H****....

I am a 21 year old wife. I feel really bad and embarrassed saying this but I need to let it out. I am constantly h****, doesn't matter if I just had s** or used a vibrator, I want more. My husband seems to have a low s** drive which drives me crazy. I have become so sexually frustrated I am contemplating divorce but what woman gets divorced from not being sexually satisfied or not having enough s**. I'm not sure what else I could do to make him have more s**, I tried dressing up, seducing, talking to him but nothing changes! I'm very confused, I'm not sure If I should be putting such importance on s** because other than that he is a great husband. He was my first, we re going to be married 2 years next month....I'm sure if we do split we'll find someone else, we are both very attractive

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  • 21 is way too young to be Married anyway. My wife had friends that married at 19, 5 years later: divorced. Give it time tho and give him testosterone but don't go f*** other people.

  • You just need to find someone you can see on the side. It happens every day, and it works every day, and it's wonderful every time it happens every day. Get over the "oh, it's not right" idea and go out and get your needs met. You know you can do it (you probably know ten guys you could call and have them inside you within the hour), and you know you should. Don't let society tell you different. Go get laid. Often. If your husband isn't satisfying you, he's breaking HIS vows, and you're off the hook. Enjoy yourself!

  • My first instinct is to come pick you up and take you to my house! But I know that isn't right, so I'll have to settle for less. But I do know my cousin divorced his wife, because she wasn't having s** with him (it stemmed from being abused as a young woman). I do know this. I'll say lots of prayers for you and hope for the best. I know this isn't much help. Maybe there is some way. Maybe if he took V***** or testosterone (I take both, because I have oxycodone for back problems, which kills s** drive) it would help. I know V***** is expensive (for me $20 a pill AFTER insurance). Maybe just talk with him straight about it and even say that you have these needs and having been considering leaving if things don't improve. Maybe he can be part of the solution, and not just the problem. Best of luck <3 and wish you the best, sweet lady. :) I do know it's best and least problematic if you can stay together, if possible. I almost split with my wife once, and believe me, it's a nightmare. I got a bit too interested in another woman and we were a bit too intimate once. It can really ruin families. Well, take care and write back if you need any help. <3, :).

  • Lack of sexual satisfaction is a perfectly legitimate excuse for divorce, plus you're so young still. Why did you marry so early? ps i'm not some gross h**** old man looking to f*** you. i'm a woman like you. and my s** drive is also through the roof. Thankfully my boyfriend has a pretty decent one himself.

  • "we were in love" we were both virgins before getting married, everything else clicks but when it comes to s** I feel like we re failing

  • Oh darling I wish my wife was a s** machine like you, just divorce him if you ever need a partner you know who to call..

  • Have him take testosterone supplements. If he won't take them, slip them into his food. It's for his own good.

  • Haha I was thinking of doing that

  • Babe my boyfriend is the same he has a low s** drive too and it is frustrating but he's always had it. I don't kno what to do coz I love him to bits :(

  • If you get divorced, please contact me!

    Yours truly,

    Squadfather

  • If you're only 21, just think if you stay married to him, it will be 50 years of very little s**. I would cut your losses now and find someone who is sexually compatible with you. DO NOT settle for this kind of life. It is way too short to "settle". Man, if i were you, i would be gone asap. Even before the holidays. Clean break, and start fresh. TRUST ME, i know what i am talking about. I "settled" 10 years ago, and i am not fully happy.

  • I'm just afraid if I leave him I'll never be satisfied and will always be looking for someone better....

  • He might be gay or not in love with you. No man would give up all that s** with their wife. The other possibility is that he is being sexually satisfied elsewhere.

  • I hope that's not that case, I know he's in love with me and would be devastated if I left, I spoke to him the other day so hopefully things will get better

  • Please. please do not divorce him. there are so many reasons that this could be, and what he needs is your compassion, and your belief in him. divorce will crush so much more than you realize. and don't go looking somewhere else. there is nothing right about that, and it will only leave you more unfulfilled.

    this is something that you two can grow in. its alright for things not to be perfect. there are many things in my relationship that have been solved, simply because we believe in each other. no matter what he does, it's your opportunity to be the best wife anyone could ask for. marriage is not for our happiness, its for making someone else happy, and making you grow as a person. you said your vows, and whether or not your took them lightly or with all available seriousness you had, don't take them lightly now. to death do you part.

    there are many resources for improving every aspect of marriage, on the internet, in counseling, etc. there are s** therapists too. but most of this will be solved by you showing him love that has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with what he needs.

    if you start that, he will eventually get so overwhelmed by how amazing you are, that he will start looking for ways to make you happy. hopefully that will be better and more frequent s**.

    im not some dumbass misogynist pig who thinks women should be second class citizens. i treat my woman like gold. i am fascinated by her thoughts, ideas, and opinions. but if marriage has taught me anything, its that i cannot expect her to change to my preconceived notions of what a perfect marriage is. I try to be the change i want to see in my marriage. and the same goes for her.

  • That's possible. I am in a reverse situation. My wife is the one that has a low s** drive. Over the last 6 years, she thinks my s** drive has decreased to match hers, but in reality, I have 2 FWB on the side to get my needs on the same level as her needs.

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