Confused..help!

Im 15 yrs old and i had a crush on my coach (21yrsold) i used to give him hints that i kinda like him but he kinda gave me back hints that hes not interested cus im 6yrs younger than him. Now that i got over him, i feel like he likes me. Hes been really nice and always treats me food and gives me gifts. I dont know what to do. Now, i like him as a brother and i call him "kuya" which means older brother in tagalog. He always texts me. My friends also feel that hes interested in me. I thought about it and i dont really know how i feel. I like him, but im not sure anymore if i like him as a brother or a possible bf. I havent had any bf before and i dont think i want my first one to be 6yrs older because he'll be more experienced when it comes to relationships and all that stuff and he will be more likely to "be the pilot and steer the wheel" of the relaitionship. And i dont think im ready for a boyfriend yet. Please help.

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  • You should tempt him he wont be able to resist

  • The 1st poster said it all. YOU know it won't work out in the end. Crushes are nice and all that but he's too old for a serious relation ship with you.

  • You already know what to do. Steer clear of this one. Sure, there are a lot of people who think age is just a number. And when you're 18, this is true. But when you're 15, in many places you are still considered a minor and dating a 21 year old is considered illegal. And with good reason, you're still developing mentally, physically and emotionally and you admitted you are not ready for a relationship with someone who is much older.

    And aside from obvious reasons why men pursue girls, what is a 21 year old guy doing flirting with a high school girl? And someone he coaches? He should know better.

    You will have many chances to date guys when you're ready. Sure, it's fun to flirt. But for now, stop the texting with him, especially if it has nothing to do with the sport..it sounds as though it's just playing with your heart and you'll eventually get hurt. Doesn't matter what your friends say, stay true to you. Turn your attentions to someone closer to your own age, you'll be happier in the end. Hope that helped.

  • Im back.. he said he does have a crush on me. now he tries and talk to me every night! he also asked me to watch a movie with him but i said no. he still texts me all the time. and gives me gifts but i had a serious talk with him and told him that this is wrong and not gonna work out. he still does it though. idk what to do! he asked me a long time ago what kind of guys i like. and yesterday, he let me use his laptop and i saw a document and it's all there! our conversations before about crushes and everything. and the little things about me like what kind of foods i like etc.. he told me hes not gonna try and get a girlfriend until school ends. school is almost over and hes trying to get closer to me and it's scaring me because i might eventually like him and get hurt! and because hes my coach, every time we have practice, he calls me to play with him most of practice time. and one time on fb, i posted a 'lms' update.. and one of the questions was 'would i date you?' and i said no cuz youre 6 years older than me. then he sends this long message about how 'age doesnt matter' and that he has a coworker whos bf is 8 years older than her.

  • Six years is nothing. It in fact is exciting and forbidden and therefor way better than dating little boys. Half his age plus seven is the rule. He's 21 so 10.5 + 7 = close enough. Plus he probably really likes you and in the end it might be you who hurts him. Your only going to be so young once and this opportunity to live on the edge where the age thing is risky is never going to happen again once your 18. Now I know 3 years sounds like a lot but it really will be gone before you know it. Think about how you will remember this in the distant future. Will you look back and be glad that nothing extraordinary happened in regards to forbidden relationship or will you wish you had gone for it and been able to cherish the memory? Ask an older person. Regardless what you friends say today, in the future they'll respect you more for being bold and confident enough to ignore some stupid arbitrary norm set up by a bunch of jealous prudes. Its up to you to take life on your terms or live it according to what other people want. If you are really worried what people think then have your cake and eat too by secretly seeing the guy but keep him at bay as a lover only - make certain he understands that nobody can know and that way you control the pace and level of emotion for both you and him. You can still meet other people without being somebody's girl and stay detached enough to not get hurt. He will be going nuts over you but that is not your problem if you clear about your intentions up front. If in time you really become attached to him and think you love him then you can deal with that then. But for now its the journey that you should be thinking about and this thing could be a fun and slightly dangerous one that you'll remember for the rest of your life. Your friends will be amazed and haters don't matter anyway. At the end of the day its your life right now - live it to the fullest because you'll never be too young again.

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