Went on swinger date

I posted that my wife wanted an open marriage, or to start swinging. Knowing she is extremely impulsive, I was able to talk her out of an open marriage. She agreed it wasn't practical, being seen around the city with different men may not be helpful to her career either.
However, she said swinging with another couple still might be fun if we were discrete enough. She had already set up a date on Friday night with another couple, but she told me we wouldn't have any s** on this first date. So I agreed to go. It would give me time to talk her out of the swinging, or I could hope she decided she wouldn't like it also.
She wore a mini dress and looked like a super model. We drove into the city to meet at a bar. She had shown me pictures of the couple, but the photos didn't do the couple justice, she was a very attractive blonde, with big full b******, and pretty face, and smile. He was about 6'3" black man, built like a football player. His name was Ben, and hers was Jody.
Instead of staying at the bar, we decided to go a dance club that played all kinds of different music. My wife walked into the club with Ben on her arm, and I likewise with Jody. We got a booth, Karen and Ben go to the dance floor immediately, while I stayed and talked to Jody. I asked her all kinds of questions about her swinging, she said they didn't swing with that many couples, 1, or 2, and one of the couples had dropped out, so they were looking for a new couple to swing with.
The night was going uneventful, until I was on the dance floor with Jody, and saw my wife making out with Ben at the booth. Not much I could do right then, it would of been a huge scene, so I turned my attention to Jody, believe me I was shocked my wife was making out with another man. A slow dance started and Jody wrapped her arms around me, gave me a little kiss on my cheek, and whispers in my ear, " I would really like you to f*** me!" Damn, this is going faster than I wanted, I told her maybe on the next date. Jody and I go back to the booth, Ben and Karen are gone. The place was crowded so I couldn't tell if they were dancing or where they were at. After about fifteen minutes the two come back to the booth, and we say our good byes.
On the car ride home, I told my wife I saw her kissing Ben, and I thought it wasn't right, she quickly turned it back on me and said she saw me kissing Jody. Jody kissed me on the cheek. Karen asked what I thought of Ben, and Jody. She bluntly asked if I would of f***** Jody, I told her it was going too fast, and we need to go slow with the swinging. She said also bluntly said she would have no problem f****** Ben.
She set up another date with them in a couple of weeks, hopefully in the meantime, I can persuade her to give up the swinging. I did notice something that also disturbed me, when Karen got undressed for bed she wasn't wearing any panties, when we left to meet them she was.
I know people will be judging me about what happened, or tell me my wife does not love me, she does, and I love her. Like I wrote before, my wife gets impulsive, and I have had to talk her out of doing crazy things before, like buying expensive cars, and jewelry. I should have no problem doing it again.

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  • Go along, let her f*** the black guy, enjoy his wife. Get the upper hand in the relationship. You push her, Not the other way around. You make the araingemnts and find the couples. You seem distraught and afraid your going lose her. The only way you don't lose her is to trick her out and push her beyond her limits. . The reason she wants to f*** other men is because she wants a man to take charge of her sexually. You have to be that man. The genie is out of the bottle. She has a case of hot p****. Ride it out. You can either have a blast with it or let it destroy you because your a big p****.

  • Invite your friends over to sleep with you, you will enjoy it.

  • I'm so sorry, man. You shouldn't have to put up with this, it isn't what you agreed to when you married I assume, so for her to change the rules is unfair to you since it wasn't what you signed up for. I guess your choices are to decide if you can live with it or leave her if you can't, which sucks and I'm sorry. But like another poster said, if you decide you can't deal with it and tell her to stop she will probably just go behind your back. She doesn't sound like much of a catch to me, honestly, if she has so little regard for your feelings that she would basically try to force you into accepting this. I wish you all the best, I hope it all works out. Oh and ignore the s*** talkers. As I'm sure you know, it's unhelpful and unnecessary.

  • Don't give up on Karen, and don't stop posting. You can tell from the tone of the responses here whether or not they've been thought through, and whether or not they're worth considering. Let us know how the St. Patty's Day Date goes. I think that eventually you'll love how edgy your wife is, and be proud that she is, and be excited by her sexual desire for other men, though it may take some effort, strength and resilience to get there. You don't have to f*** Jody to get even; just let Karen be Karen and see where that takes you.

  • Right now I am not in a strong position in the relationship. Divorce would be out of the question, I would have to live like a hobo. My wife has always had a adventurous side to her. I wish people would quit being so judgmental. She may not even go through with it. I am not sure I will post anymore, however it does help me think things out when I do though.

  • Well if you're okay with letting her have s** with somebody else, and if you can live with it, then it's okay I guess. But if it bothers you, you should let her know. And if she still does it, then you can do the same to her, it shouldn't bother her either. But, if you could divorce her and not live like a hobo, would you divorce her? Do you wish that?

  • I doubt I would still divorce her, I like the lifestyle I have. I am just trying to control what happens, she has talked about having 4 or 5 couples to "date" on a regular rotation. I am trying to keep it to one couple, or none. if I have to watch her get f*****, at least it would be just Ben. Hate to tell everyone, but I then would f*** Jody. I am not going to sit around and watch.

  • UPDATE: My wife, Karen, set up another date with Ben, and Jody for St. Patrick's Day. Unfortunately, she hinted that there would be s** on this date. She talked about getting a hotel room for the night. I have about ten days to persuade her otherwise.

  • But at least she is not cheating on you, you're just letting her cheat. She does it without lying, and you sound like a coward for letting her do that sort if disgusting thing.

  • I suggest a divorce.

  • What a w**** and what a moron.

  • I don't believe my wife f***** Ben, or even sucked his d***. Why do I believe this? She would of come out on the car ride home and told me. She has always been honest with me. The fifteen minutes they were gone, they could of been on the dance floor. The no panties, when she took off her dress, could easily be explained that she took them off in the bathroom. I guess I shouldn't have posted that stuff.
    To the poster that wife left him for a black man. I just don't see her leaving me, and getting impregnated by a black guy. Sorry about your predicament.

  • My wife wanted to be able to date one particular guy she worked with. Like Ben, he was black and built. I said it was okay because I knew she'd just go behind my back if I didn't agree. He came and picked her up at our house for their first date at about 6:30 on a Friday night, and she promised she'd be home by midnight. She called before 9pm and said she wasn't coming home until Saturday night. Around lunchtime on Saturday, she called and told one of our children to tell me that she wouldn't be home until Monday, in time to go to work. Sunday morning she called and said she was leaving me and the kids so she could be with Kelvin, even though he wasn't leaving his wife: she wanted to be available to him whenever he wanted, without us getting in his way. I've seen her once since then, when she came to pick up her things from the house, and the kids haven't seen her at all. She's had one child for Kelvin, and is now pregnant with a second one, according to her best friend, who lives with her in an apartment that I pay for (court-ordered), because my wife quit or got fired from her job: apparently work was also interfering with her relationship with Kelvin.

    Be very careful with this, my friend. Very careful.

  • Dude i am TRULY srry to hear about what happened. I really does take a feat of strength for u to tell others about it as a warning of the risk of swinging.

  • letting her f*** other guys is cheaper than letting her buy expensive cars and jewelry. plus if she wants to do it, shes gonna do it anyway. she just may not tell you about it.

  • Your wife may simply be one of those rare women who need more than one man. That truly is a physical need, and it's one that won't be long suppressed, regardless of whether you consent or play along. So, if you love her and are convinced she loves you, you just have to decide if you're willing to share her -- with the up-front understanding that she always come home, after she's finished with the other man -- or if you can't take it and have to walk away, to go find a wife who CAN be satisfied by one man. You're clearly uncomfortable with both open marriage and swinging, so your position may be one of keeping yourself for Karen alone, while she goes out and satisfies her ravenous sexual hunger in the arms and in the beds of multiple other men. My recommendation? Stick with Karen: there aren't many like her in the world, but having a little of one is better than having a lot of the others. Eventually, you may find that you're intensely excited by the idea of having a wife who is "seen around the city with different men". Consider yourself lucky.

  • Either your posts are completely fabricated bullshit, or you need to wake up and smell the p**** juices i.e. the missing panties and the unexplained 15 minutes gone. She already f***** Ben. Duh !!! You ain't talking her out of NOTHING, Jack.

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