Im 15 yrs old and i had a crush on my coach (21yrsold) i used to give him hints that i kinda like him but he kinda gave me back hints that hes not interested cus im 6yrs younger than him. Now that i got over him, i feel like he likes me. Hes been really nice and always treats me food and gives me gifts. I dont know what to do. Now, i like him as a brother and i call him "kuya" which means older brother in tagalog. He always texts me. My friends also feel that hes interested in me. I thought about it and i dont really know how i feel. I like him, but im not sure anymore if i like him as a brother or a possible bf. I havent had any bf before and i dont think i want my first one to be 6yrs older because he'll be more experienced when it comes to relationships and all that stuff and he will be more likely to "be the pilot and steer the wheel" of the relaitionship. And i dont think im ready for a boyfriend yet. Please help.

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  • You should tempt him he wont be able to resist

  • The 1st poster said it all. YOU know it won't work out in the end. Crushes are nice and all that but he's too old for a serious relation ship with you.

  • You already know what to do. Steer clear of this one. Sure, there are a lot of people who think age is just a number. And when you're 18, this is true. But when you're 15, in many places you are still considered a minor and dating a 21 year old is considered illegal. And with good reason, you're still developing mentally, physically and emotionally and you admitted you are not ready for a relationship with someone who is much older.

    And aside from obvious reasons why men pursue girls, what is a 21 year old guy doing flirting with a high school girl? And someone he coaches? He should know better.

    You will have many chances to date guys when you're ready. Sure, it's fun to flirt. But for now, stop the texting with him, especially if it has nothing to do with the sounds as though it's just playing with your heart and you'll eventually get hurt. Doesn't matter what your friends say, stay true to you. Turn your attentions to someone closer to your own age, you'll be happier in the end. Hope that helped.

  • Im back.. he said he does have a crush on me. now he tries and talk to me every night! he also asked me to watch a movie with him but i said no. he still texts me all the time. and gives me gifts but i had a serious talk with him and told him that this is wrong and not gonna work out. he still does it though. idk what to do! he asked me a long time ago what kind of guys i like. and yesterday, he let me use his laptop and i saw a document and it's all there! our conversations before about crushes and everything. and the little things about me like what kind of foods i like etc.. he told me hes not gonna try and get a girlfriend until school ends. school is almost over and hes trying to get closer to me and it's scaring me because i might eventually like him and get hurt! and because hes my coach, every time we have practice, he calls me to play with him most of practice time. and one time on fb, i posted a 'lms' update.. and one of the questions was 'would i date you?' and i said no cuz youre 6 years older than me. then he sends this long message about how 'age doesnt matter' and that he has a coworker whos bf is 8 years older than her.

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