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Heh.. Mr. ** Doc here again. 2nd poster up. You don't need me, you need an attentive partner. Or some more reading on the subject. Who doesn't like reading about **, eh? One of the best books I've read is one called ** Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man. Some homophobes might cringe at the idea of this but wow, some points and lessons are so universally true. It's kind of the reverse on what I'm talking about except anyone's hand can use my info, man or woman.

I've been asked two or three times to be lent out but I can't do that. The wife won't share. Heh. But it would make things easier to explain if it was the lovers hand but me telling them what to look and what might work next. Like how to rub, pull, wiggle, or pat lightly on her **. Trying one or another and seeing the response, THEN stroking the outside of the hood on both sides then a quick slide of the ** up and down between the ** to the entrance, a quick circle and back up and under the hood to -lightly- vibrating left and right your ** on the ** oh so softly. This certainly should get a favorable reaction. See? Easy to describe but the results will only be as good as the instructions unless you really know the woman's own preferences.

I don't have anything against trying to explain it all though. Its all about attention to responses under your fingertips, and knowing some sort of general... order of events you want to coax out. Its like you take it another step based on what you are feeling, or adapt to what is happening right then. I've also been surprised because I thought my wife wasn't ready or even close, but then she comes like crazy.

I've typed out in great detail on how to use a hand to totally bring a woman to ** to a friend on IRC once. I mean, its not absolute bullet-proof advice, but it was my experiences at least. He told me he had great feed back about it. He was dissapointed about some aspects of their bland ** life. He had never asked me directly about it but I think the wife bragged some time ago while we were all drinking or something like that. I mean, he eats her out, but she won't blow him? That is one sided and not really fair at all. I think she likes wielding the power and has to 'be in the mood' when it suites her. That's just dirty rules and really isn't good for a personal relationship in my opinion. I mean, she likes to ** and he's fine in bed and is more than the "average". Both should have to initiate it at different times and both should be receptive to the idea at least, before shooting the other down. It shouldn't always be a knee ** reaction. Its someones feelings you know?

All of this advice is pretty brief after I read it all again. This venue isn't really the best place but it suited the confession, and others liked it I think. If you have more confessions on how you think something works or should work and it doesn't I'll pipe up and give my advice.

If you are wondering about me, Iv'e been reading and posting on here for awhile now. I'm not the Site Shrink, but my responses have been nearly identical as his/her. Except I tend to leave a signature of being upbeat on the last few sentances and I wish them the best of luck. I hope some of you will try some of this advice. I hope the orginal poster is better at knowing herself now too.

Best of luck!

Hes right. My wife has two spots.I stimulate one with my mouth and the other with my **. When she's about to ** I slow down to make it last.
When she finallly ** it's like convulsions.

Hey Mr.** doctor.....Do you think your wife would mind if I borrowed you for like 3 days? Holy ** buddy, I need depends now!

God, I am so wet now! But that's a ton of measures to follow. What I do is use lubricant get my ** really wet rub my fingers in tiny circular motions around my **. Sometimes I really need to ** my ** and get that really wet, I will also put my ** in my ** after sometime of playing with my **. then I just go at like crazy and ** :p

Okay, I'm back again and I'll try to pick up where I left off. Most of this I didn't learn by my own. Its all trial and error plus a really good understanding of the anatomy you are working with. I do this all with one hand. I usually make my wife come at least once, sometimes twice by masturbating her before we actually get down to **. (sorry if this all sounds clinical but I'm trying to keep slang to a minimum for clarity).

Anyways... continuing about the **. Its not that anyone can't find it, its just that you try to find it at the wrong time. I don't even try to rub it until I arouse her enough that I feel a slight engorging underneath the **. As arousal approaches a peak you may feel that the ** 'grows' and becomes firmer. You should be able to feel the whole area flushing as blood engorges it all. If you follow that... spongy strip that goes down between the ** and into the entrance, you'll feel it spread out and thicken. This area, about 2 - 3 inches in, and maybe 1 to 1 1/2 inches across is generally the **. You don't have to press hard with the fingertip, but use the pad of the ** to rub around in circles or left/right/up/down. You'll have to match the movements as she grinds around. I've found that at this point the woman has control if she wants to tip over to the real **, or she can just sit there in agony/pleasure.

Now, about a ** **. I can't have them but my wife tells me its more like an internal all over ** as opposed to a clitoral ** or a vaginal **. The vaginal ** is probably the closest to the ** because of whats bumping what. The glands of the ** (the ridge of the head) can pop back and forth over the **. At least that is my theory if you get into the mechanical aspect... I'm heading off track here. So, the other aspect of the ** **. Female **. Some women can do it, others just can't. I think it relates directly to the mass of the.. flesh around the **. Like ** or any other physical aspect this varies between women. A woman with more .. development (?) will have more of a chance of **. My wife can do both and warns me too. Note: she couldn't do it until about 2 years into our marriage. We also dated for about 7 years. We've had practice so I don't expect anyone will just be able to do it overnight. :D So yes, I've been sprayed. Its not like a garden hose or anything, just a strong spurt really. It's clear and only has a slight unoffensive smell. No urine smell at all. We bring a towel bed every time.

Well... I'm running out of advice unless more questions are posed to me. I did want to mention about the length of ** deal. Some women will still get a degree of pleasure from a longer one. It's been described to me as a feeling of fullness. Girth probably is more important than length. I'm very very average in that department but that really doesn't seem to matter does it?

Another thing I haven't touched upon is ** **. We only do it rarely so I don't have much knowledge on that subject. My wife seems to enjoy being filled up in there while she masturbates, riding me cowboy style. Its not a position where I can do much and I feel obligated to just follow her lead. We wear a condom just for the clean up issues after. Actually, she uses a IUD but we still use a condom occasionally. It simplifies cleanup. Especially if we are visiting friends and get frisky in a bed that isn't ours. Who's the wiser, unless they have incredible hearing.

To recap. Find erogenous zones. Be **. Thinking about if you put food out for the cat, or that its garbage day next morning will stop all chances for success. Unless you find that ** o_O... so getting randy means you can just use your imagination, or some ** material. A romance novel, or even some adult novice author stuff will do. Or adult movies or magazines. Your choice. Next experiment which area feels the best to start natural lubrication or just jump to some Astroglide. (I like astroglide because its water based. Once you put some on, if it sludges up because its drying and you think you need more, just add a little water again. Spit or whatever you wish. We also get no reactions from it.) More trial and error will point you to the right place to play with. You might even start on one, and move to something else. Start playing with your **, then maybe introduce a device like a **. I think a textured ** does the job better though. Two features in one. Once you are done, take time to relax and take a breath. Think about what you liked and how you think you could describe to someone else how to do it too.

Oh! Multiple **. Again I think that varies, but maybe women who work hard just for one final peak might be missing a bunch of little peaks before that. I don't know if you can call them real ** but I wouldn't say they are not ** if you can get what I mean. Its just a degree of one. I think my wife's most is about 12 or 14 **. Its not like I try to make a personal best, but of course I can feel good about it. Though she gets most of the credit eh? So maybe when you are done the big one, just relax and play a bit, see if any fires are stoked and light up again.

Best of luck!

I think he cummed that way!

Holy **, a man just gave that advice? Well that just blows my thought all to ** that all men ** in bed, have no real idea what they are doing even tho they think they do, and are mostly just in it for themselves. Did your wife train you or did you come that way? Great advice buddy!

^^^^^^^ Good advice from a male!
Holy **!
Lucky wife.

Female I'm guessing.

Well.. many women ** by different ways, and having different types of **.

First, find out if you respond best to vaginal stimulation, clitoral stimulation, or both. Figure out your own erogenous zones. Like, some women just dont get anything out of anyone playing with their **. Some love it. Do you respond when your neck is tickled. Stuff like that.

So the vaginal vs. clitoral... some have a problem, or cant ** by way of pure vaginal insertion of something. **/s, toy, end of hair brush. Anything like that. But if you respond best to clitoral stimulation, you might never use vaginal at all. My wife likes a mix of both but focuses on clitoral.

Be sure you get well lubricated, naturally or astroglide, your choice. You might want a mirror to see what you are doing, if you are not all familar with your bits. Places I'd start at is the mons pubis. The pubic bone, and the tissue on it. It can be pleasurable to rub or grind just that part. I've coaxed my wife to ** just by that before. Next parts you might want to stimulate one at a time, or all together.

Try playing with your inner and outer **. I love doing it. Play with those, and maybe roll up and around the clitoral hood. Use what ever you want, circles, left/right fast, a -come here- motion. This is the practice part. You'll probably keep making new discoveries while doing so. Also, this is a good time to mention a **. They don't always have to be used for insertion. It'll probably knock your socks off. Anything that vibrates will do too.

My guess is you'll find the best results stimulating between the ** and down to the entrance. Next is finding out what works the best with insertion of things. The actual sensitive nerves in the ** are only about 2 - 4 inches from the entrance. You might not have to go past there. This is where the myth of a long ** = better ** lies. The ** is about 2 to 3 inches inside the **, on the top side. Try to find that. It might be all you need.

**, I have to go, so visit Yahoo Answers or anything like that for more..

Best of luck!

Practice, practice, practice.

I assume you are a younger female. I don't know the answer because I am a man but the patient and let your body adjusts to what ever feels good I guess

F or M?