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I hate my 7 year old stepson
I have a problem. I am with a girl that I Love dearly and we now have a baby girl that we had together and this part of my life is great. The problem I have with my life that is causing problems and making everyone argue and unhappy is my over sensitive nasty little ** of a stepson. Before you all judge me and say I just don't like him as we now have a second child which is mine the truth is I haven't liked him from The start, which makes me feel terrible and like a bad person I know he's just a child but he is a nightmare. He is the rudest child I have ever experienced in my life and compared to other kids his age he is worlds apart. He has been spoilt and molicoddled so badly
That he thinks he runs the show he moans about everything and anything in this horrible little girly voice he crys and has tantrums if he dosent get his own way. He dosent like sharing or playing with other children, compared to all
His pals he is a little needy undeveloped little **. It's gone too far now I just wish he would go away forever. I just don't know what to do please help. He's also violent and has started hitting ppl when he dosent get his way which makes me want to punch seven bells of ** out of him. Everytime I try and discipline him she sides with him and I'm made to be the bad guy. Someone please help me I'm at my wits end.
Regards,
Desperately unhappy dad :-(
The feelings maybe mutual
The adults need to come together and all be on the same page regarding discipline and rewards for this child. You are as much apart of this problem as you are the solution. You new baby may cause some jealousy waves...be kind and understanding to this child. Family counseling could be very beneficial for everyone. But you have to start with you..it's ok to vent, but really try changing your attitude and offer up some ideas.
The difficulty here is the adult relationship between you and your partner.
You and your partner need to resolve your issues first.
Then recognise that the kid may just be feeling some kind of loss or trauma or issues which you will never ever understand until you make the safe space to listen to them.
Then once the you've done that you can start to insist on good behaviour. You can build boundaries and structure that can only exist in a genuinly emotionally safe environment.
Only dysfunctional, selfish adult-babies look at children like this, be a man not a baby! This is truly pathetic that you let a CHILD get to you.
You shouldn't have married a woman with a child you didn't like. This will eventually ruin your marriage and you'll be paying child support for a child yu only see occasionally.
Thanks mate. And who cares I'm guessing you're a fat single American