I hate being a parent

I don't hate my kids, but I hate being a parent.

I hate not having anything even remotely resembling a social life. I hate changing diapers. I hate cleaning up after my kids. I hate driving some of them to school. I hate having to cook for them all the time. I hate listening to them fight, or cry, or beg for something. I hate having to take them to sports or activities so they're not bored. I hate having to keep watch over them when friends come over to play.

I hate being trapped in f****** broiling desert, backwards ass Arizona, just because a job pays well enough to support four kids and moving would mean working for about 1/2 the pay. I've wasted a third of my life in this f****** place because I can't afford to move because of these kids. I hate having to keep a close watch over my kids because I live in a f****** huge beige and cement city...the more people there are, the more sick f**** you gotta worry about taking kids.

I hate never being able to go anywhere new, see anything new, do anything new. School, meals, naps, sleep. I can't wait for them all to grow up and go away to college. Until then, I'm responsible for them. I'll be 52 when the last leave the house...I'd say half my life will be gone, and I'll have nothing but regrets.

The first kid was ok, I was 28 and figured I would make a good parent. The second got annoying by the time he turned 3. The third and fourth were definitely a mistake in judgement on my part. Should have just said "no f****** way" to the wife after the first two. There's times I can't stand the sound of their voices. A couple times I've even gone so far as to wear earplugs and ignore them for an hour or two.

I usually stay up late and deprive myself of hours of sleep, just because I know that the sooner I go to sleep, the sooner another day of dealing with my children will start for me. H***, I've gotta get up in 3 1/2 hours to take the older ones to school.

The brief moments of "oh, that's cute" are far overshadowed by the sheer level of s*** I hate about parenthood. Passing on my genes is not worth this. If I would have known I'd hate parenthood so much, I'd have gotten a vasectomy at 18.

And to top it all off, I don't drink alcohol. I never acquired a taste for it, and earlier in life had no desire to kill off brain or liver cells, nor give up any self-control. I think I'd like to learn to appreciate a good beer or well-crafted spirit, but I won't. How much more miserable would my life be if I let slip to the wife or others how much I regret almost all of my decisions of the past 18 years (moving to Arizona, having kids, and sometimes even including marriage)?

Why even bother typing this up? I feels a little better just to put it out there, and I know that nobody I know will see this or be able to connect this to me. I put on a pretty decent act as a responsible (and almost caring) parent. I've been living the lie for years.

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  • Don't feel bad. Most parents have periods of time that they hate being a parent. Hopefully as yours get older & are more independent you will be able to enjoy being a parent again.

  • I feel the same way.the worst thing is that my 13 year old does not appreciate anything I do. I am a single divorced parent and I hate it. If I had known it was going to be like this, I would have never had a kid.

  • Babies can do less than 5 things. Puppies can do more, plus they're stronger...enough said.

  • Im hoping someone can relate to my situation i am stuck in. i am with someone for very superficial reasons. dating has been difficult for me as i usually do not end up attracting the type of person i am attracted to. i finally did and in a very shallow way i feel that i obtained some type of status by being with this person. i suffered from severe depression and anxiety when i was alone so having this person filled a void in my life. we dont get along that great and fight quite often but i keep going as i know how difficult it was to even meet someone like the person i am with. the only issue now is that my significant other wants children. i never really have. i am inclined to do it just so we can stay together because i dread the thought of being by myself again and dating people who i am not even into. i keep saying i guess i can deal with the baby and will do it for her. i know there will be more bills and less time for me start my side business i have been working so h******. i dont know if i pick loneliness or having a baby i dont really want.

  • I hate to break it you all but I love being a parent....

    apart from...

    The loneliness
    The suicidal depression
    The career that went to s**t
    Inability to sleep when I do get time for it.
    Being repeatedly put down for not following childcare orders exactly.
    Being coerced into doing whatever is demanded while pretending that it was my choice.
    None of my own friends left to speak to.

    But keep a smile and pretend. Here we go...

    It's just so satisfying being a parent. I can't imagine being without a child...

  • Pretend? Haha ok. I can imagine life without kids. So peaceful. Just the 2 of us traveling the world

  • From a parent that was in your shoes now and made it worse. Obvious enough?

    "No - staying w someone to keep from being lonely is bad enough (that's what I did) but once we had a kid (15months old) it drained our souls and hearts and because we stayed together out of fear of being alone, we can't parent together on the same wave length because we're not the right ppl for one another. Having a kid killed any bright aspect of our relationship that was left and I can't stand being a parent. My soul is sucked dry I'm constantly sick from being run down from no sleep working full time and taking care of everything while listening to a baby whine and throw tantrums - I whisper to myself at least once a day "God I wish I didn't have a kid" - have a kid if u meet ur soul mate and both agree on parenting style - also don't have a kid if ur not doing good financially".

    This person became wise and insightful after all this occurred upon him/her unfortunately ...

    I'm sure it opened your eyes now, if not, well enjoy H*** and kiss EVERYTHING farewell.

  • Really? It's not THAT hard?? You're on this site, asking for suggestions of an obvious answer. Loneliness is a blessing. People on here wishing for peace and quiet and time for THEMSELVES but it'll never happen due to all the damn kids they "somehow" spawned and partners they wish to leave. Why add your argumentative person into your "lonely" yet peaceful life, let alone a damn baby, which is worse.
    You'll be FOREVER stuck to that person whom you're selling yourself short with; you are. Read the comments bud, answers are obviously there. That possible kid will be the end of you and God forbid, lead you to suicide which some pathetic "parents" on here yearn to do. It'll deepen your wound of depression. Don't be desperate. Leave your person and WAIT for someone that'll love you and respect the things you enjoy.
    Good things come to those who wait. Why just stay "settled" with the loser? You ain't married! Find a hobby dude (or girl). I rather be depressed and lonely with peace/tranquility than depressed with a child I never wanted, though regretfully spewed with a partner I NEVER wanted to be with and making my life H***. Do you know how many people on here would kill to be in your shoes?!
    You work? The activities of a single person or childfree couple are endlessssssss. Workout, get a makeover, travel, etc. Why choose something thats Hellish? BABIES RUIN EVERYTHING! Everything as in in marriages, finances, s**, bodies, mentally, need I say more??? They're not cute. Get puppies. Don't mean to be rude or anything, just pointing out the obvious. Point blank. Good luck in life...

  • I needed this. Thanks!

  • You're like so welcome 😄

  • Dude, pick lonliness!!! A kid will destroy a good relationship let alone a bad one! Seriously, get out now and look for a childree woman.

  • Yeah parents will kill for a moment of peace and quiet. Like locking themselves in the bathroom. That bad LOL. I just wake up with my doggie, decide to go for a run, text my bestie and shop, etc. Life's so good.

  • Dude this all could've been preventable. You're a selfish breeder. WE KNOW you people put on an act. You had nothing going for you, and thought not 1, not 2 but 4 KIDS could fix it and NOW you see YOU made your life much worse and irreversible. Don't resent your offspring for the mistakes YOU created. Good luck in life.

  • My wife works weekends, so it's like I'm a single father looking after him for two days before returning to work on Monday. And don't you pay through the nose for them? What you give, time and money-wise, is a fact. What you get back, positive or negative, is opinion. I prefer facts.

  • This whole thread is so incredibly sad.

  • It's quite funny because all this could've been reversible yet people on here continue to be dumb and worsen their situations and not try to fix but complain like spoiled kids. Sad as in pathetic more like.

  • I am a 21 year old single mom. I absolutely do love my son - that is not a farce. I can feel that when I look at him, but as far as the positives versus the negatives of parenting go, I am absolutely not meant for parenthood. I am a selfish individual with no maternal instinct and I lose my temper daily. It's truly unfortunate as my child does deserve more than what I am able to mentally provide. I think there should be less of a societal backlash on this "taboo" subject as many parents feel this way but wallow in their emotions rather than expressing them due to societal expectations. I've read many responses on this post that tell people to "suck it up" and "live with their mistakes" which is simply not logical. These types of situations always spiral out of control and get worse before they get better. I truly believe living feeling imprisoned will only hurt all the children with parents who are affected by this in the long run. I would love to set up a sort of support group of people who want the responsibility of parenthood that could potentially help co-parent struggling households. I believe their should be more options for people suffering as the majority of us on this post are. Does any one have any ideas or advice to get through this? I'd love to address the needs of my child and myself in the best way possible given the situation but am lost in how to do so.

  • L basically feel the EXACT same way as you and l am a mother of 2, being a mom who's less than thrilled about the daily pains of child rearing is "worse". People would probably consider me a bad person if they knew how frustrated and drained l feel from having to be a slave to my kids. l love my children more than anything and they're my biggest blessing and greatest gift but F*** l am EXHAUSTED

    l have 2 kids both who are too young for school so my whole day revolves around feeding them, cleaning up after them and basically taking care of their every need while l neglect myself to the extreme

    We aren't bad peoples for feeling the way we do, we would be. As if we didn't drudge through and get up to be a parent every day even though it's the last thing we want to do. We are just tired, we are drained and need some relief but it will come. Some days are better than others let's just look forward to those. One day we will miss them because they will be grown and no longer "need" us or would rather be with their friends so let's try to "enjoy"

  • Like end up in a nursing home and they'll never visit. Yeah kids are sooooo worth it and it's rewarding.

  • Sorry to burst your bubble of hope but some grown kids will stay with their parents in their 50s and mooching off them until they die and fight over the will. But whatever. It varies. I'm a tarantula...

  • You paint a depressing picture, of parenthood. But I don't blame you.
    You're expressing your feelings. If you can't do that, you may become depressed.

    I don't have any children, I made a conscious choice not to from an early age. Believe it or not, I knew I didn't want to be a parent from the age of six years and I'm now 32, I still stand by my choice. My partner feels the same way I do, in regards to having a childless life :)

    I feel sympathy and empathy for you, because if any parent knew how they'd feel becoming parents, prior to 'actually becoming a parent, they may have chosen differently' Unfortunately, no one can predetermine that :(

  • Childfree dude. Get your facts straight

  • Except you're the father? Imagine how trapped your f****** wife feels you selfish prat

  • It sounded like his wife was the one who wanted more kids. It was pretty clear. I'm with somenw who wants more kids. And seriously...of you're not allowed to ever express this then you're living a lie. I hate being a father too. I'm involved, but my life has come to a halt. We argue about more children while I hope to go to college before I'm 30.

  • I f****** hate my toddler for the pure fact he doesn't f****** sleep EVER

  • YouTube Naptime 😂

  • If only they knew how much I hate the word "mommy."
    I cringe at the sound and I hide it with a fake smile. 😫

  • We know. But I smirked at you idiots in public cuz I know my life is FABULOUS.

  • Wow. How can you NOT see this coming? You're meant to be childfree. And we know.

  • F*** you loser

  • Duh. We know and witness it.

  • This post isn't fun anymore. Too many childfree people commenting on it. Yawn...

  • Hey, some of us childfree people may become parents that's why we're on here. So many of us hope and pray for it. Many of us want what we think you guys have: we look at the Facebook pics pf parents smiling with their kids, and they all seem so happy when they're out in the park and parents always tell us how damn awesome it is so we want a piece of that. What the reality is I have zero clue.

  • You're childless. Don't speak for the childfree because you're not one yourself imposter. Dont marginalize us. We dont go on fb and yearn for something we dislike or hate LOL trust and believe. You're confusing praying for something we DON'T WANT to pity as in "Thank God we dont have those" Speak for yourself and wallow in your lies.

  • These posts are the reality of it. It sucks. Ur life is over especiallybif u have more than 1.

  • Your life is over by having just 1

  • Those people u see on facebook smiling with their kids are f**king liars. Ur childless friends stop coming by, ur trapped on the weekends while everyone else still gets to do things, endless diapers, endless messes to clean up, endless piles of laundry, endless screamimg and temper tantrums, endless feeding, endless tiredness, endless saying dont do this or that. U become a mindless slave. Its no walk in the park!

  • Some ChildFREE see friends with kids as lost causes; boring. Some of us abandon them in their H*** because we're living our lives and have better things to do. What do I have in common with them? Nada. So staying out Saturday night with other childfree friends is what I can do freely. Dave and Busters!!!

  • For every 1 "precious moment" are 99 frustrating moments. Save urself while u can. Its not worth it!!!!!

  • If i could have my life to do over again...NO F**CLING WAY would i have kids! I would stay single and enjoy life instead of being trapped in h***.

  • Says almost every regretful parent on here and IRL...

  • You mean childfree? Kids aren't worth it

  • Wrong dear. You confused "childfree" to "childless". Real childfree people come here due to reassurance (which we're aware of the pros and cons) and to see what sort of H*** is ike on the other side of the fence. Heck some parents who wish to be childfree go on childfree sites and lie and blather the martyrdom and state "I feel sorry for those who choose not to have kids" which is a projection. Real childfree people will do whatever it takes to prevent becoming slaves to lil crotchfruits, and that includes abortion with no regrets.
    Real childfree people KNOW having a child or children will ruin their lives and we can see it coming. We dont have to "give it a try" to know what it's like, yuck! That's because we can see through and witness the bullcrap parents go through with their own spawn in our daily lives. Some seem blessed, a lot look miserable and exhausted. To us, the cons outweighs the pros. Childless is one who can't have a child yet yearns one. Childless people are the ones you're referring to and are on the fence and we're never childfree in the first place. Nice try though. Bloop!

  • The truth is, one child is totally worth it if you can make the necessary sacrifices. Two or more is not. You end up giving up way too much of your selves with more than one.

  • China's one child policy

  • Of course YOU'RE tired. You've haven't caught up on your sleep hahaha.

  • I love my daughter dearly but the teenage years are tough on me. The attitude, the hormones, the disrespect. I'm too young for this, I honestly want to get up and just leave and never look back. I sacrificed for her, went through h*** and back when she was younger to secure a future for her and I am the hatred one and her father, who barely does crap, is her savior. I'm in my mid 30s and about to get remarried soon. I've made it clear that I do not want children. If he decides to change his mind and wants kids, because he doesn't have any, then God help him because this bank is closed for withdrawals. By the time my daughter heads off to college, I'll still be young.

  • That phase or pubescebt angst of hers will fade and you two will be best friends but do NOT be her friend and she'll see her dad as the lousy one...maybe

  • Get those tubes tied QUICK and lie. What he won't know, won't certainly hurt him ;-)

  • Hello. At least u had her young. I wish I would of had my children young and ended up having them at 37. What was I thinking. Hang in there. U r almost there.

  • Why does it matter how old or young you are? Having them too young means you were bored or NOT thinking or in stupid puppy love that dies when the kid is born. Having them too old means youre just selfish, risking your child will develop a mental disability and youre gonna age FASTER and be more miserable with your look-alike grandkid LOL You had them regardless. Live it with.

  • Janet Jackson. Selfish.

  • So glad I found this thread. I swear I feel like the only one I know that absolutely HATES being a parent. If I would have known it would be like this I would have given him up at birth. He's almost two now and the horrible feelings about basically losing my whole life haven't gone away. Everyone says it gets better. IT DOESN'T. If you're not absolutely certain you want a kid, or feel a baby is the ONLY thing missing from your life, I don't suggest having one. I HATE IT so much and it's like no one understands how I feel about it. I would try to talk to an adoption agency and play the "I'm not the parent this kid needs" card - apparently there's no legal limit on the age at which you can put a kid up for adoption but he's attached to us now and I don't wanna ruin someone's life with attachment issues by dumping him with some other family. (who could probably love him and provide for him better). I'd feel too guilty anyway. I just wish I could stop hating it so much. I feel like once he's about 10 or so it won't be so bad. He just totally wrecked my life. Yes, I was on birth control because I knew I didn't want kids. If I could go back, I'd either abort or adopt him away. My husband hardly talks to me about this because he doesn't like to listen to me say I hate being a mom, but I do! It's horrible and I can't believe anyone does this on purpose!

  • You're just a selfish mindless woman. You had a chance to abort but "who could probably love him and provide for him better" is just plain bs. That's like an idiot owner raising a dog, wants to get rid of it but thinks no one could do better, which you have no idea of. I hope you don't commit a mercy murder-suicide like some psycho moms did. You brought this upon yourself. Your unfortunate kid with a lousy mom like you...smh

  • I hope you know how pathetic you sound. Your poor child.

  • Seems like your man used you as a baby making machine that he wish could mute you...I'm sorry. Could've avoided that drama by being smart, thought it through and not falling for it.

  • My kid is almost 20 and is still in high school ,why did I have to have this stupid stupid kid?

  • Well...not EVERY child will be alike. They're their own individual. They all won't be the same. Some will be born with mental disabilities, autism, terminal illness, become gay, lesbian etc or ADHD or whatever bullcrap. Some will drive you to murder your own kin, suicide, neglect, cause you embarrassment, etc., like the mother who pushed her autistic son off the bridge because she couldn't "deal with him" anymore.

    You're lucky you don't have a kid with Down Syndrome or thats paralyzed due to some screwed up genetic issue and you'd have to care for her until he/she dies; so you'll be a slave and I've read stories. Your kid could miraculously turn out incredibly intelligent, see how you truly are, and somehow loathe you and not have kids of their own and maybe disown YOU and think "why did I have to have this selfish, egotistical parent that doesnt deserve the title of 'mom' or 'dad'?"(I assume). So stop your complaining, count your blessings and live with it. It's logical. It's life. Regret is SUCH an awful feeling and no escape? That's a H*** ON earth. That's YOUR child and he/she NEEDS your help in school and many more issues he/she will deal with.

    If every child was born normal, healthy, then the population would explode but it'd drop drastically as well. You probably deserved it even though you didn't WANT him or her the way they are and THAT'S SELFISH but you're stuck with what God assigned (punished) you with. Don't blame your kid for being stupid. Dont hate him or her for being gay, lesbian, transgendered. Blame yourself and your stupid genes for passing it down. Duh. Childfree eating this up HA

  • What???

  • Because you're selfish and we're bored and living through your kid because of your boredom. Live with it.

  • Lol you think your kid will move out at 18 you must be smoking something funny, your kid could be that man who still lives at home at the age of 37 and still works at McDonalds.

  • It varies from culture to culture. I've met ppl, mainly some Indians who don't really see that as a bad thing until their kid marries, thus moves out. It's the norm in their society and I never sense or see complaints, more like praises. Western society is self-destructing.

  • I have to ask out of curiosity, if you all hate being parents so much, why did most of you have more than one child? No offense, but it seems logical your troubles would at least double.

  • They think they'll grow to love their kids. BAHAHAAAAAA

  • The reason why I had two kids is because kid number one was a mistake. Then guess what, my wife said she was pregnant again. That makes two mistakes.

  • That's your fault too. Take accountability. Have you seen the smallest violin?

  • Youre the primary mistake for doubling MORE of your mistakes you sniveling coward. Should've avoided touching her.

    For real. They know what they did. Idk why these idiots act as if they have no idea how a baby is made. Its takes 2 to tango!! Its like men forget a woman could get pregnant and "oops! Shes pregnant! Oh woe is me! How'd that happen? I had no idea!" Really? You forgot a sperm and egg could form a baby, you forgot inserting your sad p**** into her v*****, squirting unprotectedly into her uterus is procreating? Really?

    A lot of you men dont think at all when it comes to s**. Look at the unloyal men who cheat on their wives, sleep with other women and an illegitimate child is the result. Or worse, the other woman ends up murdered because the man didnt wear protection and she wants to keep the baby. Scott Peterson. There's a lot. The men are at fault to for being stupid. No one feels sorry. You're both guilty.

    Look at Marriage Bootcamp, Dani and Victor met through s** and that results in a child thats of course innocent and has s***** immature parents. She knew wgat she did. Ew and Tori Spelling and disgusting (ex) husband...gross. Breeder=mindless fools whom shouldnt breed. There should be mentality/psychological tests before producing a kid...too bad. You all deserve your H***.

  • That's what I keep thinking too. Why have more than one. I unfortunately have twins my first time around and it freakin sucks. One would have been more than enough for me. I tell everyone just have one if u r thinking about having kids. Only one. It will be so much easier.

  • No. You mean to tell people on the fence of having kids to try babysitting. Not trying it out. Youre becoming deceitful and misleading clueless couples into a misery that you don't want to suffer alone. Misery DOES love company. I wouldnt take ANY advice from you. I'll just look at you from top to bottom, seeing how exhaustingly old and frazzled you look and just enjoy my childfree life. We look a lot better anyway😏😌

  • That person was a slave to s** with out protection, lol.

  • Uggggggggh kids slow your WHOLE LIFE down omg,, i already kno

  • Because they're altricial, meaning taking a long time to develop, I have no patience for a mindless idiot to raise. Nope! Hurry up!

  • Yeah after the miserable fact of being too late to change it

  • You sound Like me. I love my kids I really do but I hate being around them, I'd take a bullet for them but every time they scream mommy, mommy, mommy over and over or throw 3 hour tantrums because I turned off Caillou I want to walk out the front door and never come back I have no Idea how their father handles them. The only plus side I can think of is that I'm still pretty young and my youngest is 2, so I'll only be in my 30's when I get my life back.

  • Hahaha u turned off caillou

  • The childfree community know this. That's why majority of us travel more often. It's growing.

  • I swear its like you wrote this for me. I feel the exact same way. This new girl In got with is pregnant. Idk what to do. I'm so depressed at the thought of another infant baby. A lot of days I think about killing myself just to end the misery.

  • Then you'll be in a worse place than now. Should've thought that through buddy. CONVERSATION! Condom! Now imprisonment. Abortion or miscarriage.

  • I'm a parent of 6-year-old twin boys. Both my husband and I hate being parents to the core. This is a freaking life sentence that we won't ever get out of. I keep thinking maybe it would be better with just one but we have double trouble everything. We hate everything about parenting. The con outweighs the pros. And it's not their fault. It's our fault for even considering having children. Everything revolves around them and it sucks. My husband and I try to hide from them in a different room just so we can just sit and have a grown up conversation and be together alone but it never last long. We just look forward to bedtime every night. That's the only freedom we have. Life sentence I tell ya.

  • You guys were meant to be childfree...too late now.

  • Yes. U r so very right. But we give our all to the boys. We try very much to be good parents. Overall, they r happy kids and they will never know how we feel. We do love them, by dang, parenting is hard.

  • Thank you. You're doing a good job. Seeing all the parents on here complain and vent, it indicates parenting is certainly hard and difficult. Hang in there!

  • I regret getting married and having a kid. My daughter is 3 months old now and I hardly feel any bond towards her. I simply go through the motions and pretend that fatherhood is such bliss. It's not. Marriage and fatherhood is a lifetime of doing things you don't want to do but do anyway just to avoid the nagging and arguments. I hate being at home as all I do is endless chores that my wife tells me to do while the little one bawls her head off. I feel like a beast of burden. I have no energy to do anything and I have nothing to look forward to except death I suppose. Sometimes the "noise" of all my responsibilities is so deafening I can't think straight and just pray I get a aneurysm in my sleep. Yes I pray for death even though I'm an atheist, that's how bad it is. Don't get married or have kids.

  • I can't...this is sad

  • Wow. Another one wishing for death...Looks like that empty void in your life will never be fulfilled through the joys of parenting/marriage, which consists almost 98% of sacrifices. That is required when you mindlessly yet impetuously bring another being into this world...I feel sorry for your kid more.

  • I Second that!

  • Bruh you could've avoided this...If only you BOTH talked about whom wants what and if it would make you happy, if only you wore a condom, if only you didn't believe her if she claimed to be on the pill, threatened to leave you, thus manipulating you, if only you visualize or imagine how having a child is difficult and hellish and rarely pleasant and horrid, like babysitting or spending time with children, if only you were REALLY decisive and knew yourself and what YOU wanted and not let others/society dictate and pressure you, if only you left your wife before tying the knot of matrimonial trap and end up with someone with the same likes/preferences, if only you guys had an abortion, if only you were smart, if only you knew...I see why you parents tell and lie to the childfree to join in your miseries by feigning "it's fun! The greatest love/gift from a child". Not falling for it. No thanks. Children in the future will starve or worse. Not my problem, can't feed your kids, don't bother breeding then. Myself helping out will surely enable stupid, mindless couples who shouldn't have kids, unfortunately have kids.

  • If you cant support yourself let alone a child, WHY on God's earth would you stupidly have a child anyway?! Childfree shouldnt fund for you wastes of oxygen

  • This is less about marriage and more about WHO you married. I have an amazing, close marriage with no children in sight. Ever. And it's a blast. My husband and I are best friends and truly enjoy our life together. We share the responsibilities equally and discuss everything openly. Marriage isn't for everyone, that's true. But not all marriages are s*** like yours.

  • Hi there. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought about death also because of the kids. My husband and I had those thoughts also. But thank goodness we r still here and making the best of whatever. Hahahaha. I just keep telling myself this is temporary. They will grow up. That has kept me going. Hang in there.

  • You sound like this oblivious yet stupid, in denial mother at my work. She complains how she'd love to die for a day, take months off, and how she so tired, etc. but backpedals like a martyr, which I don't buy. Death better than raising a child eh? I can refute the "children are worth it" bs. She's not bright so...I lack sympathy whatsoever.

  • Totally with everyone on this. My daughters 14 months old and I love her and people always ask "can you imagine your life without her now?"
    YES, YES I CAN.
    I would be having fun and I'd have some of MY life back. I'd not be going to bed at 10.00pm on a Saturday night because you know she's going to wake up at 2 and scream the house down. I'd be able to do stuff for me and I might have a bit of a life with my partner again instead of bickering or talking about her . ALL THE TIME.
    Like other people have said on here, I can't believe that people do this and they actually want to do this. Is it worth it? Maybe in the long run I don't know, I'm only 14 months into it but at the moment no chance.
    As for having more kids, not happening. I'd sooner cut my own b**** off than go through this again. Even the good bits.

  • Wow bud I give you credit for your merit statement. You HAVE b****. You could do more things sans kids but hey, your insight is on point. Bravo.

  • I'm not a parent yet but from what I can gather it does get better after the infant stage. A recent study found that only 3 percent of parent's claim to regret having children. That's very low. Of course, parents may not be sharing their true feelings but even considering this I reckon you might be looking at only 10% who regret having them. Maybe for the first two years it's tough but I bet it gets a whole lot better. I also think if you are an older parent (30 plus) then you are much more settled with having children. I certainly wouldn't have wanted them too early, in my 20's.

    I think if you imagine that you'd never had them you'd probably regret that also and think about what might have been.

  • No, study found 70% (give or take) regret having kids. There are so many whiny comments and venting. Like "give me a precise reason to be sympathetic to you just because you had a kid?"

    It's too late for them to alter their permanent choices. I rather regret not having kids, than having kids, SUDDENLY realized it's not all unicorns and butterflies, and regretted that I had them. Safe than sorry forever.

  • Had 1 at 21 better than in my teens f tat Lucky me had FAM help so I could still have fun clubs an s*** get it all out now tat its all out my system had fun wit kid vacays an FAM fun an to me tat better than stupid ass clubs wit folks just looking to get layed an probably end up with stork package .The only enjoyment I got out of clubs is music an beer I can do better in my music studio as am a DJ an singer y'all wondering y I yaping only about my self cuz it all about me now i miss me kid vacay but kid don't want to go or hang out with me nomo all kid cares about are video games now I guess it was fun while it lasted I have all the time in the world 4me at times I feel I don't have kid at all

  • I only hav 1 so do like me an only have 1 or have none c ama b real I am selfish I need my me work time. I knew after 1 I wasn't gonna b much good 4 mo so I sed no 2 mo kids tat wudda been selfish 2 ta 1 I hav wich at the time was like 5in1 an me not having. Much to give. Wudda fo sure set me up for epic fail don't give. Yaself wat u can't handle cuz god wuddnt. Do u like tat. So all y'all do wats best 4u peace

  • You're not a parent yet, posted invalid statement of how a small percentage of parents regret kids when truth is its a bigger percentage pfffftttt HAHAHAHA (75%), don't lie to yourself and think the crap these people vent out on here, won't apply to you, and you're on this site. Cold feet already dear?

  • I'm an older parent. 39 years old. I have a 5 year old and an 8 month old. I HATE being a parent. The first child was managable, but now that I've had a second child (who was an accident), it is unbearable. I am miserable, sleep deprived, and have NO time for myself. None. I cry constantly and just hope for death most the time. I feel like ny life is over because I will be almost 60 before they're out of the house. I love them and it's not their fault, but I definitely regret having children. But I made my bed and now I have to lay in this h*** I've created.

  • Proud you owned up to your misfortunes and took accountability.

  • Thats another wishing for death! Dont pull that martyr bs!

  • P*** off with your idiot studies.

  • Oh only up to 10/100 parents you meet regret having children. That's a huge f****** number buddy.

  • Well some states nearly or more than 70% parents regret having kids...on CF sites. Bahahahaaa😂

  • Haha! Wait till they're teenagers!!!!! 😂

  • No, it gets harder and more encompassing in your life. I think more people talk like it's the best thing in the world because of 2 things; might as well try and enjoy the s*** (the kids aren't going anywhere) and also because of what they think people will think of them if they say other wise. I'm 7 years in and I don't particularly enjoy being a parent, but it's my responsibility so I'll do it.

  • Of course its YOUR responsibility YOU made them! You made your bed therefire you must lie in it. You're stuck/trapped with them eternity! I give you praise for actually parenting rather abandoning your kids but it is YOUR fault and whoever your man is that procreated kids that never asked to be born.

  • I dunno, I'm 5 years in and it's only getting harder.

  • Start whipping

  • Oh man I'm so sorry to hear. You are not alone though. I only have one child and I lover her...but totally agree. Parenting sucks the life out of some people. And I honestly believe that you're not a bad person just because you really don't like being a parent. I wish I could offer more advice but I'm in the same boat and I just hope that you find peace eventually

  • I have a 14 month old. I hate being a parent and I although my wife is a good woman, marriage to me is pointless without kids, so yes I regret getting married also. I never realized how valuable my freedom was. I'm typing this seconds after having to cut a p*** short because my son always finds a way to get out of his area. It is going to take me about 20 minutes to type this because he keeps grabbing for the mouse. I look forward to work because at least at work I have a tiny bit of freedom. I am strongly considering hiding the days I take vacation from work just so my wife doesnt see it as an opportunity to give me s*** to do. Most guys I talk to feel this way or similarly. Its g******* prison. I literally hate leaving work Friday because I know I have to be home for 2 days. Sleeping is a long lost luxury and my friends don't even bother asking me to do stuff anymore because they know I cant. HOW THE F*** IS HAVING KIDS SUCH A POPULAR THING!!! This is h*** on earth for me. A stray bullet to my face would instantly killing me would be a god send....Worst of all I have a sense of honor and conscience. My son did not ask to be here, so I will just continue to be miserable for his benefit, but I am amazed so many people find having kids to be such an integral part of life. Its slowly veering away from that, but you couldn't pay me enough to have a kid in my next life. Hopefully I am smarter in that life than I am in this one. Parenting is 95% bad and about 5% good.

  • You've been fooled and lied too. You have joined the Miserable Parents Club. Population: growing...

  • LOL go to work for 5 days is peaceful for you and an extra 2 days of more work with family is H***. You wish death but it may not ever come until elderly age. You're in H***. Watch the film Hook when Captain Hook tells Peter's daughter that her parents were happy before they had them. Ouch! I WANT I WANT I WANT I WANT! ME ME ME ME! NOW NOW NOW NOW! That's kids 101 and their parents--plus the regrets.

  • "Marriage to me is pointless without kids" really? Well least you know it's not true and millions of other CHILDFREE ppl can refute that bullshit. Marriage tends to last longer without children. Tis a shame you realized this too late to alter it. Good insight on yourself though. I give you kudos for that. I guess childfree do correlate with high intelligence.

  • Amen. Lol

  • I think being a parent is soooo frustrating because we have these ideals of how everything should be abd when it doesn't turn out that way, we tend to feel resentment and betrayed by all these bs shows & ads etc on t.v. Parents are constantly judged by everyone about everything and made to feel as though they're not good enough. This makes us more anxious, stressed and depressed and creates an unhealthy family life. I could go on and on. Just do what works for you & make sure your kids know how much you love them.

  • Youre not good enough nor a good parent if you allow your parasites to go willy-nilly in stores and restaurants.

  • LOL WERE ALL PARASITES

  • Cancer more like

  • LOL sandra hawley has 3 kids and is CLEARLY miserable, she should be on this site...pro natalist cow. Childfree! those sites are so blissful!

  • Kitty 332 and Kim K LOL you KNOW they miserable and lazy

  • Just coming here just for truth, s**** and giggles hehe and assurance. You breeders are so damn gullible to believe children will accompany in your old age, they're NOT worth it. Stop backpedaling, "I love my son/daughter but...I hate my life but..." well, YOU caused it. This bs martyrdom. You made mistakes and now you must suck it up and LIVE with them. There are these wonderful procedure and process called abortion and adoption. But too late for you dumbshits now haha do NOT blame your kids, they did not choose you lousy buffoons nor being born into your crappy lives...sad but oh well.

  • I would read for laughs how disgusting soon-to-be moms brag about their pregnancies and some are TMIs--nasty b****** "pregnancy is a blessing" whatever to convince you from insanity sweetheart. They better enjoy it now until they know what they get themselves into, then I laugh because they're screwed. Some kids grow up to be serial killers and shoot up malls or schools. Enjoy parenting! Kisses!

  • Seriously people ugh I came across this website looking for support from people who love their kids ,but can't afford them and what I find is heartless ,selfish monster's who have gone as far as to write that kids are horrible beings that ruin your life.I am well aware of how crazy my life has been since I had kids ,but to even think or feel so horrible about their existents is awful.My kids are wonderful and they bring out so many positive feeling out of me.Maybe if you liberals tried more to love them for how awesome they are rather then hate them for not letting you have your way in life ,you could actually enjoy a life with them.Their here already why not make the best of it.

  • It's "they're"

  • Oh so YOU'VE felt down in the miserable dumps. Sorry for bursting your bubble but THIS is for unleashing truths and venting or getting things off your chest. Children can behave like unruly monsters. THOSE are the ones I'd love to hit so hard. They cry "you want to get slapped again? Then shut up!!! Mommy's trying to sleep" they're not little angels. Why you think there are stories of parents killing their kids? Some wish to be childFREE or if their kids have mental disabilities, they "can't handle it anymore" and murder him/her by pushing them off the bridge. They're worth it huh? I see and study you paren't and I hardly see you guys smile when YOUR kids are around you in stores and other places where they shouldn't be allowed. You can plaster on a smile but I see the exhaustion and eyes wandering for desperate help and possible regret. If they bug you and being unruly, DO something! Spank or slap! They work! Spare the rod, spoil the brat! "Proverbs 13:24--Whoever spares the rod, hates their child, but the one who LOVES their children is careful to disciplone them." Shame on you fools.

  • You definitely should never have had kids, I feel terrible for you but I'm honestly a little concerned about how well your kids are with a parent like you.

  • As the great Katharine Hepburn quoted, "the first time if a child didnt do what I wanted, id kill him." She quoted more but I love that last sentence. I have a short fuse...I'd hit a kid if he/she is annoying me, being stubborn, hurting my dog/cat, etc. Waking me up...you'll unleash H***. How you like that?

  • You MUST be on Cafemom and why are you on here? Trouble at home with your own lil bastards you're slaving around yet put up an act in public? Tell me something I DON'T know.🙄

  • Sit down darling. You say I should never have kids yet assume I already do. Seems like being a parent correlates being irretrievably stupid. I'm not a parent nor a miserable parent like you on here dude but thank God I'm smart enough to avoid being trapped and regretful haha.

    So what if I did have kids (shudders) and I'll be a terrible parent. There are other people on here on the verge of suicide and yet I somehow caught your attention. Hmmmm Looks like I affected you hahaaaa you DO realize discipline is great to tame a lil kid right? Oh wait. You probably didnt...tsk. But since you're projecting, you really feel sorry for yourself awwwwwwwww hence why you're here :-)

    I should feel sorry for you who feel the need to feel sorry me for choosing a better life and being smart and not breeding. You should be more concerned with yourself and other miserable parents on here venting so much that they can't cry help outside or they'll be titled "unfit" and other judgmental words. Stop being in your feelings and throwing ad hominems. Calm down LOL

    Least I KNOW I'll be a terrible parent rather reading these comments of "I didnt know it'd be this hard!" So thank you! But ew who wants kids? Childfree come on here to snoop, read, laugh and post you idiots b******* LOL looks like our side is winning and is better! Excuse me while I buy tickets to go to Italy AGAIN. Continue feeling sorry for me while I'll be in Manarola enjoying my childfree life with my boo! Smooches!

  • Wow. A superb read...BURN!!!!!

  • Take an English course you f****** animal!

  • "You liberals" you b****

  • "You liberals" ... really? I'm as dismayed at the tone of this stuff as you are, and I've never voted for a republican in my life and likely never will. None of the miserable stuff posted here (not saying that as a pejorative, these poor f****** are clearly just miserable as f***) sounds in any way politically oriented.

    I'm a dad of three; 7yo, 6yo, 3yo. Oh, and to the first time parents of babies still in diapers - h*** YES things get easier as they get older. Best advice I have for you is 1. hang in there and 2. do NOT get pregnant again until the current youngest is O-U-T of diapers. Having a six and seven year old is not bad; but the three-ish years they were both in diapers at the same time damn near destroyed my marrriage.

  • Jeez just because you're so uneducated you can't express yourself correctly doesn't mean you're only good for breeding. But I guess it's a little late for you.

    Start reading to your kids. It'll be good for them, and great practice for you

  • Maybe you should stop being so judgmental

  • Why do some people immediately place a political label, such as "liberal" on seemingly anyone who they deem as morally inferior to themselves? This discussion has absolutely nothing to do with politics, and you are putting a label on many, many people who you don't know. It doesn't help anything or anyone, and lambasting people for their weaknesses doesn't help, either. You want to help? Offer real, helpful solutions.

  • Ok! Drop those lil s**** off at adoption joint and drive away or abort. Problem solved. Better?

  • YUP.

  • My husband is talking me into having kids and I'm so afraid that I'm on the pill without him knowing. I am currently unemployed and refuse to have a baby now as it will mean that I will never have the possibility to do work in the future (I can make more money than him and refuse to be the stay at home parent).
    One of my cousins decided one day to leave the house after driving the kids to school. She never came back. I dream of doing the same because I know I'll only have them to pass on my genes and hate children.

  • So you wanna end up like one of your cousins? A parent (unworthy title) until death but doesn't have the guts to actually PARENT and abandons their own flesh and blood? 👏 shocker...

  • Conversate!!!! You people cannot be THIS stupid. Tell him you don't want any monsters! For all you know, you'll end up preggo, he'll see you unattractive later on, won't take on fatherly responsibilities as he should since HE wanted the baby, leave you for a woman without kids and possibly fit, cycle begins anew. So WHAT if he leaves you?! For not replicating his DNA?! SELFISH. Thirsty for a man? Think abt the considerations of the possible child that may be unfortunately born into your union. Bad ending there of NO escape. If you have a baby from him, resent the kid, you're a breeder. If not, good for you for sticking up for yourself and being an intellectual. Would you REALLY live a life of constant misery with ppl you'll probably despise or live it in peace? Literally. Your own place, get a dog or whatever, get back in the dating pool, meet someone who does NOT want kids either and respects you...your life. THINK about it dear. Don't be a sheep!

  • "Passing on genes" is a common lie and a false propaganda from pro-Natalist society. The future is getting worse so why put a kid through that? Your genes are nothing special. You won't be rewarded. They're not asked to be born. Many known ppl don't have kids (childfree) and STILL carry on their legacy. Don't have a ball and chain to your ankle...the future is dim for kids born now. They won't amount to anything significant. Get real. Stay sweet

  • Kids of the future, are NOT the future. Less to no jobs. Food shortage. Great job parents. Life takes care of itself. The next Black plague. We're due for one anyway...

  • Don't do it. Biggest mistake u will ever make. Seriously. I'm paying big time. Be free. Be free. I dream of that so bad.

  • Trust your gut!! I wasn't independent woman and got pregnant and gave up everything it is been so terrible please follow your gut if you don't want kids don't have them no matter what

  • Leave (him as well) before it's too late and you'll be in worse s*** and trapped. You're not a baby making machine. Be smart and flee

  • I feel like I could've written this. I only have 1 kid, but I have warn was plugs. He's so whiny ALL THE TIME. I just want to run away. I love him to death and I know its only a phase, but I CAN NOT WAIT until he goes to school!!

  • Youre a lousy parent who doesnt deserve to be called a parent. Youll end up a lousy passive friend to your own offspring. You hate your kid if you don't discipline him but he'll end up in prison and you'll only blame yourself you fool

  • *ear plugs

  • Worn.

  • A leather belt. Slap to the face. SCREAM at him!!!!

  • This is my number one concern. I am currently 31 and the only one of my friends with no children. I feel so free and it has allowed me to be a lot more driven and move forward career wise. They seem worn out all the time and not really happy. Having kids is probably already at the bottom of my list and seeing them makes me not want them at all. Their kids are great but after about 12 hours even them playing gets on my nerves. Reading through many of the comments it seems most of the regrets come when having multiple children. If I were to have one it would def be just one.

    I am a faculty member at a college and am surrounded by many colleagues who don't have children and they are able to travel, buy fabulous homes in the city and are great aunts, uncles, god parents etc.

    My current boyfriend has expressed wanting kids but it doesn't seem to be at the top of his list either. I want a fulfilling life and I don't think a kid should and will do that for me.

  • Having kids will hinder you from reaching your dreams and goals. They'll be your obstacles. They'll keep you from the things you're actually missing out on. I've met so many dumb young mom's (who look OLDER than me) only way of achieving happiness is by drinking too much and partying hard. That crap gets old and tiresome... they're not worth anything.

  • I hate to adimt u are so rite I feel like crying but I have nomo tears I wish I wudda know what I wanted wen I was younger focused on my goals instead of getting d*** by even worse dude wud f me up something bad I was just about to get out wen pop I got popped I did manage to get out tho cuz prik hate kid i was carryin. just. Wanted to fuc kinda thang an I jut cudnt abort .life gos on time has past put kid 1st cuz luv tat lil m*** have had good enjoyable vacays wit kid but now after some time kid is big. No need me. Much I can do my job hope not late it never late better late then never type of mental I hav I find myself getting drunken happy ish getting old wats left tho I say. Good Energy years I gave to my 1 kid took a lot ahhhh keep goin keep my head up 4better days cuz my gangsta far from over peace

  • All I can say is trust your gut seriously you're not missing out on anything just because you don't have kids. If there's any doubt that you want a child.. Please don't have one I'm telling you it can be a never-ending nightmare. I know this may sound blunt but it's from a place of love as somebody who has learned the hard way kids are not for everyone it's okay

  • My friends without kids love fabulous lives, and my one friend with a kid lives in her parent's guest house, shes broke. I have 1 child and we're broke. Sometimes I wonder WTH Iwas thinking.

  • Majority is true. Including myself. I get mani-pedis every 3 weeks, depending how good it looks, get my dog groomed every 2 weeks, run a mile, do a Sparta challenge, hang out with my friends, who don't want kids neither, one is truly repugnant about kids and babies btw and we travel, mainly San Francisco or Emeryville, San Diego, Monterey, we plan, rent a car and save $$$, like there's so much to do. Next is Vegas. Better than living a life of a parent, stuck with kids 24/7/365. Boooooorrrriiinnngggggg

  • You weren't 😂

  • Dual income NO kids. D****

  • D****

  • I don't have too many financial concerns and being a parent is still s**t af. I got pregnant by accident with twins (It happens more often when you're almost 40 and of course I was the one). I work all the time as there's always extra hours in my specialty and it pays well so I say I'm doing it for their college funds. It's even worse in the eyes of society since I'm the mother not the father.

  • I have a Autistic non verbal 4 year old, I don't work in the town I live in so I can have a better job so we can afford the best care for her, the private autism care she attend cost $25k per year, add in all the other care bills, & we are way over $100k, that's a second hand Lamborghini

    I had 4 motorcycles, classic car, large house with pool & largest home gym, yearly international holidays before she was born, now life is f*****, I would change it all as I was way happier person before this money, time, energy black hole came along.....

  • Selfish breeder alert! LOL

  • Looks like you miserable parents have to SACRIFICE almost 90 to 99%% of the things you love more than the individuals who didn't ask to be born and stuck with you haha. $$$$$ and freedom down the drain is REAL

  • Surrender her to the state if nothing else. you shouldnt force this debt generator upon yourself, and even though she sucks the life out of you, she deserves to be somewhere she can be really cared for and helped (not that being in the care of the state or government is 100% perfect, but still.) save yourself the heartache of trying to cling to the life youve got now.

  • Wow you're selfish for putting a kid that didn't ask to be born into YOUR life through the system. Good luck with that conscious. It's better to abort than put a kid through adoption process.

  • I totally get it. It's so hard and feels less rewarding than I thought it would be. Some moments are definitely better than others. I definitely go the "what could have been"'s. Not fun. I gotta work on acceptance and taking care of my thoughts better or I'll never be happy!

  • *Sniff Sniff* I smell salty liberal tears in the comment section...

  • Aren't liberals racist inbreds? Trump lovers?

  • And I smell s*** in here. Someone flew in like a pigeon, crapped on the comment section and flew away, thinking they contributed anything at all.

  • I love my kids because they came out of my body and are a part of me. I love them because I'm supposed to love them. I hate them for every other reason.

    I wish we never had kids. I let my husband talk me into having the first child and it wasn't horrible, but wasn't great. Then he talked me into having a second child and that was the worst mistake ever! The two kids by themselves aren't horrendous, but once they are in the same vicinity as each other, they are your worst nightmare...hurting each other or screaming or crying or destroying something.

    I have cut s** out of our lives as the thought disgusts me. The thought that s** created these two monsters just completely ruins any thought of enjoyment.

    If I knew 10 years ago what I know now, I would have never had kids. I don't understand why anyone would want to have kids. They are horrible beings that ruin your life and turn you into a slave to their wants and needs. It amazes me how the friends I have who never had kids still look so young and vibrant and the rest of us that had kids look so old, beaten, and decrepit.

  • Boogers come out of your nose, do you feel a connection to them?

  • You love them due to the lingering oxytocin that's in your body. Every mammal has that. It's not a coerced feeling. Looks like the phrase "You don't know what love is until you have a child" is refuted. Least the childfree KNOW way beforehand what makes them happy and what wouldn't.

  • P*** comes out of your body do love every third that passes through your sphincter? Not trying to be mean, sorry you're miserable. I wish more parents would be honest and openly discuss how horrible it truly is.

  • I do love my son, but I do have days where I wonder what the f*** I did to my life. I use to dream about having the perfect girlfriend when I was in my early 20's, now all I dream about is going back to my old life of peace, serenity and dare I say it... Selfishness.

    I often dread coming home after work because I know exactly how I'll feel, indifference and annoyance at the crying and guilt because my girlfriend has been home with him all day and is more drained than me, and all of this only intensifies my daydream of being alone again.

    Call me a lesser human, call me selfish, but anytime anyone even jokes about us having another child, I literally feel an intense sense of fear and anger at the possibility that this is "expected" of us. If I had of known i'd ever feel this way i'd of had a vasectomy a very long time ago.

  • Get a vasectomy now as insurance!

  • Oh boy, I had a child when I was much younger with a woman who was not right for me at all. As a matter of fact, I did not want him growing up in an angry, yelling, and hateful environment so we split up. That relationship stayed horrible until very recently, but the little man only had to deal with it when I picked him up or dropped him off. I never said a bad thing about her to him, she eventually stopped bad mouthing me. He is a stable adult and I am thankful for my decision on that situation.

    Fast forward 14 years and I met my now wife. She decided we were having a child only 6 months into the marriage, which was only a year after we met. She has the capability to make more money than me so I stayed home, we can only just now afford daycare so I have been home with him for nearly 3 years. It sucks bad, if I was thrown back in time there is no way I would do any of it. I would never have children and I would love having money, time, and sanity. I'm not certain that if I was given the opportunity to go back I would. I love my children dearly, especially the oldest one. But I would seriously have to think about it, seriously. You're not the only one, and I had to write this with him screaming in the background because I'm not paying attention to him. He really is very good though, if he was not I would have to leave the situation again. I don't pretend though, I tell everyone how hard it is, and that they should absolutely think twice about having children.

  • I'm on the verge of tears, because my son has been whining all day, throwing little tantrums, asking 5000 questions, and I swear sometimes I wish I was deaf. I stay home with him, too. I miss freedom and sanity. I love him to death. I would proudly, and instantly die for him, but GIVE ME A BREAK!! These tantrums are getting old and sometimes when I can hearone starting I just think to myself "Oh God, here we go again. Never again (another baby)."

  • You don't own a leather belt do you? Do you make a deal with your son so he'll behave while other people are glaring at you annoyed? DON'T become and STOP being his f****** friend! Why would you let him stress you out?! Tame that ass! This is inane!

  • Stupid, SLAP him or pop him on the ass! It's therapeutic. Don't waste your excuses. Seriously?!

  • Perhaps narcissists aren't meant to have children

  • You're so right, I love myself too much to share my life with a kid; NOT worth it. I love my selfishness (or is it?). Everything for ME! Earth doesn't deserve my kids.

  • Perhaps you should shove your idiot opinion up your ass.

  • But smug wankers are?

  • Perhaps people with low intellect and no lives are the ones meant to have and enjoy children.

  • Bahahaha

  • Either you don't have children or you are so dependent on making others happy that you don't ever think about yourself. Either way, you don't have room to judge.

  • I love my kid to the moon and back but there is no way in h*** I would wver do this again for another. Blows my mind why anyone has more than one.

  • You sound JUST like me! I have said that countless times.

  • I was afraid of being lonely so I decided to stay with someone I did not love. We both stayed together out of fear of having to date again. She wanted kids and I never really liked the idea of having children. I had to break it off. I don't know how I got the courage as I hate being alone. I was ready to have kids so she would stay with me. We fought over almost everything. These posts help me see what could have been my future. Thanks for sharing

  • Majority in reality will state otherwise like its all rainbows and unicorns so we can join in their misery. Only a few with b**** will tell and advise you not to have kids and how much they wish to be in my shoes and say how lucky I am.

  • Yeah, you could've been traveling to Italy by now, visiting Disneyland with a girlfriend, go on peaceful adult dates, movies every Friday night or movie night at your place or hers, shop around, walking your dog on your days off, taking her to Santa Cruz and flaunt her around, exercise, go on a Cruise ship (just the two of you), scuba diving in the Bahamas, discover new hobbies and friends, and most of all, have undisturbed and deep slumber in Slumberland on Saturdays, its limitless really. Now THAT'S worth it. But that's me.

  • That's a good life of luxury. Oh wait. No kids. HAHAHAHA you p***** them off! OMG this is hilarious! Everything you listed they probably could NEVER achieve of doing. They're just upset cuz they have rug-apes at home to "care" for and regret their irreversible yet dumb decision to breed BAHAHAHAHAAAAA I bet the "undisturbed and deep slumber" comment got to them. Lack of sleep DOES cause one to become irate and surly. They had no idea of the what ifs and settled for less and p***** because they're not smart like us and thought beforehand. Of course they'd be mad, but sucks for and to be them. Probably fat slobs babysitting with chains on their ankles. There are adult only restaurants and cinemas... I'd be p***** at MYSELF too if I was them, since I wouldn't be able to do ANYTHING with kids around. They're trying to play the martyr bs. As usual!!!! Your bragging was awesome and they exposed themselves! Dumbass(es)!!!!

  • They're just upset due to the fact that they know their kids won't amount to anything of significance. They live through their kids. So they have no lives whatsoever, hence why they're defensive. Truth hurts. Things are getting worse in the future.

  • It must be u cuz stiff coklards don't do stuff other than try to stuff

  • Is this the BEST comment you have? If it is, then you KNOW you don't have crap to say. "Don't do stuff than try to stuff"?!?!?? Seems like an illiterate teen trying to sound sagacious with a reading grade level of 1 but decided to p*** out a little a****** of its own. I can see why you're on here. That person got to you really bad.

  • "Coklard"? wow haha I'm not surprised if YOU have kids. You have nothing going for yourself. I guess what was commented was true "childfree does correlates to intelligence" please use less exaggeration and English.

  • Awwww I'd affected you 😏.You mean try to have kids like you? Ew. No thx. What we do IS doing stuff. You wouldnt be able to do ANY of the things I've listed. Sad you don't know the difference of that rather changing diapers, feigning a smile and looking like a hot filthy mess that's unrewarded. That's not doing anything at all. LOL ouch. You mad?

  • Disney Land is mostly for kids u dope so if u don't like kids there will b plenty of them there

  • Hey now, don't call yourself a dope. I know you were shortsighted of your dumb decisions by mistakenly procreating a child. Funny I see many adults and teens at Disneyland. Enjoy Chuck E Cheese though.

  • Angry are we?😌 we go to Disneyland once a month. Neh!😋

  • It's for adults as well duh. But I'd be upset too if I was in your shoes who can't escape. Thank God I'm not! Kids are their parents/breeders problems there. Not mine! Hahaaaa

  • Hehe my comments struck a nerve in you poor unfortunate souls 😂😂 love it! Be patient. There's more! Focus on your crotchfruits. Enjoy.

  • You're projecting YOUR hatred of kids upon me. Typical. I just don't have nothing to do with them. Big difference. I can tolerate well-mannered kids, just not s***** breeders who can't parent with lil unruly brats. I think someone like you. Seems as if you've never been to Disneyland to know it's not just for kids. Sad. Oh well. Only ppl stopping you are your stupid genes brought to life unfortunately. We should go again this month!

  • Their s** drive is nonexistent (hope that o***** was worth it--bye uninterrupted lovemaking!!!), they haven't showered, they haven't slept, they negotiate with their brats, they hate their spouse or significant person they made a brat with, they were somehow tricked and now stuck, they regret their decision but can't cry for help, I'd be mad too if I can't do all those fun things due to kids. Envy. Go figure. Waaahhhhhh😫😩 I'm gonna tell my boyfriend we must go to Disney world. Just the 2 of us!

  • You hear that? Silence. Truth does hurt and shuts a fool up.

  • What is with ppl lacking communication and sharing interests? TALK. You sealed your fate eternally. Alone can be a blissful thing...something wrong with you. Need Jesus

  • Omg you made the right choice. !!! Heck yes

  • Not worth it.

  • You're so right. I rather go to Tahiti with my wife than babysit or be a parent, scratch that, a slave. So much fun things to do and nothing to regret.

  • It is crying, it is feeding, it is clothing, it is cleaning, it is pain, it is torture, it is depression and it is forever.
    It has felt good to let this out. I wish someone would have told me all of these things before I had children. I heard that it was rewarding and hard and that it was worth it and that motherhood was the greatest job a woman could ever have.
    There are many things I would do differently if I could go back. My greatest hope is that when my children get older, they will look back and have more good memories than bad ones. And I know that it will ONLY be when they are adults with brats of their own, that they will realize how much i sacrificed for them and how hard I truly worked to ensure they had everything they wanted and needed and how Momma done without everything so that they could have.

  • Oh boy...the same lie that's hitting gullible fools like you and turned you into a martyr. Whomever told you that having kids is a woman's greatest job, was a chauvinistic idiot that's going through their own H*** raising their own demons and wearing a mask to hide their inner, true, miserable self. Why would you wish that on your own kids? You're something else alright. It's like wishing a childfree person/couple to have kids but you know they'll get rid of it before their lives become like yours...that's ridiculously psychotic. YOU...a mom?

  • If you love them tell them what a thankless soul sucking job being a parent is. Why would you wish this on them?

  • Unwanted advice. This is on the top 5 of my list. You will have anybody and everybody giving you advice about how you should and should not raise your child.

    Envy. There is always that one mother or father who seems to freaking be doing so much better than you at parenthood. They have the nice house with the spotless lawn and the bright blue mailbox with a fancy Holiday bow tied around the clean sparkling pole, the nice cars, the ironed clothes. They post status updates with the countdown to their beach vacation and you prepare yourself for their 50 picture posts a day. You look at them and then you look at your family and all you can do is shake your god damned head in amazement wondering why you couldn't do that, wishing you could be more like that. It's not happening though, ever. Those people may even be the reason you wanted a family to start with. It looks great! It sounds fun! It is not.

  • Just because THEY'RE lives SEEMS like Heaven, doesn't mean yours will...false facade. I've heard such awful stories. Some grown kids complaining how selfish their parents are...hmmm. Reddit! 19 kids and counting...now THAT'S H***. The mother is a moo. A CF term

  • From my experience those people actually have the most f***** up families. Behind the perfect facade it's pretty much h*** for each one of them in one way or another.

  • Yeah look at 19 kids and counting. They have no lives... they're not happy. Just plastered smiles. Oh well. Disgusting

  • Then it starts school and demands even more money. It tells anyone who will listen all of your business.

    "Momma sleeps with no clothes on." ONE freaking time I sleep without clothes since the little heifer was bored and she tells everyone she meets. You have no personal life whatsoever anymore.
    "My Momma said she doesn't like you."
    "My Momma has hair on her v*****."
    "My Momma says she doesn't want to be here and she hates you."
    "My Momma sweeps everything up under the stove."
    "My Momma doesn't clip her toenails, she gets them off with her fingers."

    You lose your body. You lose your money, You lose your home. You lose your freedom. You lose your car. You lose your parents and family because now it's all about the freaking baby. Nobody calls to see how you are anymore, they call to see how the freaking baby is.

  • That's one of the reasons why us childfree don't want that. Moochers. Kids will leech until youre in your deathbed (The Will). YOU brought them to this world. So do your job with a fake smile on your face. But we ALREADY see and know of the Bullshit that goes with having kids. It's not worth it at all. We aren't missing nothing!

    You just can't hold water around your nosey kid. I remember back in the day when parents parent very well, including disciplining and when there are other adults around conversing, and kids are present, my mom would tell me "adults are talking" and that'd be our cue to leave and play elsewhere. I can't stand nosey kids. They're too vacuous to know adult conversations so what's their purpose to be around and listen. Send it outside to exercise and play. Problem solved. Speak softly if you can. Idk how you're making it so difficult for yourself. Just utter negligence.

    You don't have to be a parent to know how to raise kids. Foolish

  • Some of us don't really care for the baby. We miss our traitorous friend who decided to become a slave. It's just obligated to ask how the baby is and then they start ranting and venting and bawling how they miss their old lives. Oh well. I can't help. You sealed your ccrappy fate. Why give up a fun of limitless choices and festive life for a boring kid? Soon I forget abt that friend and find more and better ones.

  • My friend literally texted me to see how I'm doing and it's been YEARS. She has 2 kids, a philandering husband and oblivious of why her life is in turmoil. I texted her those many years ago, but no reply, hmmmm. So I ignored her, seems like she wants something off her chest and complain. I moved on, and I'm no therapist. I refuse to babysit. Can't believe I was friends with an immature, selfish putz.

  • Wow. You actually referred your own flesh and blood as "it" haha amazing...you deserve to be on here. Thanks for the heads up I already know! Your social life must be dead if you're telling your "little heifer" that.

  • Why do you say that type of stuff around her???? I can agree with everyone else's plight but honestly all of your issues are your own fault. Stope saying you "don't like" certain people while she's around...it's not that hard.

  • The little brats elbows and fingers. They will hit you, head but you, bite you, kick the crap out if you, pinch you, pull your hair and cause you great physical pain. You will spend the first few months loving your newborn baby. Their sweet little coo's and tiny cry is warm biscuits and God damned gravy until you realize that it's getting louder and louder and it's happening more and more often and the little f***** starts doing it all throughout the night every single f****** night. Then, it starts f****** crawling and crying at the same time. It starts crawling to you and crying and making it loud and clear that it is now becoming even more demanding. A year later, you've changed 15 thousand s*** filled diapers and you decide that either the little b****** will start crapping in the toilet, or whatever, just that you're not wasting another freaking dime on a 30 dollar box if diapers that it's starting to fill up with bigger dumps that are now leaking out the sides of the diapers, running down its legs and onto the carpet and you spend hours on your knees cleaning up s*** and p*** stains out of the carpet. There's a bottle that's been left out and stuck between the couch cushions with clabbered milk in it for weeks now and you wonder what that foul smell is that's been lingering all this time. You can't decide if it's the babies s***** diaper, the s*** stains, or if it's your own bodily fluids from where you haven't been allowed to shower for days on end because Junior won't stop crawling and crying and demanding your undivided constant attention.

  • You allowed that to happen. Continue being a slave. You have unruly bastards. YOU need to fix it. Take responsibility for once. I'm not surprised parents like you reek. Baths don't hurt btw. Or give him up and live the life you wished it would be...but you'd be deemed as a lousy, deadbeat, selfish mom. You'll still be a mom. Just spitallin the obvious and stuff.

  • If you are even a little bit broke, don't have kids. They constantly need new crap that you will also eventually need to buy for yourself, but you will not be able to. You'll wear shoes with holes in the soles and you'll do without so that the kid can have. Sleep will never be the same. Your s** life will be over. You not only will give up your body for 9 months, but you'll share your body with an unintelligent shameless tiny human who is incapable of knowing any boundaries. You will have never ending bruises forming on your flesh in places you should never get them from

  • Fools won't listen. They'll keep reproducing like rabbits. But broke rabbits that should get licensed to breed. Haha stupids!

  • I refuse to share my body with an annoyingly, bothersome, probably ungrateful lil parasite that'll develop some random problem that I'll probably hate, order me around, determine when I sleep and for how long, give up s**, give up freedom, and anything I enjoy/cherish/love, for a kid. It's just not worth it and I'm only 25. Puppies are far better, c'mon, they STAY adorable and they're easier and cleaner.

  • Well you repugnantly had s** DURING pregnancy. So karma, no sympathy here, they are not miracles, its just like defecating. Pregnant women gross me out. It's a phobia. Get over it. Doctors should sterilize broke idiots who "want a baby" before there's another Octomom accident rather telling them to wait at a certain age or marital status, suggesting or declining an intellectual who chose not to have kids and refuse to sterilize them. Messed up society. Ew. High population=another plague=high mortality rates.

  • Im a mom of 2 and feel the same way. Dont feel bad.

  • More like dont feel bad 'coz you can't go back!

  • Dude. Thank you for putting into word what i cant.

  • I love my children. I have 2 children of my own, 1 foster, and 1 I have raised since he was 2.

    I hate being a parent. Maybe if it was just 2 of my own I would feel differently about the way things have gone. That just isnt reality.

    I met my wife about 2 years after going through potential suitors. Yes, men can be picky just like women. I had alot going for me back in the late 90's. Ambition, direction, and the ability to overcome obstacles due to financial responsibility.

    I had gone through women due to personality incompatibility. Whether it being wants, religion, or even chemistry with one another. It wasnt much for me to date 1 week and just totally cut the relationship off after a couple of dates.

    Why waste your time?

    Well, this one, we had great chemistry and it just seemed she needed a little support to become successful. It came out later, about 2 weeks, that she indeed had a child. Less than 2 years old I gave it a chance. In fact, I was a stepchild and maybe this could right some of the wrongs, I felt happened to me growing up.

    I had a terrible stepfather who, honestly, hated my exsistence. Literally. i even broke it off, with my future wife, but found her on the doorstep with this beautiful boy the next morning. She apologized sincerely. I just could not let my gut tell me NO!!!

    I worked 2 jobs for 4 years supporting us as a family, helping put her through school and living in a elite school district for her child. She then worked part time as a bartender and finished up her Masters degree in Psychology.

  • The 2 youngest are absolutely fine with me. Never have problems with them listening or lacking in direction when I'm around. Totally different when she is home and she cants stand 2 hours of it before "bailing".

    Hey, I want my "me" time too.

    I would not change the timeline, due to my 2 boys now. Lord in Heaven, I wish it just never would have happened this way. Why could I not just fuggin said, "Too bad", the morning when she came back on my doorstep.

    Thank you for this ability to vent.

    I dread 15 more years from now, when we divorce, and I lost 30 years I could have had children with and could have been happy at the same time.

  • So, being in her field and having this huge bleeding heart, she brought home a child in his teenage years that is an outstanding kid, but was in a bad home. Initially, it was temporary, 2 weeks at most. He has now been with us 3 years.

    2 years ago we had an "oopsie" which is odd. She wanted a girl, and I was considering having 1 more but not quite ready.I had sperm issues and it took 2 years to have my own "first" child. The last? Well h***, pregnant after the first week she apparently traded 1 birth control to another.

    So now, I work shift work in which I am able to knock out 50 hours a week, in 2 days. I have had the youngest since birth till he was 1 year and 2 months old on my off days. Pretty much all the time. While working 50 hours a week, I became Daddy Daycare.

    So now I have 4 children, 2 of whom, are not my seed. The child I fell in love with totally disrespects me because "Mother" gives him a different answer to a "want" when I feel he does not deserve. I work 50 hours a week, while making less than my wife by double, who works almost 40 hours a week. I have the kids on my off days, from noon till 7pm and she complains she needs help. Its absolutely terrible. I feel she "drops and runs" with the, now 2 year old, every moment she gets. If he whines any bit, she simply cannot handle it. She will find shopping to do on a moments notice if the youngest naps.

  • Leave. Save your sanity.

  • As she worked towards owning her own business, we decided to have another child. During this period, the EX came back into the life of her first son. Total and unfortunate fore sight on my part. That has been the degredation of this relationship ever since.

    Regardless, we had another child and there is no way I'm having him grow up, like I did as a child. Things got worse as the first child grew older. He learned through his father, I have no right to raise him or punish him. In mom's eyes, that is her first born. In an argument, I would be fighting 2 people, not 2 supporting parents disciplining 1 child.

    We never saw eye to eye on discipline. Me being raised military, and she being raised in poverty where simple things like "boyfriends not sleeping over" was not frowned upon in her household. The 2 differences in growing up, do not see eye to eye. I did not realize this until it was 10 years into the relationship and now she has her own financial stability, making decisions off of her liberal schooling.

  • I HATE KIDS!! I absolutely hate the little self centered selfish brats! WANT WANT WANT ....me me me is all they ever say! Destroy your car, house, sometimes clothes and turn you old real quick...they suck out your life force!! Leave you miserable, tired and A LOT closer to death!! I love my boyfriend but just him...but I f****** hate his kids! I wish they a lot with his ex their mom would fall off a cliff!! I pray for a freak accident everyday!! I would cry my fake cry like I was sad when inside I would be dancing for joy and the happiest I have been in a year!! I mean i have him convinced I actually like them and want them around, so a fake cry would be easy! Now I would never risk jail time but please I pray for a hail storm or freak lighting or the car stalling on the train tracks SOMETHING freak accident to happen!! Their mom is a druggy who pops pills I mean maybe a car wreck because she popped to may pills...please god help me out here!! I pray everyday for this...or for their mom to move to another state or even country and take them!! I will pay the child support just to have them out of the picture! His youngest annoys the p*** out of me...he never stops talking and he is adhd or something because he never sits the f*** down either. I do love their father but not enough to put up with them! I am financially stuck or I would have moved already! I did not sign up for the kids nor do I want them! The boy friend is now talking he wants them full time...OH F****** H*** NO!! That is going to be a deal breaker and we will be finished and over if that happens!! I cannot find anyone in my age group that has grown kids or no kids! THEY ALL HAVE young kids!! WTF!! Keep your d**** in your pants and use condoms men!! Some women do not to deal with kids.

  • Why date a man WITH kids?! Thats settling for less or being desperate. Idk God's plans but ugh you could probably do a lot better. They're just in the way. Damage goods! Claim "I never loved her..." my friend's coworker, who dated a man with an autistic kid said she would purposely ask and bug her dad for her needs that she's capable of doing on her own. She swears never again. The kid got in between their intimate moments. That'd drive me away too.

    Single parents can be deal breakers. Unless their ex is dead, maybe...but I'm too better for that HAM and baby mama drama. The stories!!!! Ew. I see it as, he'll want another kid from you, a kid you don't want, end up autistic as well, therefore I see it as a genetic defect. Me no like. I'm like a lion. Look what a coalition of lions or a lone lion will do, when their targeted pride ALREADY has cubs...I won't kill but the concept makes sense unfortunately. Kids are in the way. Why bother???!

  • Real women who knew they didn't want nor like children would be smart enough to abort or be on the pill rather being stuck like in your unfortunate situation and men would be smart enough to wrap it up. No wonder God feels sorry for parents these days...myself and others see why

  • Looks like that kid needs a good ass whipping. Problem solve for adhd brats or monsters. I love seeing good parents PARENT and discipline their offspring. Ahhhhh you don't have to be a parent or a genius to know how to "raise" a kid. Brat makes a scene in public and embarrasses you, put it back in its place quick. It's NOT abuse. The govt can't over jurisdicted your parenting. Wake up.

  • Leave him!!!

  • I'm not going to judge you. You can not live your life being this unhappy. They're not you'rs, you have no responsibility to them. RUN while you can!!

  • Thank you to everyone who posted on here. I read each and every single comment.

    I find myself on here because I just ended a 2 year relationship because she wants kids. We are both 33. I went from
    "maybe, but probably not" to "ok I will have kids if that makes you happy." I find myself wondering if that was the right decision. I had convinced myself I could still pursue my two careers. One during the day and one at night. I have a regular corporate job and a gig as a musician that has started to finally make me some money. I told myself I could record my music at home while the kids played around me... I am guessing that was not realistic from the stories I am reading here.

    What a lot of parents here don't see is a life of not wanting kids can be lonely. I still think the dating pool that does not want kids isn't as big.

    I guess I am still confused. What I do know is I have never really been around kids. My dad, boss, friends, coworkers all ask when will I have my baby. I know at least one friend has been pressuring me because he feels that he went into this alone. I always felt he wants me to go through this too so I can join his club of suffering.

    I think I'll be okay. I've always loathed being alone but I realize that holding on to someone and having kids just not to be alone would cause more issues. I may need some help with feelings of loneliness, anxiety and depression because I have been on a thin line between settling down with someone and having a family to avoid loneliness, and between being true to myself and sticking to not wanting to have kids.

    Any suggestions or advice from those of you who are more experienced is greatly appreciated.

  • Well idk if you Read my other comments on here but I only had an still have 1kid I am a singer an now a DJ wen my kid was 4, 5 I would sing do demos all the time in the same recording studio an except 4 2times kid played wit toys quitely but again I only hav1kid so no biggie 4me now kid is a teen annoyed with my DJ equipment an just leave the recording studio 4another room so I guess hav1kid if u have other rooms or don't have any I don't recommend having mo then 1 tho especially if you do music

  • Oh no dear God no you made the right choice. I am 30 and got pregnant with someone I was dating for 2 years and now I'm single parent thankfully the father takes her to but seriously it is the biggest mistake I've ever made in my life. I was so used to being free and independent and never wanted a child and I thought to that it wouldn't be quite this bad or that I would still be able to do this hobby or that with the child around but that's f****** impossible for like the first eight years at least

  • No - staying w someone to keep from being lonely is bad enough (that's what I did) but once we had a kid (15months old) it drained our souls and hearts and because we stayed together out of fear of being alone, we can't parent together on the same wave length because we're not the right ppl for one another. Having a kid killed any bright aspect of our relationship that was left and I can't stand being a parent. My soul is sucked dry I'm constantly sick from being run down from no sleep working full time and taking care of everything while listening to a baby whine and throw tantrums - I whisper to myself at least once a day "God I wish I didn't have a kid" - have a kid if u meet ur soul mate and both agree on parenting style - also don't have a kid if ur not doing good financially -

  • If you feel you dont want kids, you made the right choice. My man and i had tge most passionate, fun relationship. Now after an oops resulting in a son, we fight all the time, are both very exhausted and havent had s** in months. I hate my life now. He hates his life now, and neither of us are the partner we want to be. I refuse to ever have another child. Its good you recognized your wishes before getting stuck.

  • Gosh it feels so good having uninterrupted lovemaking, spending time together, playing and flirting still, and already knowing our lives are perfect and complete without kids to ruin all of it.

  • Make sure you dont have another. Get him to get a vasectomy, and count down to Kindergarten. That's what I do!

  • It's a confusing situation. I'm not a father and I often have feelings that I would like children and then at other times I'm ok with the fact that I don't. My wife and I have both been on the fence over the issue but when EVERYONE around you has them and when you see parents playing with their children in the park it's easy to feel that you are missing out on something. I often think about my life choices when I'm working on my laptop in a cafe and the families come in (admittedly the parents always look harassed) and they are there with their children. However difficult it may/may not be being a parent being on the other side of the fence is also difficult. I watch them knowing that I may never have what is that I "imagine" they have with their children. I just wish we could live twice.

    What you need to remember is when you go around on forums you will always find what you are looking for. If you want to find negative posts on parenting then you can find them and if you want to find positive posts you can find them also and it's easy to tune in to whatever channel supports how you feel at that moment in time. That's why the internet isn't really making people smarter or more knowledgable just more confused and introspective. But forums can't help you make decisions, they can be a good diversion, but I think the more you read the greater the confusion. At least that's the way it is for me.

    I think whichever route you take you will get the good and bad and it's human nature to think about what the other option might have been like and to colour it as being better than your current reality. Man, I do that all the time with this issue. When it looked like my wife might have been pregnant I freaked out and all I saw were the negative comments on forums. When it turned out she wasn't pregnant all of a sudden I was a little sad and then I only saw the good and positive parent comments on forums.

  • I hate being a parent so much. We never wanted children but are in our late 30s and had a vague notion we might regret not having them later. So we tried and it happened straight away. We've gone from going out all the time doing cool things, spontaneous trips and relaxing holidays, lie-ins, chilling out at weekends to being a slave to a toddler and up to neck in household chores, responsibility, exhausted and no social life at all. Would do anything to have my old life back, we have both had breakdowns and been prescribed anti-depressants and I miss our old life and relationship as it was so much.

  • Uh, you can still have a social life, still go on holidays etc. Just learn to manage your time. Quit f****** complaining and playing the victim. You have one kid to look after. BOO HOO

  • Those struggles are real LOL

  • I honestly can't fathom how you people cannot see this coming. Childfree KNOW. We know about anti-depressants that are used to cope with your mistakes/dead ends.

  • Regret having them or regret NOT having them?

  • I was there. Luckily they get older fast and u get your life back. Mine is 14 now and i can date again.

  • Your dating life will be ruined by your own kid...

  • Explain why an how

  • Please explain

  • How so

  • Why so curious? Just so you can try to avoid those issues? I'd say to the ppl dating single parents, RUUUUUNNNNNNN!!!!!!!

  • Really? That oblivious huh? C*** or t*** blocker. Hogging you. Some women or men, idk what your gender is, I've heard countless stories, some work out, majority doesn't. Some ppl don't like the person they like with kids, less attention on them, unless they have patience or a child themselves. Hopefully your kid is willing to share you and encourages you to date again and not be in his/her feelings. Many of the ppl I met and still have friendships with refuse to date ppl with kids. They're in the way. But it depends. Good luck.

  • We we were on the fence too and in our late thirties now. Some days I find myself wondering what the h*** I've done. It's awful bc he really is a great kid. I just find parenting so boring!! We are definitely only having one! And then I feel bad that I brought him into this world and I'm not willing to bring another one in so he can have a sibling because I can't stand parenting! Ugg!

  • I get it. I wish I were not a parent as well. Gad my daughter @ 41 because I thought 1) my husband will hate me if we dont have a family 2) I may regret it later and especially when I am old....how's that for selfish?

    I find myself making excuses of why mommy can't play. Sometimes her voice sends me into irritability. She does not understand and will tell me "Mommy you never play with me and it makes me sad."

    So freakishly what I have found out is when I make sure I do the things I love, music, I am a singer and will be putting together my 1st band @ 48! I do my kundalini yoga and work a job that I love (self employed ) and keep in touch with a few select friends I am happier and don't feel trapped by my kid.

    I can't be gone all the time but I make sure I do something I love 3 times a week even if it is only 30mins and EVERYONE KNOWS if mommy is focused on music or in a lesson or working from home you don't dusturb her and sometimes you can't come into the same room. However, I will make it a point to let my spouse and my daughter know when I need this alone time. And let my daughter know I am not mad at her.

    I will watch my daughter when my husband needs the same thing and will often tell him to go. And my husband and I are going to a mediator to structure a divorce and are butt ass broke.

    If you let a kid run your entire life of course you will resent it. Think about somethings you want in the future start doing it and get excited about that. Ultimately it is your life and you do not have to sacrafice everything. If you resent your kid they will know it and kids dont believe about themselves what is true, they believe what you believe about them.

    Plus you, h*** me as well am s******* myself for what kind of teen I will have created. The real truth is my daughter got here because of my f***** up fears I mentioned in the 1st paragraph. That some how in my great pre parent wisdom I decided the yet to be born was capable of taking care of me.

  • L admire your approach to parenting
    l need to do this

  • I feel u. If i could turn back time...i will not have kids or even get married

  • Blahblahblah blahblahblah etc

  • I'm not a father yet but I always hear about the wonderful ways it changes your life. I have the following questions for any parents who are 30 or older with children above the age of six.

    1. Do children bring meaning to your life? Has it made everything "make sense". Does it make an unfulfilling career suddenly feel like it has a point?

    2. Is playing with your children a joy and so much more pleasurable that playing with other children or not really much different?

    3. If parenting genuinely isn't awesome then why is it that parents go on to have even more children? Surely, if it was so bad everyone would stop at one!

    4. Why do parents say it is so awesome and fabulous if it is not? I can't believe it's because they want non-parents to fall into some trap. Surely, it's only a tiny percentage of parents who wish they'd never become parents. Like 2%?

    5. Isn't it fantastic to take your kids on outdoor adventures or to immerse your self in their excitement for Christmas etc?

    6. Do the moments of sheer joy outweighs the challenges? Everything in life has joys and difficulties surely this is no different?

    7. Does having children give you more confidence in other things? Have you grown as person?

    8. Does having children the away your own fear of death and of the future? I know that sounds heavy but I hear that the only thing that matters in a paren't life is a kid and all of a sudden every other little neurosis simply disappears?

    9. For those parents who say they don't enjoy parenting were you genuinely happy before having kids?

    10. Imagine your life without your children. Wouldn't it be empty? Don't you think that if you were childless you'd simply be regretting the fact you have no kids and wondering what life is all about? In what way do you imagine your life would be improved by not having children?

    Cheers

  • To all those questions...NOPE!

  • It's hard to answer these questions when your in the trenches.
    - I love my two girls aged 12 and 2 more than anything but being a mom sucks. My life doesn't have more meaning than it did before- and everything makes less sense- and kids will not make an unfulfilling job more tolerable, just more necessary for supporting the family.
    - playing with my kids when I'm not exhausted is more fun than other people's kids- it's personal in that you watch them make connections and become a unique person that you made
    -I don't know why people have more kids- we didn't plan to but our two year old was a birth control anomaly-
    - we say it's wonderful because at times it is, but when talking to people who don't have kids, we say it to them because we want to believe it and I'm willing to bet it is a greater percentage than 2- more like half I'd say.
    - actual adventures with kids are fun sometimes but require lots of planning and you have to accept that your kids may not cooperate. Christmas is okay but expensive, and there is a great deal of pressure. Seeing their happy faces makes you feel good for a bit, but you still have to pay the bills after-
    - the moments of joy are usually small although very intense, but they do not outweigh the challenges at all. Accept that challenges and struggles and stress are part of the whole reproductive package. Kids are not an investment that comes with a guaranteed return. And it's more complex than the ups and downs of life in general because of the size of your emotional investment
    - I am more confident as a parent the second time around, but not in other areas of my life- it's hard to have confidence in other areas because your number one focus is on being a parent so you end up going outside your home wearing sweats with unwashed hair looking sleep deprived. Not a confidence builder.
    - yes I was genuinely happy before and hoped children would just increase that happiness more. It didn't.

  • Thank you very much for that articulate, thoughtful and honest response to my questions. It's a very difficult decision to make and one that I can imagine will come with regrets which ever route we take: E.g. 'what did I miss out on by not having kids?' There is a downside either way I think.

    I've even had friends tell me that they have a much richer social life as a result of having children (although I haven't seen evidence of this) and that there are so many opportunities to meet new people etc that I am missing out on.

    I have also had people look at me in genuine shock and horror when I tell them I don't yet have children. There is a definite stigma to our situation, but I appreciate that's no reason to have children.

    Thanks again for you reply

  • I'm 32 with three kids and I can literally feel my health disintegrating from the stress of trying to manage a successful career and balance a family.

    I love my family, but being a good father doesn't come easy at all. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Sometimes I have to put my littlest one in his crib and walk away because I can't trust myself to make smart decisions when he gets worked up and melts down. All I want to do is be a good father but sometimes I literally feel like I'm not capable of being one.

    All your friends that tell you how easy life is after having a kid are full of s***. One thing I've learned about parents, everyone is an expert and everyone's perfect. Behind closed doors marriages are on the rocks, people are screaming at their kids and lots of parents aren't happy. Society lies to you and gives you this perfect image of what having kids will be like, and sometimes, on those great days, it is sunshine and rainbows, but most of the time it's trench warfare you spend your whole day desperately trying to maintain enough emotional composure that you don't s**** up your kids for life.

    Doing even the simplest activities become impossible. Need to drive to the corner store for milk? Hopefully you have 20min to dedicate solely to entering and exiting your vehicle.

    Yet despite all this somehow I'd burn alive for them and I would be desperately sad if I lost them. It's witchcraft. Why do I love such misery?

  • I feel a lot of regret as well. I read a lot of these comments and it got me thinking... about being stuck in the pity pit. Something maybe about 500+ "poor me" rants have an effect, read one after the other. I feel a little sillier with my own "poor me" crap... and maybe that I've been resentful because I'm a childish person trying to raise a child.

    I think an inner monologue of hatred and dispair only produces more of it. Meanwhile, your parenting is s***** because you are depressed, in turn having shittier kids, in turn feeling even more depressed. Sure if I'd turn back time I wouldn't do it again, as I obviously suck at it, but hells what is done is done. I'll be damned if I spend the next couple decades feeling sorry for myself.

    Thanks for starting this enormous thread, it's pretty enlightening. Time to get my head out of my ass.... it ain't an easy one but it can't be impossible.

  • This is my life. So happy to know I'm not alone in my dislike of being a parent. I honestly feel like I haven't had fun since the kids were born. I am sick of people saying how great parenthood is.

  • Those are the ones truly miserable and in denial and fake a smile and are bored with their lives and put it through their kids... they're lying. Although a few are truly happy.

  • Listen, there is no one where written in soceity that says you have to stick around and be a parent. F*** parent-hood, it sucks. LEAVE, it's your life do what you want, you're not obligated to other human beings, if you're not happy, how can you possibly make others happy? Just walk out and start over.

  • Because those people who MADE their mistakes, realize it, and feel sorry for their Lil helpless, innocent, DNA copies of THEIRS. They all can't just start over no matter how much they cry and bargain, you'll be labeled and known as a deadbeat, breeder, etc. So they are obligated for the human beings THEY created, bad moral judgment on their end if they do a crappy job of parenting. They fool feeble-minded couples of their fake happiness by lying. Just walking out, is really no solution majority of the time, so many kids will wonder why and blame themselves, causing other mental issues, etc. Their faults.

  • Statistically**

  • As a woman who absolutely hates children (no offense to anyone). It p***** me off that women seem to manipulate and persuade their partner to have a child. Children suck, they're basically smaller, helpless, dumb and annoying versions of human-beings. They aren't capable of doing anything on their own, and are unappreciative of everything.... I hate that women- I'm saying this because statically its mostly women- put their dumb children up on a pedestal as if their kids is the best damn thing that's ever walked this Earth. I hate the stupid baby-wearing, and the special children diets, and the activities that parents pretend to be interested in, but rather being doing something else. I hate the sacrifice and the selfishness that comes with dealing with children. The bothersome presence of them, and the screaming, whining, and b******* from never being satisfied. I hate seeing the looks on parents (mostly fathers) faces who are done and tired, waiting for the moment they grow up and leave. It's so hard for me to be near a child who is annoying and not say something or glare at them in a mean way.

    I am so happy I wasn't born with that stupid "itch" to have children. I like my life too much to ever want to have a child, destroying the image of my body so this little ball of whining unappreciative human-being can ruin my life and take away everything I ever want to do. I commend any parent who can openly admit their dismay for their role as a parent. I would rather have a dog or a cat over a baby any f****** day.

  • Children are a complete bore. I don't feel sorry for those women or men who manipulate. People impetuously have unprotected s** are just lazy to use protection or contraception, it's not rocket science. Look at DJ Pauly D. Used tool. BGC Camille Poindexter being an alleged side chick to a married man. Like Wendy Williams said abt Evelyn's kid referring it as a "paycheck" LOL its true! Kids these days are products of loveless hookups that fool idiots that it's love HA! Dogs are better 1000% babies look like potatoes. Enough said.

  • Just think of some people who have a loser child who is 37 and still living at home working at mcdonalds.

  • Hey parrot!

  • Couldn't agree more. It's so hard not to be openly hostile or rude to entitled parents who share their misery by bring their loud out of control kids to expensive restaurants to make everyone else suffer, or to let them cry, scream, and run around in the grocery store. I no longer move out of the way for a kid charging my direction full speed. I have had them run into my basket and falldown crying, I look at the parent as I'm navigating around their now screaming kid and say you should keep them under control. Not my problem. Maybe the selfish little twit will learn from that experience not to run at people since their parents won't teach them.

  • There kids stupid weren't you one I would have beat the living crap out of u if you would have pulled that ignorant stunt on my child

  • Its "They're" stupid. For a stupid mistake YOUR child caused because YOU weren't watching it? Oh wait, you're an entitled parent--miserable. We're all not enraptured by your Lil DNA copy. Lemme guess, you allow your kid to run amok in nice restaurants while waiters and waitresses try to avoid them and still do their jobs feigning a smile. I heard their complaints. I would LOVE see you beat the crap outta me, I bet you're unfit and fat, so I'll win 😋 make you exercise harder.

  • Dude!!! Yes!!! Same here!!! I had to scream at a child approaching my protective dog who would've attacked her. Obviously I would've won and show no remorse if my dog did attack her kid and a lawsuit occurred because her lil b****** came towards MY kid (my dog) doing his job protecting me on our daily walks! The irresponsible mom finally arrived after just calling her stupid kid, and apologized to me. Hopefully I taught her a lesson "KEEP YOUR EYES ON YOUR CROTCHFRUIT!!". I gave her a death stare but all is forgiven. Kids need leashes!!! There are childfree restaurants (bastards running around in hopes of a lawsuit I bet), soon theatres, etc. they're not wanted but a nuisance; a migraine, if you will. There are worse people out there crazy enough to strike a child, or idk why? kidnap. I always blame the parents... kids fault too for wandering away from its herd.

  • I feel the same as well! I have two young boys with absolutely no help from there mother. I just want my old life back! I used to enjoy life now it's all just work and kids work and kids. I can't remember the last time I was truly happy....

  • I feel the same way except I'm the mom in my case.

  • I just love you. Thank you for putting into words exactly how I feel.

  • Sad, I know. I feel like I am in prison awaiting death before waisting the rest of my potential and life doing non f****** stop never ending chores. I once had a life and s*** going for me n my art. I traveled and afforded my travels by selling my art. I feel my life has been stolen I'm out of options. My son's father had no respect for me or my dreams and decided he wanted a baby and threatened me ta the point where I was afraid to get abortion. I told him repeatedly that I didn't want ta have unprotected s** and get pregnant but he was abusive and ruined my life and body he beat me and almost murdered me while pregnant and look where I'm at now? All cause I finally decided ta try a relationship at 28 years of age. What a mistake. I'ts like he ran me over with a mac truck oh well won't trust another again. All I can do is chores chores chores while all my peers live their live's, I wait for death cause at least I won't have ta be constantly reminded of how my life was ripped up dreams down in flames potential wasted all because this pig for a human being entered my life shame on me I will never trust another grown human again in a relationship I'm so disgusted. And at least I won't have ta wake up everyday cause waking up to face another day of never ending chores is far less pleasant than not waking up at all. Sorry, I'm tired and just want this nightmare ta end-

  • Surrender your kid either to the father or the state. Reclaim your life. You don't deserve this.

  • Oh dear I can sooo relate. I am so so sorry love. Its insanely hard. I got pregnant by guy I was dating after repeatedly telling him I did not want a kid now our daughter is 1 and we are split up. I too wasn't artist and used to travel and have so much Independence and freedom now I have very little free time except working a job that I really do not like because I have to because he won't even pay me child support. It seems very dismal and never-ending at this point but I just keep trying to push on and somehow escape this misery that my life has evolved to. I hope you know that you're not alone in this struggle

  • My boys don't really appreciate anything I've done for them, which is a lot. I typically don't even get a "happy Mother's Day" or even a "Happy Birthday". It's really sad. They are so selfish and manipulative. You pay for everything, but they don't want your input or your rules. They claim to be "adults" but they will never be able to pay for their own car insurance or health insurance (these two bills combined in NJ will run about $10,000- $15,000/year). The way our economy is, we'll be lucky if they can leave at the age of 35. And I hate this generation's so-called "music". My kids blast it everytime they take a shower. It's full of foul language. it's horrible, repetitive, crap. It gives me a migraine and it plays loudly in every store at the mall too. I can't even shop in peace.

  • What you done for them? They weren't asked to be born you sniveling quim. Did you want them so you can be titled a mom and earn gifts on Mothers Day and get repaid back? Who's selfish here?

    Don't feel bad, if kids these days were given a preview of their future lives, then asked to be born to YOU dismal parents on here and in real life, I believe ALL of them would say pass. Imagine "why would my mommy and daddy hate me for what they did?" They would abort themselves and make all of you infertile HAHAAAAAAA good! If life was like that, population would never reach 7 billion. I feel sorry for your kids. So tragic.

  • Children are worth it huh? Do you think they'll care for you in your elderly age? Not rewarding is it?

  • Anyone with a partner like this should know their kids are in danger and should take it seriously.

  • If you can afford to travel you know this is mostly an American issue. In other developed nations parents get more help, paid paternity & maternity leave, and mental health care. When I was in Georgia and Texas I saw parents like this all the time. I don't see them so upset like this and hating their kids in Canada and the Netherlands. As for me if I had a spouse like this I would say they need mental health treatment or I would leave for the safety of my children.

  • I'm in the Netherlands, government assistance doesn't stop kids from being whiny little need-machines.

  • But if it was the mother you would be sending words of encouragement and saying to be strong right? Hypocrite

  • Exactly, f****** like this asshat above smh....

  • This is why stay at home dads are a bad idea

  • If you read through some of these posts many are moms too. Believe it or not, children are a challenge whether you have a v***** or not.

  • My cousin made a confession like this and we all pitched in and helped her out. Sometimes it's depression or feeling overwhelmed and you just need to reach out. She's doing much better now and loves her kids.

  • I love my kids but I hate the anxiety. I live in Maine where CPS is notoriously out of control. We have an apartment. I have been told/threatened that it is too small for kids and we need a house instead. I'm afraid to go out whenever any kids gets a bruise playing or is in a bad mood having tantrums because I am terrified to have someone call CPS on me and have them take my kids. It's never ending fear about this. People call for anything these days and many seem to think CPS is some kind of helpline or benevolent organization and don't realize the real harm false reports do to people. I have a friend whose parents lost her for six months as a child for smoking weed. What happened to her in foster care almost ruined her life. She is still in therapy. Being a parent means being fearful and often helpless. I wish I could afford to move to protect my kids from this threat.

  • Better start disciplining (whip, slap) them now or CPS will s***** me up or worse, it'll be your fault. They could end up in prison. The rough system will break them a lot worse than you can, possibly dispassionate, emotionless due from all the families they live with then kicked out, etc. kids should be at home while you work or watched. Thank God I won't deal with all that stress. Whew! God Bless love

  • This is why we aren't having more than 1 kid....The joys of being a parent, but not too much stress - we can take turns taking care of him, still have a social life, grandparents are willing to babysit one kid etc, still have money for trips and travel...and only go through each stage ONCE!

  • Wow. You're smart...

  • Right! I'm a 100% single mom with no help and God help me if I ever have to go through any stages more than once. One is GOOD =) hard as heck, but doable.

  • I'm glad I stumbled on this post. I totally agree, my kids have sucked the life out of me. I only hope they'll appreciate it someday but probably they won't. Ungrateful f******.

  • This is my life also. Its misery. Want my life back the way it use to be. Im living also a lie. I was against a child yet wife didnt think the same. I do hate everything that you do about parenthood. Reading this helps me just so i know im not the only parent faking a smile holding back anger hating my new life and not the only one out there feeling like this! Thank You for this post. I think there should be IRL support groups for parenthood!

  • HA! I knew it! Communicate or leave her. Too late.

  • If there was an IRL parenthood support group I would sure as s*** not go. Think about what would be said there. they would be giving all these positive tips and tricks that just help exasperate the lie that being a parent can be fun. It would just turn into yet another thing on my calendar to deal with in addition to all the frigging soccer games, bake sales, dentist appointments and other s*** I have to spend my time and money and life on that's for these little f****** called kids.

  • I can relate to the frustrations of many here who are parents of young children, especially if both parents work and there are no family members around to help. I think American policies for parents, especially working parents, are horrendous. I grew up in an affluent country in Asia where governmental policies and family friendly social values mean parents have a lot of support. The income taxes citizens pay fund all the resources and there is an abundance of low-cost and high quality childcare options. It is also normal for grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, neighbors etc to help babysit. Many of my peers there also have (affordable) live in housekeepers/nannies. Consequently, they are more relaxed and it is not unusual for them to be able to get away sans kids for movies/trips overseas. No one judges them for taking time for themselves. I suspect many parents on this forum will feel a bit happier if they have more help and time to recharge their batteries.

  • This is BS! Perhaps people should stop having so many kids or stop having kids when they can't afford them. It p***** me off to no end that parents are always getting preferential treatment all because the performed a basic biological act. I contribute to society and am not a burden but am penalized through taxes to help pay for broke parents who just keep having more.

  • Things must and will change. That's why I believe parents should be taxed more and we shouldn't help fund, not our problem they committed something similar to defecating.

  • If there was no funding or helping broke couples to breed, there won't be any kids in site 😀It'll be like Japan. One child in a classroom. They're so ahead, it's embarrassing. Kids are in school there until 5, why not here? Lil twits want their mommies t*** and video games 😷

  • Ugh- I sympathize. I write this reply after my 7 month old dumped my cold coffee all over me and the floor. Then after cleaning it up and getting the baby down for a nap; my 8 year old stands acting like a total invalid begging for food- because heaven forbid she do something for herself for once. Fine, got her breakfast sorted out.

    Pour myself a new coffee, cut up some fruit to eat- there's my 8 year old standing there staring at me begging for strawberries off my plate, then doesn't even eat them. Oh and wait- I think that's my a****** baby crying in the background, so much for my coffee....F*** I hate kids so much. You can't even have a second of peace and quiet!

  • 8 years old and can't make her own lil meals? You sure she's not autistic or some bullshit excuse? You're enabling her dude. WEAR A CONDOM!!!!! So simple! Vasectomy. Think!

  • I hate being a parent as well. my spouse decided not to take any birth control pills with out telling me and got pregnant. i feel like an dumb ass. i been tricked. I hate her so much. i love my child but being a parent sucks. I wasnt ready for this.

  • You should have worn a condom and not trust her. Really?! You men...should've punched her in the uterus. Oh well! Not your fault, but could've been avoided. If she has birth control pills, crush them in her drinks.

  • Please leave. I am so sorry for you. I'm a cf woman and think it's grievously unfair that men get trapped for at least 18 years by women like your wife. The system is so unfair. You should be able to terminate your obligation as you were tricked.

  • I know it's unexpected, but learn from this mistake. You should try to be a part of your child's life and I think one day you may be happy you have one. But If you are sure you want no more children, have a vasectomy. However, still use a condom to protect from STDs. This world is really about survival and trying to maintain your sanity. Good luck!

  • Learn what? Not to trust his wife - he probably didn't realize she would do something like this because he trusted her.

  • News flash ,we are all alone in this life,even im a billionaire with my own sperm bank having 10 thousands children all over the world,with their mums i will never get to know,the truth is that we are all alone. you know that every day,no matter how much you want to feel the desire of others on you,we all mean nothing. what had a point when you are young means nada later in life,childre will grow up one day,discover drinking and drugs and s**,look at their parents ,they do have a sense this life is f***** up,but we all take confort that when they will hit the real problems and divorces and all the pains and all the misery.wars.terorism,crimes and all the s*** in this world ,and the kid will come to you and ask you,if you knew that this life was so f***** up,why did you had me? what are you going to answer,ow yeah i had this f****** passion inst it ?

  • Best reply by far!!!

  • I relate to this on so many levels!! I hate parenthood!

  • This is how my aunt and uncle saw my sister and me. I'm certain now, and I knew it then. I started self harming at 9, wanted to run away since before then. Still struggle with suicidal thoughts as an adult because I feel worthless no matter what I do. "I love you," they said every day, and I don't doubt it. But it didn't help when I knew that my existence was such a problem for them.

    See the thing is, your kids won't be blind to your point of view for long. They'll know this is how you feel about them, they'll know that you see them as a burden. What that does to a child's self esteem is equivalent to mental abuse. I lived it and I feel sorry for your children.

    And I know that taking care of kids isn't easy, h***. I've had to take care of my sisters' children since I was 14, complete with changing diapers, having them not listen, being screamed at, kicked/hit, the works. You name it, I've lived it when it comes to kids, every single day. But the main thing I've realized is, my attitude and opinion of taking care of them is MY OWN CHOICE. They are JUST CHILDREN, they can't help being born, and they certainly aren't keeping you from your life on purpose. I'm not saying you have to enjoy every diaper change but I am saying maybe if you didn't try to view their existence as a problem, then you'd be happier than you are. No matter what your life situation is like, the grass is greener on the other side so there's no point in all this.

    Either they'll grow self esteem issues or they'll learn from your example and see other human beings as problems. I'm disgusted at the amount of negativity here and i hope, for their sakes, none of your children eventually find this thread. Because I have no doubt that most of you love your kids, but what happens when your kids themselves doubt it?

  • I understand where you're coming from, but at the same time if the kids did stumble upon this post, well maybe more children oughta learn that life is not all about having kids and that it's not always a fairytale after having kids maybe they will be more careful not to have kids themselves because nobody ever talks about how having children can be harmful to both parent and child depending on the situation. Your right about being treated as a burden, but it's also sad for the parents as well. Parents feel these feeling and it's not always a choice. I don't think most people choose to feel pain but even harder for parents when they are bottling up these feeling cause of course you don't want children ta feel like a burden. But parents are humans too, and it seems they almost lose the right ta be human and feel what they feel after having them. Gotta put on the fake smile for the kids and god forbid don't dwell on the truth that things just aren't going right in their own lives anymore. Statistics are like, outa this world for single parents achieving big dreams. Takes a real supermom. It's a challenge staying positive. Just saying.

  • You have it all wrong. Parents do love their kids that is WHY we are doing all this. We simply want a little appreciation, cooperation, and courtesy. This is not asking much. I never felt like my kids were a burden though I worked full time and finished college part time while caring for them. All I ever wanted was to hear: "Thanks mom!" "Love you mom!" or "I appreciate your help, mom". This is what my son told me today .." Don't talk to me for the rest of the week! You just make me too mad! " Why? because I want him to go to computer classes instead of cutting to go to a concert! By the way, he is now 21, has no job and I am footing the $20,000 bill for his computer school. He has already failed out of community college for skipping classes. So please, don't disrespect hard working parents.

  • Well this just goes to show that parenting is never worth it. All that hard work for nothing and more destruction? Yo-ho-yo-ho a Childfree life for me

  • I am a 26, almost 27 year old woman and I go back and forth. There are times when I feel like I would make a great mother and even smile at the thought. Those times are very rare and I know it's my body releasing chemicals which tells my brain that my "clock" is ticking and I should be pregnant by now. I was always uncomfortable around kids who are really unpredictable and the only one I was ever able to get along with is my little cousin who is extremely well behaved. I often get severe migraines and they usually happen when any of my "triggers" are set off such as, loud noises, strong fragrances, stress and my time of the month. When i am experiencing one of my migraines, rocking back and forth on my bed in extreme pain it is in that moment when I think "I wouldn't be able to do it" I wouldn't be able to care for an, infant, child or even a teenager like this. I have seen a neurologist and the pills help but caring for a kid while I'm puking every half an hour because my migraine hit it's peak.. no thanks.

  • You are correct in your thinking. Do not have kids. I also get migraines. One bit of advice- try birth control pills if you have not done so. This way you will be killing two birds with one stone. I figured out my biggest trigger is period week- my headaches are hormonal! Now my Dr. has me taking pills for 3 months before an "off" week. However, they are often triggered by the same things you mentioned- noise & perfumes. Good luck!

  • Don't have kids.

  • I think im prob the only mother who would admit out loud i hate kids.... I have a 3 year old and a 4 month old... I have no f****** life... No social life... Facebook and my phone is my way to the outside world. In laws are f****** traditional chinks... No f****** use... Straight out of china...o gosh... The things i go thru with them... I think about shooting them every single day... Or taking a soy sauce bottle and throwing them across their heads and say " beat that chinks!" children just take take take and never give back... While im feeding my 4 month old and i have the 3 year old yapping ahead im typing this. I have to spend every single day keeping both these anklebiters entertained... By the time they r 18 ill be in my 50s ..... What the h***!! Theres no more going clubbing...forget about the trance and techno music... Forget about going to bars looking at hot men.... Thats all down the f****** drain... I hate my f****** life with kids...
    I just got offered an amazing position n opportunity at my work...but only condition is i have to come back from my maternity leave right away.... I want to sooooovfucking badly but my useless husband and inlaws dont agree.... There goes my life again... I hate kids... I hate my life!

  • Must REALLY suck to be your racist ass hahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

  • Drop that s*** off, there's always adoption...

  • I don't think the problem is your kids. I think that you're just very immature.

  • And you probably don't even have kids saying something like that! I don't care who you are deep down inside and every parent has felt this at one point in time.

  • I'm literally listening to my two month old cry right now as I'm typing bc I don't wanna deal with this f****** s*** anymore. I just want to be a dead beat and live for myself but I don't have the heart for it.

  • Well...do it. Leave. Abandon. Be labeled a deadbeat breeder...

  • I am just so sad and disappointed.

  • Will never be me. when I was growing up all I did was open my eyes and watch everything...and all I could think was 'why should I join this cluster mess in this p*** pile'

  • I'm so sorry. Reading this makes me so glad I am childfree and an anti-natalist.

  • Agreed. Turning 40 this year, ZERO regrets about not having kids.

  • Agreed

  • Dolphinately agreed. So awesome! No care in the world. Freedom!

  • Lol, u r not alone! Marriage is the epitimy of dating...then kid(s). I just got a vasectomy after the first, only touching this hot stove once! Kid(s) f****** suck and are not worth the overwhelming burden! I'm considering enlisting in the military at 37yrs of age just to escape. I wish I got the procedure done also at age 18. For those that say blessing, u r f****** gluttons for torment!

  • Military won't take you if your over 29

  • Unless your worth it but still doubtful. They like young minds that can still be molded

  • Think the military will take me at 43?

  • Cant wait to go back to work tomorrow!

  • Lol same here bro!

  • I'm a father of two and i hate my f****** life, i stay up til 2-3 am every night even though i have to be up at 6am because its all my life is, s** is anoying because its on such a strict schedule its boring, there is no joy in life anymore, i love my wife and kids, but i wish i could just fast forward past the next ten years and still be 28....my wife has so much presure with social media but i know she feels worse because she had one before i knew her when she was 19.....i am unemployed because me and the wife have mental illness, i dont drive, i dont go out, i have no money for anything but my phone.....i hate being a parent, i had a s*** childhood and teenagehood, and then i has 3 years in my twenties when i felt truly alive....i had a lot of fun in those hree or four years and made them count, but in this place its impossible to have anything but regrets.....all day is nothing but yelling and arguing xchildren....my stepdaughter is nine and we just got her out of our bed two years ago, she still tries to get me to wipe her @$$ when its "mushy"......someone kill me now

  • Why the h*** did you have children with no careers and mental health issues? F*** you - passing your crappy ass genes on to an innocent person and making everyone else pay for it. Get off your ass and go get a J.O.B.

  • He was bored, that's their pathetic past time, kids. His genes will go down the drain eventually. Poor people breed, the rich live their luxurious lives and rarely wouldn't bother. Have you people seen Idiocracy?!!

  • I think we r all on the same boat. I hate waking up early and throughout the night feeding a newborn... I hate keeping my older one entertained so he doesnt kill the younger one. I hate not being able to go out and have my own time. When i take my kids to preschool and those early childhood centres... Other parents are like"awww your kids are sooo cute" im just thinking in my mind....damnnn stop faking it..my only time by myself is at night when i could finally take a s*** without having tag alongs in the bathroom...im so sick and tired of this s***. By the time they are 19 years old im already in my 50s fuckkkkkk this s***.. I hate my life..

  • That's required when you make kids...it comes with consequences. Pregnancy was a free trial...oh well

  • It was worth waiting to age 50 to finally get freedom. If I could have fast forwarded my life to age 50. It would have been worth it. Even though I would have lost out on my young years. My son was a problem child from the age of 3. Hitting me. Throwing toys. Always wanting his own way, no matter what. As he grew older he got physically and verbally abusive. Had him in therapy for years. Nothing helped. Kicked him out when he was in his 20's. Good riddance. He moved in with a relative who feels sorry for him. He has a college education but never worked a day in his life. Good riddance to him.

  • Obviously you didn't do a good job disciplining him. Whipping, slapping, you just suck. No wonder your lil b****** turned out like a demon spawn. It's your fault. You probably negotiated with him when he was young. You parents make me sick. Blame yourself.

  • I understand

  • My only free time is when I pretend to have to take a s*** and hide in the bathroom playing games on my ipad. I hate being a mother and a wife. I think about driving far away, changing my name and starting all over again at least 3 times day.

  • So that IS true!! You're totally screwed. Should've aborted when you had the chance. I don't sympathize for you people who CHOSE to make your lives miserable and thinking this without a thought. No wonder the childfree are smart and HAPPY

  • Yes!

  • I'm pregnant and having constant mental breakdowns because I feel the same way, I know I made a mistake. The father and his mom are willing to take the baby. I could really do the thing you're thinking of, and with the baby young enough to not remember me. I'm really considering doing it, should I?

  • Watch Sarah Silverman on the Sarah Silverman program did when she had a baby, crawled out the window and left. Leave and dump the kid with the dad and his mom. That's on you though...probably had the kid by now. 😬 That's another one on the Good Ship Misery.

  • You mean abortion? It's not a bad word. If you haven't done it now, well... kiss EVERYTHING goodbye. There's this thing called "instincts" or "gut feeling" it'll be wise to listen. Don't let us dictate you.

  • I got a friend of mine pregnant. Neither of us want this child but she's had two abortions before and she said that she can't psychology handle a third (which I understand). So honestly both of us are hoping for a miscarriage or something. She's putting on a good front for her mom who's excited but she's a roller coaster right now. I want out of this bad because honestly I didn't want children for myself and me and her shouldn't be parents together. We're too different and we want be a team in raising/teaching the child. But if she carries this child I have to be there for it. I can't be a deadbeat. It saddens me that I want be the dad this kid deserves. I won't be able to be what my dad was to me. Another sad fact is I'm still very much in love with my ex-girlfriend and she will never take me back after this...hoping nature bails us out

  • You are just utterly stupid. Seems like you're probably raising your oops kid now. Oh all H*** breaks loose upon your lives.

  • Push her down the stairs. Stress her out. Your friend was stupid twice for having unprotected s** and now third times a charm. God's punishment buddy. Deal with it. Why would one be psychologically messed up from previous terminated pregnancies if you didn't know the damn thing? It's relief to many with no regrets.

  • Yes! Go now. You will always regret it if you stay and feel resentful. Take it from me - I stayed when I should have left. I feel trapped in a prison of wondering how it might have been. I cannot wait until my son is 18. He is almost 9 now and I am counting down when I am free. I put on a good act and no one knows, but I miss my life so much.

  • Yes. Absolutely!! Start running and never look back.

  • I also feel the same way I have three kids and I feel so overwhelmed with all the responsibly, I have no relationship with my wife it all revolves around kids

  • Why did you have 3 if you hated it so much?

  • I had a tubal ligation after the first.

  • I feel exact same way, but I am a Mom. You are Not Alone.

  • I am a mom but I hate my physically and verbally abusive son. I have nothing to do with him since he is an adult. I am so glad to be rid of him.

  • Me too, so glad to see another mum here! My 2 kids never stop screaming and demanding from me, it's awful. I just want to be by myself or just with my husband most of the time.

  • You mean childfree? It is the good and peaceful life. Not lonely at all as you idiots feared but now yearn for. That ship has sailed and ain't NEVER coming back

  • You fools don't discipline with your passive feeble minds...of course you're parents

  • I love my son, I hate being a dad. I can't sleep in my own bed because he HAS to sleep with his mother (he's 16 months old) I have to wolf my food down because he can't stand seeing others eat, I don't get to go out anymore, only tv I get is pbs, I hate the crying, s***** diapers, it always seems like he's never happy, my relationship with my wife is near non existent. I once attempted suicide and nearly died, instead she revived me (I OD' on pills and whisky) she didn't tell me she loved me or that she'd miss me,she was concerned about not having extra hands to deal with our son. I've never been good with kids, I'm a lousy dad and I don't enjoy being around kids. I'm 40 and I have no desire to live

  • You might just need to go my man...it might be better for everyone involved

  • Get help for yourself and leave her. Cutting a cheque every month is better for your sanity.

  • Leave. You are screwed one way or another, so taking off will at least give you a chance to with yourself.

  • He made his bed, now he must lie in it. Don't let a f****** kid rule your life or marriage. Sucks b**** but you gotta take charge.

  • Nonsense. He can still salvage what he can. It's foolish to continue a disaster just because "he's made his bed." It's ok to take your hand off a hot stove. Wise even.

  • Yeah by not allowing a kid to slave him around. He's stuck.

  • Im glad to find this website to read stories about the misery of having kids. I have always hated kids since I could remember. Even as a high school student, I knew that I didn't want kids. I'm 28 and I still do not want kids and I'm pretty much the only person I know out of any of my friends and siblings that don't have kids. I hate going to family parties because my nieces and nephews are always running around screaming and being annoying. My brothers kids mistreat animals and I can't stand watching it. I live in Utah where it's normal for people to get married and pop out a kid or 2 by the time they're 25. I hate going to grocery stores and watching kids horseplay with one another down the Isle, especially when they don't pay attention and cut you off by running in front of you. I hate watching kids whine and beg their parents to buy them this buy them that. I hate watching my friends complain that they're always broke because baby food and diapers has added around $300 to their grocery bill and then an extra $300 or so for daycare. I feel like kids make you trapped they drain your energy, your bank account, your social life, etc. Saving money to go anywhere is probably impossible (unless you're a millionaire) and when you do save enough money for a vacation, kids will probably just make it miserable and not worth it with their constant whining. Don't get me wrong, I will socialize with peoples kids when they say hi to me, I'm not completely cold about it. I just don't see this is the life for me. My Dream is to travel and see places all over the world and having kids will get in the way of this. I do hope to get married one day, but I want to enjoy myself and my husband without annoying kids running around.

  • You definitely should not have kids if you cannot afford to live comfortably with them; this is one thing i've never understood. Why the frick have 2 or 3 if you can barely afford one??? I mean seriously.

  • People like that are incredibly stupid it baffles me. Double the trouble

  • You're the smartest one for realizing this ahead of time. I too have never felt a connection to children. Whenever I was out w my friends at the beach or a restaurant I would move my seat if there were kids around. Then I thought I loved someone who said there was no reason to get married if you didn't want kids. Fast forward 5 years later I'm married with a 3 And 4 year old and miserable. The children both were surprises, Weren't planned. I hate every second of it and feel guilty as h***. Every second I'm around them I feel like I'm being tortured. The constant screaming and fighting or horseplay were I'm scared someone is gonna get hurt. The worst part is I'm even more scared for when this baby s*** is done and they are out on the world. I hate being a nervous wreck. I hate not having any freedom. I regret everything about my life everyday and it's an awful way to live. I fantasize about the time when they are old enough that I can get a divorce and move to the city alone. I recently went back to work and it's the best thing I've ever done. People ask me on Monday how my weekend was, I say "being here is my weekend" I wish I could run away.

  • You need to do this, I wish I'd had this mind set before. I have 2 kids, they're 2 & 4 and they're s***** and mean and all they do is moan and fight.

  • So you were mindless and "unfulfilling" before or just bored? Sad. Any person possess that mindset. Intellectual ones keep it! If a child of mine (shudders) moan and fights, a slap to their face, a switch to their ass and a pop on their mouth, it's called DISCIPLINE. True parenting. Not being a slave!!! Get real and do something and stop b*******

  • Have you tried acting like a parent and disciplining your kids??

  • Or you could not judge since you have no idea what this person's story is.

  • Don't have to. It's common sense

  • Stay to the plan, envy your wisdom!

  • Are you me lol?

  • Make sure you do what you like before getting married and having kids... I gave up my nursing education...i gave up travelling and im a mother of 2kids now and damnnnn i f****** hate this life... I know i will never be able to travel with freedom again... I look back at my pictures from japan...korea...germany...spain...and i cry everytime. I know there are no refunds with life... Sucks for me... So dont follow my path. I wish you all the best!

  • Why did you give up on your nursing education?

  • Seriously? Her kids. 😂 But she would've made a terrific and useful nurse I bet.

  • If your life is so bad then adopt the kid out. the little f****** know when they're unwanted.

    I mean it.

  • I have a friend who recently had a baby and hes all she ever talks about. She posts 1-2 picture on social media of him everyday. Her baby is 7 months old and nothing has changed. It's always my baby this my baby that.

  • She had no life before and she has no life now.

  • Yeah I definitely feel this way and I only have one seven month old baby. Because of her dads job I have to live in the south in the middle of nowhere, I don't have any friends.
    She only breast feeds and has only ever been away from me for one hour and I just feel like every time she cries I'm getting more and more worn down because its been 24 hours 7 days a week dependancy for seven months - around the clock - non stop.
    I hardly ever sleep even if she is sleeping because I know as soon as i close my eyes I will have to get up and look after her and it will annoy me if I'm comfortable, so I basically don't sit down.
    I wish I could hitch hike across the country home, just leave and never come back.
    But I can't - so heres to unhappiness, expectations and the human condition.

  • Just adopt her out if it really is that bad and get your tubes tied so you don't have to go through this misery again.

  • It's not that easy, you judgmental walking wound. Clearly you've never been there. I get that you're in need of healing and probably have felt unwanted on some level, but there is an obligation to parenting that you have no clue about, otherwise you would not reflect such simplicity and judgment in your comment.

  • I simply do NOT want to go there. So that's a no on getting a tubal ligation and repeating the cycle of misery? You're prob6right about the obligation of parenting. Cheers wino!

  • I'm a father of an 18 month old, and have been given an ultimatum by my wife: She wants 2 more kids or she's leaving to find a new partner (or adopt)... She's from a large family and wants our son to have siblings. I really want them both to be happy. Being a father has been amazing but I just don't feel strongly about more kids. Everyone around me (her family and mine) make out like having kids is the most important thing in life and how wonderful they are etc etc... But I just don't feel that way (I wish I could)... It makes me feel so bad, like I must be selfish or something 'wrong' with me.
    I'm scare we are going to break up over this. But I'm more scared of ending up resentful and trapped later on...

  • Do not do it. Listen to your inner voice - it knows so much and everyone else who is trying to convince you otherwise is playing with your guilt (whether they're aware of it or not)... Run away. Ultimatums result in resentment if you give in - they are a selfish, manipulative method of "communicating". You deserve the life you want, and so does she. Let her go.

  • Run! Take the out and run!

  • Don't do it. I knew my whole life that I didn't want kids. After we got married my husband changed his tune and after having many, many fights about it, I gave in. I got pregnant on the first try and, while I love my daughter, I wish I had never done it. I will never make this mistake again. I do all the work and he plays with her for about five minutes, then moved on to something else. My life is pretty much over. I wish I had never gotten married.

  • B***** h***. If being a parent is what he wanted let him take his responsibilities. It's easy not to hate children when you don't deal with them for more than an hour a day. Don't let him treat you as a mere. Split the parenting and take your freedom back. Your parenting wouldn't probably be so awful if you weren't left alone with it. And if all he wanted from you was offspring well... he got it, leave him with it and start a new life.

  • Give up your kid to adoption and get a divorce. Done.

  • Honestly, I think people want everyone else to have kids so they can be just as miserable as them.

  • This is 100% correct. Same with marriage. Only married people ask you "When are you going to get married" As they say, misery likes company

  • Some of us have good marriages. Especially those of us who don't f*** them up with kids.
    And I definitely don't feel the need to push any of my life choices on other people. Different strokes for different folks.

  • Not necessarily true with marriage. I love being married (childfree), though I never pry into other people's relationships or ask when someone is getting married. It's not for everyone and not all marriages are bad. I never though I would get married, never really wanted to or thought about it until my husband proposed. I said yes because he's more traditional, I knew that level of commitment was important to him him, and he's truly the love of my life. I will say getting married dramatically reduced my income taxes which was a phenomenal benefit. I also like that we're are legally considered family so I have say if emergencies arise. The couple who live next to us have been together for 17 years and he had a medical emergency, the hospital wouldn't talk to her, it was heart breaking. She had to wait until he regained consciousness to give consent before she could see him or get any status updates.

  • It will be hard at first, but leave her. You don"t want to get trapped. Good luck.

  • Do not have s** with this woman. That is emotional and sexual abuse. Your reproductive choices are not her's to make. If she wants to threaten you, imagine what kind of crap she will pull on your kid? She is gaslighting you. Make an escape plan, meet with a therapist and a lawyer.

  • Honestly, just run. take your kid and run. That's so f***** up. There's nothing wrong with you at all, youre not selfish for feeling that way. her giving you an ultimatum is sooo f***** up. she only sees you as a sperm donor anyway.

  • Her female privilege is toxic...If she does leave you she better not force you to pay for that kid...She can take it with her...

  • Run. Your wife is emotional manipulative.

  • If i were you id get out while ur responsible for only 1. I often think that if we had just 1 id still have some sanity. But having more than 1 (i have twins) is just nuts. You loose every bit of yourself. Please do what none of us have & take what happiness you have left and go!

  • Reading this makes me wonder how many (outwardly) happy parents out there are feeling true regret inside...

  • I think most do

  • I'd say 90% + The other 10 percent have a 2 week old baby and they still think it's cute.

  • Probably a lot! But no one has the guts to say anything for fear of being seen as a bad person or losing everything. When the fact is everything is already lost.

  • Um to the writer of 2 posts down...this is a place to vent. We dont want hear about books, websites, etc. no s*** kids werent dropped on our door steps. We all are venting cuz we f***ed up. so go somewhere else with ur b.s.!

  • Those are your words. "We f***** up" haha

  • D reason why other parents dont tell u what f***ing pile of s**t life is after kids, is because they r so guilty n frustrated abt der decision dat they want to drag others in there n watch d fun...take revenge dat way...

  • Please use proper English. You are purposefully trying to sound uneducated.

  • Motherhood and fatherhood is a choosen decision for many of us at the exception of a few . Most of us know the functions of a parents and there are many websites,books ect. on what it is to be a parent and what to expect. Not saying theses feelings are wrong but it not like kids are magically dropped at our door steps

  • Not necessarily.

    It is prevalent in society to make everyone think that parenting is all rainbows and butterflies. When in reality it is not. You are made to feel that you are a terrible parent if you are not enjoying the whole experience and it is simply a taboo to talk about how you feel. Then the next generation have kids without knowing the truth and then the cycle continues!

    I think it is sad that these parent's only choice is to put this as a confession post online as they feel they can't speak up.

    I think you SHOULD speak up, s**** everyone else's opinions if they are being self righteous, your feelings matter. And I bet deep down they feel the same way too!

  • To add to my previous post...i mentioned waterskiing. I think about what it cost us to have these kids, just the IVF & hospital bills from the delivery alone was about $25,000. That could have bought us a really nice boat. So every time one of them cries, needs a diaper changed, makes a mess, has a meltdown, needs to go to the doctor, whatever, i think about how i could be on that boat waterskiing. I know im selfish as h*** for feeling this way. But this life is not for me. I f***ed up big time & im only 2 yrs into this minimum 18 yr prison sentence.

  • How is this rewarding? I just brought my mids down to give them breakfast and i turn around and one of them stuck his hand in his diaper & it was covered in s***. Yay, i get to chase them around and clean up after them all wknd. Wth did i do to myself? I hate every moment of this!!! Why arent people honest when they talk about having kids? Everyone around me said its wonderful, rewarding, best thing ill ever do, ill be such a great dad... BULLS***! I wanna tell each & every one of them to go f*** off! But i only have myself to blame for not following my gut. I could be on a boat right now waterskiing. But no, gotta deal with my stupid decision.

  • Absolutely everything you typed is how I feel. I hate being a mother. HATE IT. I detest it so much that I'd give anything to turn back time and never have my two children. I resent my husband for pressuring me to get married 8 years ago. I resent him for being older than I am....he got to experience everything I never did. We got married two years after I finished college and I stuck around with his dumbass all because I as too young and naive to see my potential. Now, I'm stuck in BFE with a man I absolutely have zero sexual desire to be with (believe me, I still desire s**, just not with him), stuck being a mom to two whiny turds, all for what? This is absolute misery. I think about just walking out on them everyday.

  • If you were THIS smart to foreshadow about life before or without kids, why hop to it if you were still unsure? You should've done activities with him before you popped out kids. Go ahead and abandon them... bad karma. You'll be a lousy wife and mother

  • Your post hit me right in the gut. This was almost me - he was 12 years older, wanted me to pop out kids and be the majority breadwinner. I got the h*** out of there 10 years ago, did NOT have kids, and am happily single and surgically sterile today. I wish I could hug you.

  • You ma'am are intelligent!!!

  • Do it! You deserve better. I feel so sad for people in these situations.

  • Same.

  • I'm a single mother of two. I almost cried reading this because it was like someone reading my exact thoughts minus the vasectomy part. I love my kids I really do but I can't stand what misery my life is. I HATE being a parent. I hate being broke and low income , I hate having no social life, I hate what the pregnancies did to my once tight and coveted body, I hate that I haven't had a relationship in 7 yrs and probably won't for another 10 because I won't allow any other men around my children. Arghhhh
    F*** PARENTHOOD!!!!

  • Had the most wonderful dream last night! Then I woke up. Ugh.

  • Love how fathers day starts with the kids crying. Who thought of this day? Ya, lets make a day to recognize how crappy fatherhood is! Lets recognize how much life has been sucked away!

  • Funny - I remember Father's Day growing up as "Happy Father's Day!" and then mum took us out so dad could have the day to himself. lol I guess she did it right.

  • Just woke up &...SOB it wasnt a nightmare!

  • HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

  • & now we get to go to my brothers house this afternnon for one of his kids bdays & pretend everything is wonderful. Cant take this!!!

  • The only me time i get is after they go to bed. & im so friggin tired by then i dont want to do anything. I make a cocktail & fall asleep. B4 i know it, its morning again. Weekends are the worst. I actually look forward to mondays so i can go to work. Great...time to change another f'ing diaper. My life is sh*t! Literally.

  • Same here I love work now!

  • He's a special needs kid so he can't do self care and requires occupational therapy, physical therapy, and speech therapy almost everyday. He has sensory integration disorder as well so that makes it even more frustrating. I resent him most of the time but I try not to show it because I know all of this is my fault and not his. I keep hoping it will get easier. Everyone tells me it does and that these feeling are normal but I've never told anyone that I want to leave him. That I hate him. That I don't want to be a mom. That I hate myself for that. Also, I really hate the people who say they love being parents. I've never really believed these people. It's like are they lying to me or trying to convince themselves that their lives aren't s***?? Or maybe they just never had a life before kids or maybe their only aspiration in life was to be a parent?? Idk.

  • I hate my special needs step kids. I chose this life and every day I regret it. Every single day. I resent them so much but I resent their mother and father even more for spoiling the crap out of them because of their own guilt. Now I'm stuck with two whiny, bratty tennagers that cannot ever be unsupervised and constantly wear me down with their meltdowns and tantrums.

  • Leave him idiot

  • Please leave- you're liable to be stuck with them past the required 18 years.

  • All of these comments are so true. My pregnancy was not planned so maybe that's why I hate being a mother. I never wanted to be a mom but fell pregnant and felt abortion was not a moral option and was pressured by my family into not adopting either. I wasn't young when I had my son. I was 30. He's 4 now. At first I loved motherhood and I had an easy pregnancy compared to the horror stories I've heard from others so I'm not sure when exactly or why exactly I feel this way. It's just that I'm the one responsible for all his stuff and it just never ends. He makes cosntant ridiculous demands, cries about the stupidest stuff, is noisy as f*** all day long, he ruins everything I have including my $3500 refrigerator that he dented a couple days after it was delivered. He puts sticky stuff in my Louie Vuitton. He never listens and that bugs me because I hate repeating myself. He's really aggressive and will randomly throw things, bang things on things or things will hit me so I can never fully relax and let my guard down. He's mean to my dog. It takes forever to get anything done because I have to get him ready and beg him to cooperate. Sometimes I hate him. I look at 2 of my closest friends who are single and travel the world. They have great careers and have the same college degree as myself. Their lives are amazing. That's the life I was supposed to have and was working towards but I know that I can't have it because I have to raise my son. By the time he's out of my house it will be too late. I've tried having more me time by going to the gym and having someone watch him while I go or bringing him to the gym daycare. But when I'm done I still have to go deal with him.

  • You "beg" him to cooperate? That's your problem dumbass. Why beg a mindless child?! DISCIPLINE him, yell at him, scare him, threaten him! Seriously?! You deserve to wallow in your suffering. A kid like that, I'd beat him until he knows NOT to mess with my things, especially my dog. Don't get rid of your dog, get rid of your brat! You should hate yourself for being too damn passive or friendly to your own kid. Shame on you!! You're like that mom on Boondocks with her kid causing her H*** in the store, people glaring at her until she was given a belt and tore her son's ass. Putting HIM IN HIS PLACE. You're despicable. Blame YOURSELF when your son gets bullied, sent to prison or ends up dead. I hate parents like you. You make me 🤢

  • Having kids seriously feels like I was just sentenced to 20 years in the state pen. At least in jail you can have some time to yourself without screaming kids. As I sit on my back porch and type this, out of the corner of my eye, I'm watching my son dig his shovel into the sand box and throw sand on our dog. Great. Guess I gotta cut this short to deal with this s*** now.

  • Pop him hard, swing him!

  • Lol, ball bust!

  • At first when my son was born, I was very joyful. It was a surreal experience for me. I lost my first son because of a genetic problem on my wife's side, but I was thankful my next born was healthy. But now my son is two..ugh! It's a living h***. Tantrums and a strong willed attitude. I was surprised today my son was crying b***** murder when I brought him into the lake with me for a dip. When I was his age, I liked the water. I keep reminding myself that one day he will grow up and be out on his own. Twos and threes are the worst I hear. (how bout those teens, huh?). I realized today that I do not like kids. I have positive moments as a parent but as far as dealing with kids stuff, whining, crying, fighting, tantrums, dealing with in-laws, and teachers. I probably should have got the vasectomy when I was in the Air Force. I'm certain I'll get through this someway somehow. So will you guys.

  • Why insist upon passing on defective genes?!? How selfish!

  • You made another one after the first one died of genetic issue? That's beyond selfish

  • People like him think like breeders: the child will amount to something (never), the child will love them for giving it life (really?! The kid YOU birth owe YOU something? There's angst and unknown hatred from adolescence), the child will take care of them when they're older ( VERY WRONG, many kids die before their parents, become terminally ill, disabled, move away, become estranged from their parents, ditch their parents at a retirement place, possibly kill their parents because God knows what, use their parents as ATMs, etc), they'll soon love the child because it was expelled from their bodies (ew) yet forget about the issues and considerations that goes along with all of that, post-partum depression, for example.

    So yes HE is selfish as they come. Just wants the title of "dad" and be honored on Father's Day. (Claps slowly) La-dee-da. There's a story of a foolish woman whom just wanted to be a mother no matter how many times they failed getting pregnant (sign from God), she finally has kids BUT they suffer from hydrocephalus.

    She wanted to be a mother and not care of the well-being of her kids. She receives sympathy from people but not me! Parents are selfish. They're the blame. I don't sympathize with all parents with mentally challenge kids, you saw it coming. But it's their life...

  • 430 in the f*****g & one of my slmost 2 yr old twins is up crying. When does this s**t end!!!!

  • I dont understand how the human race has survived. Parenting is the most horrible experience ever! If i could go back & change it all i would in a second. My kids are great but they deserve so much better. Maybe i should just leave.

  • Midwives. Servants. Nurse maids

  • Because parents lie to con nonparents into breeding...it is frowned upon to discuss the negatives.

  • I feel exactly the same!!! & to add to the misery, havent had s** with my wife since september, but who's counting right? Have thought about cheating but cant do that to her no matter how much i resent her. Keep strong i guess.

  • It wouldn't have come to that if you two didn't spawn kids. All my attention and love is on my wife and her only, 25 years of marriage and still going strong because of NO KIDS.

  • I´m a girl, 23 y/o, and childless. I apologize in advance if it annoys anyone to have a childless person commenting on here

    I just want to thank everyone who comments for reassuring my long lived suspition that i will never want kids.

    I remember being very very young, and I didn´t fear being a mother, but I feared being pregnant. Very early on I told my mum that I wish boys could get pregnant because I sure as h*** wouldn´t want to. Looking back, if I had heard my 6 year old self saying this, I would have just thought "this is normal, you are young, it´s normal to be scared of such a strenous thing as being pregnant". (by the way sorry if my english sucks). However this feeling hasn´t changed, i can´t imagine being pregnant, it freaks me out, not because of the pain, it just seems like such a foreign thing to me. I have even suspected of having a gender identity problem because whenever I think of motherhood, or pregnancy, or when I see a pregnant lady, it´s almost as if I forget that I´m a woman just like them. its weird to explain but it´s as if they´re another species. and then I remember, wow, I have a funcitoning uterus, I could get pregnant too. It´s weird.

  • Are you me? :O

  • You are so lucky to know this before you made the mistake of having a child. My best to you!

  • I felt the same way about pregnancy, the idea of something growing inside me wigged me out but I have a son, now 11. Don't let all this gender stuff mess with your head, WE ALL have similar thoughts, but instinct does kick in, it's just separate from your thoughts so you think it's unnatural

    But not all of it, motherhood/ parenthood is one of the most thankless jobs ever. I love my son but hate parenting and I am vocal about it. Can't say that's helpful, but here I am. To this moment I still have fleeting thoughts of running away, especially post divorce and now my offspring shares traits of the other one....it's a double whammy. All I do is count down the years.... Nothing about motherhood/parenting ever came natural to me

  • Same here. All these posts are why I knew I didn't want kids.

  • (part 2)
    Anyway thats beside the point. I remember when I was 6 and said that, I thought of having kids as "the thing to do". Like almost a life obligation. An inevitable fate. And Im now realizing that a lot of people don´t realize that this is false until its too late. Thankfully, after few years of beliving I would eventually have kids only to please my parents because they would sometimes mention how they would love to be grandparents one day, I matured enough to realize that this is no reason to have kids, and that I simply have the freedom to not have them. Crazy, I know. I still felt guilt for a couple of years and remember asking my older brother if he would ever want kids, hoping he would say yes so that my parents would be grandparents one day without me having to give them this dream. I was very sad that he said "i don´t know yet". Later on I confessed to my parents that they might never be grandparents and they laughed at how far off I was. I mean, would they enjoy it? Yes. Will they feel like they are missing out on something if neither of us have kids? No. They want me and my brother to have happy lives. Funnily enough, a couple years after this talk, my own mother now thinks that she wouldnt like to be a grandmother because while she enoyed being a mother, she has grown into hating kids, and so she doesnt mind the chances of never having a new baby in the family. She´s a middle school teacher and the little brats she deals with every day definitely made her understand why people dont have kids.

  • All my life people have told me that I will change my mind eventually. and yes im still young (23), but my mind hasnt been changed even a little bit and the more I grow and mature, the less I believe I could ever go through such a persnoality change. My mum says maternal instict will kick-in at around 30 as it did for her and I might not be able to ignore it. God I hope that doesn´t happen because I legitimately believe that maternal instinct is in our human nature, and that it could ne enough to make me believe I want kids, but I also believe I would regret it later on.

  • Almost 32 here, never wanted kids. Never had the instinct. I don't actually believe that women have this "built in desire" to have children, I think it's a societal expectation and we are fooled into believing it's necessary. Think about it: years and year and years of being told "you'll have children someday", "just wait until you have your own", or other such bullshit, and watching other women being told "you better have them now before you get older"... it's no wonder we have this phenomenon of "ticking clock".

  • 40 year old woman here, knew I didn't want kids when I was 5 and the feeling never changed...it actually intensified as I got older. No regrets- very happy to be childfree.

  • That's the way to be. You're bold to proudly admit that but people on here fear that, went the opposite direction and look where it brought them...

  • That instinct is REAL. It kicked in for me at around 28 yrs of age. Having never wanting kids, all of a sudden, I was under some kind f baby-craving spell. I could tell it was just hormonal. It lasted about a year or so and then disappeared. Just stay strong and let time run its course to avoid making a mistake.

  • You're so damn right it's not even funny. It did hit me, too, around my 30, I was making lots of money by then and I still remember the exact point of the street I was at when I considered having a kid. And then, the responsibility of the whole thing, which would last until my very last day in this frigging world, hit me even harder and I said "no, thanks, I don't want to get in somewhere I cannot get out from". And to this day, the only thing which has changed is that I am happier and happier about the decision I made. When I see mi friends' kids my first thought is "thank you God, for sparing me this s***".

  • Very smart of you to stick through the hormonal feelings without giving in to the urge to become pregnant. I wish I had been so smart. My childrearing years are over. I am in my 50's. So at least I can enjoy my life now.

  • Smart woman!
    I used to say "marriage and children are overrated". Now I'm 23, married, having a almost 2 year old and HATING MY LIFE!
    I love my husband and son. I do!
    I just hate the dependence that comes with being a parent. I can't just go tanning at the pool for an hour, or have a job interview at whatever time I want to cause he's off for work and who's there to watch the kid? I just moved to this city here from a different country so I don't know anyone.
    So I'm stuck in this apartment (no own car yet) with the kid all day long unless we decide to go grocery shopping or to the playground. Yay!
    I feel like my life is over and others my age have made the better choice. They make tons of money, travel, buy whatever they want because all they gotta keep in mind when it comes to spending money is themselves.
    I haven't had my nails done in over 1.5 years!! I used to go every 3 weeks.

  • You must've been bored or h**** enough not to think of the outcomes that night you conceived. Wow 23 with 2 kids?! This ain't the 80s anymore. Could've dodged that bullet. I enjoy spending $$ on my nails and my dog; things I love and enjoy in peace. My short fuse would hurt a kid.

  • If I could turn back time I wouldn't do it!!

  • I'm with you. The worst decision i ever made was telling her she could go off the pill. If I had a button i could push and go back x amount of years ago, I couldn't push it fast enough.

  • I've been considering leaving my wife, who makes all the money for the household, and living in a constant struggle, just so once a week I could be child free. She travels so much, I know what it's like to be on for a week, alone, but when she's back, I'm still at least half on... I want to be able to turn parenting off when she's back.

  • Even if you leave your wife and abandon your child, you will never be childfree. That ship sailed when the sperm hit the egg.

  • Once you have a child,you are never childfree is true for most people. Which is sad. I had a son but now I am childfree. Thats because my son has been so physically and verbally abusive to me that I have disowned him. If he ever shows up at my door, I will call the police, have him arrested and press charges against him.

  • You're not childfree, you're the father of a s***** person.

  • I only have one child but the girl I married has two from a previous marriage. We share them week on week off with their dad. I love my wife and daughter but I f&*#* hate her kids. Little ungrateful, whiny, spoiled, piles of crap. I look forward to the peace and quiet our house is for the week they aren't here. As soon as they arrive its instant drama and annoyance. Truthfully my life would be 100 times better if it were just my wife and four year old daughter. The two older ones do nothing but cost money, whine, make messes, and make annoying noises with their face. Seeing them makes me cringe. I've gotten good at putting on the act but holy h*** they make me want to shoot myself. I don't know what to do because as a wife I couldn't haven't gotten better. Beautiful, motivated, caring, and we've always had great chemistry. But her kids are the most obnoxious little S%$6 heads I've ever met. Stick it out or leave because of the kids?

  • Probably they're like that because of the dad. Your wife isn't like that and your own child. It does sound like a shitshow but soon the piles of crap will be older and not bothering you as much.

  • I just want to thank you all for confirming my plan of never getting pregnant. I'm 21 years old, I can't stand majority of children near me. I have 3 siblings, all adult by now. I can see the toll it has taken on my parents. I know I hadn't the choice whether to be born or not, but I still feel guilty. And yes, it'll probably sound selfish as h***, but I don't want to go through that too. I want to give my parents everything I'll be able to (they're excellent human beings, they deserve that), except grandchildren.

  • I know how your all feel. I don't enjoy this at all...I never have.

  • Well, here is a different approach. Try looking at it from this perspective.

    http://jtamayowrites.tumblr.com/post/143903328591/why-i-hate-being-a-parent

  • Thanks I needed that

  • I'm a mother and I feel awful that I agree with you, but I feel the same way.

  • As I sit here in a rare moment of silence left behind after my wife has taken the whiny 1 year old and annoying 4 year old out for the day. Ive finally given in and started trawling the internet in the hopes of finding like-minded dads who hate their lives as much as i do.
    Dont get me wrong, i really want to enjoy it, i really want to be a good dad but its impossible to muster the enthusiasm and sentimentality required when everything my kids do(apart from the extremely rare 'cute' moments) p****s me off!
    You've covered pretty much everything I hate about it so I wont go on to list them but i do want to mention the 2 chief emotions i feel on a daily basis:
    1. Guilt - This is pretty obvious. Every child surely deserves a doting dad don't they? So i feel s***** when I cant provide that when all I can think about is a way out of this pit i've dug for myself!
    2. Envy - I feel this toward 2 sets of people. The first and probably most obvious are the people who dont have kids. Holy f**k what i would do to be able to make plans on a whim. To go and get drunk when i want without fear of judgemental repurcussions! Ive always wanted to visit Rome. Imagine taking kids to Rome? It would be disastrous!
    The second set of people im envious of are the Dads who enjoy parenting! I mean how the h*** do you do that you freaks of nature?? Please part with your knowledge for the sake of my family!! They were surely mothers in a previous life as they seem to have that natural Paternal instinct.
    Anyway thats enough from me I just needed to vent quickly before I go shopping to fulfil my legal obligation to feed little ungrateful mouths...

  • Rome is beautiful- you should go. I took my kids, I had to bribe the oldest and drug the youngest. Then I would drink a bottle of wine for lunch just to get through the sightseeing without wanting to drop them off at the closet fire station.
    By the way- my husband is like the second set of people you envy, a real manny poppins. I suppose I shouldn't complain having a guy who wants to be involved but I am filled with regrets- children are awful.

  • I knew thats what stupid parents do to get by throughout their weekend. Party! Party! Drink! Drink insecurities and regrets away! I hear it all but I know the truth.

  • Oh my god I laughed so hard with this answer, thank you for that, and also thank you for expressing exactly how i feel (even though i dont have kids myself, im still 21 years old ´but i know i will probably never want to and i hope it never happens on accident).

  • Dude grab life by the horns and get a procedure done. I was on the fence about kids but I just learned that I got a friend pregnant. CRAP!!! Don't roll the dice. Take control

  • Hurry and get fixed--either vasectomy or tubal ligation so that doesn"t happen to you. Good luck.

  • I just want to say. Thank you everyone for sharing. I just found this site today. It has been so healing to share how I feel. Especially the anger. I wish all of you--either with or without kids the very best. My heart goes out to all of you who are struggling with childrearing. Thanks everyone for being so honest.

  • So true... my horrible ex wife cheated on me and moved on in her life and left me with are kid... she hated being a parent and instead of sucking it up like me she ditched out on it and left me and my mom to raise her ( im 33 and kids 8 )... horrible woman comes around once every other weekend for 6 hrs to play mom i hate that woman and i hate raising a kid and to top it off by myself!! Everyone says its so much happiness but i call complete bs everyone that i know that doesnt have kids has good relationships ans are happy and do stuff... seems like soon as kids come in picture relationship goes to s***. Worst decision ever and got 10 more years to put on happy face and do best i can.

  • That must be the worst I'm so sorry you have to do this alone. stay strong bro

  • I feel so much better after reading some of these posts. Like everyone else in here, I loath being a parent. I however will skip the "I love my kid, but...."disclaimer that adorned most I read. I don't care if hating my kid puts me on the express train to h***. It's the worst thing that's ever happened to me. It's literealy ruined my life. I have no way out of this and I don't know how people just leave their kids. I have about zero people to talk to about how I feel. Especially my kids mom. Wich makes me resent her too, thus adding to the situation. I keep thinking about how long I have to live this way. It's like accepting ones life is over. I have done everything I can think of to try and cope with the way being a parent has stripped me of my life. I have gone through all the vices. Drugs, alcohol, having affairs, Amazon prime, all of it. Nothing makes it better. Sometimes I see those parents with multiple kids that you can tell were just made for raising children. I see them all happy with their kid carriers and their well prepped diaper bags. I see them and I want to go tell them what awful people they are for making it appear like they are ok with how awful their lives are. I think I will be back here to vent on a regular basis. We are all in this together.

  • I just wish someone would have warned me, I tell people to think long and hard before they decide to have children I don't want anyone to be as miserable as me. I rarely post anything about my kids on Facebook ( like other moms who post 50 pics a day) because I would be lying to myself.

    I have no one to talk to, I can't tell their dad that I regret having kids because he'll judge me. Kids are miserable, why didnt anyone tell me this?? Why do people go around acting like kids are what make life enjoyable? Why?!?! Why are people so happy about showing you pics of their kids in the first five minutes that they meet you. The worst part of it all is that I love them so much so it's impossible to run away, im-f******-possible.

    I can't even remember the last time I was happy, truly happy. Or the last time I've had fun and I'm only 23, the only thing that keeps me going is that at least I'll only be 41 when they're (I have twins) 18 and can start living my life again.

  • You're another fool gullible enough to believe pro-Natalist society and it's false propaganda on commercials and crap. You were bored and that made you thoughtlessly reproduce. You're 23?! You MUST'VE been bored. I know you don't look it, thanks to your kids.

  • Good luck to you. Its like being in prison for years but it will be over. Putting up with a nasty,abusive kid, teenage temper tantrums if he didn't get his way all the time. Dragging him to therapists. It was sickening. Seemed like it would never end. But one day I turned 50. He was 18. My responsibility to him was over. It seemed like a long prison sentence. But I survived it. You'll survive it too. Even though it is a long time. You have your freedom to look forward to. And you have supportive friends on this site to share your feelings with.

  • It can last longer than 18 years - it could be a life sentence. The kids could have an accident where they no longer function or they could become ill and can't live on their own, or they could be losers and never leave the house. 18 years is false logic.

  • I'm a mother of 2 and feel the same way. I love my kids but i hate being a parent.I hate this. I wish there was a do over button. A life with no kids.

  • It's called childfree darling. The good life. I know what makes and what would make me happy. Not caring or slaving around for kids. 🍷

  • Me too! I don't enjoy this at all. I have days when even having to listen to their stories irritates me. I love them and would kill someone if they hurt them but I don't want to do this anymore. I would never of had children if I knew I'd feel like this.

  • I agree, deeply. I've nearly reached the point of suicide. Im so unhappy, that the wife and kids would almost certainly be better off with the life insurance payment so they can move on and not have to experience my absolute despair and discust over being a husband and father.

  • They wouldn't get insurance if you did that. Seek help

  • I am woman and I F***ING Hate every second of it. Children are so depressing. You can teach them, and love them, and care so much and they don't give a S***. I HATE WITH ALL MY SOUL BEING A F***ING PARENT

  • It is the worst job ever? Just the other day I cried because I was feeding my almost 2 year old and he threw a spoon at my face and it hurt. I didn't cry because it hurt I cried because of all the s*** I do for them and this is the thanks I get and I know it just gets worse from here. FML.

  • As a former mother, I really feel for you. I say "former mother" because I disowned my abusive son when he turned 18. Kids in today's society are so unappreciative. They just want more and more.

  • Can I love that a thousand times? It is a thankless job!

  • Omg I feel the same way

  • Being a dad is not what I had expected at all. Sometimes i regret the decision to have a baby after gaining a step- daughter. I wanted to have a family for the longest time and then when i finally got it, i became a huge a****** again. During the daytime I can handle my kids crying and asking for things, but nighttime is a whole other story. I love my kids with everything i have and I think i'm a good provider, but they both get on my nerves soooooo bad that i lose my temper to the point of cussing them and the wife too. I'll make the best of it i guess until they both move away

  • I am soo happy there is a site like this I can't stand my kids all they do is make a mess .... they call me for everything I have no social life...... I seriously want to punch every person who said this would be fun it's not it's hard and they r anyoin .... I will make sure they don't have kids until they are 50 ...... geezer louis

  • Nailed it.

    You're in your prime. You're finally enjoying your life and the place you've found in the world, the people you've surrounded yourself with, the interests and passions that you've discovered. Maybe it's travelling the world, maybe it's a hobby that excites your soul, maybe it's a career that fulfils you and gives you a sense of purpose. Whatever it is, you're happy, successful, content.

    And everyone in your life is telling you to give it up. To take your energy out of your own life and devote it to another's. To stop being so 'selfish'.

    They never tell you the downsides, not truthfully. They use euphemisms like "discomfort" to describe the horrors of childbirth, or "unsettled" for a screaming banshee of a child, or "a little sacrifice" when you're giving up everything that brought you happiness. And then they flat-out lie and say that it's all worth it. For the joy. For the love. For the beauty and magic of parenthood.

    Here's the thing: having a child IS totally worth it ... to everyone else. Your family and friends get to 'ooh' and 'aah' at the cute little baby, to hold it and make stupid baby noises at it. Even your acquaintances and work colleagues get to look at baby photos and say 'awww' and give you well-meaning but utterly worthless advice so they can feel like kindly parental influences in your life.

    And it's totally worth it to them because none of them have to pay for it. Even the ones who have children - they know better than anyone else that the best kind of baby is the one you can give back.

  • "the best kind of baby is the one you can give back." <--- F*** yes....

  • People kept telling me "Yeah it's a lot of sacrifice, but it's so worth it!"
    I want to kill every single person who ever said that to me one by one.

    This is not a homicidal rant. I'm not going to kill anyone. I love my daughter and I love my family and friends... There's just a few liars out there I wish were dead right now for trying to convince me about "the joys of parenting".

    Sometimes I wonder how humans have continued to infect this planet for so long... do people HONESTLY enjoy this? or are they lying to themselves and others... sheep maybe... too guilty to admit they f****** hate being a parent??

    I was stopped at a stop light the other day and there was a girl with her boyfriend, perhaps her fiancee or maybe even husband. They were young and driving a 2 door so I don't imagine they have kids. Both our windows were down so he could hear my baby crying. He looked over at my expressionless face, and I shook my head to him and mouthed "don't do it". He understood and nodded. I actually feel like I saved someone's life.

  • You've been lied to from pro-natalist society due to their misery. They even lie to themselves. That's what parents do to CF people. Smart ones aren't as gullible and fall for the false facade and the fake smiles.

  • I love the newborn stage though. So cute and squishy. I could however do without the part where I had to literally push 8 lbs out of my vajayjay or had it sliced out in a major abdominal surgical procedure. But that's another rant for another day, yes?

    I don't love the rest of childrearing. Once they start with the talking it all goes downhill for me.

  • Certainly not nearly as cute as puppies. Boo!

  • "Sometimes I wonder how humans have continued to infect this planet for so long... do people HONESTLY enjoy this? or are they lying to themselves and others... sheep maybe... too guilty to admit they f****** hate being a parent?? "

    Here's my theory, we have continued to infect the planet for so long, not because the majority of parents enjoy it, but because of society's perpetuation of the Life Script ™ - Grow up, get married, have kids and if you try and live any other way, you're doing it wrong.

    This includes the lies perpetuated by parents to get others to essentially buy into their misery. Sure, there are some people out there that are perfectly happy being parents but they have usually given it more consideration and everything that goes into it. We, as humans, continue to fall for the lies seen through rose colored glasses that it's all kodak moments and that kids crap glittery rainbows and are all smiles. Once the reality hits of s***** smelly diapers, throw up, crying, whining, late night feedings and sleep deprivation it's already too late. This is perpetuated with things like
    "Oh it's different when it's your own" - yeah, you can't give it back !
    "Oh, you don't want kids? what's wrong with you? why?" There's nothing wrong with me, I just don't and really it's none of your business.
    "You'll change your mind." Yeah, nope hot happening.

    If you haven't picked up on it by now from my responses to the above phrases, I am childfree, by choice. I have seen through all of this and have made the decision that I am in no place to have a child - ever. Got myself sterilized last year on December 19th.

  • Wow. Just do everyone a favor and end it all now, seriously. Your "homicidal rant" can end with you. Clearly you are the most worthless piece of s*** imaginable - please contact social services and let someone with a shred of a soul take your children.

  • Your judgment is unwelcome. P*** off.

  • Or...I'll p*** on. Haha

  • Not everyone does things or thinks like you. You've got a lot of growing up to do.

  • I tell ALL my guy friends to "pull out, its not worth it"...
    I am a father of 3 and have full custody.
    I hate every second of my life with them. I NEVER wanted kids and demanded their mom (now my ex wife) use birth control. She lied to me, saying she was taking it and wasnt. Not i have the kids i never wanted, a life i never wanted, and bills i never wanted, and all i want to do now is leave them or die.
    I am not cut out to a parent.
    I hate my life and my kids....

  • Why didn't you nope the f*** out after you got oopsed into the first?

  • He was gullible enough to believe her conniving ass haha. Least he's bold. Kudos. Secretly give her birth control pills or get fixed.

  • You just made me guffaw out loud, while I sit in my home office, door locked to keep the screaming/whining/sick kid out, mainlining teddy grahams like I'm doing lines of coke off my macbook...ah, the life of a regretful parent.

  • Are you for real?? Your child is sick, and you're completely ignoring him/her?? This board is full of the most mentally ill, messed up pieces of garbage I have ever seen in my life. Have you even considered what you are doing to your children? The hurt, the devastation, the complete lack of empathy you are showing them? This makes me weep for humanity.

  • You must be perfect. So why don't you offer to permanently adopt his kids and save the world instead of "weeping" like a whiny little b****?

  • F*** you.

  • Ooh, what an impressive and intellectual retort!

  • Yet effective.

  • Wasn't effective enough. More like your last grasp of a pathetic comeback. Is that all you got? Awwwww! You know when someone simply says "f*** you" means they don't got s*** to say! Your life's already screwed so try not to kill yourself but since you're doing coke like a Coke head, you're halfway there hahahaha

  • Dude, I think you nailed it. I learned only after 13 years of being married and 3 kids I have no right being involved in either, nor do I have the will or want to anymore. Counseling sorted me right out, and let me see the who and waht of me, and it isn't in the position of husband and father. I know what you mean about the first, second then the third kid coming, I was burnt the F out after the second one. Tired of everything you mentioned in this post. You are not alone.

  • I hate parenting, too. I love my children with my whole being but it's a paradox that I can also hate them so much. Everyday is a blur, a struggle. There is no end to the chores, the errands, the bills. No rest for the weary.

    I think all our hatred with parenting has a lot to do with how families are set up these days. Just mom and dad, and no extended family. We're in the same boat.

    But doesn't it take a village to raise a child? When I was little we lived with aunts and uncles and cousins and they all took turns caring for the little ones (I had my fair share, too, caring for my younger cousins, nieces and nephews). This way the parents regularly had breaks and breathing space from the chaos of having kids.

    People in those days shared the responsibilities of parenthood. Now we've isolated ourselves and our children and are going insane from having to do it all. We were never meant to do it all.

  • Then WHY have kids?! Parents made them, then take care of them, if not, don't drop them off at my place. All the food to myself. Yum!!!

  • So true. Growing up I had cousins aunts uncles grannies grandpas always around too. Both sets of my grandparents were always around and their doors were open to all of us grandkids every weekend. But it seems Grandparents these days are all like "sure I'll help. I can schedule to take one kid, not both, between the hours of noon and three every other Saturday. And don't be late to come pick her up because I have to get to bingo at 4. Your welcome ".
    A*******

  • They want their time for THEMSELVES and not let it be ruined by YOUR kid that YOU made. Who does not like peace and quiet? Who wants to be stuck with a boring unintelligible baby? I rather play bingo than a brat ANYDAY!

  • I absolutely agree with you. I hadn't even gotten my life back together before I had a child. I have five siblings (FIVE) and 2 uncaring abusive parents. My daughter was a surprise and I somehow thought that the very first grandbaby (I was the oldest) would at least put a little love into my family....but it didn't. They are states away and pretty much disowned my daughter the same way they disowned me. Don't get me wrong though, my husband is super supportive and even helps me cook and clean, we are gamers and try to make time to play together but

    The most miserable thing is that we have TWO friends (of over 15 years) and they live 900 miles away from us. Their jobs wouldn't even let them have days off to come see the birth of my daughter...and my husband only gets enough vacation days to go down twice...maybe three times a year. I'm a stay at home mom and I love my daughter, but I hate being alone. It tears you up, you end up yelling at your child for the smallest things and then you just end up crying yourself to sleep every night. It really DOES take a village to raise a child but what if you have no village? What you have literally no one? Not even a friend's shoulder to cry on when things are at their absolute worst?

    I wish I had waited longer to have a child. I really hate all the lonliness that comes with being a parent. :'(

  • Why would someone use their sacred time off to go travel to see your new born kid (or anyone's)? How selfish! The kid won't do anything but lay around, cry, scream, p***, pee, and want to feed. You'll be totally absorbed with the kid and learning how to breastfeed (not always for your friends). How absolutely selfish to expect your friends to use their time off watching you mess around with a baby. They probably have time off but didn't want to waste it traveling 900 miles to do nothing. Parents and their egos...

  • I'm a mother of twins and 2 others that are older...and don't think they help just make more problems...my husbands works 12hr days I work 7 days..my family suck they dont help....yes we love our kids but it seems that there is more bad times then good..one of my twins cry all the time 24/7it seems like...I hate it the min she opens her mouth my day is ruined..just a moment to my self a freaken dinner alone with my husband with no kids no crying no fighting no one running around screaming just 1 freaken dinner...they are with me 24 7 in the bathroom. Cooking cleaning you even have to lay there well they fall asleep which seems like tourcher to me...literally have one in front of me and I step back I'm tripping over the other one...its so much strain on my marriage my husband can't handle crap left me many times few days weeks months with these kids on my own just because things get to hard...its mentally exhausting.I want to just pick up one day take a few days to my selfand say h*** you deal with it..but no women aren't Built like that..at this moment my husband is here today let's see tomorrow...women have so many roles in life I'm a mother daughter friend sister wife and with all that still sacrifice asleep and rest to be a freak in the bed for my husband...exhausting when I rather sleep instead sometimes...my kids bring on my anxiety or nervous break down.....sometimes I don't know how I make it at the end of the day not ripping someone head off....ugh and if I hear one more time that I looked tired..duh kids twins wtf is wrong with you...unless your going to help shut the h*** up...I feel a bit better...then again same s##t different day

  • You made the choice to have a litter of kids and yet talk about how over worked you are. Why have so many? How dare you expect friends and family to take care of your obligations - how selfish. People don't come over because who wants to watch someone else's gaggle of screaming kids and clean their house? Your husband works 12 hour days, he is exhausted to. Perhaps disciplining your older child so they help would improve your situation. Please don't have anymore kids, you sound overwhelmed and neurotic.

  • Her karma. I don't feel sorry. Oh well. Parents are selfish. Truly. So what they go through in pregnancy, I can care less.

  • I hear you! I don't think anyone can quite understand the amount of crap a woman puts up with. The second you open your mouth to complain that you're utterly fed up with the whining, and the cleaning, and the caring for ungrateful energy robbing children, you're labeled a b****. Well, to h*** with all those self righteous douche bags who thinks caring for another human being that sucks the life out of you if all cakes and rainbows. It's fricken hard. I feel like a failure constantly that I snapped at my kid to stop whining so much. It's exhausting and some days God help me if I don't get the urge to blow my own head off just to get a damn break.

    People tell me that it gets easier. My question is when? When the kid is all grown up? By then all my life will be sapped out of me and there's nothing left but a skeleton. Up your antidepressant dosage, but that stuff is a crock and doesn't work. Just makes me tired and kills my pretend s** drive.

    Why are mothers particularly more stigmatized for admitting that they hate being a parent at times? What lunatic made up this fake ass diagram of the perfect family life and forgot to include somewhere in the rules that this was going to be a bumpy ride and life can suck at times. What crack head made up this ridiculous standard for mothers to abide by? I'm done with that crap! I had a nervous breakdown the other day for yelling at my kid for throwing a tube of lotion at my face and I screamed at her and swatted her butt. Jesus! I could go on and on, but who has time to listen to this rant? Some days I feel like a total psycho and I regret having a kid.

    Anyway, best of luck to all of us, I suppose. Thank you for letting me rant. Believe it or not I feel slightly better. Maybe now I can crawl out of the closet I have shut myself into... And being literal, not metaphorical. My butt is starting to fall asleep. ??

  • Man, do I feel you. I knew I couldn't be alone but man finding this page is a godsend!
    I was actually hesitant typing 'a mom that doesn't like parenting....', but knowing from my upbringing (I'm 45).... My brothers and I played outside (yes, until the street lights came on), kids weren't up their parents butts 24/7....it's having very negative and stressful ramifications with this set up of having to constantly entertain them, you don't want to throw them on an electronic device but it's the only peace you can get....

  • I'm sorry I know this is not supposed to be funny but this just made me almost pee my pants. I totally feel you. Some days are like why the h*** did I decide to do this. I love them so much. And they drive me so crazy.

  • I'm a mother of twins and 2 others that are older...and don't think they help just make more problems...my husbands works 12hr days I work 7 days..my family suck they dont help....yes we love our kids but it seems that there is more bad times then good..one of my twins cry all the time 24/7it seems like...I hate it the min she opens her mouth my day is ruined..just a moment to my self a freaken dinner alone with my husband with no kids no crying no fighting no one running around screaming just 1 freaken dinner...they are with me 24 7 in the bathroom. Cooking cleaning you even have to lay there well they fall asleep which seems like tourcher to Mr

  • I agree and I'm a mom. I hate being a parent. I get no time to myself I can't even go to the store without dragging a baby along. It's so frustrating. My child father and I are together and he's still out living his life while I'm stuck in the f****** house all the time with a baby. I feel guilty but if I had a crystal ball that would of showed me what my life would of been like i would of gotten my tubes tied.

  • You people must be stupid to NOT see how your lives will be like sin kids...WAKE UP!

  • Literally reading this board n others tonight I am getting sterilized...

  • I live in as in a beige cement jail to..maybe we should talk?

  • We always find excuses to be miserable.... Kids, no kids, job, no job, wife no wife. There's always something to complain about and you know what?
    There's nothing wrong with hating your life, we all do but very few are honest enough to admit it. Conclusion: we're all in the same boat. Just find a way to enjoy yourself every once in a while. Find your balance. And remember, it can always get worse :)

  • Nope. I don't have kids, I'm almost 40 with the body of a 20 year old. I love my life! I am married to the love of my life. I live at the beach. I have a couple of different vehicles to chose from depending on my mood for the day when I go out. My husband and I golf on the weekends and go out dancing once or twice a week...we are not all in the same boat at all :D

  • Us childfree do look younger (lots of sleep)

  • You're brilliant!

  • I just translated that to move to Colorado and get your medical marijuana card lol

  • This!

  • Me to b***** kids are eating away all my good years voice going out from yelling all the time head hurting the f****** mess they constantly make I'm 24 and have 3 I'm thinking about leaving my fiance and threes little h*** raising brats and just living for me I mean missed all the good time had kids since 15 .... f*** life with kids suck

  • Wow. We're you THAT bored to breed? There's more to life than being a slave to lil monsters that may be ungrateful. Loving a dog is way more rewarding.

  • 24 with three kids? Yeah, those are some pretty poor life choices you made there.

  • I feel the exact same way ... Spot on

  • 24 with three kids? You could have avoided that misery. Does not one know where to get condoms anymore?

  • I feel the same way the problem is the times has changed a women has less responsibility
    When I was a kid coming up my dad never watched me never helped me do homework or even cook he brought home MONEY and my mom took care of the kids now a days the wife gets a job making little to no money and does less than half of the work around the house or in the house so now not only is the father a bread winner but a mother too!! But try to explain that to your wife she will look at you like you have two heads

  • My feelings exactly!

  • F*** you

  • I agree with you! What an ass!

  • You are so wrong - do a little reading and you'll find out that women do the majority of the housework and work outside the home.

  • Women are capable of being breadwinners now... I double my husband's salary.

  • Dude you're f***** up. If both people are working both people parent.

  • No matter who works and who stays ho0me, if you made those children, or agreed to raise them, you BOTH parent. Also, Dad, watching your own kids alone is not babysitting.

  • I applaud your honesty and it is comforting to read I am not alone in how I feel. We love out kids and spend every waking moment caring for them. However it is trully a thankless job with what feels like no end in sight. To anyone who wants to condemn you for being honest about your feeling in the nicest way possible go fornicate yourself with a red hot fire poker. Walk a mile in our sleep deprived broken shoes and then you earned the right to your ethnocentric opinion. Until then to every parent who feels the way the author above stated we are not alone and even though we as parents feel defeated each day will bring a new fight and maybe just maybe a victory or two.

  • I'm childfree, I live within my means, I love kids but my family and best friend makes it their point to tell me the importance of having children. Apart of me desperately wants to give in to shut their mouths but after reading the many posts here, I think it's best to invest in my health and retirement. To all the parents out there who feel trapped and miserable, I sincerely hope that you all find some type of happiness and peace of mind.

  • I'm childfree as well, brought up by thinking having kids is the norm, so I think to myself "What would I get from birthing kids? Would they bring me happiness because they're min?" and my answer is nothing but probably unleashing a hellish nightmare that'll come into reality. My closest friends (4) are childfree and we just hang out and travel. We don't hate kids, just can't tolerate their bs and the passive parents who really don't parent. I'm here to please MYSELF, since it's MY life and I refuse to be a slave to a dependent being that'll ruin MY life. I don't care if I sound selfish and I'm not sorry for it. I've met women who are unfortunately brainwashed in thinking having children is a woman's purpose. I LOVE MY freedom and privacy. I rather regret NOT having kids (doubt it entirely) than regretting having kids and they don't come with receipts. In Bocca al Lupo

  • You've got it figured out. Do not have kids. Just focus on you. I wish I didn't that. I envy all my friends who are childless and have amazing lives because of it. Once you have kids you can't have any of that. They will ruin your life, not enrich it. Your family and friends just want you to join their misery. Don't. Also don't go to expensive college unless you're going to be an attorney or Doctor. Go to school for nursing, business management, accounting, IT or engineering. You'll get a high paying job that way and great benefits. Don't let anyone convince you to change your mind or you'll be typing this same thing to some other soul in the future as you get smacked in the head with a toy alligator. Also you can easily find a mate who also doesn't want kids so don't let people think otherwise. They're out there. Younger people are more aware these days that they're being sold lies that parenthood is the goal and they're realizing the great financial and personal costs of parenthood. Use protection or don't have s**. If you're a man don't trust a girl to be on birth control. Use a condom, pulling out doesn't always work, trust me. If you're a woman then get and iud and use a condom. S** seems great but if you're not careful you'll end up with a lifetime commitment just for an o*****. You do you. I'm 100% serious as this is what I would have said to past me if I could.

  • I am also childfree, reading these confessions definitely helps me not feel bad about my life decisions. H***, my brother now has 4 kids so he had enough for the both of us, lol

  • I agree 100%. I have thought about suicide many times to escape. I feel like a trapped animal.
    Having kids is the biggest scam ever created. The moments of joy cannot compare to the total absolute misery they cause daily.

  • Would you rather live in H*** for eternity or suck it up as a mortal on earth?

  • You'll be in H***, but whichever you prefer. You're in a lose-lose situation. A life of children that may leave you (hence may) or an eternal damnation? You brought them here. Now do your job

  • I too feel this. I went from having an amazing life to crying inside every day. The worst are the fools who come around and tell me how "it's such a joy." I'm so frayed that I don't even lie anymore. I will look an acquaintance in the eye and tell them that I've destroyed a beautiful life and now I'm a slave to an unintelligible sack of flesh. I am just too depressed to even care how it sounds. I tried to keep up the facade, but it's one thing for your life to turn to ashes in your mouth. Another to be called upon to praise the taste.

  • I feel your pain

  • I totally wish I was stronger and didn't cave in when my wife insisted on kids. I'm 43 yrs old now and have wasted my whole adult life taking care of kids. the biggest problem is that I have no one to blame but me.

  • That's exactly it, and exactly why I'm still here. I can't blame her, I'm the one who went in without a battle buddy/helmet. I didn't get my vasectomy like I had told myself to do when I was single but kept putting off. F****** idiot.

  • Omg. I couldn't agree more! Constantly people told my husband and I to have kids, you'll regret it if you don't, they are wonderful...this was 15 years ago. Never did I dream of feeling good this way as a result. I wish someone just would have shared a message like this once to me...just once two kids ago. I wish I was born in this day in time when people freely talk about not having kids. Had my first and immediately the regret began. Then I had a dumb idea...if I have another may be then this one will stay out of my hair and they will play with eachother not thinking about the fighting!! I want out so bad! But I can't...probably the worst feeling in life to have to go through bc it's a mistake that comes with it an 18 years sentence. I wish I would have been educated...! I'm mad at myself all the time because I made this choice. My husband told me he was bored at 22 and thought we should have a kid. So what did I do...okay everyone thinks we should anyway. People are a*******. I would tell anyone right now....don't have kids!! And share why but not once did we receive this information! Not until it was too late and we already began feeling the regret! I have a 2 and a 5 year old whom I love so much but am in constant turmoil. What torture this is...I'm trying to deal and still try to live my life but sometimes the regret hurts so mUch it brings me to tears. I have just graduated nursing school and have reached my goal weight of 120 pounds and look amazing. I still feel so down sometimes. I'm so glad there are others out there that feel this...I was beginning to think I'm just mentally messed up.

  • Totally agree. There's a young guy I work with who tells me I'm the best form of birth control there is because I'm brutally honest about what it's like to have kids - I have two :( I keep telling him not to do it!

  • Good. For. You. For about a year there I just gave in to bullshit parenting, got fatter, didn't care about my job. But I jumped back into school, and have started hitting the gym again...damn, the difference it makes. Please keep it up- and keep spreading the good word!

  • 2 and 5 are young ages. My kids are 7 and 9 now and it is so much better. There are still hard moments - especially with the fighting, sometimes it never stops - and I often feel like my nerves are fried when I'm with them all day. But when they were 2 and 4, my life was unbearable. A TV writer I met said it so well when I asked him a few years ago if it gets better. He is a dad of kids a little older, and he said "It very gradually gets better." I can't tell you the number of times I have thought about that quote. And it so true. Hang in there day to day, and months will turn into years, and it will have gradually gotten better. You are not alone, and I'm not either!

  • Wow you guys are all a*******. Have you ever heard of an abortion or adoption? If you didnt want to be a parent then give the kid(s) up to people who will actually appreciate them! All of you are selfish p*****. There are millions of women and couples that desperately want children but cant have them. Be gratefull for your kids.They are the ones who are going to take care of your old ass when your drooling and p****** yourself.

  • I wish I could find out who you are so I could kill you. Self- righteous piece of human garbage. Light yourself on fire and burn.

  • Want mine?? You can have him. With all the money I save from not putting him through school and buy all kinds of other crap for him, I can pay a whole crew to look after me when I get old.

  • Wow, why are you on a I hate parenting forum if this is how you feel?
    It's comments like yours that perpetuate the guilty feelings we already have. Thanks for the update- but new flash, we are s***** parents, we get it and we are acknowledging it...you're a special kind of a******.

  • Then let them have our kids and our s*** lives. I welcome them to do so. We all do. Clearly, you are not a parent. I'll take your childless life. Let's trade.

  • What a douchy immature comment, just because there are people out there who enjoy parenting, who love their kids, and also people who cannot have kids and wish they could, doesnt make anyone else obligated to "suck it up" and deal with it, doesnt make anyone selfish for hating it, doesn´t make anyone obligated to give up their kids. what the f***.

  • Have a seat. I'm infertile because of PCOS. That doesn't mean I expect others to adjust their experiences because I or others can't have kids. What a selfish, ridiculous notion. Immature.

    Parents, I feel for you. Don't let self righteous douchebags keep you from venting or getting the help you need.

  • You clearly do not have kids.... i was in Iraq for a total of 4 years, that's right, 4 f****** years. I would go back to being shot at, IED's blowing up around my convoy, and having my other leg blown the f*** off before i would ever have another child. They are straight from the wrath of some sick sadistic 4th dimensional p**** watching planet Earth on an alien reality TV show. Put here for someone or something else's entertainment.

  • I've never had the honor of serving, but if it get me out of my baby h***, I'd gladly go with you.

  • I would trade this s*** to be back in Iraq in a *heartbeat*.

  • You clearly have no idea WTF you are talking about. I'll give you a day with my two kids (whom I love dearly, but cannot tolerate) and my horrible wife, and you will go straight home and castrate yourself. Guaranteed.

  • Nah I'd whip your kids straight and send your horribly wife away.

  • It's f**** like you that got us into this situation in the first place. Take your guilt ridden bullshit and go some place else

  • Actually no.....newsflash for ya. I work in long term care. Kids do not help out our care for their parents!! That's another falsehood..thinking kids will care for their parents. You might see the kids when MA & PA are on their deathbed. That's about it! Having kids to have someone to take care of you when your old is selfish!!!!!!!! Trust me, don't have them...enjoy your short life kid & stress free! The world is over populated calm your ego that thinks we all need your offspring. Geez! Hahaha

  • Ya for 5 years we tried and tried. Spending lots of money to have alittle bundle of joy. But I too regret it. Because nothing can prepare you for it.

  • Once you have kids, you'll understand.

  • Bet you dont have any children do you? You seem naive. Have one or two that will, wisen you up. So one sided. Bet bet bet you dont have any children. Wanna borrow my 1?That will change your mind. Ever had someone bite you because you didnt want them to swallow spray disenfectant? Told him last time he tried to stick something potentially harmful in his mouth he wasnt gonna have to worry about whatever he swallowed because i was gonna kill him myself. Ahhhhh the joys of parenthood. I hate it too. But love that little f***** so. He is, after all, but a reflection of myself.

  • Shut the f*** up you judgmental t***.

  • What a b**** u r..... U must b a Christian....

  • Really? The way american society and british ( were i live) structure family i dont think you can bet on that. Parents desperate for their children to move out, ( i have to beg My mum to let me move out) grandparents who doesnt care about their grandchildren etc.. Im a step mum full-time. And My Own mother come to take care of them from another country 5 times a year for 2 weeks each time so i can relax. The children Own grandparents who live a few our away by car wont do that. Lacking family values Is a dangerous thing.

  • It's not the responsibility of extended family to watch their kids.

  • Ya dumbass people who want kids. They wouldn't want them if they knew the h*** they bring.

  • They Being h*** if you dont ríase them properly and if you dont know how to compartimentalise and all you do Is be around your kids.! Go to work, hang out with your friends, go out with your partner, you can do the same things you use to do just not as much. All my friends have little kids we still go party on Saturday night ( not every Saturday but when we want) go out for dinners in couples and do a lot of adult social life without the kids. There is thing called grandparents and nannies

  • It was bad enough raising my own kid. Theres no way I would ever babysit a grandchild!

  • Grandparents and nanny are dead

  • Then hire a new nanny. They make more of them all the time.

  • Money you dumb ass!

  • That's only if you have family to watch the little ones, or the finances to afford a nanny/babysitter/etc. A lot of us don't. Hence the hardship and lack of an escape.

  • There Is also a thing called being a single parent with no family around to help. And the bitterness of paying out the ass to timebox a "fun activity" for myself for something most people (that being kid-less people) aren't paying a dime for...simply getting out of the house, in itself fuels the frustration and shines a brighter light on the fact that pleasures are a struggle to come by.

  • I went crazy when I was 'infertile'. Couldn't live with the idea of being childless. I now have two IVF kids and I love them for sure. But man, parenthood is a f'in bust. I never in a million years imagined that I could hate something so much. I didn't know I would feel this way. I am sorry if you cannot have kids - really. But be careful what you wish for. Might be a blessing in disguise. Just sayin'. And yes, I worry every day that they won't do well in life and will end up in my f'in basement. Pass me the bullets.

  • That's what happens when you ignore what God was trying to tell you, but since you wanted them SO DESPERATELY bad for a past time...

    FYI: God pities mothers these days and compliments childfree, well "barren" women. I wonder why.

  • I guess it is like they say. You don't know what you've got (infertility) until it's gone.

  • A-flippen-men

  • I hear ya sister! Be careful what you wish for!

  • Actually, there's no guarantee that your offspring when they reach adulthood will be willing or able to care for you in old age as hoped.

  • My fucjking n***** wife put me in the corner, she locked my a****** and threw a noose around my neck and spread my ass and stuffed me like a chicken she pushed meat in my ass and now i have to s*** it out all over my f****** road map so i cant see whgere the F*** im going anymore thius life wasnt meant for me and my four RETARDED children, (ok only one of them is retarded) because my N***** of a wife was snorting f****** amphidextrine and cocaine solution out of a f****** nose spray bottle for the last four months of her f****** pregnancy can u believe that s*** this f****** b****. I cant legally probe it but every day when im changing that autistic faggots diper and pouring milk down his throat all i see is red and its fucjking ONE more autistic tantrum and visit withy his doctor thats going to send me over the edge my bank account is p***** itself all over the streets and im about ready to stick a gun so far down my throat that it lodges itself outside of my a****** and when i pull the trigger it will rip right through my a*** tract and straight into my w**** of a wifes f****** p**** so tyhat she cant have anymore f****** kids when i hate f*** her and spray blood c** into her f****** ass. I hate my life and i hate my four f***** kids and im going to tie myself off and crash head first into the first single male that i see for the offense of not going through what i go through every single second of my barren s*** f****** destroyed life i hate everything im going to kill myself right now

  • 🤣 you deserve to have kids! Enjoy remaining broke and miserable peasant.

  • She wasn't a n***** when you pumped those kids that didn't ask to be born in her. Breeder loser. No one feels sorry. You put this upon YOURSELF. God help you...

  • Dude, I say this out of love, but you might want to look into some help. There are free helplines you can google. Someone to listen can help. Put aside the haters. There are always going to be there someone. You're clearly in incredible pain. Try and get some space for yourself.

  • You are a f****** waste of space. I would say go ahead kill yourself then but you don't have the b**** to do it. I'm sure you neglect and abuse your kids. You just seem like a welfare case living off the system. Who always says poor me! Keep your d*** in your pants because for f**** sake no one wants you to reproduce! Piece of s***!

  • Kill this idiot. It might make you feel better.

  • That is a f****** horrible thing to say about a defenseless child who didn't ask to be born. Have a heart you f****** Jack Wagon! There's a nice warm seat for you in h***! I have Kids and yeah it's hard but man up for f*** sake! Jesus Christ you make my skin crawl. Child services should come and take your child away since you don't seem capable of doing it. You seem rather ignorant! ( you do know what that means I hope). If you didn't want 4 kids them you should wear a f****** condom!

  • Maybe you should offer to help him if his attitude bothers you so much. Send him some money or volunteer some time. But that would require you to do something other than criticize. One thing's for certain; your useless judgments aren't going to help him. So maybe just shut the f*** up if you can't say something constructive to say.

    To the op, get help fast. There is no shame. You do not have to do this alone. See if you qualify for counselling. Find a group for parents of autistic kids. Only 2 things matter in this life: survival and not rotting away your life in jail.

  • G******* ur a mess....I feel much more in control now, then when first reading...

  • HAHAHAHAH holeeee sheeet wow we are all a bunch of f***** up people

  • You are a scary piece of s***. Please kill yourself before you hurt your children. Saying "you can't legally probe it"... omg, you need to die. You need to be gone, like pronto.

  • How compassionate. You aren't any better than him; encouraging suicide. Maybe he should kill you; it might make him feel better. I'd be happier.

  • You aren't any better for being happier if someone committed murder. Mm ouch!

  • Don't tell people to kill themselves you f****** ignorant a******. He has obviously gone mad with resentment & does not need your useless holier-than-thou judgement to make him feel worse & push him over the edge. What the f*** makes you so much better than anyone else??

  • Being a new dad 2months now I really know what it truly feels to not wanting to be a parent at least with someone you never really wanted to be with due to her constant nagging and lazy attitude towards our daughter with whom I love cos am from a family of 8 and I know what parents do to their kids and show how much they mean,but when I complain of nagging and lazy attitude it sterns from me birthing the child while the mother sits on her phone to me feeding her because she cannot breast feed because she never actually tried I knew all this was coming for a long time because her mom did exactly the same with her but it's unfortunate not all mothers know what true parenting is neither do all dads but at the end we can't choose our family and that's how sad I look when I see my daughter because she didn't choose to be in this but like I promise myself I will give her all I have because she is all I got.my only regret is raising a child with someone you don't love because of how their attitude speaks for them am very tolerant but sometimes I really wona get away but my biggest fail will be to leave my daughter in the care of her mother she will grow up isolated from life itself which I wasn't as a child she has cousin's from my part but none from my patner because she is the only child and am scared of her going in the same directions as her mom it will b a generation of no love if it goes on.

  • I can certainly relate to the original poster. I can't stand my kids sometimes. They are eating all my money, all my time, my sanity, my happiness, holding back my career, my retirement plans, etc. I worry often that I may resent them. That's not what I want. I had a rather worthless, but loving, father, I try to be...I AM a much better father and provider. My children want for nothing, they go to great schools, expensive activities, lavish vacations. Basically they have everything I never did. I can't stand my wife, can't stand my job. I feel i was tricked into the third kid by wife. But, as the poster above so clearly put it, they didn't ask to be born. But here they are. Nobody will ever care for them like a parent will. And one day, they will thank me. Maybe buy me that Porsche that I could have had were it not for college funds and nannies. As much as I like to complain, life without them....would be empty. It only takes a few days apart before I feel the void in my life. All the things we are missing as parents are superficial in the long run. All that glitters is sure to fade, free time, hot women, material possessions will not matter one bit when you are, old grey and alone. I can guarantee you all that the embrace of family will be more meaningful to you in the end than anything you as a parent has had to sacrifice. I try not to regret and resent, it's cancer. Sometimes it's hard to see past, but we as humans, need other humans. Look at that, I just talked myself out of self loathing...at least for a little bit.

  • I feel like when I gave birth, I didn't die physically, but everything else died, my dreams, my personality,my life, my self, died. I have been trying my best to raise my kids the best I can for 9 years and my ex husband cant seem to understand why I've let myself go and become such a loser, I have never brought myself to tell anyone before how soul destroyed I feel

  • Blame your ex for help ruin you. Wrap it up! But you're at fault as well for allowing yourself to get knocked up.

  • It's scary how this could have been written by me, just change the location and number of kids. Before we had children, my wife was constantly pushing me to have kids because she had always wanted them. I put it off for a long time, being a bit apprehensive and not having much to do with kids before I didn't know what it would be like. I finally gave in and said let's stop being careful and see what happens. Worst idea ever! She was pregnant straight away. Second kid was a miracle as I was using so much protection so as not to have another, but he made it some how (definitely mine, he looks like a mini me). I hate almost every moment of fatherhood. My wife and I are tired all the time. I do the late night thing too, so I can have some time to myself while my wife is asleep at 9. I got a vasectomy so to make sure of no more, except there was no point as there's barely a s** life with kids and our nighttime habits. I love my wife so much and couldn't leave her as she would be devastated. Plus I would feel so guilty lumping her with all the responsibility and hate the thought of all the judgement of leaving the wife and kids from friends and family. I wouldn't cheat, it's mean, plus who has the time for that! I'm so so depressed and no one knows, I try to keep it in. As far as everyone is concerned in just the cool, fun dad I should get an oscar for my performance. I hate my life.

  • Sorry if I'm bragging but dude, but cheer up. Easy said than done I know but be positive, your kids will be grateful to you. But to get my point across: I'm 35 and I met my true love with the same interests as me, (he's 49 btw) and THAT seemed impossible since I met a LOT of men who want kids but aren't committed and they look at me weird like I'm an alien when I proudly admit I don't want kids. Not all women want to be mothers, it's not all women's joy/happiness to be mothers. So, yes, we're childfree and we both don't want kids. He's already gotten a vasectomy, so he's been serious in not wanting to become a dad and that reeled me in; so we've been traveling every 5 months, he spoils me, and yes s** whenever he or I want it. I'm still on the pill just in case for swimmers but so far so very good. Out of topic maybe, but I'm so glad we don't have kids. If they're not a need, then they're a want. But hang in there. I just rather raise a puppy than a child ANY given day. God Bless

  • You just have to organise your self. I have to step kids full time as the father ( my husband) has full custody. When that happened they were 7 and 8 and even tho they were not baby's they acted like it. Just got them to change their habits lost of discipline ( with love of course) and my husband and I manage to have s** not every day but almost. Sometimes you need to tell the children " I love you but go away you are being annoying " " amuse your self" " etc ... Show them to respect you as a human being who has it's needs and not like a maid for them"

  • I hate my life too and totally relate and I'm a mom. I miss my old life and wish I never had kids.

  • I agree with you and I'm a mother. I love my daughter very much, but ive been miserable since I got pregnant. I dream of the life I had before this.

  • I related to all of this. Love my kids. But wish I'd never had them

  • I feel this way more and more often lately and it's horrible. I am having one of those days where it's non-stop whining and crying no matter what I do and I'm home alone with them all week. I miss the freedom we had before kids and I feel like my marriage is massively suffering because of it. Always thought I wanted them and now it's my biggest regret..

  • It's annoying when a man feels like s*** I shouldn't have had children he's an a****** but when a woman says that that means she's pro choice give him a f****** break

  • Punctuation, dude. No idea what this says!

  • Wow, you have four children! Perhaps you could have considered stopping after the first one if you so vehemently "hate" parenthood? Guess what, there is a revolutionary new (!??) thing called birth control. Well, hindsight is indeed 20/20.

  • Why why did I have kids!

  • You probably thought that o***** was worth it and realized it wasn't. Blame yourself...

  • There are days when I want to get in my car and just leave. I don't do it because I know I couldn't live with myself. I have moments where I completely regret having my daughter. I gave everything I had to a kick ass career for 8 years and had to put it on the back burner so I could change diapers and watch Sesame Street. Being a mother is the hardest thing I've ever done. Being pregnant and then breastfeeding makes you feel like your body doesn't belong to you. And it doesn't, anymore, not really. You get smacked and have your hair pulled and some days you have to give everything you've got to not just walk away. But you love them. And it's family. And everyone is a pain in the ass. All you can do is try to not raise a douchebag. The planet is crawling with them already.

    That being said.... Side note..... If you don't have kids, you really don't have a dog in this fight. All of the " I'm baby free and loving it" s*** isn't helping anyone here except you. The f*** are you doing on a confessions about parenting thread anyway?

    Telling someone that they should have thought about this before and pulled out, worn a condom, etc.. is like asking a dead person what time they plan on getting out of bed. Hindsight is 20/20, a*******.

    People looking down on or assuming someone is stupid because they are a stay at home parent is about the coldest damn thing you could do. If you don't live in the trenches of parenthood you have NO IDEA what you are talking about. S*** is brutal.

  • Childfree people share their experiences to help young people make a more informed decision regarding parenthood. What they have to say is just as valid, including the judgement. I suspect you didn't stop at one, which is where a lot of the judgement comes from. So many parents don't enjoy the first experience so it's nonsensical to keep having more. Being a parent is not a requirement in life...parents need to step up and be honest instead of wishing their misery on others.

  • They just exposed themselves being miserable and lie to us "children are worth it" with fake cheerful yet eerie emotions. Misery loves company. Only the fools will fall for their trap. There are a LOT OF fools here...

  • I understand all that but not all is black or white. If you had a kick ass career wouldn't have been better to go back to work after maternity leave? Instead of feeling regreat for what you left? Being Spanish and living in England I just see a massive diference in how women ( and men) approach parenthood. In Spain no woman will stop working to take care of her children, the don't need lots of time, but quality time. Maternity leave is just 16 weeks after that mum is back to work and baby to the grandparents who normally are very helpful , to the nursery or at home with the nanny and for sure the won't stop having a social life ( will relax a bit of course) I have been partying until 5 am with one of my friends and her husband just a moth after they had a baby. My best friend is Spain has 4 kids under 5 and she works full time and has a better social live than me ( she does have a nanny every day and a living in au pair) Spanish mums seem always happy and enjoy their kids.
    In England tho mums can't barely go back to work as there is like a social stigma of leaving a baby with a nanny plus they are a very paranoid society about living kids with anybody. Once kids are old enough to go to nursery you can't still go to work as you would need to pick the baby up before you work day finish, the same with primary school, schools don't help mums with transport or flexibility in pick ups or drops. Most families don't live in the same town/ citie as the grandparents which are normally not very helpful
    Women feel lonely, with lives that revolves around children and that can't go to do almost anything if is not with the children. Obviously this is not a fulfilling life for anybody no matter how much you love your kids. Is not about the kids is the way of life

  • Geez....poor grand parents in Spain. They raise their kids...then their kids kids....Geez. no thanks!

  • Reread post.... Spanish woman work! SO that means the grandmas worked....

  • Childfree people read these things to remind themselves why they do not want kids. I know I do.

  • YUP!!!!! Not worth it! All the money and dual income to ourselves! Been going to Disneyland every once a month and our dogs are babysat. Childfree IS the way to be. So many sad sites of parents venting and backpedaling. Should've thought that through meticulously

  • Yeah same, I actually have been floating around the web to try and change my mind to have kids, then I read these boards and am all "nope, original instinct was correct."

  • Same! Stories like these are just reassurance that I made the right life choices. I'm posting this while sitting in a quiet, clean house with a purring cat on my lap. Nothing to do this evening, maybe vacuum a bit or watch a movie. And then get plenty of sleep. Maybe I'll take a trip out of town this weekend. The possibilities are endless, and the freedom is wonderful. Why would I give any of this up?

  • So sad. You are sitting with your cat. Alone trolling for a site that makes you feel better that you are childless. Basically you are that cat lady down the street. First you need to be in an actual relationship to even consider having kids but seeing as how you and your cat are hanging out makes me think you are single. And obviously you have very few friends since you listed vacuuming as an activity you are going to do tonight. Because you feel bad about not having a life or kids doesn't mean you should be on this site blabbing you have all this free time. People here actually have adult problems they are trying to work through. Go play on Facebook and post pictures of you & your cat. Don't worry you will still be as pathetic and lonely there too. You are just trying to make yourself feel better about your situation in life. Which is ALONE!!

  • I rather be alone (with my cat) than miserable with kids like you. 😘

  • You sound bitter and jealous...

  • Someone's salty. Cat ladies rock.

  • The broad or p**** hasn't slept in days, smells of kids, sticky, no time to her/himself, frazzled and filthy like a diaper. I'd be p***** off too LOL I rather take pictures of my cat or dog doing more than 15 things than a baby that can only do 3 things. Lame!

  • Awwww someone's nerve is strucked. The only person who feels bad or like crap here is you. I rather be alone or single IN PEACE than miserable with crotchfruits like you. Kids do NOT guarantee making you company. You DO realize they're individuals right? They might leave to another country or die before you do or simply grow up to hate you for some stupid pubescent angst reason (think about that). I don't need kids to validate my existence like you did. You're mad at your own life, don't take it out on me. I'm going to sleep uninterruptedly for 8 hours now. Our house is so tidy! *sips tea

  • Chill out.... nothing personal right?

  • It's just mad cuz it wish it was intelligent enough to avoid having kids and being stuck. They're mad at themselves for their own stupidity. Stupid people grow angry easily.

  • Hahaha, lord knows when I have a free moment I think to myself "I think I'll vacuum"...ffs

  • Chores have to get done...at least they only have to vacuum and not clean up p*** lol.

  • Lol u ass!

  • OMG....I laughed reading this! That's exactly why I'm trolling here. To remind myself how miserable my life could've been! Hahaha I'm childfree... (not childless) and loving it. Some times I think oh maybe I'm missing something. Pop on here....boom..yep, I'm on the right path. Always have been.

  • Completely agree with ya bud

  • Keep telling yourself that. You wouldn't be here unless you were looking for an excuse to feel better about being childless.

  • I actually DO feel FANTASTIC being CHILDFREE. All the money I earned and spend for myself, all the 10 hours of uninterrupted sleep I get, looking youthful rather hideous, I can go on because I saw ahead...you?

  • ChildFREE idiot. We don't want to be in your H*** like the rest of these people on here complaining and regretting. I know I feel FANTASTIC and I ain't missin s***! Yat! Freedom!

  • Not true.... they know in their heart.

  • Go F*** yourself!

  • That's why I am on here, too. I'm a 27-year old woman and everyone tells me that I will change my mind, but I know I won't. I can barely stand my friend's kids... so I know that I shouldn't have my own. I am very self-aware, especially when it comes to kids. I like kids....but I don't like them enough to give up my entire life for them. Thank you all for sharing your stories. You make me feel very secure in my decision to remain childfree. Keep your heads up.

  • At least you can admit your selfish and that's why you don't want kids. The other a******* who post here that are childless don't even say why they are childless. Don't have kids seems like you would be a terrible parent.

  • Childfree selfish? You must own a mirror. Actually, considering you're a parent and look horrid, I wouldn't either. Parents are 1000% selfish. Fact.

  • How do you know if he or she will be a terrible parent? That's what YOU miserable parents go-to project obviously "you'd be an awful parent blahblahblah" well that's why we don't want kids or else we'll be on here ranting about suicide or killing. LEAST WE KNOW! What other things do you know abt his or her life? It's amusing you keep coming up with conclusions. Go on, tell him or her that they're a lucky childfree person that was smart enough not to get knocked up or get someone knocked up, whom shops for whatever they want and chills at home, having all the s** they want and hours of sleep.

  • ChildFREE. Free from having children ruin our lives. Which NONE OF you idiots failed to do. CHILDFREE! Get your facts straight at least! Your kids shouldn't make you stupid now

  • Bitterness at its finest. Us childfree people take great delight in our decisions when people like you post :D

  • You're post is perfect!!! Us childfree DO feel better reading this. Now we understand when others who secretly aren't happy with their decisions, pressure us to join in their misery or insult us! Nice try idiots! You achieved NOTHING.

  • I love my life being childless. I wish this was available to my friends and family members 20 years ago. I feel sorry for my Mom and Dad

  • Sure you do. Keep telling yourself that and keep trying to convince yourself you don't want kids. keep reading the posts to make yourself feel better that you don't have kids and your biological clock is ticking

  • There's no such thing as biological clock. You obviously do out of desperation and other stupid reasons. Childfree or people in general don't have those. Pro-Natalist moo. You just projected. Awwwwww

  • Childless refers to wanting a child and feeling like you're missing out on it.
    Childfree is when you're adamently happy about your decision NOT to have children.
    There is a difference! ^_^

  • Go f*** yourself

  • If they go f*** themselves will still be happily childfree.

    I think if you're going for a mean-spirited retort you might try "go f*** another person so that it results in a child"?

  • Wish I was still childless :/

  • ChildFREE darling. What's with you parents not telling your partner you don't want kids? How complicated is it?! Now look at you! Seriously LOL

  • Same here. This just reaffirms every guy

  • Me too

  • Ditto.

  • Yeah, I thought the person saying "hindsight is 20/20" was being a j***...but perhaps that's the only high and mighty moment that person gets. I feel like having kids is pushed on to everyone and you feel like you'll miss out on "the best part of life" if you don't, and then so many people go along this path and figure out it's h*** for them. Abortion and adoption suggestions are such stupid suggestions on this site. Those don't come without major consequences or are impossible...it feels like parenthood is this situation that people get stuck in and are socially and legally and emotionally trapped for the rest of their lives.

  • The "appreciate them or give them to someone who will" is a flatly stupid suggestion. There are over 3K kids in the foster system in my state alone. While better than the terrible situations some of these kids were inevitably in - it's a flawed and lonely support system. Decent people can't walk away from their kids. Even if they desperately want to. And not every kid has someone to take them.

    Pressure to parent is real. It comes from everywhere. Potential grandparents, media, well-intended friends, and coworkers. I chose not to have them and until recently, was 99%. I still feel the pressure to make my final decision. It's not surprising so many find themselves in it before realizing it's not what they want.

    I appreciate the perspective of the parents here. I wish you some relief. Hopefully things get better.

  • I agree people with no kids shouldn't talk ...I don't have kids and I'm on the fence but reading you guys post definitely puts things into perspective. I guess that's why am here because I'm just I don't want kids in I want to see if having kids is really the best thing I can do like everyone says

  • Everyone is entitled to share their opinion and experiences. There are two sides to every argument, both should be considered, especially for people on the fence.

  • I see your point but you go from OTHER people's perspective about gambling the life of an innocent and new individual into being brought into this world? That's like like everyone says "eating chocolate is the best thing" and you find out you're allergic to it. That's asinine. Just ask yourself if you want or "need" one. Simple as that. Babysit before jumping into something that's permanent and no escape

  • Honestly some of these people are obviously mentally unstable. Every parent goes through days they want to just jump off a cliff. But to even remotely think about basing your decision to have kids on what some of these morons are saying is ridiculous. I mean half of them can't spell or use correct grammar! Consider the source when deciding on the kid thing. It's not easy but some of these people should have their kids taken away by child protective services!!

  • Actually, we shoukld talk. Cause clearly we have the foresight that parents seem to lack.

    Listening to us would have prevented all of this lol.

  • Whenever I see a Preggo, I just pity her, she looks nice now, then when that thing is born. A before and after pic appears. Ew!

  • You are so not alone in this.....you give up everything to raise decent kids

  • I do not agree, I feel is the way of life. The country you are in. And the support you have., I'm a very decent person. Morally and academically I'm a lawyer with a minor in economics and master's degree. Also speak two languages. My parents didn't give up anything to raise me. Not before their divorce or after. They have a huge group of friends, many of them since school. Went out for dinner at least 2 a week. My mum out with her friends every Friday. And every cultural event that happened in our city. Carnival, classical music festivals, etc... Holidays.. I would stay with my grandparent or a baby sitter. The had fun, always enjoy their life, so they never through at me that they had miss out something becous of me ( becouse the didn't ) I considered I had great parents who they still support me every time I need them. A child is a very important part of life not all your life. And I refused to let that happend but I guess is a cultural thing.

  • In theory that absolutely works. Unfortunately so many people lack funds because they were lazy after high school and decided to make a career out of a low level starter job (fast food, etc) and are now stuck and living off of tax payers. This seems to be generational, ignorance begets ignorance and each generation on those families get stupider and more entitled, but they insist on pooping out more kids.

  • Money you f****** idiot makes things easier. Having 2 people and extended family is very helpful dumb academic. Get your head out of a book and educate your self on different experiences.

  • Go to school and get an education and get a real job that pays for the type of life you have any.

  • I'm a mother and I feel the exact same way. I never wanted kids and at least tried to prevent the second one from happening, but thanks to good old modern medicine that was a huge flop. I hate all of the same things you mentioned. I also deal with an ADHD child with emotional issues. Every day dealing with him is enough to make me want to blow my brains out. I hate it and so few good things happen that all I remember are this s***** ones. I'm that person who if they had the chance, would go back in time and change everything. And because of all this I feel immense guilt. I feel like all the bad that happens is because I'm ungrateful about what I do have. I hate my life.

  • Don't feel guilty, you got dealt a s***** hand.

  • Don't feel guilty! It must be frustrating being in situation you have zero control over. Take time to do the simple things in life to make yourself feel happy. Watch the sunrise or sunset, listen to music, cry and please be kind to yourself. We can be our own worst enemies!

  • Hang in there. Everyday is better than the next here, too.

  • I AM GOING TO GET MARRIED AND ALSO DO NOT WANT ANY KIDS BASICALLY I HATE THE IDEA OF EVEN HAVING KIDS OF MY OWN.BUT WHATEVER SOCIETY I AM LIVING IN WILL NOT ALLOW ME MY DECISION EVEN MY TO BE HUBBY WANTS KIDS "HATE IT"WHY THE H*** I HAVE 2 FACE ALL OF THIS.MANY A TIMES I WISH AND PRAY GOD IF AT ALL I BECOME PREGENENT AND GIVE BIRTH TO A CHILD PLEASE LET ME DIE DURING THE DELIVERY PROCEDURE.I JUST DO NOT WANT 2 BECOME A MOM.I DO NOT WANT 2 DO THE COOKING,DIAPERS ALL NIGHT NO SLEEP AND TAKING CARE OF THE KID FOR WHOLE LIFE "I REALLY WANT 2 SCREAM DAT I HATE BABIES"

  • Then tell your Hubby before it's too late for him to meet someone else and have a family. Don't be a selfish b****. Get your tubes tied now and marry another person who hates kids. Then you can live happily ever after.

  • I had to read your post a few times to figure it out. Punctuation helps so much.

    It sounds like you're married to someone who wants kids and you don't. That's a fundamental incompatibility...does he know you guys don't agree on this? Is it possible to anull/divorce?

  • Humorous and disgusting how divorce is said like your returning something to the store....

  • That's what you have taken away from all of these posts? Not the fact that the people posting here seem half crazy! Yeah get your tubes tied.

  • As opposed to living a sham life and regretting your child and husband every time you look at them.

  • I had to end my engagement because he wanted kids and I knew I never would. I loved him to pieces, but I love me more. I couldn't ruin my life by having kids I didn't want. You have to do what's best for you.

  • You ma'am have b****. So proud of you to break that chain. ✋

  • That I agree with. It's ok to be selfish and know it and to let the other person go. So he can meet someone who wants what he wants. Good for the both of you. He dodged a bullet and doesn't even know it! He will meet someone and have a wonderful life with his new family.

  • You have got it so right. Wasted my life raising two sniveling and bickering little attention intensive ingrates, and then having to settle for the odd crappy hand-job after begging wifey because she likes to sleep by 9 PM, and then having to remenisce about some teen sweetheart I used to boff, just so that I can get off from that s***** hamdjob and feel some relief. Oh f*** that. I have now built up a second household contents and saved enough for my own house and business. In my early forties and being a good looking guy with all of my hair and an above average face and good job thankfully, I've found myself clever, sexy, engaging women in their early thirties who want to bang the h*** out of me and have intelligent conversations and visit interesting places and earn the luxuries I have to offer. Why should I stick around with my 49 year old, always tired wife and two bickering little idiots? F*** THAT !! F*** it bro.

  • You remind me so much of this guy that goes into the casino here all the time. He is in there all the time because he has nothing else to do and he got a really young escort pregnant. Everyone makes fun of him because he's a big, gross loser. That's you.

  • You seem like a complete f****** Tool! Obviously You think very highly of yourself. Good for you. I'm pretty sure you will be single forever. Enjoy all that banging and STD's! I feel bad for your wife. But she's better off without you it sounds. Remember your gonna age too! Soon you will be an old, out of shape, lonely, childless man. Good for you big guy! Pathetic!! Oh by the way your wife is tired because you don't do anything to help so she is running herself ragged taking care of you and your f*** trophies. Guess what younger women like myself look at men like you and laugh with eachother. We actually do have you pegged as a tool! We will let you buy us a drink so we don't have to spend money but prefer you just send it down to us and stay on your own barstool. We don't want to talk to you. So I guess we get what we want out of you. Enjoy the herpes in sure you will get. Oh and I hope your wife finds a good looking younger guy with money who loves kids so when you come everyother weekend you can see how happy she is!

  • EARN THE LUXURIES YOU HAVE TO OFFER? Oh, good lord. I would guess being a stand up person is not a luxury they should expect. Do you provide complimentary hair care products or something?

  • I hope one of those 30something women decides to have a baby and borrows your sperm.

  • Love it!!

  • You are very selfish. I never wanted kids. I don't like kids. But it turns out that my 2 husband had 2. And wanted the full custody so here I'm am being their mum. Life is not always about what you want. But we do have s** almost everyday because we like each other. Is very disrespectful that you talk like that about your own kids. You raise them. No wonder they are ungrateful. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree

  • Actually, you made that decision, it wasn't luck or chance. I never wanted kids and would not date men that had kids...a very simple thing to avoid.

  • Im the same way. She probably was desperate like many women these days are. These people on here made it as an excuse of "it's not my fault but..." or "oops it came outta nowhere" you fools KNOW what you did! Hahaaaa childfree DOES correlate with intelligence.

  • She's tired because she has your two children you f****** dumbass! Give your head a shake.. I know it's not easy and voicing how you feel is important, but you made your bed. You have grass is greener syndrome. Soon enough those interesting younger women will want kids and you'll be in the same situation. Im sure your wife had her own life once too and was also an attractive younger woman, but she chose to birth your little s**** from her body. So put your big boy pants on and grow the f*** up. I'm a 27 year old mother and I f****** hate it sometimes too.. I get it dude but you are being completely self involved.

  • You selfish idiot - they are your children too and if you helped around the house maybe your wife wouldn't need to go to bed at 9. You are spending all that money on bimbos - maybe you should get a nanny instead and get your fun wife back

  • Almost everyone I know with kids has admitted to me they hate it sometimes. And many have also said they should have had one or two less. One kid seems to be the ideal in this world.

  • No. A kid is a kid is a kid. It's not easier, trust me, I'm mom to 1. You're still having to put time and energy that you just don't have into raising a decent human being. I knew this life wasn't for me so 1 is a massive responsibility I'm not cut out for.

  • Nah one is still more hassle than it's worth, I realised very early on that I wasn't cut out to be a mum so I didn't have more... Doesn't help that my husband is just an overgrown teenager himself and so I basically have two.

  • Holy s***. Did I write this in my sleep? The only difference is I have 2 kids. Strongly considering a divorce. Half the money would be worth the freedom and loss of stress. Prison would probably half the money and half the stress.

  • WOW REALLY I AM A WOMAN AND I STILL AGREE WITH U

  • I have thought about it my self....

  • See this is the s*** that makes me so fkn jealous of men... I can't walk away and just say f*** this s*** because then I'm a selfish horrible mother blah blah blah but no that's not it. I was raised with a certain mentality of not agreeing with abortion but now I'm like omg KILL ME. Guys can easily just say no I'm done I'm leaving and yeah half the money is lost but they get so much more freedom while the female is stuck picking up the slack and lord knows I don't want this. I feel like pregnancy is the absolute worst fkn curse ever, childbirth is brutal, and the end result is absolute madness and misery. Not to mention if you get stuck with the fkn genetics of a fkn cursed whale, the damn stretch marks- weight gain. Omfg no. I was skinny, great body, toned and happy most of all now I'm 26 miserable and never have time to do s*** because I have a job that keeps me trapped and just taken advantage of while I get not time to my damn self to workout, rest or even eat. I can list 5 different forms of torture I would rather endure than my life of time wasted and parenting with the risk of more children. Sweet lord men have got it way too easy and no hate here just straight jealousy. Oh and te worst part of it all is the lack of privacy, I've always had wuite the sexual appetite- nope not anymore. I'm not attracted to myself or my spouse and you know what they say "if you wouldn't f*** yourself who would want to?!". I can't even find something to be happy about because well there isn't anything. Parenting sucks. If I could give anyone advice is DO NOT HAVE KIDS OR GET MARRIED. Unless you can afford to get a nanny (that you won't wanna plow)---- or have the time to always work out and take care of yourself and make yourself happy...

  • That is true the guy can easily walk away but who wants to date a guy with kids, even if he never sees them?

  • YEP ME TOO WANT 2 JUST GET KILLED THANX 2 MY PARENTS NOW I AM TRAPPED WITH ALL THIS ETHICS AND ALL THE STUPID S***

  • Sameeeeeeeeeee.

  • Yep i could just copy and paste this feeling to myself. Just change a few things from AZ to OH. And were good. I cant drink either, i hate the taste, so i just smoke some wonderful marijuana to help get me through the dark days. Sadly i got some bad stuff right now so thats why you see me on here now...

  • Your honest and I understand completely. I hate being a parent too. It is a miserable mistake.

  • I hate being a parent too so I totally understand how you feel. Except my son is mentally retarded so I'm stuck for the rest of my life. Oh, wait. The politically correct term is "within the autistic spectrum." At least you'll be "free" when you turn 51. I'm trapped.

  • You never know what you're gambling...oh well. Welcome to real life. It's possibly bad karma.

  • I love this it made me laugh just as I wanted to throw myself under a train. I feel the same way as I have a son who is autistic a daughter who is asdum as two short planks and an anannoying 4 year old. I would never let this out because I don't want to hurt them so im glad I can let rip here.

  • I don't feel bad for you.

    CONDOMS prevent this misery. Too late for an abortion.

  • Go run in front of a Train

  • Why would i need to RUN in front of one? Theres one outside of my home that i bought at the age of 18 because i didn't have kids..

    Picture of train: https://accutemptexas.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/Trane-condenser.jpg

    /t

  • There's a car with a license plate reads "no kids" a nice car at that!

  • Yeah, well my husband was tested multiple times... STERILE. Still ended up knocked up in my mid-30s with a kid I didn't want. If even one person had been kind enough to tell me how horrible being a parent would be, I would have had an abortion. But NO, everyone says "congrats" and how much they love it... they are all lying. They have to be lying to make themselves feel better and to add more people to the miserable tribe of parenthood. I would blow my brains out except then I really wouldn't have any opportunity to live the life I wanted.

    I wonder if I can sue my husband's doctor to pay for a nanny to raise this kid...

  • If my man was, as the doctor examines and claims him "sterile", my Intelligent self would STILL be on the pill, I ain't risking our peaceful and luxurious life for an unwanted brat!! I wouldn't believe nor care what other people say, it's MY body and I would quickly have gotten rid of it at any chance I'd get! I work out that much to keep it naturally fit. I wouldn't trust all doctors, that's just stupid, you should've gotten more than 3 opinions haha

  • My boyfriend claims he's sterile.. he's so stupid.

  • Not a bad idea mid-30's with kid...

  • F*** yourself please. Condoms don't prevent s***. I was on four firms of birth control. Two kids later.
    F*** yourself. Again.

  • I don't believe you.

  • I know right. Probably some weak brand condoms or you forgot a contraceptive...

  • F*** off

  • Gee, a lot of hate for having kids in these comments. As a guy I can understand since I have my own and I certainly have my bad days with them, times where they really get on my nerves, where they are just simply impossible and even my own deep self doubts but I guess in my case I just came to a different view and maybe that's simply because my brains wiring was just always a certain way. In my case I'm glad they were born and I'm their dad despite all the lost sleep, medical bills, shared flu and being kicked, peed, crapped and vomited on many a time. Just thinking of not having had them in my life is naturally upsetting or thinking of something really bad happening to them or them disappearing like on the terrible news reports makes me immediately feel sick with horror.

    But I understand how this is not for everyone and empathize with the original confessors view and hope he can find something good amidst all of the disappointments and anger.

  • Thank you for your post! You are a beakon of light and desperately needed.

  • I wouldn't hate being a mom so much if the people who were supposed to be helping me raise my kids had helped me. Every time I see a couple taking their kids for a walk together I want to punch them.

  • I totally understand. ... my husband is always at work...all the grandparents suck... and i do it by myself 7 days a week

  • It's not the grandparents responsibility.

  • For real. They didn't make you get pregnant. You're a parent. Do your only job. He's probably cheating.

  • A f***** men!

  • If it wasn't for the kids, I'd left my wife years ago smh. Having kids is like having boulders hand-cuffed to each leg and carrying a sumo wrestler (wife) on my back. Getting nowhere fast. I wanted to be the fantasy man (Mr.Perfect/Right), but f*** it. If threaten, get married and have children or have your d*** chopped off, I'd be like "could you numb me first?"

  • OMG...that made me laugh so hard! Bahaha I'm a woman too! Funny s***.

  • You speak the truth

  • You've said everything I feel to the "T". Sometimes I feel like if I could trade in the wife and kids in for the world or at least a few million dollars, I'll do it in a f****** heart beat. How stupid of me to get an vasectomy after having two kids and not before? I agree, IT"S NOT WORTH AT ALL, SERIOUSLY! I think people who act like their kids and marriage are just the world to them are:full of s*** or REALLY like/love kids or only take care of them some of the time or have a lot of money (easier to deal with).

  • Not f****** worth it dude. So damn right

  • Dude...no one likes having kids...especially men. If they do, they are brainwashed, their wives are doing everything, or they have a nanny.

    I think they have to delude themselves, I bet there's a high correlation between people who say "Jesus Saved Me", and "I love my kids more than life itself."

    Having kids is the f****** worst....and what do you have to look forward to? After the tantrum years are over....you get maybe 4 good years outta them...then its teenagers.

  • I feel like this guy said everything I feel. I understand how you feel and hope it helps you to know that you are not alone.

  • Just this morning, I've nearly had it...but it's temporary. I only have one kid - I get it.

    Let me confess something that might help you. I was neglected growing up, with a father that was always travelling and never home, and a severely alcoholic mother. I had to take care of my mother so she didn't waste away, so I never had much of a childhood. I love my parents, but I'm not very close to them because of my experience growing up. We might talk once a year (I live on another continent).

    If there's one thing that you can feel better about with having kids, is that it's made you appreciate your old life more [life in general] - so just remember that when the kids do grow up and leave the nest and you have TIME to do the things you want to do, make sure you make the most of it..

    Since having my child, I've realized what I want to do with my life and I think that's what's made it harder for me. Do what you can to keep on keeping on in the meantime, but please be as good and caring of a parent as you can. You may be a lot older when they leave, but when they do ... you have the rest of your life to do what you want.....just make sure you make it worth it. Good luck - I totally get it.

  • I agree with you to a certain extend, parenting is forever not until your kid move out. I'm 35 my mother helps me with anything I need. Coming over if I feel ill to take care of me and husband is away. Buying clothes I saw online and send it to me. Money ( not any more but if I need she will) housing me when I go home, cooks for me. Help me with house chores when she comes. Comes and stays for a week if I'm moving house to help, walks the dog, comes with me to the doctor... And her mum does the same with her.. You are a mum forever.

  • Thanks for sharing. Def puts things in perspective. X

  • I started crying when I read this. My husband left me and I am alone with the two children, one had ADHD. I also just realized what I want to do with my career and am trying to balance both while also going to school. I miss my freedom so bad and then the days I think it's so unfair he just walked and I'm trapped here with this h***. The sound of them constantly crying and complaining and the messes. I'm exhausted I try to tell myself it's worth it but my god I just don't enjoy being a parent !!

  • How are you doing now? has it gotten better?

  • He ded

  • You're the one who chose to get cummed in.
    NOW DEAL WITH IT

  • You're such an ignorant F***... this is a man that wrote his feeling... men always trying to down grade a woman, but you're probable one that's always chasing a female... trying to get some ass. SIT YOUR IGNORANT, DISRESPECTFUL ASS DOWN... WORTHLESS LOSER... SMDH

  • Oops... typo... "Probably..."

    And to the rest of you, excuse my language, and I didn't mean all men... just ones like this stereotypical, judgmental, a******.

  • You dumb s***. Its a guy who is b******* and obviously you don't get it, so don't reply.

  • First I'd like to say I truly believe most of your problems stem from living in AZ! I'm from Boston - moved there when's son was 6 and stayed only 2 years! I was never so depressed. Luckily I had good neighbors who kept life fairly normal, but I started to have a couple of beers everyday to cope!

    Parenting is not easy, but at least you're doing it!

    If you need a laugh Arizona sucks website can give you some:)

    I'm guessing you are in Phoenix - I hate Phoenix.

    I had a neighbor who was from Mississippi and he use to tell his wife that if he died there she was to take him to New Mexico line to be buried lol!

    You're just tired, and let's face it everyday in Az is like f@cking Groundhog Day!

    Hang in there - try to take trips once in awhile for all of your sanity & move out of Satans playground as soon as you can!

    Good read : The Purpose Driven Life

    Good Luck! Your friend back in Boston!

  • Dude! Just leave!!! For the first few sentences I thought this was coming from the mom. If you are the mother you are screwed. You are stuck with the kids and your life is their lives. You cannot leave because society would stone you. But you're the father! Walk away!!!! You'll probably have to throw money at the situation but at least you can live somewhere else and get a more for-filling job. I am a mother and, although I love my kids, i hate this job. I love my husband but I think he hates parenting too. I have given him many opportunities to leave - all amicable. Why should we both have s***** lives?!

  • Sucks to be a kid growing up without a father too. Kids dont ask to be born, its a decision made by their parents. He should leave if his marriage is unfixable but honestly i fail to see why the mother should be the only one facing the consequences when both made the decision to have kids. Its difficult enough for two to parent these kids, so just imagine the burden on her if shes the sole parent. Leave the mother if thats what you want, but no matter how annoying kids can be, youre the one who put them into this world after all and the least u can do is be a little involved in their lives. You dont have to love having kids, but remember that there are enough neglected children in this world.

  • Some children don't want to know where they CAME from

  • No one said it would be easy and nothing can prepare you for having children it is incredibly difficult that's probably why so many children get abused, neglected or end up dead. It's a unpredictable journey with many twists and turns where you can only try to do your best but remember they are innocent beings and did not ask to be here. Those of you who did decide to take the plunge on the up side having children teaches you the true meaning of love, who those without will NEVER understand. It gives you patience, compassion, selflessness and the ability to be less self obsessed even though at times one may feel like pulling out their hair. And for those who live in lollipop land it's completely up to you whether you want children or not I'm all for freedom of choice but don't make others feel bad about it we are doing humanity a favour after all and if YOUR parents felt like you did you wouldn't be here enjoying the "luxurious" lifestyle your leading. Just take a minute to get your head out of your ass and remember the important things in life- the fast cars, big houses and money can't look after to you when your sick and dying it can only pay for strangers (who don't care about your actual welfare) to do that and all those material objects will certainly not mourn you after your dead and buried. Just a thought

  • Just because you have kids there is NO guarantee that they will take care of you when you get old and/or sick. When my grandfather on my dads side was in hospice all he wanted to do was go to his home to die ( which by they way his youngest son of 5 still lived and never moved out of) and my uncle refused. He couldn't "deal with it". So instead my grandfather died in some s***** nursing home a week later while that same uncle would go and get stoned. My other uncle who was power of attorney pretty much just used him his whole life and stole his money. Then when my 94 yr old aunt came down with dementia not one of my uncles , there are 5 sons on my dads side, was there to help care for her. If it wasn't for my mother ,who has no relation but through marriage, she would have ended up in some nursing home. Her own blood grand-daughter that she hadn't seen in 20 yrs only came to put her name as POA and pretty much walked away with about 50k and left her to rot with no money for her care. My mother took care of her for 3 yrs nonstop with the help of around the clock nursing aides. I, of coarse helped when I could. Now, on my mothers side it doesn't get much better... Kind of the same bullshit. 5 siblings, my mom lives out of state, Grown sons still living at fathers how with wife, kids and wife's extended family and my grandfather in his little room over drugged so he would sleep all day. Now my uncle and his wife are RNs and there were several time where he had to be taken to the hospital due to dehydration and malnutrition. He passed away last summer and it has come to light that my uncle and his wife were also stealing money from him to pay for cars and tvs and s***. My grandfather did have an aide that would come a few hours a day when my uncle and his wife would be at work. And they became close. I'm telling this story because sometimes family SUCKS and those people that got paid to care for my family were more caring and compassionate then blood!

  • Well that shows you the kind of values that people had! I rather die that let my mum o my dad die in a home! Shameful!

  • You say that now! But I personally worked in nursing and I can tell you it is not easy. What happens if your parents have dementia? And wake up in the night SCREAMING because they think something is in the room. What happens if you need to give them 24/7 care but you have children of your own and a job and house to run?

    It is really not that simple caring for an older person. and 99% of people in nursing homes HAD kids and the good kids are the ones that visit once a week,

    The world is a bigger place now and kids grow up and live abroad. It is not like the 'waltons' anymore where you all live under one roof. I can guarantee that your kids will NOT take care of you at old age and if you were a decent parent, you wouldn't expect them to.

  • You talk about compassion while you speak down to people who didn't choose the same life as you did. Funny how you think you are better than others just because you had a kid. Even 15 year old drug addicts can get pregnant. You think you achieved something with breeding. Well, funny, but in 100 years no one will know your name unless you do something really important to humanity. How do you do humanity a favor with breeding, can you please explain? There are 7 billion people in the world and we are running out of resources.Also, we remember people because of their achievements. I remember no one just because they had a kid. And if you really had kids just because you wanted someone to wipe your old ass, then it is you who are selfish. Your kid didn't ask you to be born. And about death. I will be dead. Why would I care who will mourn me? You talk about selflessness and compassion, while you are one of the most selfish and judgmental person I ever heard. You even generalize. You really think that just because we don't have kids, we want expensive stuff all the time? You know what? I think you're jealous and it's you who want all these things, but you can't get it, because you're stuck with a kid and now you are projecting these things on us. Just reread what you wrote. You have NOTHING from those good personality traits what you have listed.

  • GoFuck Yourself

  • Wow. Very well written. You said everything I think. :) good job!

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  • Why would you think so?

  • Why do people want children? Its pretty much the worst thing you can do to destroy your freedom. I would never have a baby, even if someone payed me a trillion dollars, seriously.

    All I see every day is mothers shouting at their kids. Sometime I think women just have kids so they have someone to shout at and control.

  • Theyre on antidepressants and losing hair. They chose it. Whether they like it or not.

  • I would have a kid for a trillion dollars - I could pay people to deal with it lol.

  • No one really would...youre just selfish and stupid. Sucks to be you. Its going to want to find you HAHA

  • Selfish Breeder alert!! I would never have one for that one. Takes a toll on my body. Physical and mentally. Pass-adena! Loser. The people you pay to deal with it may kill it or make it miserable. Another worthless mini you. Cheers!

  • I don't get it either. As Bob Burger's quoted, "kids are awful, why do we keep having them?" hahahaha

  • Its horrible... Dont ever have them

  • U are smart and I wish I had this knowledge 2 kids ago

  • Someone who sees and speaks the truth.

  • I highly agree with never having kids, however I have one. Its an absolute nightmare. Some of us were born to have children and re produce, however I don't believe I was and now I am sitting here on a blog posting comments instead of doing something productive like relaxing. All I can hear is my child in the background right now screaming and I feel like shooting my self in the F****** face. Babies suck and I know what's coming next, soccer practice and cheese its all over my brand new 2014 Trail 4Runner (White) Lifted - super clean... not for long. After that I will be expecting two ovulating females in the house all stung out on "life" leaving nasty bowls of ice cream in the house for the ants to crawl all over, so I can clean the Sh** up (and that will never stop). Lets move on to the teen years when my daughter hates me because I wont buy here an iPad 50 for her 13th birthday. She is 4 months old and has sucked the living F****** daylights out of my bank account. So I continue to ask my self, why the f*** did I NOT PULL OUT?????? Since the day at the hospital I have pulled out every single time and will never in a million years nut in another female for as long as I live, I don't give two Sh*** how good it is. I am so glad I have had visions of how this whole child thing will play out and for this reason I will never have a second, third and holy sh** man, I feel so bad for you, 4 KIDS????? YIKES!!!! I totally understand why people shake their babies, I have not shaken my baby, I am not a f****** weirdo, but I get it. My advice for anyone who likes to travel, eat food, hang out, relax, drive, sleep, relax, eat, sleep , eat, sleep, hates headaches, hates cleaning, hates a messy house, hates people b******* in your ear all day, to NEVER HAVE KIDS. To the ladies out there, why????? Seriously WHY?????? For all the men out there its simple PULL OUT,PULL OUT,PULL OUT,PULL OUT,PULL OUT,PULL OUT,PULL OUT,PULL OUT,PULL OUT,PULL OUT,PULL OUT,PULL OUT,PULL OUT!! - BG

  • Pull out is not enough. A woman can still get pregnant. Get a vasectomy!

  • He's just lazy...selfish fool. Your genes will perish.

  • As a lady, I also wonder "why"???????

    I am not not NOT having children and I have no idea why other women want to and seem to be the driving force behind in many cases. Are they insane?!?!?!?!? I EXTRA do not want to have children because holyfuckingshit human pregnancy is, objectively, one of the worst reproductive mechanisms ON THE PLANET EARTH.

    I have no idea why there are not more women like me. It's insanity.

  • They're bored and put that through their kids. They have nothing else to brag about and what to do. You're normal and an intellectual. You're better than them. Own what they crave: FREEDOM

  • Omfg......that's the funniest s*** ever! Bahaha loved it!

  • This made me laugh so hard!
    God, thank-you for being honest.

  • You bitter mother f*****. I feel you. It is not as much the bad out weighs the good but that there is no f****** good and none on the f****** horizon.

  • Message from nonbreeder:

    Life is fantastic. Obligations, almost none. Focus on work when I want to, but only when I want to. I can pick up and leave anytime, because no kids = massive optionality and freedom to say, "f*** you, I'm out." And mean it, and follow through, because I owe responsibility to no one. Wonderful.

    The significant other and I, we love our life. Making money hand-over-fist. That money is invested. And then the investments pay us as well. Every month, every quarter, we have cash coming in. We never worry about money. We never ask "how much?" Instead we ask, "do you want it?" Wonderful.

    Our time is ours. We can jet on a moment's notice, whether it is out for a fantastic brunch, a short weekend vacation, or international travel. Book the flights (always first class), book the hotel (always five star) and boom, we are gone. Truth. I wouldn't give up this life for anything. Because I never have to worry about the garbage that is the medical/educational/parental industrial complex, and it's time-and-money sucking tentacles. To h*** with that lifescript. Wonderful.

    Yes, the childfree really do live fabulous lives of freedom and truly personal fulfillment.

  • Im jealous x im a mum.

  • Keep telling yourself that. Maybe someday you will actually believe it. I'm actually surprised that someone as full of themselves as you are doesn't have kids. That way you can look at the little mini you and pat yourself on the back.

    You're right you have no responsibilities except going to work and f****** off when you aren't there. Why are you in this page anyway? Trying to convince yourself that you made the right decision? You are so transparent.

    It's ok big guy not everyone is strong enough to be a parent.

    But to post on this site what you did leads me to believe you are so insecure and alone in life you have nothing better to do. Feel free to explain why you are posting here. I would love to hear. Other than bragging about Yourself which proves how selfish you are and self absorbed!!

    Honestly I highly doubt you have or do half the stuff you talk about in your little " look at me and how wonderful I am" rant.

    You are one of those people who was popular in high school and played a sport and still talk about and re-live your high school football career. You my friend are laughable and probably have no real friends!

  • Could you please use less exaggeration? Take a seat and calm down. First, I was popular in school and I LOVE being selfish, it's fun doing WHATEVER I want WHENEVER I want, WHO I want to do it with and HOW I want it.

    I love my life. Why would I add a kid to ruin it? That's too bad you regret breeding and taking anger out of people who made smarter decisions to NOT be a parent and thought it through instead doing it impetuously. I know I'm doing more than you rather let a child hold me back. Hmmmm, ouch!

    You're projecting your boring life as if it's mine, nice try. Thank GOD I am NOT in your shoes. Least I can openly admit my opinion about not wanting kids and you'd be seen as a monster because it's TOO LATE for you. Considering you have a kid or kids, your social life and friends are nonexistent. Thank you for thinking I'm laughable, I should be a comedian. You'll get over it :-)...cheers mate!

  • I envy you but can now join in! My blood sucking 3 ungrateful daughters are now grown, I let them know, deuces, I am out! I do very little babysitting, dont give a f***! I am in my 50's, look 30's. my former string beanpole body is now curvy and I get hit on all the time. I live by myself in an awesome apartment and I wake up dancing and smiling every day. Motherhood was horrible, single motherhood after the divorce was worse than prison, just a godawful nightmare and I would rather.be.dead than do that again! As I write this, am planning a trip to Paris again, they love Black women over there, oh yeah! My children now are doing the parent dance with their own children, I am like, Bye Felicia, I so love life now that I am on my own. If you are unsure about have children, I have one word for you, DONT!

  • Of course you look young, you're Black. Its a blessing. It dont crack. Yay!

  • Very happy for you. Don't get caught up being a babysitter for the grandkids.

  • It is truly s***** to post a comment like yours to a forum of people who cannot ever have what you have. We have kids, that never ends. You don't (for now; many of our problems stem from accidents that no one is safe from, and I almost wish this on you, you haughty f*****) and have no working idea of what the people on here arts talking about. This forum isn't for people like you, so why are you even here? Nobody likes a braggart.

  • People can avoid accidents by using multiple forms of birth control or voluntary sterilization. If an accidental pregnancy occurs they have several months to abort. You are incorrect...it is not an accident, it is a choice and people are making poor choices.

  • You hit the nail on the head! That guy is what I like to call a TOOL! His life isn't that great o guarantee it. He has to come to sites like this to be the big fish in a small pond! Why would he be on this site anyway? Maybe Mr. I have it all could enlighten us!!

  • Wishing children on someone that doesn't want than (for whatever their reasons) are:
    A: pointless - you don't have that much control over the cosmos; and most people who really don't want kids will get an abortion
    B: indicative that you regret your choices
    C: is cruel. It's like wishing for someone to die. Rude.

  • There are accidental pregnancies, not accidental children. Many child free persons have a retainer of money for an abortion should the accident happen.

  • Ah yes, I shall very soon be joining your club from this little tax haven I live in.

  • Why are you even here on this forum? For the record not all people see no kids as "baby free" some people see it as "baby less". I struggled for years to have a baby and now I have one and god its harder than I ever imagined..but better too. I think it's really oddd you've come here ...for no apparent personal reason...to lord your wonderful lifestyle over everyone with kids...wth?

  • When God talks, you better listen. Too late for you now.

  • You people go on childfree sites and play the martyr card like you deserve a reward or placed on a pedestal for having a child when it should be "how dare you?" It's a selfish act on your part. I wouldn't complain about something I desperately wanted!

  • Why are/were YOU on this site? You ignored a sign God was probably telling you, "struggled for years to have a baby" welp! Be careful what you wished for. Good luck raising it and hope it won't hate you and leave you.

  • I am on this site because I have to deal with entitled parents always having their hand out for resou fed because they're inept, and having to have my life scrutinized because I didn't drink the look-aid. I gain enjoyment from your misery, and pat myself on my back for not succumbing to peer pressure and pooping a kid out. Perhaps if parents were so vocally judgemental of childfree people, and didn't behave like entitled twits I wouldn't care. The reality of the situation is that childfree people are marginalized on a daily basis and we are tired of being judged and mistreated because we made decisions that were appropriate for our lives. Enjoy you life long sentence of being a parent and keep vocally judging us childfree people while secretly envying our freedom.

  • I smirk in their faces regardless. I KNOW my life is better than theirs

  • If they're misery was a drink, I'd be drunk by now, oh wait, I CAN!!! In peace, quiet and with wine. Girls Night!!! Childfree are just intuitive and insightful. Only a very small percentage of us regret not having kids but a large percentage of parents regret having kids....wheeeew! Those results keep going!!! The parents I see on a daily are probably on here miserable but feign a smile and claim "he's a grace from God" me "sure, I can't stand liars"

  • I agree! We are all waiting for your response Mr Tool!

  • To show that these are all choices that we consciously make, whether they are "accidents" or not.

  • Daaaang that's harsh. I too am child-free but I feel sorry for this guy. Although, after the second one you'd think he'd get the hint.

  • "I'll be 52 when the last leave the house..."

    That's funny. He thinks they're gonna leave the house.

  • He can put them out whenthey turn18.

  • My daughter is getting luggage for her 18th birthday.

  • Great gift.

  • Hahaha

  • "I hate never being able to go anywhere new, see anything new, do anything new. School, meals, naps, sleep. I can't wait for them all to grow up and go away to college. Until then, I'm responsible for them. I'll be 52 when the last leave the house...I'd say half my life will be gone, and I'll have nothing but regret."

    Oh boy do I have some bad news. One or even none of those kids may not go to college. At least one may end remaining home well into their mid-late 20's due to the s***** economy and lack of work.

    Source: I am almost 26, still living with my parents. Went to college while still living at home with them, still can't afford to move out.

  • I had my vasectomy last year at 25 and things like this thoroughly reinforce my faith in my decision. Although, my faith in that decision has never gone astray, what with the motorcycles and street luges and unicycles and worry-free s** with a hot girlfriend.

    You should try learning to unicycle. It's a meditatively awesome experience and your kids will be jealous.

  • I never had kids because I knew this is exactly how I'd feel. I have nothing but sympathy for you. That and cold shivers going down my spine in a "there but for the grace of birth control go I" sort of way.

  • +1.

  • You sound like my father when I was little. I always knew he resented us and would pull similar stunts to yours. Here is the thing. You aren't fooling your kids. They know you don't like them and even resent their existence. I hope this post came after a particularly bad day because if this is how you feel daily, get a therapist to help you deal with the choices YOU made. Your children did not ask to be born. They are here solely on your judgement call. You can either embrace the life YOU chose, or be p***** off that it isn't all about you anymore.

    Your kids aren't going anywhere for a long time and when they do finally leave, they won't come back. I know my father regrets how he acted towards me when I was little and would like to have a relationship now, but it just isn't happening. We will only ever have a light and topical relationship because I remember how he used to make me feel. Maybe you aren't happy with how things are right now, but you get out what you put in. If you would prefer to have an arms length relationship with your children forever, keep doing what you are doing.

  • "Your kids aren't going anywhere for a long time and when they do finally leave, they won't come back." Thank God for that.

  • Funny !!!!

  • Amen!

  • So finding out that you don't like where life has taken you is being selfish now? Someone has no right to feel feelings that they never knew they would feel? Maybe you should get in your time machine and go back and give this guy a crystal ball so that he can gaze into it and see your perfect 20/20 hindsight.

    It's funny that you air out your daddy issues then tell HIM that HE needs a therapist.

  • Maybe not , but the kids might need one :(

  • Sorry man, I feel for you. And AZ is a total s*** hole. Get a job with Intel and then transfer up to PDX; it's nice here :-D

  • Intel who just laid off another couple thousand people? ha!

  • Weird that you don't like Arizona. As a child-free adult, I moved here specifically because of the year-round warm weather and no f'ing snow.

    After 10 years, I've come to love this harsh environment and the fact that it's a terrible place to raise children. :) The more time I spend here, the more convinced I am that I'll never leave.

  • I have 3 kids. It sucks. The only and I mean only thing that isn't a complete and utter punishment is when they are little and want to cuddle or when they are quiet. But the quiet only means more rooms in h*** are being prepared for you to discover. Not to mention they prohibit any real accomplishment in life. No time for anything but little bastards....

  • I have a friend in this situation right now. 3 kids. He only wanted one. The first was a healthy boy, and my friend was content to stop there. Constant guilt trips from his wife finally broke him down and when she got pregnant, it was twins. So now three kids, a complete b**** of a fat, ugly wife, and a life spent catering to them all. His weight has ballooned, he eats horribly because he has no time to make himself a decent healthy meal because he's pretty much raising his kids alone because the pig can't handle to take more than one kid at a time. Her own kids and she can't even take two to the mall, or appointments. Now these kids were all planned, no accidents, although you can't predict twins. Both parents make a good living so money isn't really an issue, but whether or not you have one child, or two, or four, one thing we can all agree on is that there is nothing that will change your life more than having kids. My wife and I have no children, and never planned on having any. We devote all our time to each other first, our health second, careers third, and family and friends last but certainly not least. I have told my friend not to remain in this relationship as he has become a shell of his former, happy, healthy, self. He refuses to leave and be a part time Dad. So he is staying for his kids, not for his wife. What I consider to be a waste of his life. As well, one of his twins has developmental problems. Once again, no ones fault. Just another reminder that having children is far more work than the Hallmark card that so many people would have you believe it is. So if you are in the situation of the guy above, or of my friend, you really do have options. And while this may be the place for it, b******* and whining isn't one of those options.

  • He can eat healthy. Also, if his wife is fat than that could be the reason why the one kid has issues. Sounds like too many excuses, zero accountability, and not enough proactive engagement. Life doesn't just happen, it is a direct result of people's choices and planning, or lack of planning.

  • Absolutely ridiculous that he can't eat healthy because he has kids. By that reasoning every person with kids is fat and unhealthy. I have kids. I'm a size 8, eat a largely raw diet, walk, go to yoga AND I'm poor lol...sounds like a total lack of personal responsibility to me...and hey lets back that up with him walking away from his family too! God.

  • It actually correlates. More kids equals more junk food. Start farming organic plants! Oh wait thats the Childfree since we can eat better

  • People like this are so f****** ridiculous.

  • Go away

  • If you hated kids,you shouldn't have had them. You made an irreversible mistake,and you will suffer for the rest of your life-as simple as that. That goes for everyone,including commentators. Jesus,if only people were more mature,this world would be so much better.

  • Don't bring Jesus into this - his own DAD killed him !

  • For a great purpose on an act of Love for followers who LOVE him. Its called sacrifice and NONE of you awful, selfish parents can do that. God regrets making us to...

  • Nope . We killed him.

  • Not everyone realises how f****** hard it is to have kids. Everyone glorifies it, and convinces people that the only way to find true happiness is to have children. And as someone who is childfree, the pressure to have kids can sometimes be overwhelming, and some people crack. Especially when that pressure comes from the one you love. It's not all black and white. There are many parents in this guy's situation.

  • Dude f*** you, kids aren't always planned, and who are you to be on suck a f****** high horse? Suck a d***.

  • There are never accidental kids. Just accidental pregnancies.

    Don't hurt yourself thinking too hard about this.

  • Men are frequently forced into parenthood due to entrapment. Think about it.

  • They're at fault too. Men commit infidelity kill their mistresses if shes pregnant. One or both didnt wear protection, intentionally or not. Idiots.

  • They should've been smarter and ahead of the broad and wore a condom. Ha!

  • Yes, that happened to my friend. Together 3 months and bam! She was knocked up. She planned it... Had her eyes on him for a while. Now she has a baby, a new huge house, a new SUV style BMW, a ring on that finger and he's putting her through an expensive nursing school. Plus, he had to get a second job to support his new instant family. I don't feel bad for him though bc me and some of his other friends warned him to be careful. And he was careless. Be careful boys. ( this is coming from a woman).

  • Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
    Fool me four times...???

  • Shame on the quack that sold me them useless f***** pills!

  • If youre very keen on staying childfree, then its simple: use protection and have s** with a sane woman. Protection can fail, but if these men you speak of would have used protection and judgment, it wouldnt have happened frequently like you say.

  • 4 kids "just happened"? oops! Think about it, moron

  • They dont think and make it seem as if babies appear via storks LOL

  • I feel like I could have written most of this myself - it fits my situation so well. I'm a teacher, so I spend my days with other people's kids. Then I come home, and there are my 3 kids. It's like going from one job to another. And now, during the summer, it's even worse. My wife is still working, and here I am, home with the little ones all damn day. I love my children - I really, really do - but my God they are needy. I have a 14-year-old, who needs money and rides everywhere. A four year old, who craves attention and throws tantrums when he doesn't get it, and a 9-month old who, now that she can crawl, requires me to watch her like a hawk.

    Oh, and the last time my wife and I even shared a bed, much less had s**, was when that 9-month-old was conceived. The saddest part? I don't even really miss the s**. I'd rather sleep.

  • Jesus, you have it harsh. I don't know how you handle it. You must have b**** and nerves of steel. I am not worthy and I do not aspire to be either.

  • I use to work at a school and when I use to go home i also felt I had another job. I use to take out my frustration with my don because I use to crave time away from children. I soon realized that my son is way more important than my career and decided to change careers. It was the best decision!! Now I enjoy spending time with my kids, at least 90 % of the time :). It sounds like u would benefit from the same things, your kids will detect your feelings so your stable job with great benefit and retirement is not worth it!!!!

  • Due to your lack of punctuation and general understanding of economics and reading comprehension I'm going to assume you're a stay at home mom.

    His dissatisfaction isn't with his job. It's with his progeny.

  • Although the tone might be a bit harsh, he has a point. I chose not to have kids. I have a great cabin and land where I want to live far from schools/soccer leagues/etc. I have a great job that does not pay, but I enjoy almost every day. I've been able to travel often and for long periods of time. I've been able to pick up and move when I wanted. I have never once felt I missed out on anything by not having kids. Almost all my friends with kids secretly tell me they wish they'd not.

    Advice to young couples considering a child: Don't. (to paraphrase Ben Franklin on marriage)

    Having a child is an act of selfishness-- you create it to satisfy your needs. Having a child is not for the kid-- it doesn't even exist. Taking care of a child is not selfish, but the decision to have one is.

    If you want more love in your life, I highly recommend a good dog.

  • 1000% agree with ya buddy. You women stop using kids as pastimes for your boring, unfulfilled, meaningless lives. "Youth is a wonderful thing, what a crime to waste it on children" by George Bernard Shaw. Produce trees not children

  • Shame on some of you! You're judgemental jerks. Seriously.
    These people have every right to feel this way, and I wish more people would stop acting like having children is some magical experience. Kids are terrible, and literally take everything out of you. I had two brothers, and two sisters that I played mama to as a young child. I absolutely hated every single minute of it, and know exactly how these parents feel. I just chose to never have them since I know what terrible things come of them.
    One of my "miracle" siblings is a drug user that just lost her "miracle" after he was abused.
    She even "had no idea" he was being fed muscle relaxers by her ex roommates when they :
    "Babysat" him.
    Not everyone should have kids, and there's a lot of reality in this.
    Stop pushing your brain-washed opinions, and insults on others.

  • All these comments, and the original post just make me feel so bad for those who made the decision to have kids and now regret it. I knew I never wanted to be a mom, so I have made sure I have never gotten pregnant. I am so glad I have the choice to be childfree!

  • You are stupid. It's your fault you let it get to this now deal with it. Either leave your wife and kids or stfu and keep on losing what's left of your life. I'm just glad as a woman this will never be me. I'd rather die than let my life dwindle into motherhood. Brittany.

  • You signed your post...on an anonymous confession site.

  • You misspelled 'Britney'

  • It's not misspelled. It's a snowflake name.

  • Don't think about your wife. Don't think about your children. Think about you; it's OK. What do you need? Do you need a divorce? Do you need to work out a custody agreement so that you see your kids on weekends, or once a month? Consider if that would be better than what you are experiencing now.

    Simply put, this is a bad situation with no perfect solution. You have to consider what the best actions and best outcome would be for you. Think things through carefully. Consider things with your wife and see how she responds.

    My two cents is to put yourself first. If other people think that's horrible, f*** them. It's not their life, it's yours. Live for yourself, and make decisions accordingly. You decide if you want to stay in your marriage and stay with your family. You decide if you don't.

  • I really hate being a mother. I wish that I'd never had kids. I feel completely imprisoned by my life. If only I was a sick psycho and could just abuse or neglect them, then I could get on with my life and not care. But unfortunately I actually love them and want them to have a good life, so I do all the stuff - try to feed them right, enrich them, nurture them, teach them all the while getting almost nothing in return. No thanks, no money, no appreciation, no social standing, no job satisfaction. I'm a nobody, whom nobody notices and my kids may not even realise how much I do for them in the future. H***, they may even hate me. It's an endurance run, but it's one I seriously fear I may not finish. All I can say is keep on going.

  • I'm so sick and tired of all this Jesus Christ bullshit that's cummed up my f****** ass about having kids and "pleasing The Lord" through childbearing. I was raised in a mormon home and culture where if you didn't have 12 kids Christ was going to come down and f*** you up the ass. I didn't read anywhere that Jesus ever had kids???!? F*** that cross-barren f***** if he was ever real to begin with. F*** Joseph smith too, that lying child molesting con artist little f***.

  • Moron bs cult! Hahahahahahahahahahaha you gullible fool! You follow religion! How dumb!

  • This post made me laugh. It was very entertaining to me at your cost of course.

    I'm not at your point or even close yet, I have two kids.

    I'm gonna share this with all my friends because it's so funny to read.

    Paul
    Parker, CO

  • You signed your post with a name and location on an anonymous confession site? Priceless. Must not be the brightest bulb.

  • You come here for a chuckle Paul Parker?
    Hmm, sounds to me like these "friends" you're going to share this with - don't exist loner man!

  • I totally relate to this. I have a spreadsheet in which I am counting down the years until I get what's left of my life back. Can't wait for them to be gone, but youngest is only 7.

  • I hear you. I have 3 kids and they are the most annoying s*** machines I have ever had to deal with. Let me explain something to you ladies out there, you make the decisions to have these damn kids and all we have is the responsibility. Bottom line, is leave my wife if they were never born because I can't stand her either. Kids suck! They are the reason I had to leave Miami and move to s***** ass Riverside California with her horrible disgusting family in the hot ass desert. So all you people out there that say that you should have thought about that before you had kids can eat me. My wife made my life into this catastrophe because she thought kids were a blessing blah blah blah! F*** that! I used to love life. Now I can't wait for it to be over!

  • You believed her or shut her up by doing her a favor that leads you to be stuck with her? I can't believe how dumb you are. You parents correlate with stupidity

  • Only blessing that occurred was Jesus Christ. Babies nowadays are underrated and therefore NOT but sack of meat and look like potatoes

  • Easy to blame your wife. Was she, like, threatening to kill you if you used a condom? Take a bit of personal responsibility. You made your own choices.

  • Yeah, to me death will be well earned effin' rest. Blessing my ass. Can't wait to kick the bucket either.

  • The childfree know. I love my Saturday Sleep-ins. Wouldnt trade it for the world.

  • Dude I live in neighboring Norco, so I understand when you talk about s***** ass Riverside!!! F*** that downgrade from Miami to Riverside! My condolences man. Yeah Im a chick and Ive known since 4th grade I dont want kids and have been on BC for 10 years so Im child free. Sorry your woman sees them as a blessing bc p*** Im sorry but something that is a p***, pee, vomit, and money burning machine is not a freakin blessing, its a nightmare.

  • Your reply made me laugh. You said it all sister.

  • Why on Earth then did you have FOUR kids?? You should have learned your lesson after the first one.

  • These breeders don't. They just reproduce and become mindless day by day. Thats the herd for ya!

  • It's like you didn't even read the rest of the post.

  • Lol yea for real.

  • Thank jesus i never had kids, i am a 37 year old married guy, nice job, good money travel once in a while, own a couple of rental properties, nice house and happy as heck. I still hate kids but i hate their parents even worst because they act like idiots when it comes to their little brats, listen dont take your kids to the movie theater or restaurant if they are going to whine, just because you haveto suffer with them dont make others bare your cross, so keepthem at home until they can behave like human beings.

  • Restaurants and cinemas are taking pursuit of this trend...childfree restaurants, what else? So fun!

  • Yeah itll promote and encourage others to not reproduce and if so, theyll be limited to eat at crappy places and cinemas. LMAO i love it! "No children allowed"

  • Hey! Jesus has a 'capital J' thank you, and secondly- Jesus' dad killed him probably cos he made too much f****** noise at the theatre lol lol tee hee
    That make ya smirk just a little bit man?
    Fucktard.. Have it, for free

  • Wow. You DARE mock my Lord? Youre life is already H***. Go ahead, make it worse. Oh wait, you already did...a kid

  • F*** you man.
    you have no idea how insane having kids makes you feel. you can't just stay home. you would start killing everyone.

  • Then you shouldn't have spawned them in the first place.

  • Omg so true. Having child free people judge the f*** out of you because you can't predict the unpredictable behaviour of a two year old in the supermarket despite taking every goddam thing they like snack they want blah blah makes life impossible.. Ok lets ..as a species..just not breed becuse my son might slightly annoy some smug child free f*** nut in the local market. Great idea.

  • Dont bring your child causing YOU H*** onto others and ruining their peace and day. Leave that btat at home until he learn some adult manners.

  • The world is over populated...yes...how about you DON'T breed! Sounds just about right

  • No I think he does understand how insane having kids makes you feel as to why he opted out on having them. I opted out as well and your comment here shows me even more that I made a good choice bc I dont want to deal with how insane having kids would make me feel, as you put it. Ive seen plenty of examples from my friends posts on FB to seeing my brother and best friend deal with them regularly to know being a parent is not for me. I have mad respect for those that are though.

  • It's hard because when you tell the little s**** to shut up (in said restaurant)... some childless winner tells you that you are an a******. Like they have any idea what its like.
    We 100% try to only eat out when the f**** are having a "good day" because I don't want to be the a****** with screaming kids. (going to restaurant during superbowl)
    I love my kids, and I actually really love my wife. I don't want them to not exist, but this s*** kills your soul. I miss my wife and I being able to DO STUFF, dinner with friends, s**, travel, etc. I despise what my life has become after having children. I feel like I was tricked by life. (this is obviously not the case) I hope this helps someone somewhere
    To sum it up, now my wife and I have resorted to drinking heavily, and when we drink we have to stay quiet or the f****** will wake up and ruin our buzz too.

    Maybe it depends on personality type, she is a much better mother than I am a father. Some guys revel in being a dad. I hate it.

    SAVE YOURSELF/LIFE/MONEY/FREEDOM

  • Childfree dear. The good life. No screams or migraines just peace and quiet. I refuse to share my husband with a brat that'll ruin MY body and our marriage.

  • You need to move on. You're an incompetent dad who doesn't appreciate your own children, your flesh and blood. How did you mom raise you? Leave now, so you can enjoy our selfish, immature life, and leave the real parenting to your ex-spouse, who will appreciate your ass being gone. Your kids don't deserve you, or man-up to what you have created. You have issues, and your children need you. Man-up!

  • "Man up!", "man up!". That is the thing that keeps him there. Does it not occur to you that not everybody is cut out for being a parent? Probably not. Most people find out AFTER they have kids. And then what?

    This guy is doing his best and you condemn him for it not being enough. Sometimes people burn out, there is NOTHING that can be done with it, save from taking some time off. But nooooo, that is selfish! G******* it, you are a f****** moron.

    The only thing coming from him "manning up" or "sucking it up" because he "deserves it" (for what precisely?) is a mental illness.

    F*** you and your condescending attitude. You obviously don't know s*** about this, so shut up.

  • How do you know this man is impotent!?... Ooohhhhh 'incompetent' right gotcha ;-)

  • F*** kids I hate the bastards

  • You don't get it. He is a good dad, just fried.

  • Die then.you don't have to live.

  • Not ok.

  • Vegas anyone??

  • Ok those that don't have kids will flip out because they still live in lollipop land. For those of us with kids. We know. We understand. We hope it goes away very very soon lol. Kids are the hardest thing it's one hundred and ten percent give give give. And they take take take. The end payment...screams cries good thrown at you whining ... Actual abuse from the kids from tantrums.to punches in the nuts...it's rather horrible...frustrating...and we are expected to be leave it to b***** land...if could id leave my kids with the b***** family and watch them terrorize the whole show lol. Nah but really today you feel postal. Tomorrow you"LLC feel like you can't live without them again. Every day brings new experiences. Yes you'll be fifty one day so hire a babysitter or leave the wife with the kids and leave for a two week vacation

  • Why bother negotiating? Kids respond to yelling, hitting and demands, do that, they will make your pathetic lives less so. Still fun in Lollipop land, no kids or kids conversations! Lollipop cruise ship anyone?! No kids allowed.

  • Have you ever tried whipping? It does wonders. Negotiating with children is like talking to a brick wall. I laugh at you parents who do this. Pathetic. No sympathy here. Let them end up in prison or worse...Good job

  • I'll happily take "lollipop land" over the misery that is parenthood. Childfree life is the best life!

  • "Still" live in lollipop land? I'm going to be here forever. Because I realized having kids is for suckers and I made sure as h*** I'd never do it.

    F*** that noise. Kids suck and a life as a parent is no life at all.

  • I love lollipop land, you self-righteous s*** :) Enjoy crotch fruit.

  • Crotch-fruit??

  • "Crotch-fruit" = children. Produce. From your crotch.

  • It's another CF term. Our lingo

  • Love your reply.

  • Why would those that don't have kids flip out? I don't have any, and reading this guy's post makes me thank my lucky stars that I had enough sense not to breed!

  • Leave the wife with the kids?? Oh yes, because I'm sure she doesnt ever feel the EXACT same way and that's completely reasonable and fair. How about they BOTH go, leave the kids with grandma and grandpa, and run away (forever, if possible, but 2 weeks would be a good start).

  • Greetings from Lollipop Land! It's freaking awesome here! We get as much sleep as we want, and we can have nice things! Are we "selfish"? Perhaps. Or maybe you're just jealous. Have fun getting your life energy sucked out of you by your little vampires. Next time you and your litter get cut off in traffic by a snazzy little BMW roadster, that'll be me - the Lollipop Guild throws one h*** of a party, and I wouldn't want to miss it. BTW: don't bother trying to come back at me with some lame comment, because no matter what you say, you'll still be wiping the crap off your rug-ape's butt and worrying yourself to an early grave, while I'm livin' the dream.

  • Rug-ape haha

  • Yeah next time you see a big Ford Truck that will be me running you off the road! lol F****** d********* hope you and your partner die a miserable death of some incurable disease

  • Careful. Wishing incurable disease due from an illness might backfire on your spawn stupid. Good luck with that and you wouldn't be on here projecting your regrets. LOL karma!

  • You sound bitter. I'm also going to assume you have a micropenis considering you drive a "big Ford truck." Overcompensating for something?

  • Hahaha that's funny. Humor folks. OK with a little kernel of truth! Lol

  • Okay, I'm child free myself, but I'm wondering why the rest of you are posting stuff like the above. No one is looking for it. My heart goes out to these people, men and women alike. I'm happy for my own decisions but I'm not gloating about them.

  • This person is right, pure envy. When I read rug-ape I almost s*** myself. I wouldn't trade my daughters hugs for anything...unless they never existed

  • I hope you crash your little pansy BMW roadster & die a painful death. You sound like an idiot so you probably will. As much as my little knuckle-head bugs me & sometimes I wish she wasn't there, she's still more of a bad ass at two year's old than you ever will be. Smooches from the farm in Kansas you jack ass! ;-)

  • Wishing death upon someone means that guy effected you BIG time and struck a nerve. HAHA. You sometimes wish your b****** wasnt there? Wow some "father" you are breeder. Lol enjoy growing gray hairs faster than us. Teehee!

  • Kansas?! No wonder you have a kid. Who WANTS a bad ass 2 year old. Gimme a belt.

  • Oh, so terribly bitter! Meow!

  • You penile-disease !!

  • Hate to tell you this but your "two year's old" probably still poops their pants. Not very bad ass. Also- trying to seem "bad ass" while typing on a "childfree" subreddit forum, from a farm in Kansas no less? Really? Go milk a cow and get over your jealousy. (It's really hanging out there...) Me & Lollipop land dude don't give a rats a$$ about your poorly thought out kid. We don't change any diapers, we don't wake up to crying in the night time, we don't have a screaming mouth to feed and I for one wouldn't trade that for any number of "bad ass two year's old."

  • I rather hug my dogs. Altricial beings. Perfect and better than any kid's hugs.

  • Boo hoo, b****. No go wipe the snot off your special snowflake's nose, it's running AGAIN. Don't forget to change the diaper. Inhale that smell - the smell of your future. Spoiler Alert: It's S***. :)

  • Haha

  • Wow such an idiot. Poo is really not a problem. You get used to it in about a week...hey did you know one day you'll be old and shittting yourself and it'll be MY kids tending to you in a retirement home? Bet that wipes the smug look off your dumb f****** face. How much will your awesome lifestyle matter then? Not at all.

  • Ill still be owning my house and remaining active. Hope your kids enjoy cleaning up poo. Start training them now. You just had kids due to fear. Sad

  • The majority of people who die alone in nursing homes...are parents. Their kids just happen to be AWOL. Having kids is no guarantee that you won't die alone.

  • You do realize that, despite the fact that you sacrificed your entire life to bring up your kids, it's just as likely that they'll dump you in a home, right? Not having kids and instead being able to put all that money into a retirement fund is a better investment in your future than banking on the fact that your kids will give a s*** about you when you're old. You'll be lucky to have one of them come visit you a couple times a year.

    But no, you're right. I'll give up all of my good years on the hope and prayer that I'll have someone to babysit me when I'm old. Instead of... you know... having fun my entire life and then **PAYING** someone to do it. ;)

  • These idiots here fear THAT deep down in their abyss rather loneliness and peace. Here they are, ranting and b*******. They know the "what ifs" that's why parents become friends with their kids. Fear. But it's unavoidable LOL

  • Why would your f****** kids be working in a retirment community u f****** r*****

  • OMG I just died from laughter

  • Hahahahaha sucky to be you should have kept it in your pamts r*****

  • WTF are pamts?

  • U mother f****, if u feel that way about kids u shouldnt have any on the first place! Cut ur dik off or get an operation ,sorry ass excuse for a parent! U think u would learn after the first one and u feel like s*** after the 4th one? Ur a fukin idiot!!! Get ur head out of ur ass and if u hate kids plz give them to unfortunate couple that cant have any and would love to take urs, or just shoot urself on ur full of s*** head for thinkin that way, if u think that ur kife suks bcause of ur kids then f** urself instead of a girl so u dont have any more, i wonder if ur parents felt the same way after they had u,,?? I feel sorry for u kids for having such a dushbag as a dad!

  • You, you, you, shouldn't, your, d***, You, you, you, You're, f******, your, your, you, please, can't, yours, yourself, in your, thinking (you clearly don't), you your, sucks, because, your, f***, yourself, you, your, you, your. Get off the priests altar and go to school.

  • You're a trollers/teachers/priests dream dude!

  • Found the n*****

  • I KNOW you're miserable 🤣

  • Found the cracker!

  • Say that to The Lord's face when you see him. Jesus is Lord

  • In love, please remember these words by Martin Luther King, Jr.: "I look to a day when people will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character." Blessings to you.

  • In love, please remember these words by Martin Luther King, Jr.: "I look to a day when people will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character." I hope you may express yourself in the future without having to resort to using such derogatory terms. Nothing but blessings to you and to the person who unnecessarily laughed, "Hahaha", at your post. God bless ❤️

  • Haha ha

  • And if you have kids, I feel sorry for them too - it must hard having somebody as stupid as you as a parent.

  • Someone's jealous!!!!!!

  • This is appalling. An uneducated rant by a demented person who almost certainly regrets their own decisions.

  • Yeahh... Dushbags...

  • Umm... you spelled douche wrong...

  • They spelled just about everything wrong.

  • I so understand you. i have 2 kids that i love n would do anything to protect them but i REALLY REGRET HAVING KIDS! I had a amazing life before i had them and now i have all the money i want and cant do or go anywhere that i want. I miss my freedom, sleep...... I cry everyday and regret every minute of each day my decision. Sometimes i wish i can leave and never come back and i would do it if only my first child's father was a good father like my second childs father. I even say it out loud to my husband and family that i hate being a mom. I wish one day not to feel this way ;(((

  • Youre like the mom from 19 kids and counting. Admitting that to her daughter. She miserable too but stupidly reproduces like rabbits. Its gross.

  • 2 kids from 2 men. No wonder...

  • Don't ever say that to your children you f******, YOU had them, not their fault, so if you're life is miserable (because a choice YOU made) then don't make their life miserable too by saying that s*** to them.

  • Bunny.

  • I am really sorry to hear this, but it's great that you vented your feelings online. At least YOU are honest about feelings most frustrated parents try to cover up every single day of their life!! (Insert here: many awkward conversations with coworkers and friends whose quality of life obviously suffered under the pressures of parenthood.)

    I knew very early on that I would hate screaming fuzzy bald babies, incapable of controlling their bodily fluids. I hate toddlers creating havoc, throwing temper tantrums, being irrational, and unable to speak English (or Dutch, in my case :D) in a proper way. Am I just cold? No, but I am an adult, preferring adult stuff and adult conversation. I seriously lack the patience of having to listen to squeaky little voices 24/7. I could not handle 10 years of drama from 4 human babies and toddlers. I think anyone who can, even if they are fed up with having to do it, is a saint.

    Having that said... I think it is commendable you are hanging in there and are still married and living with your family. One consolation: things WILL get better when your kids get older. They may live in the house for a longer period of time, but you will be able to have a reasonably sensible conversation with them in a short while.

    Lastly... People, please read his post before making random accusations. Parenthood is not all rainbows and lollipops! He is not jealous or trying to be an a******, period. He is just frustrated and he has every right to feel that way. Oh, and just for the record: I am a woman, I am majoring in Philosophy and Cultural Studies, and I will not be having children (big surprise). I respect people who have kids, but I don't expect them to be better human beings than I am, i.o.w., I expect parents get frustrated with their children too. I don't understand why some people are so upset about this post.

  • Not upsetting. Reassuring.

  • Why are you googling "I hate parenting" and waxing lyrical on your temperament and wonderful life ? Do you just go around choosing ways in which you feel you have it better...Google it...then find people who don't...and tell them all about your life? Weirdo.

  • In a world that tells us we're worthless unless we reproduce, sometimes is just feels good to read stuff like this thread and know for a fact that we made the right choice.

    Plus, I'd be lying if I said there isn't a bit of schadenfreude in it. I guarantee you that half the sad m************ here who hate their lives as parents spent at least a little time, maybe a lot of time, trying to convince other people that they should have kids because "You don't know real love until you have a baby!" Where is all their joy now? Lolz.

  • Yeah. Not a drinker either. Think I could be though with the parenthood thing. And I'm always the bad guy if I so much as utter such sentiment. I've been living the same lie for several years now. Don't know what to do with it.

  • Thank you for having the courage to not keep your head tucked into the sand. Speaking honestly about the way that most people feel is taboo and as the comments display, make people very uncomfortable.

    To deprive ourselves and everyone around us of honesty would to be deceiving them into decisions we KNOW they wouldn't be happy in. That's what's going on in the child worship culture. Deception. Telling someone they're walking through a rose garden when they can SEE it's just a field of dog poo is lying to them. People perpetuate their baby fever by latching their own baggage onto other people's lives (it's different when it's your own, you'll feel differently once you hold it, they're so cute, you can live your life through them over and over). Honestly I'd think being a parent would be f****** horrid and awful. So I'll do my part and stay child free.
    Have the talk about having kids with your own kids. Tell them they're not bound or obligated to have children.

  • Amen!! Childfree are growing. It's better. EVERYTHING in life are choices

  • I def feel this way a lot. I'm a new mom. My son haut turned 14mo and I already can't wait till he starts school so I have some of the day to myself. His father is useless in the helping with the baby dep. prob why we broke up. But anyways. I love my son to death I just regret having him now at 25 vs 35. I have no social life and all I do is sit home all day with my son and clean and cook for him when the day is thru I still haven't showered and only had a coffee n a sandwich....yet my son gets washed everyday And 3+ meals a day plus his 5 bottles of milk! Phew that felt good to vent. Ur def not alone dude

  • You had no social life before since you decide to have a baby at 25!! Bored much? Should've tested your ex of how fatherly he is...God bless dear.

  • Ohhh, boo hoooo! I'm such a selfish waste of oxygen!! My young child actually needs help/attention/care!! Please do your son a favor and give him up for adoption ASAP, before he turns into an even bigger piece of s*** than you. My god, I can't even believe that there are people in this world as vile as you.

  • Wow, you're jealous of your own son. How nice you are. I'm sorry but from the way you are speaking you DO hate your son. And if you barely have time to shower, how the f*** are you on the internet venting your selfishness away? Besides, did you think raising a baby was easy???

  • You're a horrible person. She's a new mum, alone, and just expressing herself..took about two minutes out of the drudgery of her life to say "hey this is hard" and loom at your response. You suck.

  • You realize that young babies don't really do much, you just have to watch them so they don't crack their skulls open, right? So poking around on the Internet while keeping a kid alive is relatively easy, but taking a shower where you can't watch them is hard.

  • You parents MUST be filthy, no wonder you look so tired. DISGUSTING!

  • Coming from an idiot, he would think that's true. Yeah you have plenty of time with a new baby. The stupidity never amazes me

  • You're an idiot. Her post in no way implies or explicitly states jealousy of her son. To berate her and tell her that she hates her son is pathetic. No one knows what to expect before they have a child and it's ridiculous to imply otherwise. You seem like the type to not be happy unless you are running someone down. Everyone, at times in their lives, feels stress and despair re: their situation whether they created that situation or not. One day, you will be there. Hopefully someone will have the maturity not to kick you when you're already down.

  • I feel the same way... I feel trap with both of my kids. I feel like a horrible mom when I have these thoughts. I can't wait for them to grow up and be self sufficient. Husband will never know that I tied my tubes because I didn't want anymore kids. I wanted to have 4 but after the second one I change my mind.
    I love my children and would do anything for them but I am definally not mom material.

  • Be honest with your husband. What kind of marriage do you have that lying to him about pretty major surgery is okay?

  • It's her body and entirely choice, none of his business. I do think she needs to tell him she doesn't want anymore to avoid getting his hopes up for future children with her, but she is in no way obligated to tell him about her tubal. Which isn't actually a major sugery. Just invasive.

  • Um, it is his business because they are in a marriage. You should know that is how relationships and more importantly marriages work. Other than that, I totally get why she would get them tied because kids are hard and not worth it all the time.

  • Just give them up for adoption, so that they will not feel like a bother. B****.

  • Are you actually serious???

  • I suppose you think adoption is a cure all. It isn't and it's is born out of lost.

  • Omg, how can you say they were a mistake? :-S
    What's wrong with you, man? You'll probably end up abusing them or something, you a******! Nobody forced you to have kids. They are your kids, you should lvoe them like your life. What if someone said you were a mistake? Don't you have a heart? Selfish j***. You're p***** that your own kids yell from time to time. Well I felt bad for you until you said they were a mistake. F*** you!

  • You're a repulsive sack of rotting anuses. Given how intelligent you've demonstrated yourself to be, I'm gonna rest easy knowing you'll eventually set your genitals on fire.

  • Your comment made me desperately search for a downvote button that, alas, wasn't there.

    So I'll settle for saying that you are one of the most unpleasant, judgemental people I've ever met and I've only read a single post by you. I hope you're a troll or else you must have an IQ in the minus figures.

  • Why so condescending?

  • I am glad I read this before having children myself. Put perspective out there, and to be honest everyone reading this will and should know that children are little s**** that will be your new sadder uninteresting life. Why? because we were all kids at some time everyone can remember how much s*** we have and sometimes still do to our parents. Know what your getting into!

  • I wanted a child so badly and rushed into it. I knew I'd have fertility problems I was a stepmother and wanted my husband and I to share a child I wanted to be pregnant and have another project afer I got married. I worked in child care and was totally stressed there I should have known that being a mom would be hard. I have a 4 year old stay home with him my husband is an over the road trucker. I'm not happy and can't wait for him to grow up. Being a parent is hard I wish I thought more about it before I jumped into it. The only reason I wanted a 2nd was to be pregnant again and feel close to my husband who is gone all the time. I'm glad we decided not too and are def done. Just wish I thought about it more before my son such a huge decision.

  • Youre so stupid

  • There are people who love having kids and people who regret it. There are also those who want nothing more in life than to have kids and can't for whatever reason. I think whatever decision is made you always wonder what the other path might have been like. Even parents with children, who had a life before, cannot know what their life might've been like had they not had kids and the opportunities that might've been missed. But the same can be said for the child free! Life doesn't give many answers only more questions. I think the majority of people wonder about their choice now and again, even the ones who are happy with their lot. You can't know what you've not experienced. That's the problem.

    I often wonder what it would be like to have kids. I imagine the good stuff: outdoor trips, games, creative stuff, Christmas, fun chats etc and I think about the bad also. And at the end of all that thinking I'm no better off. On forums you can find the views you want to find.

    Trying to get advice from forums is just getting a snapshot of a life, and it's often biased (as the happy people with children are unlikely to be on here extolling the virtues of parenting). And also posts tend to be from people in the middle of parenting and not a retrospective opinion after 20 years of parenting. A parent who is miserable dealing with babies may well love being a parent when the child reaches five years old, for example.

    The parents I talk to extoll the virtues of parenting: 'You'll never regret it' they say. 'One smile makes it worth it.' 'It gives genuine meaning to your life'. They have family pictures on Facebook, on their office wall and on their phones etc. But I often hear the child free saying that parents say this to dupe others into the misery of having kids. I find this hard to believe so I prefer to think that this is how those parents feel. Why would anyone lie?

    To those suffering. Just remember that not having kids is not without pain also.

  • Efef

  • Imagine being a virgin when you got married, you get knocked up the first time you do it. You never wanted to be a mother and then after raising her and doing your best she becomes a drug addict and you have to take custody of your grandchild and then she does it again 10 years later. I love my grandchildren. But I never had a life she sold me into slavery. All I have ever done is cook and clean for years. There is never anything left for me. I barely have milk for tea. I am exhausted!

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