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Brother's remarriage to ex & pregnancy problem
Last year I had an affair with my brother's ex-wife Rachel. She is 35 and my brother is 38. They were married for 10 years, had two kids, and when they divorced in March 2017 it looked like they were done for good. I'm 43 and have been married for 18 years.
I used to help Rachel with a lot of things after their divorce and we became close friends. Although I was married, we had chemistry and ended up having ** last summer into the fall--a lot of it. Well, she got pregnant and last month gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. I never had kids with my wife, so she was my first child. Neither my wife nor my brother have a clue that I'm the father of Rachel's baby.
The problem is that Rachel is dating my brother again, and they are planning to get remarried. This is getting to be a bit of a mess. She said she wants to tell my brother that I'm the father of her new baby, but I've been pleading with her to her not to do it. My brother and I are very close, blood brother types, and he would freak if he knew I banged and impregnated his ex and will be raising my daughter with Rachel. It would ruin our relationship. I'm also worried that my wife will find out about the affair. It would ruin our marriage. My (and my brother's) parents would be horrified too. It would highly damage, if not ruin, our relationship too. It's messy that my daughter might also eventually learn that I'm her biological father as well as her uncle.
The honest truth is that I never would have gotten involved with Rachel had I known that she was going to go back to my brother. I thought they were done. I don't know how to keep the lid from blowing off of this secret. It has given me many sleepless nights. I don't know what to do. I'm really freaked out.
Did she ever tell?
Daddy i hope you will find me and it just went daddy i love you
Are you there??
She needs to keep her trap shut and say that the father is some random dude from a hookup, not you. If she lets out fact that you fathered her baby, she will be doing a grave injustice to everyone.
You got played man. I don't know for sure, but I'd bet that when she divorced your brother and hooked up with you, she knew that she was going back to your brother eventually. imo she's pure evil with all of the temptation of the devil between her legs.
You can tell her all you want that she should not tell him, or anybody else, but if you know anything about women you'll already know that there's nothing you can say or do to stop the **. NOTHING. You can certainly try to reason with her, and explain to her how much harm it will do, you can even try begging (or maybe even paying her to keep quiet). But if the ** decides she's going to tell, then she's going to tell, and you just have to prepare yourself. That's why they call them "**". And Rachel seems to me to be a classic ** with a capital "B": she got herself the baby she wanted and made her ex-husband jealous, even to the point of wanting her back. You may want to attempt to find a way to get out ahead of this before she does it, so you can control how it's disseminated, but I don't know of a good way to do that and get a happy outcome. All I can say is that I really feel for you, and I wish you the best.