My husband has s** with my mother I had s** with his father too

Me husband and i have been together for 6 years and married for 5 months we have 2 sons age 5 and 3 months. A couple of years back his father started hitting on me, i told my husband what i suspected and avoided his father for a while. But eventually I began to get interested..long story short we ended up sleeping together multiple times and I loved it so much. Now dont get me wrong i love my husband very much and treat him amazingly and although i felt guilty i never told him for fear of loosing him. Fast forward a couple years we ended up living with my mother for a few years, she recently passed away A month ago i miss her very much. In the past my husband has expressed his fantasies about my mother and i never chastised him for it because i know i slept with his father, we would talk about while we had s** the thought turned me on but we never took it any farther. Well last night during s** my husband confessed to me that he slept with her multiple times, I laughed of course he was confused eventually i told him about his father and I. Afterwards we had dirty passionate s** and both enjoyed the fact that we had been intimate with our in-laws. Ok well heres i my issue although im not st all upset at my husband i have alot of mixed emotions from guilt, to relief, disgust ,and anger. Also its upsetting to learn this about my mother so soon after loosing her.... I think our relationship is ok im just worried we are two sick twisted individuals. I was secertly wishing they would have s** together to help relieve my guilt, I did know they had sexual dicussions but had no clue it went so far. Its just that now i don't know how to feel and im also worried about ny husbands relationship with his father, im thinking maybe i shouldn't have told him yet. Also we admitted to other infidelity before we got married, i cheated in college when we fist got together and he a stripper at my brothers bachelor party a year ago. Im wondering if what we did maybe isnt so horrible since none of this happened while we were least he says he stopped a bit before the wedding also i was pregnant while they were doing it.


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  • If you can accept it and move on then it's perfectly ok. You're not bad or twisted people. A bit naughty and kinky, but that's not a bad thing. This isn't exactly incest since there's no blood relationship. Just keep it private and let it go.

  • I don't regret my actions and neither does he i more or less fell upset towards my mother, i thought she was a better woman than that better than me...... Please dont give relationship advice thats not what im looking for. I suppose i just needed an i actually have fantasies of doing them both at the same time as did he with my mom...i just dont like the idea of incest

  • It sounds like you are trying to justify a lot. At the end of the day, you have to be okay with who you are and what you do and who you're with. If cheating was okay, neither of you would be keeping secrets from one another. You may have dated for a long time, but now you're married and there are children involved. It's one thing if you both agree to an open relationship, but that wasn't the case. You make a point that maybe it wasn't so bad since you weren't married. But then why bother with commitment before? That a piece of paper and vows you exchange is going to solve your infidelity issues or the reasons why you both seek others outside of your relationship? People still cheat even if they're married, what will prevent you two? You've only been married for 3 months.. Best of luck and hope it works out. Maybe you should look into counseling if you really want to get to the root of what's going on...

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