so me and my boyfriend, well we are

so me and my boyfriend, well we are young. 18 and 19yrs old. everyone says to wait to get married and wait to have kids. we have been together for almost a year now. and i know that he is it for me. we live together and have a puppy <3

i really do love him and i want to be his wife and the mother of his children. the only bad thing is that we dont really have the money to have kids right now, but we want to have them young, because he wants his kids to know his dad. his dad is an amazing dad/g-pa. he never knew his grandparents and wants his children to know theirs. so i dont know what to do. i want to move from our house to a different one, so i just dont know what to do. i am going to school in a couple of months so i am not at a dead end job for the rest of my life, and so i do something i love. i just am not so sure what i want to do. everyone tells me if i am going to be with him for the rest of my life, then why rush into everything. but i say if i am going to be with him for the rest of my life why wait.

my parents were divorced when i was 11 so i know what divorced parents feels like. i know i dont want to put my future children through that, so i want to make sure that i am 100% positive that the man i marry is the one, and i have no doubts that we will be together forever and happily. so idk what to say.

i just dont know why everyone says to wait if i know that i know that i know....i just dont know

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  • Ha Ha OMG A whole year???? It is destiny! Grow up r*****, you dbarely know this person! I have been with my fiance for 6 years, and I am still learning things about him! Give it a few more years before making any rash desicions. Try living together for a while, and see if you guys can even stand to be in the same house first!

  • Your job, if you have kids is being a mother. Stay home with your kids and raise decent people for society. He will work as best he can and you will get by as everyone else does. Get married, be nice to each other and have some fun along the way. Life is 90% everyday stuff without much excitement other than just being alive. 5% is really low points and 5% are really high points and these things take cae of themselves without having to worry about them. It's the 90% that is hard. And keep a symbolic 5% of yourself and give 95% to your spouse. If you give it all away and they somehow are no longer you have 5% to start again, It is a way to never be with 'nothing', as in being nothing without someone.


  • I am a mid 30's male, married for 16 years. Of course, I was young, so was she. We're still together today....We've had bumps, but we're making it....:) After s** for 16 years with the same person, one might think it would get old. It really hasn't. Familiar yes, but being with 1 person has its advantages. I am so comfortable with her, all my inhibitions are gone. No fear of rejection, she always is there for me and I for her. Each of us is so comfortable with each of us makes for some wild S**! Point is, this CAN be done, my wife and I are proof. Key for us though, was not having children too soon. We enjoyed each other, traveled, got educated, and THEN had kids...that's the way to go! Good luck sweety!

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