My husband cheated on me and I found

My husband cheated on me and I found out earlier this week.

I told him I forgive him, that we both know it happened and if we're going to move on we have to work on our relationship and not dwell on it. He's making the effort to prove himself to me, I know that he is, and I really do forgive him.

But I wonder if I can ever have s** with him again without wondering if he's thinking about her... I wish I could forget as easily as I forgive. It's killing me inside.

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  • I think so many men are interested in having an affair, and due to circumstance, many never do. Those who do aren't necessarily that different from the rest of us completely faithful husbands. But based on your post, I suspect that this bad decision on his part will completely cement his loyalty to you. And if you want to know the truth, read on. If you're too fragile, stop reading now. Truth is, men fantasize about other women all the time when having s**. That is, frankly, normal behavior. Don't worry about it. If he loves you and he's good to you in the way you and he agree upon, then it's all good.

  • I would seek "revenge" before being able to forgive. I always felt that women who quickly and easily forgive men who have affairs are lacking self-respect.

  • First of all if you really forgave him like that then good for you. You are better than most people. It's going to be tough. It's only natural to want to be all your husband is thinking about, and it's only natural after what happened to have those doubts. But time will heal all wounds. If your husband keeps proving himself eventually you will be settled in your heart and know that he is only thinking of you. Give it some time.

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