I want to put my daughter up for adoption but I'm scared people will judge me if I do.

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  • You have to do what is best for your daughter,if you cannot provide a good future for your daughter.then you have to get somebody else to do it for what is right for your not make the wrong choice for your daughter and give her a bad future.

  • If she won't live a good life under your care, do it. If you don't want her, absolutely do it. People will judge you, but that's a consequence of breeding, everyone thinks they know better than you how to do it.

  • You must act in the best interests of your daughter. Nothing else matters.

  • The decision, if you choose to allow her to be adopted, is so critical that you can't allow the beliefs, feelings and judgments of others to influence it. That's hard to avoid, I admit, but you have to think of what's best for only the two of you (assuming, naturally, that her father is out of the picture). Her age and yours, your ability to provide for her and care for her, and your physical and mental state are all vital factors, but there are dozens or hundreds of others, and you must weigh them all before stepping out into that process. Talk to a therapist if you have one, or a religious counselor (not just somebody at a church, but someone with training in the spiritual and scientific arenas), and get their input. Don't allow them -- or anybody else -- to make the decision for you, but just listen to them and use their offerings as data to be considered and absorbed. Also, talk to a lawyer about the steps involved, and to a social worker about the types of assistance you might get if you choose not to allow an adoption. But don't make any decision, positive or negative, until you've listened to everyone. The more information you assemble, the better off you'll be, and the more comfortable and confident you'll be after the fact that you made the right choice for you and your daughter. It's a difficult -- and probably lonely -- place you're in right now, but there is hope. Best wishes to you.

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