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I bought beer for my son and his
I bought beer for my son and his friends a few times when they were seniors in highschool as long as they drank it at my house and didnt drive anywhere. I liked being the cool mom. He graduated last summer and I did it two times since then for them. The 2nd time was this past weekend. I never drank with them before but did this time. I drank too much.
You need a kick in the **.Underaged kids should never drink as their bodies are not even full grown and equipped to process the alcohol.You might have done permanent damage trying to be the cool Mom.You really are a dumb ** who violated the law.Are you going to kill yourself when your son becomes an alcoholic or just smile kowing you started him off right and looked "cool" while doing it?
You're kidding, right? "Underage kids"? Did you notice the part where it said he was a senior in high school? Get a grip. It's just beer, not Everclear. I got my first drink at 14, and it was in a safe environment in my home from my parents, who were supervising me. Much rather kids do something like that, have a little nip now and then at home, than get curious and go find a hole in the wall club to drink god knows what from random strangers!
Youre a fine parent. Youre just lettin the kid live a little. wish my mom was like you.
Original Poster: This is a confession site. People have the freedom to have opinions about your behavior, and there is nothing you are gonna say to change their minds. Personally, I believe what you did is fine. I am 19, and growing up, the party was always at my house cause my mom was cool with us drinking, and I have never done anything dangerous, or irresponsable while drunk cause I was at home! But, you keep answering these people back as if you are trying to justify what you did, and you don't have to!
ok?
or at least have ** with his friends if ur not in to **
u should have ** with ur son and his friends
OP: I didn't realize that was what it ment. Puts our conversation in anotehr light.
mother i'd like to ** = **...
** a ** is awesome !!
OP: Thanks for that at least. It was that social more that made me feel like I should feel guilty which made me post it first. Just becasue many people/society would think I was doing something wrong made me think it too for a little bit and I really don't. I say it here, but not in my public life of course other than the obvious involved. Now, I'm dealing with the slight embarrassment of knowing I was not as discrete as I first though since my son admitted to having actually seen me with his friend in the other room. By the way, do you/anyone know what ** (**) means?
well ok then.
glad your son isn't freaked out by it.
carry on.
oh, and i only called it illicit because, according to common social mores, it is. i wasn't commenting on the morality of it by calling it 'illicit'--i just meant that, in terms of socially acceptable behavior, its a little on the forbidden side. but that's beside the point. social mores are malleable and usually retarded anyway.
OP: I've really thought about this over the past week and though I appreciate a few of the comments some of the others just show how biased society is toward women. I don't see why what I did is considered illicit. I also had a long talk with my son last night and he filled in a few gaps by telling me what he saw. When I asked if he was embarrassed by me he said no, he was just a little surprised because he had never seen me in such a mood before. When I asked what his friends thought or if they said anything to him since then, he told me since I only messed with the one, his best friend, the other 2 didn't really know something took place between us, only they had really spoken to each other about it and though he didnt elaborate too much he left me with the impression he was happy for his friend, not mad at him and that its not the kind of thing either intends to tell others about so I didn't need to worry about it. I am not looking for a relationship and neither is his friend, but I'm not opposed to maybe a bit more fun before his friend leaves in a few weeks if the situation arises again as it might. Sorry if that upsets some, but its exciting and I think I am due some fun before another long dry spell.
Your a wonderful parent, next time see if they want to be introduced to drugs, like crack, coke, krink, etc. etc.
to the op...
i think the question of whether or not you were wrong to do this (if these guys are legal adults) boils down to whether or not it would bother your son to know that you've been ** around with his friends.
social taboos are silly, as far as i'm concerned. but you SHOULD be cautious about potentially causing psychological or emotional damage to your child.
you should probably try to work out why you need these younger kids to make you feel good about yourself though. and takes steps to make sure that you can learn to become the kind of person who can feel fun, beautiful and desirable in ways that are more meaningful than these kinds of illicit relationships.
OP: If no one knows about it, and so far my secrets are stil secret, why would he be? Do you or your neighbors have no secrets or are you aware of everything they do behind closed doors, and they are aware of your secrets? I don't plan on telling anyone in real life and though we haven't spoken too much about last weekend specifically...he does not seem embarrassed at all. I never claimed to be a perfect mom in those first 17 years, but the last 2 have not made me any worse of one. Last Saturday night was unusual even for me but I don't know why I should feel guilty or why he should be embarrassed.
Look at your responses OP. I would be embarrassed to be your son.