Swinger Excuse?

Moved to a small remote town about a year ago to be closer to my job. Wife finally got a job at a local company and starts meeting all the locals.

Christmas eve, head to wife's work to hang up pictures in her office. Get introduced to Dale, one of the locals she works with and has told me about.

Christmas day, she sends him pictures of our presents. Start of constant texting.

The next week, on Wednesday, wife doesn't get home till after six, which is very abnormal. Checked the Life360 app and she's in Dale's office for the entire hour.

Wife starts coming home very frisky. Normal for us is a couple times a month, now it's almost every day.

That week she starts telling me that Dale and his wife are swingers. Asks me what I think of that and if it's a fantasy of mine. She says she's intrigued by it. Conversations get more and more realistic over the next two weeks.

Wife starts texting Dale more and more. I finally say she's making me jealous, but in our normal playful banter, only being half serious. Said I'd like to know what they're talking about so much. Just pictures of food and work stuff she tells me. I've never had any reason not to trust her before and we had an amazing relationship up to this point, so I try not to think into it too much.

Same day, she leaves her phone in the living room. Curiosity gets the better of me and I look at her texts. No messages from Dale? That's odd, they've been texting nonstop. Check trash, and there they are. Only see the last three before I have to put the phone down. She sent a photo of our TV with a scantily clad actress on it, asking if he'd like to see her in that. He said he'd love that. She said I can't wait till you can see all of me.

Over the next three hours I process. Putting all the pieces together. I confront her. She goes quiet. She says she thought it was just part of our talk about the swingers, but was unsure of how to tell me? She said she was also ashamed, which is why she deleted them. She said nothing physical has happened.

I don't know what to do. She lied to me and I feel betrayed. Was she setting up the swinging thing just because she wanted to have s** with him and waned to do so guilt free? Why was she late in his office? Do I believe her that nothing physical happened?

She doesn't seem to think it's a big deal because nothing physical happened and she thought it was part of the swinging thing.

A couple days later I ask to see the rest of the messages, but she's actually deleted them now, because she "felt ashamed."

So now what do I do?

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  • Burn her

  • She hid all the messages from you then deleted them when she thought you found out. She lied, don't trust her , she is having an affair with him.

  • SHES A LIAR AND A CHEAT. CANT FIX THAT BY DOING WHAT SHE WANTS. DIFFERENT BALLGAME NOW YOU KNOW SHES DECETFULL. she will always be that. pack up and dont look back.

  • Join the rump you helped to keep the van open so your interested and you know it..So give it a try

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