My girlfriend

I wonder if she's been abused or something? Every time we have s** she gets this dead look on her face and doesn't look me in the eye. When I ask her what's up she says nothing and that she's nothing and to make her numb. Whenever I tell her I love her she says not to... is it just me?

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  • She might be having s** to try and forget a previous experience (maybe rape?) If she is not opening herself up to you then I think you should just break it off gently, and have her try to sort things out on her own.

  • Most of these comments are god awful... Talk to her, please. Just tell her that her responses during s** are offputting to you and you want to make sure everything's ok. Don't have s** with her unless you know she's enjoying it, okay? If you can't have a conversation about important stuff like this, being a couple won't work out very well. I definitely agree she sounds like someone who's survived abuse but needs help learning to cope. Make sure she knows she's loved and supported and that nothing she tells you will make you leave.

  • Sounds like she's been abused. And she's avoiding a connection with you even in your most intimate of moments. For someone not to tell you not to tell them they love you..they either they don't love themselves, or they aren't at that point to reciprocate. If this is a relationship that you want to be deeper or get really serious, she will need to get help. You obviously care for her. What is she like if s** is taken off the table? Is she more relaxed? giving? thoughtful? or is she sort of still cold? Tell her to contact can put her in touch with counselors.

  • RUN the other way, dude. All women are mental but this one is a special slice of lunatic. Always trust your gut.

    BEST ADVICE: don't get married, use hookers. They cost less and they go away.

  • At least your getting s**. I had a now ex girfriend who told me up front that I had no reason to love her because she definitely didn't love me.

  • Sorry man. I heard this story before. A blunt answer is you have a small p****. She is not feeling anythjng.

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