What do I do???!!!

I am married, have been for 18 years and I love my wife to death, but am wanting other women so badly I feel like I'm on the verge of going after them now! My wife's cousins, my cousins, co-workers (one who is 30 years my senior, but whom I love and we flirt with each other daily -- I'm afraid if I had a chance I'd sleep with her in a heartbeat!). My wife and I have made an arrangement with one other couple (which I love and maybe that's helping to push me into being so hedonistic), but nothing else. I'm getting confused. Maybe I just need to cut everything else out but my wife, but it is so difficult. What should I do???!!! I still feel out of control! If it's right just to be with my wife, how do I turn off all the desires? Please help! And will I have to turn off the other couple, the woman of which I have also been in love with forever? I just love it! But am I bad?


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  • I can't advise you but if you figure it out...let me know ! I'm a married woman but want other men SO badly. It drives me batshit crazy every single day. I know I'm going to cheat on my spouse SOON.

  • Dear anonymous! I'm not sure what to do still, but I'm getting some ideas. I'm telling myself that if my wife ever found out, that would be the end of our family. Now we've got kids between 8 and 14 and they would really be traumatized and I know studies say they would often turn out to be reprobates if they know their dad left them for another woman, and do the same thing and break up more families. I don't know. I talked with my ecclesiastical leader and he gave me some ideas: going on more dates with my spouse, getting more time with her, do new things with her sexually, try to stop p****, be honest with her, let her know about my concerns. I need to stay with her 100% with no sharing. That way, things will work out naturally. Well, these are the things I've been told recently or that I've thought of. If you need more ideas, let me know. Maybe we can help each other. I really don't want this to be a long-term h*** for the sake of a short-term fun and pleasure fulfillment type thing! Well, take care and lots of love, Anonymous.

  • A different "anonymous" here. What country/city are u in? I have the same problem. My urges are so strong. I want to hold my family together, but my husband just has no s** drive. Maybe we can help each other out?

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