Distance is a B****.

I've fallen in love with a guy who lives halfway across the world from me... Okay, I admit, it's quite crazy and insane to be thinking that I could fall in love with a man who I've never even met in person. I do, however, know that I am not being Catfished considering the amount of time we spend Skyping and Snapchatting each other. It's hard. Knowing he's thousands and thousands of miles away from me. I wish more than anything for us to live in the same country together (at least). And I'm not just saying this because I'm too blind to see that it's not love or whatever people say. I have been in love before, and I know what it feels like. This is it. I don't love him because he's sexy and hot - I love him because he's incredibly intelligent, sarcastic and witty, intellectually funny, funny in general, an incredibly nice guy, has a huge heart, smart, and caring. It wasn't wrong for me to fall in love with a guy for who he is, not what he looks like. But it's so very hard with distance and time zones and all of that. Plus, knowing he is thousands of miles away just makes actually being in a committed relationship almost pointless... I don't think he could for that matter. Be with me having to be this far from each other. It's not that I don't trust him, either. I do.. and I hop that he trusts me, it's just distance is so hard to deal with... What on Earth should I do? I love him...

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  • Well you have live once, so what are you waiting for? Just be smart with your heart and use your head. You always have to be careful with anyone you are dating anyways, including via the internet. Even if you are skyping with him, people can still lie. He could be married..not saying he is, but it could happen. Just because you never truly know who you are dating when it's long distance or an internet romance. If this is love, start by suggesting meeting up for a vacation at a half way point. See how you connect in person. If you are keeping him secret that you keep from your friends and family, it's time to ask why. Don't go on some trip and not tell anyone where you're really going. And like the below commenter is warning..Use caution. Do not give him money or pay his way, give him personal information.

  • Well, I have a female cousin who fell in love with a guy she had likewise never met. He lived thousands of miles away in another country. The two of them communicated via email, spoke for months over the phone, becoming closer and closer. This man, a tall handsome South American (photos) proclaimed his love for this cousin of mine (older than him in her mid-fifties) and said he planned to meet her. She became extremely excited by the prospect of that meeting and asked my advise: Should she or should she not move forward with this? My comment to her suggested caution with a delicate reminder that younger men don't fall in love with older women! Other than photos, phone calls, emails and the like, she had nothing solid to go on. In cutting to the chase, my female mid-fifties cousin never did meet the guy. And this was her second bite at the apple, having been conned once before in a similar circumstance of internet romance.

    It ended like this: She had been given a briefcase by his people containing documents which seemed quite heavy and was to deliver it to his business partner in NYC. You guessed it, the briefcase contained loads of cocaine stitched into its walls and this dopey, desperate female cousin of mine got busted. She was an innocent, gullible fool!

    Moral of the story: DON'T DO IT!

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