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I bought beer for my son and his
I bought beer for my son and his friends a few times when they were seniors in highschool as long as they drank it at my house and didnt drive anywhere. I liked being the cool mom. He graduated last summer and I did it two times since then for them. The 2nd time was this past weekend. I never drank with them before but did this time. I drank too much.
i get what ur saying about the fooling around bit there are 45 yr old men that do 16 yr old girls, thats kinda gross in my opinion.
im last poster- yeah thats a good point if they're gonna be shooting people and be at risk of getting killed and stuff but they cant drink alcohol? If ur gonna be taking adult responsibilities, not that im saying its right but they are going to war. One thing though becareful what u do with these kids which i think u will. Also i totally agree with u about society and everything. :)
my brother drank when he was 17 and my parents knew about it, to op theres a lot worse parents have done i dont think ur a horrible parent atleast u knew about it and u made sure they were home with u and not driving, im 15 i dont drink but my a couple of my friends started last year. theres parents that have done a lot worse.
OP: ammend to say drink beer at home when 17- once, 18- twice, 19- twice. I only drank with them once- this last time.
OP: Illegal and responsible are two different things. Two things I don't believe in are this war and on-demand abortion and yet both are legal. Dumb. Drinking some beer at 17 at home where it is safe is illegal. Dumb. Pierce your nose, tongue and eyebrows and tatoo your face all you want, but don't smoke that joint. It's ok for a then 35 year old man to have ** with an 18 year old girl, but society thinks it taboo for a now 40 year old woman to want to fool around with 19 year old men that want to fool around with her.
Fine. Next time I will do it sober.
^^not OP^^
OP:** you need to get a life and stop bringing me down yes I like to have fun but no I DONT THINK IM A BAD PARENT!!! and thats all that matters
It doesn't matter if it's morally right or wrong, the fact is that it's illegal, and that makes you irresponsible as a citizen. If you're willing to break a law meant to protect people like your son and his friends, then what other laws are you going to be willing to break later?
And I'm not some stuffy old person saying this, I'm in the grade below your son and I think it's stupid.
Ok--
I get you!
OP: No, they do not need to drink to feel better and that wasn't really the point of my post though it seems to have been taken that way. I don't personally agree with the drinking age limit/war on drugs which is why I have been somewhat liberal when it comes to allowing my son and by proxy his 3 friends to party here occasionally because they are adults. I only bought alcohol for them a total of 5 times in about 2 years and the last 2 times was this past weekend and at New Years a few months ago.
The post was really about my feelings for them because I see them as adult men. Socializing like that is not a bad thing and that was all it was really until maybe this weekend because I drank with them and I drank too much. It was that situation which is on my mind.
I hate this war too but do they need to drink to feel better? What is that saying? You can't have a good time without a drink? Aren't there other things they need to learn at this age that you can teach them that has nothing to do with alcohol?
Don't we want to teach this generation that they can handle whatever it is that life throws them-(-and live will toss them some pretty big ones)--that they can learn to be and grow strong and independent and not need or rely on any substance to get through whatever situation life presents to them?
We have got to find more POSITIVE ways as a society to help our young people.
I'm not saying you're a bad person at all. I don't think you are. But I think the fact that you posted here says that this is on your mind and I could be wrong but it does not seem as though you're so happy with the situation.
OP: I was all of those things and a good example for 17 years, but now they are adults and I am one too, so what is the difference now except the social taboos? It isn't like all they do is hang out here and party. They all have jobs and two are going into the military very soon. I hate this war and fear for them, but if they can go do that stuff I see no reason why they can't drink here and if they make me feel pretty and desirable- all the better. The 3rd is moving away to school next month. My son is considering the military too because his friends are leaving. I don't want him to go much less his friends, but especially him. When his friends aren't here he doesn't drink much (weekends) and my rule of not going anywhere still applies if he does.
It's all a game anyway in some respects whether its guys my age or guys their age now excpet most guys my age are demanding and rude/dismissive after a while. These guys are anything but rude to me. I don't see how that is a bad thing and why I'm bad for liking it.
You need to be an example and you know this. There is a time in one's life for everything--and you need your own friends. You are mother and parent! You don't need to be your kids friend. They have their own friends!
And doing the right thing by your kid is COOL! It's actually the best!
she's a great person !!
OP: Why? They are going to drink and party anyway. At least here they aren't on the road or out getting into other trouble. Besides, they are grown men now and I don't think that is a bad thing at all. I just got a little carried away this weekend. Why can't I have some fun sometime instead of always having to be 'responsible'?