I had an affair a while back that

I had an affair a while back that lasted 3 months. It has been over for 8 months. I stopped it because we started feeling a whole lot more for each other than we should. Neither of us would have ever left our spouses. I just don't know how long it is going to take for me to stop thinking about him. I constantly think about him and miss him like crazy. It takes a lot for me not to call him. He made me feel so much better about myself than my husband ever has. I just don't know how much longer I can keep up the charade that is my marriage....

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  • if you end up with your other guy, he will cheat on you just like he is now doing to his wife.

  • I am in mad crazy love with my side dish. I understand. However, you do need to make a decision and stick with it. I can daydream and find happiness in slavery!


  • I totally understand but let me assure you that what you are probably feeling really isn't 'love.' It's the after effect of having something new in your life. L*** can sometimes be mistaken for love after awhile and ending your marriage based on that won't help anything. It wouldn't work out for either of you and in the end, innocent people will just be devastated. It's time for you and your husband to talk. I wouldn't confess to the affair but you do need to let him know how he isn't making you feel.

  • Was in a similiar affair (situation) about two years ago. We both were married. She as welll as i got way too close and we both at that time had problems at home. Well to make along story short, it ended terribly with a lot of damage to both of us. My advise is stay away as far away as you can get

  • But also keep in mind that people who get into relationships that started as affairs... rarely stick together.

  • Duh, this is one of the problems with affairs. You need to decide what you want to do. If you choose to be with your husband, then never have any contact with him again. Think of him like heroin. It may take months or years, and will gradually get easier.

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