Gay Equality

Someone who i considered my greatest friend stabbed me in the back in the worst possible way. And Im not supporting gay rights because he is gay and i don't want him to be happy even though i know other gays and wish them the best. I don't know how to get over what he did to me. It's been 7 years. I wish i could let it go.

Apr 18, 2013

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  • I love how we're expected to automatically adore all minorities,gays,blacks,etc etc. And when one of them does something jerkish,we have to just suck it up and keep sucking it up unless we want to be called homophobic,racist,whatever.

  • Can you elaborate on what he did? You have to figure out why you are holding on to it. And you sound like you're as angry as you were 7 years ago. Holding on to that kind of energy isn't good. After 7 years, you're both different people. Sometimes I find it cathartic to just write a letter with everything you wish you could have/would have said to that person. At least get it all out. Because there are always two sides to everything, the hardest part is looking at your part in the situation and looking at how you could have done something different..but once you write that letter. Rip it up and then be done with it. It's time to let go and move forward. It's not easy, you've been holding on this for so long. But you'll be happier when you can fully let it go.

  • Thank you i will try that. He basically told me two months after losing a parent that I've changed too much and to get over it already. I've never been so hurt in my entire life. My family treated him like their own and that's the thanks we got.
    I appreciate your kind words.

  • So sorry for your loss. That was a totally insensitive what your friend said. And I would have a hard time with that as well. The only thing I would chalk it up to is that everyone grieves differently and not everyone knows how to deal with death and dying. Really, who does? People sometimes just bury the pain deep and not deal with their feelings. It almost sounds like it made your friend so uncomfortable to see you in pain, that instead of talking with you about it he would prefer to change the subject. Thinking that would help you move on. Just not very tactful. But again, I don't know your friend..Has he ever tried to contact you again or apologize? Or did he know how much that comment actually hurt you?

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