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I hate being a parent
I don't hate my kids, but I hate being a parent.
I hate not having anything even remotely resembling a social life. I hate changing diapers. I hate cleaning up after my kids. I hate driving some of them to school. I hate having to cook for them all the time. I hate listening to them fight, or cry, or beg for something. I hate having to take them to sports or activities so they're not bored. I hate having to keep watch over them when friends come over to play.
I hate being trapped in ** broiling desert, backwards ** Arizona, just because a job pays well enough to support four kids and moving would mean working for about 1/2 the pay. I've wasted a third of my life in this ** place because I can't afford to move because of these kids. I hate having to keep a close watch over my kids because I live in a ** huge beige and cement city...the more people there are, the more sick ** you gotta worry about taking kids.
I hate never being able to go anywhere new, see anything new, do anything new. School, meals, naps, sleep. I can't wait for them all to grow up and go away to college. Until then, I'm responsible for them. I'll be 52 when the last leave the house...I'd say half my life will be gone, and I'll have nothing but regrets.
The first kid was ok, I was 28 and figured I would make a good parent. The second got annoying by the time he turned 3. The third and fourth were definitely a mistake in judgement on my part. Should have just said "no ** way" to the wife after the first two. There's times I can't stand the sound of their voices. A couple times I've even gone so far as to wear earplugs and ignore them for an hour or two.
I usually stay up late and deprive myself of hours of sleep, just because I know that the sooner I go to sleep, the sooner another day of dealing with my children will start for me. **, I've gotta get up in 3 1/2 hours to take the older ones to school.
The brief moments of "oh, that's cute" are far overshadowed by the sheer level of ** I hate about parenthood. Passing on my genes is not worth this. If I would have known I'd hate parenthood so much, I'd have gotten a vasectomy at 18.
And to top it all off, I don't drink alcohol. I never acquired a taste for it, and earlier in life had no desire to kill off brain or liver cells, nor give up any self-control. I think I'd like to learn to appreciate a good beer or well-crafted spirit, but I won't. How much more miserable would my life be if I let slip to the wife or others how much I regret almost all of my decisions of the past 18 years (moving to Arizona, having kids, and sometimes even including marriage)?
Why even bother typing this up? I feels a little better just to put it out there, and I know that nobody I know will see this or be able to connect this to me. I put on a pretty decent act as a responsible (and almost caring) parent. I've been living the lie for years.
You idiots don't deserve any empathy. It was your own ** choice to have kids in the first place, so ** it up and raise them like a responsible adult. They don't owe you anything, stop playing victim.
You're a tool. Would love to know how you ended up in this thread. Did you just randomly want to come here to agitate honest individuals on arbitrary patenting threads by googling anti patenting subjects only to reassure your own lonely miserable existence in which no one wants to reproduce with you? Seems kinda creepy and lonely, especially since you can't relate to anyone on here, clearly and choose to attack honesty rather than provide anything of value. You have a black and white approach to life. Can see why no one would want kids with you
Have you’ve ever gloated of your own achievements other than your kids? Stop living vicariously through them. Many childfree do this because we’re tired of many parents lie of how awesome and magical having a baby is and having to explain ourselves. I just use a conceited approach and it angers you. Yes, I have a boatload of freedom, yes, I can sleep in until noon, yes, I have spa days at home or whenever I treat myself to go out. Yes, I can go to the movies with my girl whenever I please, etc. You miserable parents invade our forums also. You’re guilty for pushing lies on childfree throats. Misery loves company and your kids DON’T owe you anything. We know how hellish parenthood is, you guys yearn for death, victimize yourselves, experiencing suicidal thoughts, you guy KNEW what you did 9 months ago. Seems like a projection. I assume you’re a man, did your girl use you for babies and now sees you as a breeding object? Sad. We can go on any site we want. Why so bothered?
You sure can but I bet you wouldn't try that ish in person.