I've had this friend for 16 yrs, we've

I've had this friend for 16 yrs, we've been on/off a couple of times, and as of now I'm married, and he lives 5 states away. I went up to where he lives to visit my grandparents and while I was staying with him we ended up having s**. I feel horrible for what I did, but at the same time he's all I can think about. My husband is great and I love him, but I don't think I want to be with him anymore, and I'm afraid if I leave him I'll be making a big mistake, especially since I don't have the money to move 5 states and my friend hasn't said whether or not he wants to be with me.

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  • Why the f*** do you post if you just want to try to justify your slutty behavior. You are MARRIED therefore, you should not sleep with anyone else. You are a s*** for that, so deal with it. If you didn't want to hear the truth, why the h*** did you confess??? What did you think people would say??? Dumb ass w****!

  • Nobody was judging you. We just call it as we see it. First of all it's not about how many people you slept with it's about you cheating on your husband, when you were supposed to be taking care of your sick grandparents. And secondly what in the world did you expect the comments to be like when posting this confession. Did you honestly think it would not be called as it is. Just accept the fact that what you did makes you a s*** and then try to move on as you say. I'm not saying you will always be a s*** but I'm saying you were are a s*** now for what you did. And you are right we can't judge you and have no heaven or h*** to put you in for what you did. That is only reserved for God. But nobody here is cursing to a life of h***. We are just calling it as we see it. And as we see it you are a s*** for how you cheated on your husban. Simple as that.

  • Well, actually my dad paid to fly me up to see my grandmother, and my husband knew exactly where I was staying. And seeing my friend was not my main intention. I made a mistake, and I feel bad about it, and for you to call me a w**** and a s*** is wrong. I am 24 yrs old and my friend was only the 2nd person I had ever been with. I don't just f*** to f***. What I did wasn't right but don't act like any of you are the next Jesus either. Everyone has done something in their life that is wrong. And consider this my last comment as I have apologised and I've gotten myself through this, and no longer need the judgements of others, only God.

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  • Bla Bla Blaaaaaa - you are a cheater plain and simple and your trusting husband deserves better...

  • So if you didn't have any money for a hotel how did you find the money to drive 5 states away? I just think your story about having no other place to go is BS. First of all you have a grandfather that's having double bypass and if that aint bad enough your grandmother is given only 3-6 months to live and you find the time to go mess around with this guy. Second of all what reason did you give your husband for going away. Did you tell him you were going to see your grandparents? If so did you tell him how sick they were? I find it hard to beleive that first knowing you have epilepsy, no job, and are going to see about your sick grandparents that your husband (who you said yourself was a great guy) would not ask or wonder where you were going to stay. Why would he send you five states away with no monye, and no place to stay? Another question is if this guy that you cheated with has your on and off friend for 16 years how is it that your husband didn't know he lived in the same city. I just think your whole story is BS. You used your sick grandparents (that is if they are even sick in the first place) as an excuse to go visit this guy. You probably told your husband some lie about how you are going to stay with them or in their house or at the hospital or something, and when you got there you spent time with this guy and you probably didn't end up sleeping with him you planned it all along. Only thing I know about your husband is that he's a great guy, becuase that's what you said, and from what I know about great husbands is that they take care of their wives so I'm not judging you I just don't believe you. Simple as that.

  • Based on the comments so far, I want to thank you guys for the helpful ones, not the judgemental ones. But for clarification, my grandfather was sick having double bypass surgery, and my grandmother has cancer (with 3-6 mos to live) and had no place for me to stay either. Because I have epilepsy, I have no job and can't afford a hotel, he was the only option. But I do agree with the person who wrote they don't think I'm ready for marriage. I'm not so sure I am either, and I really do feel bad for what I did, it eats me up inside, as it should.

  • I think you should get a divorce I do not think your adult enough for marriage vows.The friend of 16 years is clearly using you for s**,If not then why didn't HE marry you?I feel bad for your ex to be.Marriage doe get boring after awhile s** with the same person blah blah.I think the so calles friend should be dropped out of your life too-he does not have good intentions except getting laid.

  • Hold up here. You went up to where he lives to visit your grandparents yet you were staying with him. What did you think would happen? And why were you staying with him in the first place? Why not stay with your grandparents or in a hotel? I think you wanted something to happen. Maybe this is the guy that got away or something but I just don't understand how it happened that you were staying with him. Just be prepared for the worst.

  • It's hard to consider your true feelings for your husband when your mind and attention is being drawn by someone else. My advice is to give yourself a week off from the friend, and try to understand what you really feel about this situation. Once you're away from him, you find you want to stay with your husband, or it could be other way around. Just give yourself some time to figure it out.

  • actually, everything depends on what you want. But fair s**, amidst fast eroding faithfulness and trust don't you think you need to be a bit faithful to your husband?

  • this kinda reminds me of the notebook. but hey i think you shuold really tell your husband. honesty is the most important thing in a relastionship. and it better if he got to know by you than some one else. But yes when you tell him it won't be an easy road later on, but i knoe you can't judge these kind of things but you can't love your husband if your willing to hurt him. but try to work things out. good luck god bless.

  • SCORE!!!!! WAY TO GO!!!

  • Interesting....very difficult decision to make. You mention your husband is "great" and that you "love" him....Are you NOT in love with him anymore? Have you approached your husband about your feelings? Have you tried any kind of couples therapy? Until you've tried these avenues first, I don't think you'll know for sure it's the right choice. Good luck!

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