Adoption

My daughter told her boyfriend, her sister, and who knows who else I wasn't her real father. And I hate it. I've never told anyone she wasn't my real daughter because to me she is. I didn't have to adopt her but I wanted her to be mine. I wanted to be her real father and she's stolen that from me. How would she feel if I said "This is my daughter Jane Doe, and my stepdaughter Janet."? I don't know if I can ever forgive her.

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  • Definitely tell her how it made you feel and have an honest discussion about it. The only thing I could say in her defense, and I'm just assuming this, of course. I have a few friends who grew up without one or both birth parents. And although they love their adopted parents and refer to them as mom and dad, they still long to know their birth parent. Think a lot of questions come up for them about what they look like, why they were given up, other family members, did they want them, love them..etc. A few of my friends suffer from abandonment issues because of this. One friends described it as a missing piece, but for her it was also a personal search to just find out what she could.

  • Tell her how you feel and if she doesn't care then you know where you stand in her life ...

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