My husband is addicted to AA.I'm

My husband is addicted to AA.I'm leaving because of it.
AA is against any family member who doesnt adhere to their cult and go to alanon.

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  • My brother is a recovering addict in NA/AA, and my Mom is obsessed with Alenon. Still, I do not feel that it is too outrageous of her to go to these meetings.

    Living with an addict can become a traumatic and co-dependent experience, and Alenon is a great outlet for relieving yourself of that co-dependency. You had enough faith in your husband to get sober...that was the easy part. Staying sober is the challenge. Just like my brother could not have come this far without my Mom's support, yours is still a lot more crucial than any sponsor's. Have you tried out a few of these meetings? Are you scared to tell strangers about your feelings??

    I think that there is a middle ground that both parties can compromise on here. I think that you need to politely explain to your husband that it is not your actions that landed him in AA, but his own. As such, you are completely willing to do what it takes to assist him in his recovery, but that that is a huge committment in and of itself. Tell him that you will help him to be sober, but that he cannot dictate each and every way you do this. If your co-dependency is a result of his drinking, then he has no business dictating the terms of you dealing with that issue. It is not necessarily fair for someone to force you to make such a huge committment which might make you uneasy just because they themselves made mistakes.

    Don't leave him, though. You can get through to him in other ways. You wouldn't be able to live with yourself if you leaving sent him into a relapse.

  • Indeed.

  • He should take up masturbation.

    You should too.

    It does wonders for your soul.

    And it cured my alcoholism.

  • wats AA?

  • please dont let him ruin your impression of aa. ive been sober a long long time in aa and have seen countless people go through the stage he is in...it will pass...but my litte confession...i f****** hate people in AA who adopt that mentality and secretly want to kick their ass everytime they speak in a meeting...there is a balance, a fine line that you walk in aa between remaining enthusiastic about the program and becoming fanatical and cultish..some folks dont walk it too well

  • why are you against AA ?

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