I'm a 20 year old girl in a relationship with an other girl, I never came because she's so gentle like im a flower or something. For me, being like that is like you're 60 years old and can't handle someone being rough to you. Honestly it turns me on when we have a fight or something, that she punishes me later. We talked through some stuff and she isn't for bdsm at all. I told her I can go on without it, but honestly every my fantasy with her begins with me in handcuffs..