Wife was raped

This weekend after my wife and I returned from an evening at the bar she was in the mood to keep enjoying the night and I was tired from working all day. We had a small argument about it and I told her I was going to bed.

She stayed up and heard the neighbors next door having a party and I heard her leave.

Next thing, she comes in several hours later saying that "he raped me". She had passed out on the neighbor's couch (her girlfriend and her guy roomates live in the house). While she was asleep one of the guys came in and picked her up taking her to her room. She was so drunk and out of it that she thought it was me having s** with her. When she started to make out his face and saw that it was someone else she freaked out and started kicking and hitting him to get off. He held her down and told her he was going to finish. She kept fighting and he pulled a knife on her. Told her that if she told anyone he would kill her.

When she told me I went nuts and went to the guy's house. I banged on the door screaming at him. He didn't come out.

My wife will not press charges, she feels like it would be too hard to prove and that she doesn't want to be known throughout the neighborhood as a drunken w****. She even spoke to a detective about it and he told her it would be a long difficult road to get him convicted. I am a very well known business person in the community so me going over there and fighting him or doing anything illegal would end in my life being ruined.

Our marriage is falling apart. We haven't had s** since, who knows if he gave her something. Who knows if she would have flashbacks while we are having s**.

She has fallen into a deep depression and our world is falling apart. The a****** lives right next door and there is nothing we can do about it. We are in our dream home but due to some financial stuff last year I would not be able to get a loan to move somewhere else.

The rage I have for the guy grows daily but I know that anything done to him will be traced right back to me. She is losing her job because she is too depressed to go into work, which leaves her at the house to go through a living h*** of her own as the guy drives by.


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  • My wife told me that burglars broke into her office when only she and her boss were in, made them undress to their underwear and locked them up in a meeting room.

  • She wasn’t raped dude. She was drunk and cheated on you.

  • My wife is muslim and got raped by black gang in chicago. the catch was as they took turns with her they made her ride them

  • Ive been there. Life carries on, at the end of the day s** happens! If the person youre close to has s** with someone else then it was either A/Drunk B/ An experiment or C/Theyre unhappy in the present arrangement!
    Examine yr life and wants! x

  • Get over it, she got f*****, I hope she enjoyed it, tell her not to go to party's without you unless she wants to get f***** by a friend or stranger.
    And if you let her go to party's without you, where there will be alcohol or drugs don't b**** when she comes home full of c** from one or more guys.

  • It was my husband who raped me on January 30th 2013, as I pleaded with him that s** did not have to be in anger, we could talk about why the last 31 years happened the way they had. Why his own defiance in the community kept me from having a s** life in our marriage.< about how his own depression and lack of cooperation let him lose his immune system that caused his own body to let him aquire MRSA in his spine. That the last 31 years of defiance caused him to not take a vacation or time off work was his own fault for not trying to work out times with other5s and maybe he would have liked the time in mid winter we tried to get him to take. And use his personal time to replace the holidays we had to make him work.

    I said I had promised his father that evening to go to a dinner event with him, my husbands mother and his fathers best friend, (A City County official). I Pleaded with him to just pick a place in four hours to meet with us where we could work out a timetable and conditions that would allow him into things he had been left out of.

    The rape was not simply about s**, It was a part of his revolt of the last 12 years He had left people badly hurt, families ruined, Even our church deacons Suicide was attributed to my husband for the very public way he discredited him in Front of his wife and congregation on Christmas day 2003 when my husband left pictures of him going into a motel with another woman on his Church secretary wife's chair when he put a slug gun under his chin and pushed the Trigger two years later. He had been removed from his church position. He had not seen his three children in three years, He was drinking and using crack band he had his last disciplinary layoff of thirty days in October and he was going to be terminated that Christmas down week. The way my husband ruined his life for making my husband work the 23 Christmas in a row since our wedding was in my and his fathers estimation uncalled for.

  • Dont drink alcohol

  • I'm sorry but part of her story doesn't add up. This guy is having s** with your wife and she starts to struggle. OK. He Pulls Out a Knife???
    From where? He's on top and busy having s** - so did he get off then get the knife? Did he say just a minute, then pull a knife from his pockets either around his ankles or on the floor, open the knife - then say where were we?
    My point is How did he suddenly have a knife.
    I think your wife had regrets AFTER she had drunken s** and made her story fit her being a victim instead of a cheat.

  • Bro he raped your wife. he was inside her... a place where only you have the right to be in he used your wife like an object for pleasure. make him pay... whether it be physically, emotionally or mentally. you could confront him and have him say sorry to your wife or just a way to catch him alone and beat the s*** out of him because honestly having your wife raped is something no man should go through.

  • You might be able to find some friends to help on the deep web. Hard to be traced when using bitcoins, and likely theyd have experience dealing with matters so closely linked to home that suspicions are raised

  • This is rape and nothing else. she may have been drinking but was passed out and unable to consent to anything when he took into another room to rape her. she came to enough to realize what was happening and said stop and tried kicking him and he pulled out a knife threatened her and finished. he is a scumbag and needs to be off the streets so he can't do this to someone else. Press charges against him and then sue his ass off for "lack of consortion" meaning his actions prevent you from being intimate with your wife. Be there for her and always reassure her it wasn't her fault.

  • Feel sorry for her

  • Rape him back

  • She gave willingly, the problem was she felt guilty and had the feeling that she needed to tell you but she also needed to made an excuse for her self, so she made up the rape story. To think that she did not want to press charges, if she felt violated she would still do it regardless how strong the case will be.

  • She did talk to the detective.If it wasn't true she wouldn't have done that

  • Not necessarily. Was the detective on duty? Did she call him at the police station? Was the husband present when she talked to a detective? Is it just another story? Was this detective just a family friend that could smell a lie and dissuaded her from filing a report?

  • Kill the guy that did it to her. What the h*** are you waiting for? Your career be damned; act like a f****** man.

  • You both need therapy. She is your wife and you love her dearly. Do the right thing and get counseling for both of you.

  • Your wife is a lying w****. I been through the same s*** before with my roommate's girlfriend. She sucked my d*** and f***** me for half the night then felt guilty the next day and told him I raped her. She f*** one of his other friends a couple weeks later and said the same s*** about him raping her. Get ride of the w****...

  • When women regret giving consent. Their excuse is they weren't in a sound state of mind and so it must have been rape.

  • If they are drunk then it is rape you d*** head

  • see a shrink.or Docter,or sign her to a mental heath Facilty for a year or two.

  • Do you think it would benefit her if she joined a non-profit anti-rape organization? Helping others who have been raped might help give her a sense of purpose and passion. Also, these people have experienced something similar, and may be able to support her (as a fellow victim) in a way you can't.

  • She didn't get raped, the guy is not the problem, she is. She wanted it to happen

  • She went there because she was not getting it at home.

  • She IS a drunken w****. I mean really.

    And she f***** him willingly then halfway through decided not too- she's LYING to you dude about thinking it was you! And you're just naive and gullible and egotistical enough to believe her.

    Sad for you.

    Get used to her being "raped" a lot more often in the future.

  • Alcoholism is the real problem here.

  • Who the f*** do you think you are? You are a complete f****** a******. Maybe you should have gotten raped instead of his wife.

  • Agreed. You should have been raped u worthless piece of p***.

  • you are such an a******. How would you feel if it was your own daughter or wife who got raped?

  • I strongly disagree- of course don't "dump your wife". If anything, you really need to be there for her in this difficult time. She's depressed and she needs you to get through this. She needs you to be stronger and to offer her some strength.
    I think justice is more important than reputation. People will talk because they always love to talk, but at the end of the day talk is entertainment for them and it won't affect their lives personally. This is your life and your wife's. She has been raped, and rape is a crime. It is also traumatizing and she probably needs to go into counseling. Do something. Take action.

  • your wife if f***** up! and so are you! don't ever let your wife get drunk without you around. you have to take responsibility on this s*** too man. it's not his fault that he was given the temptation to do it as he might also be f****** drunk and there was a wide open ass waiting to be tap on the couch. she shouldn't have gone out without you, and she shouldn't known not to get drunk and not being able to handle it.

    now you're in a lot of deep s***. take it all in, if you want to save your marriage or if you want out, now is a good time. you can chase the guy, torture him and get him to confess, or just hire someone to break both his legs as you have the money to pay for it anyway. whatever you look at it, it all comes down to bad f****** decision. I will never ever, let my wife get drunk without me around. nobody is in their own mind when they are drunk, decision are made based on the impulse, without even thinking of the consequences of the action. you're a "well known" businessman, you should know that for all people.

  • Actually it WAS his fault, since he was sober enough to take the incentive to stick his d*** in an incoherent woman. Besides, she's human. We can't protect ourselves 24/7 from every potential threat. Maybe you should never travel via car, because - if you crash - you "should've known better and shouldn't have been in control of a moving vehicle if you couldn't handle it"?

  • Hire a hitman

  • gee,will you really do it.Better runaway to japan after word.get a job in Anime.i would.i love Pokemon.Not ever s** with a Woman.

  • Sounds more like a regret confession than rape...I'm with the others, dump your wife...chances are she banged him and halfway through started regretting it...you don't need the baggage + if it was my wife I'd tell her we press charges and bury this douche or I spread the stories myself.

  • You'll never know the truth unless you're her so stop making useless assumptions that aren't even helping him at all !

  • Your wife is a stupid b****...you have ONLY two options...and one thing that you MUST DO.
    1) Dump your stupid wife who put herself in this position.
    2) Keep your wife and move to another state, far away. (expect to be harassed by this guy for a long time, he will f*** with you).

    What you must do: Get Even...Revenge is a dish best served cold...wait a few years, maybe like 10 yrs...then, find the guy, and finish him...you will be ready by them...but, don't let it eat you up..you wife f***** up...

    BTW: I would chose option 1 above...you got a stupid wife...you will NEVER get over this.

  • Stupid wife ? You're the stupid b****** ! Have you Never gotten drunk before ?

  • Your wife wanted it... It's her fault , not the guys.. Tell the guy you're sorry for him having to f*** your w**** wife

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