I have friend who is worried that she might be gay. I don't want to tell her that it freaked me out, but it did. I've known her for 10yrs, she has had a long relationship with a boy for like five of those. So is she really gay? I think that maybe she is just feeling confuse because she has only been with that one guy. I used to tell her that she needed to go out with other guys after the break-up but she always refused. Can a person be gay, even if she has been with a guy for like almost five years? She is my friend, and I don't want her making a mistake if she is not really sure about it.