I'm a teenage girl in highschool.. I want to fall in love so badly or not even fall in love, just like a guy so much that I want to always be with him. People don't understand how hard it is for me. I find a boy who likes me, I sorta like him. But I never actually become head over heals for any guy. I pick out every flaw I can find possible which makes me lose the any feelings I actually did have for him. When a guy always wants to hang out with me I make up lies, so I don't have to see him. I hate it when guys are clingy. I'm told that I have to find a guy who will give me a lot of space...but I don't want a guy who will give me a lot of space. I want a guy I feel comfortable around in my own house, who I want to hang out with all the time... I can't remember the last time I actually had major feelings for a guy, that I actually got to know really well. Because with me, the more I get to know them, the more I back off. I have set this image in my head of what I want in a guy. I'm also only sexually attracted to hottest guys with the hottest bodies. But only for physical reasons. I just can't take it anymore. I see couples and I get so jealous.. I get so jealous of my sister because her and her boyfriend are inlove and I would give anything to have that feeling. It's not like I have a problem getting guys, I have a problem growing deep feelings for guys. I think just maybe I might fall, but I never do. And I feel terrible for leading them on then backing off. It's not like I want too. I just hope that one day I can have those strong feelings..


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  • It will happen when you least expect it. So in the meantime relax and have fun with dating and getting to know people and the different and interesting things each one has to offer. You might not find him tomorrow, but you could make some great friends while you wait. :-)

  • I'm the same way...
    I've never had a really boyfriend, like someone who felt like my best friend
    it's not like no guys have ever liked me either

    it's just that...
    the guys I DO have serious feelings for don't like me back...
    but then when a guy like me and I sorta like him back, I know he's not good for me.

    I'm getting a little bit desperate.

  • You are in high school, you probably are not going to find the perfect guy. be patient, he will come. I know how lonely you feel, but thats what beer and best friends are for. he will come, and none of the things you are saying will matter at all. it will happen.

  • i'm sure most people want to fall head over heels for someone, but like most people we tend to pick out flaws we see in our partner, even before we see all of them. you want the perfect guy, perfect looking etc, it's just not realistic, nobody will ever exist that way for you as great as it sounds. in all relationships there will always be a good and bad side to every person. that's something you need to accept!

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