Why am I still attracted to this older guy who is a total douchebag? Years ago, I was totally crazy about him. I dated him for a little while, until he got distant & the "relationship" fizzled. A few times a year, we run into each other in passing & are just acquaintance friendly to each other. Both of us have clearly moved on. However, whenever he speaks to me, I can't help but feel those sparks that I haven't felt with anyone else afterwards. It's so twisted, because I know he's a j***. Maybe I'm just attracted to a*******? Ahhhh..