The Secret is Out
My wife and I have been separated since July because I discovered she'd had a brief affair with a guy we both met at a neighbor's Memorial Day party. She admitted it when I confronted her and she told me she had broken it off after meeting with him three times at a nearby motel. A good friend of mine offered to let me move into a small farmhouse he owns for very little rent, so I accepted the offer and moved the basic necessities in, but my wife and I are trying to work through this thing to keep our marriage and family together. We have a 19 year old son who is away at college and a 16 year old daughter who is a junior in high school. At first, we didn't tell them the truth about why I moved out, but my daughter somehow found out about it and now she wants to move in with me. She says she hates her mother and she condemns her for being unfaithful to all of us. My wife is very distressed by the whole thing, the tension between her and our daughter is more than she can handle and I think it's probably best that our daughter come to live with me for a while. My wife has reluctantly agreed. Affairs are not just about the one having the affair. They involve entire families, innocent people get hurt because of the selfish act of one person. I truly believe we can come together to resolve this issue, but it will take time and a lot of forgiveness. At the moment my daughter does not seem to have the desire or willingness to forgive and I'm uncertain how to help her, but I'm going to pick her and her things up today.