I hate the way my teenage son is so

I hate the way my teenage son is so greedy. I make cookies to share when his friend comes over to play video games and he will only let his friend have one. He will get a drink for himself and balk at having to get one for his friend. I tell my son it is his responsibility to make his guest feel comfortable- not to eat in front of him! We got two of the same DVDs for Christmas (one on Christmas Eve from a relative and the box set on Christmas day from a different relative) and because they were both opened we couldn't take them back. We didn't need two of them but instead of giving it to him he would only let his friend 'borrow' the extra copy and made him bring it right back. I gave his friend an AC/DC hoodie that has been sitting in the closet untouched for TWO YEARS my son threw a fit. I don't know where it comes from- we don't live like that. Living is giving in my opinion but this boy will hang on to something even if it serves no purpose. He'll pay no attention to it- and suddenly it's MINE if someone even looks at it. The only thing I can think is he's got the personality traits of his dad. But I was hoping nurture would trump nature in this instance. Sometimes it does ...but not enough to keep me from worrying. I can't force or bully these negative feelings out of him, I can only keep modeling the behavior in hopes that he picks it up. When I ask him about it he just gets more and more frustrated. He's a very ego centered person. He often forgets to remember that his actions affect those around him until he says or does something that just pushes me past the limit. He's not a violent kid- no hitting or pushing. He doesn't cuss at me- because I'd tie his lips in a knot. I just want him to not be so ME, MYSELF and MINE all the time. Part of it is being a teenager- but a lot of that was there beforehand. With this attitude, I worry about how he will function in relationships and treat women some day. Because his dad- very egocentric. He never thought about how his actions affected me. It was all about HIM. Now I see my son- and I worry.

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  • I really believed that if I used the delayed gratification principle to s** and romance that a guy wouldn't dare reject me given all my accomplishments and genetic heritage and genuine sweetness in my 30s. I also believed this about other women who might be competing with me for marriageable men, that they would not dare hurt me given all the pains and hurts I had been through in my past by simply using the delayed gratification principle to romance that it would show not only my character but also my genuineness and qualities as a "marriageable desired quality women who doesn't go out on trends or limb or impulsiveness". It hurt me that it didn't work. I sat back and thought "how dare they reject me!" and "how dare they hurt me" because I was looking at it from my moral muscle that is well oiled and developed and the "do un to others as you would have them do to you" concept but I found that fewer and fewer people live my thing value methodology now. I didn't delay sexual gratification deliberately I just couldn't find any man I liked and then I was raped by someone I couldn't stand who was the opposite of everything I had wanted and worked for. I wonder how those people live with themselves to be honest. I couldn't rape a woman who was sexually tortured for 15 years but still a virgin at 29. I mean he burnt my skin gave me bruises and hit me and would throw a hand out anytime to grope at my crutch at 5 years of age. it was a h*** I wouldn't wish on someone but now I think. "I hope they face their days of h*** and suffering" that is the human side of me coming out. I would be interested to see how they feel now to see how they f***** up my life however, I would love to see it hurt them and crush their hearts like they crushed mine and also for the men who rejected me, the employers who rejected me as well.

  • People can also be horders too.It is like a compulsion that can not be controlled.My husband is pack rat so eas his grandfather.I would tell him look your embarrassing me when your selfish I did not raise you that way but I also would not go and give his stuff away-at least give him heads up so he doe have a fit in front of everyone.

  • Sounds like he may be a bit spoiled....try giving him less and doing less to cater to him and make him appreciate things

  • Your kid is a stupid f****** brat.
    Smash him in the face with a frying pan next time he wants to be a little b**** !

  • well a lot of kids have that kinda behavior when they are young around 3-10 sometimes it may even be when they are older i think it is the maturity level that hes in maybe.

  • He's YOUR kid why don't you do something more about it?

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