cheating because we werent together and not to tell him because theres no telling what he did during that time that was probably worse than what I had done but the guilt just wont go away. should I tell him? I know its stupid to be going on a confession site asking for advice but this is really needed. any advice is welcome.

Oct 20, 2011

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  • I hope not, because that would mean that the time I went home with a girl I met at a bus stop and had full s** with her while me and my girlfriend were on a break for a month was cheating. Obviously it wasn't.

  • I agree with the first commenter. If you were broken up at the time then it's not cheating. If you were just having an argument, but you were still technically together, then it is cheating.
    By the way, do you watch Friends? All I could think while I was reading this was Ross and Rachel "We were on a break!!" lol

  • if you werent together as a couple at the time of the phone s**, if you believed the relationship was over, it isnt cheating. why overcomplicate things? besides who cares? sounds like your BF is a j***.

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