Lonely, Scared and Confused
I just found out that my husband of 7 years is gay. He doesn't know that I know. We have a three year old daughter. He has always exhibited tendencies, but we are involved in the music world. That means many of our friends are gay. At the beginning of our relationship we had s** constantly. But after her birth, we would go on LONG droughts. Our most recent was 10 months. In December he told me that he was unhappy. We have been working on it ever since. After getting back from Europe, I came into the bedroom late after having watched tv. His phone was lit up laying across him. When I picked it up he had been sexting a man. There were pictures of both of their penises. After that, I put all of the pieces together. He doesn't know that I know. I ache all over. Our last conversation he told me that he would be the best husband to me but that he just didn't need or want s**. I'm the opposite. Please help me. I need advice. I cannot talk to anyone.