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my BF and i are very much in love. we
my BF and i are very much in love. we talk about our future all the time. we roughly have about a year left of college. but-- i want to have a child with him so bad...as we both discussed this situation.
however- i know im not ready because i don't have my degree yet or a good job and i want to provide the best for my child. but i can't wait anymore..i dont understand why im longing to have a child so much...
i also dont know if its because i want to see what it's going to be like when im pregnant and i think it would bring my bf and i closer..not that we arent now..but i want him to rub my stomach and do cute things for me while im pregnant... is this wrong of me for longing of this???
I am going through the same situation.
um... it's not wrong. but it's pretty gross.
thanks guys... i think you changed my mind about this situation. even though i am longing for a child i know that in truly not ready for one.. and i need to provide the best for my children and right now is not that time..
Wait-anyone who has kids now will be screwed later on because they will be living less of a life than they had planned on...kids are expensive and require planning
I have a lot of friends who did have kids when they were your age or in your place in life with just a year or two left of college and I didnt have kids till later, but now they always confide in me that they wish they would have waited because I have so many great stories about things I was just able to do at the spur of the moment without much notice...things that you are supposed to be able to do when you're in your early-mid twenties and look back on when you're older! So take your time...you have your whole life to be married and play house!
It's perfectly normal to feel that way. All my friends are getting pregnant, and sometimes it really hits me that I want a child sooo bad, but my fiance and I are in the same situation, we need to get to a more stable place to provide for our future family. My advice: do what you need to do to make a better life, and work towards that first. But also, you know if you do get pregnant, you have someone who will stick by you.
TAKE YOUR TIME. Kids are a big responsibility and they tie you down. Do it in 5-10 years.