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I hate being a parent
I don't hate my kids, but I hate being a parent.
I hate not having anything even remotely resembling a social life. I hate changing diapers. I hate cleaning up after my kids. I hate driving some of them to school. I hate having to cook for them all the time. I hate listening to them fight, or cry, or beg for something. I hate having to take them to sports or activities so they're not bored. I hate having to keep watch over them when friends come over to play.
I hate being trapped in ** broiling desert, backwards ** Arizona, just because a job pays well enough to support four kids and moving would mean working for about 1/2 the pay. I've wasted a third of my life in this ** place because I can't afford to move because of these kids. I hate having to keep a close watch over my kids because I live in a ** huge beige and cement city...the more people there are, the more sick ** you gotta worry about taking kids.
I hate never being able to go anywhere new, see anything new, do anything new. School, meals, naps, sleep. I can't wait for them all to grow up and go away to college. Until then, I'm responsible for them. I'll be 52 when the last leave the house...I'd say half my life will be gone, and I'll have nothing but regrets.
The first kid was ok, I was 28 and figured I would make a good parent. The second got annoying by the time he turned 3. The third and fourth were definitely a mistake in judgement on my part. Should have just said "no ** way" to the wife after the first two. There's times I can't stand the sound of their voices. A couple times I've even gone so far as to wear earplugs and ignore them for an hour or two.
I usually stay up late and deprive myself of hours of sleep, just because I know that the sooner I go to sleep, the sooner another day of dealing with my children will start for me. **, I've gotta get up in 3 1/2 hours to take the older ones to school.
The brief moments of "oh, that's cute" are far overshadowed by the sheer level of ** I hate about parenthood. Passing on my genes is not worth this. If I would have known I'd hate parenthood so much, I'd have gotten a vasectomy at 18.
And to top it all off, I don't drink alcohol. I never acquired a taste for it, and earlier in life had no desire to kill off brain or liver cells, nor give up any self-control. I think I'd like to learn to appreciate a good beer or well-crafted spirit, but I won't. How much more miserable would my life be if I let slip to the wife or others how much I regret almost all of my decisions of the past 18 years (moving to Arizona, having kids, and sometimes even including marriage)?
Why even bother typing this up? I feels a little better just to put it out there, and I know that nobody I know will see this or be able to connect this to me. I put on a pretty decent act as a responsible (and almost caring) parent. I've been living the lie for years.
Wow, yeah. Im a permissive mom too, I guess. Its easiest to let my 3 kids do what they want. All I watch for is if they might hurt themself but beyond that they have free reighn. No boundries and they push hard too LOL. My poor husband goes nuts but i just wont be bothered, you see. The other day, I went clothes shopping and in just 5 minutes in the store they managed to cause 350$ in damage. Then when I was in the dressing room, they climbed on the dressing room door next to mine and tore it off the hinges. My husband has to pay for all that too. But thats how i keep my sanity-just roll with it and don't worry.
I have 5 kids. I told my wife what im about to tell you. I offered plan b. She made the choice to have them as you did too. I love my kids. But if i could go back in time and pull out or put on a condom... i would. Over 11 years with 5 kids i have spent just over $300,000 on them. I miss sleeping in, drinking with my wife, going to strip clubs with her for days on end. Now we have to worry about pedo sitters, drugs in the neighborhood and every ** thing in house being sticky or ripped.
It is precisely how I feel. I wonder how many men feel the same and why there is so little support for us when women with postnatal problems get so much attention.
Weren't you taught about birth controll it's not their fault it's yours own it .Grow up and be the parent you should be .
Honestly don’t blame you. Kids are hard but kids in Arizona, specifically the Phoenix metro area is harder. The heat makes everything worse. During the actual nice weather life is so much better, I’m happier and more patient. The hot months I hate living at all, it’s almost unbearable. Most parents won’t admit this, just know I feel your pain.
It's funny how many mothers on here making comments are smokers. So it will be even funnier when I add my comments. I'm a 25 year old mother of 2 boys, age 5 and 4, and I smoke too. I just don't feel like constantly dealing with their ** so I just give them free rein of the house and back yard. They can do almost anything they want, literally. Mostly the stay inside and wreck the place. I just laze on the sofa, smoke, snack, and get fatter, lol. My husband comes home and he doesn't care. He just slaps me ** and jiggles my fat belly and says ready to make one more kid, Baby? I think I'd be OK with it, should I get preggo again.
Yes, get preggo again.
That is an awful lot of hate, I hope you don't end up on top of a tower with a high-powered rifle and a scope!
I’m a new mom and a workaholic. My son is only 5 weeks old and I hate being a mother. I’m 22 and I envy that my spouse can leave without the baby. I envy he can go to work, eat his ** meals without a care in the world and do whatever the ** he wants to because he isn’t bogged down by 9 lbs of human and 20 lbs of extra ** to carry for that human. I hate being touched all the time because he won’t do anything but contact nap, I hate my spouse shoving a screaming baby in my face in the middle of the night. He’s lucky he’s not crammed in the ** house for 7 days a week with the child, he can leave and go skateboarding with his ** friend group. I can’t. He wanted a family and I didn’t, my birth control failed. I’m tying my tubes or getting a hysterectomy while I can. I feel no bond or emotion for my child but do my best to meet his needs before my spouse returns to the house in the evening and hand him off to go sleep what little sleep I will get.
You created your life and put yourself where you are, NOW DEAL with it. Whining little snot nosed mellenials like you are about as usefull as a ** flavored breath mint.
** off.
Wow yes yes yes
Your prob an old worthless baby boomer. You ignorant blind ****
I got fixed after the second one at age 25. We were free at age 45. Then life started. Life is what you make of it. Change your life or ** it up.
Here is what I've work out. my best friend lives just a few houses down. we trade off where we spend the day. sometimes at her place and sometimes at mine. i have 2 kids each. our 2 oldest are both school age now but are home for summer break now. we just let them go while me and her do our thing, like watch tv or play video games, and of course, smoke all day long (yay!). we both got real good at just tuning them out, no matter how obnoxious they get. and yes, they constantly are breaking **, but that's just the cost of having kids. as for unleashing them on others, well, yeah, i'm guilty of that, but don't think i feel guilty. i love it when my relatives deal with them. i just watch and keep smoking. but it's family, so i get away with it. in public, it let them do their thing until someone says something, then i do my minimal, not-really-into-it kind of discipline. so if you hate parenting, like many of us do, you gotta just learn to chill. i've found that things take care of themselves if you do as little as possible.
I fully agree. I just let mine do whatever they want. I too smoke. a lot. One day last December, my 10 year old just one day lit up in front of me from a pack he stole from my purse. I just made a comment like, you're smoking now? and she said yup, and that was that. I let her smoke as much as she wants. My two younger ones, both boys, are h ellions and nearly impossible to control, but I don't care and just ignore them. If we're somewhere and people complain, I say I'm sorry but I just can't do a thing with them, and make a little effort to rein them in, but they know i don't mean it and just keep on, and I DON"T CARE!
When they cry and whine for no reason, tell them to shut up or drug them with melatonin
Drug me with melatonin! Eeeh!
I hate parenting they never go to sleep and are always asking for s***! LEAVE ME ALONE. Midnight has been plenty of time to need me.
I'm a mother of 3 and I also hate parenting. My husband goes to work and I'm stuck with the little brats. But I've learned to deal with them. I just mostly let them do whatever they want. They've pretty much wrecked the place, but I just calmly sit on my comfy couch with my earbuds in and play video games and smoke cigarettes. Boy, they are so much easier to tolerate when you just learn not to care. Maybe those who hate parenting should give it a try. But you really have to be a lazy, type B personality--it probably won't work for type As!
Don't unleash your unruly brats outside or someone else will smack them in their place. You shouldn't be a mom to begin with.
That's fine with me. As long as I don't have to hassle with them!
Coward. Afraid to hit your own kid. Ok, Cersei. But thanks! Gladly strike an unruly **
Ok breeder. Cow
That's exactly what I do, too! My kids have become holy terrors, but so be it. When we go to visit relatives, I just let everyone else deal with them. So easy. I just don't give a flying f uck what they do. Yes, you have a house that's kinda all wrecked, but in a few more years, I figure they'll be old enough and settle down. You just don't have to care.
Having kids **, and especially if your a single parent it all lands on u....man if i'd known and not been so naive, I was scared i'd be abandoned but look here I am abandoned. It's just endless loneliness and endless darkness, time does not ** heal. I hate parenting so much and their constant whining and fighting. I'm so glad when they are at school just to get a moments peace but weekends are **, oh how I've tried to keep them entertained but it is so relentless, overwhelming and tiring, i wish i didn't feel like this but I'm so glad to be honest and just to say this out loud. i hate the perfect parents who don't understand or feel this way, i hate having to cook and clean up after them too and they are so ungrateful not a shred of appreciation or empathy to help out. Im seriously done, i just want out.
Wow your kids sound awful. Leave. You'll be better off.