I'm lying about how I feel to get s**

I'm 24, female and a virgin. I have serious anxiety issues and simply haven't had the guts to do it even though I've had the opportunity.

Anyways, I met a guy on a support website last year, we met twice and have become pretty close friends. I like and trust him. He's a really nice, good person, but in the past few months I've been coming off a bit strong with flirtations. Mind you, we basically only text and chat, so I don't feel uncomfortable saying more than I would were we talking or face to face.

I've told him that I want to have s**, but haven't mentioned that I want to do it with him. I fear, though, that if I have s** I'm going to lose interest in him. Like I will stop talking to him afterwards and he'll take it personally. He has some serious self-esteem issues... Honestly, even thought I think he's a good person, I find him boring and have little in common. I just want to have s** with him... =\

Is that horrible? He lives in the Northeast and I live in the South. I'm visiting a friend in the same city next week and I'm debating whether or not I should do it.

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  • I'm going to recommend honesty here. Explain what you want and why you want it. Tell him the only reason you can do this is BECAUSE you don't have strong feelings for him. (That way he won't misinterpret it as the beginnings of a relationship.) Do this when the two of you are alone, preferably at his place, and be prepared to go right then and there if he wants. He is a guy. If a woman's offering s** he's not likely to say no.

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