I Can't Take it Anymore...

When my father died I inherited my mother so for the past 6 years I have been taking care of her FT. I can't take it anymore. I have no life. I have 2 brothers but they are both married so I was the "lucky" one who got to give up their life for her. She is the most ungrateful person I have ever met. I do all the cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc. She criticizes EVERYTHING I do and is verbally and mentally abusive. I bite my tongue so often I think it's at least an inch shorter now. How is it that I hate this woman so much? I now resent my brothers too because they have wives and children. I'll never have a husband or children. I know that they say a son is a son until he takes a wife and a daughter is a daughter the rest of her life but this just isn't fair. I was in a serious relationship when I started taking care of her but we broke up within 6 months because of her. I haven't dated in almost 6 years. My life is so awful that I hate everything about it. I want to run away and start over somewhere new because I honestly don't know how much longer I can take the constant verbal and mental abuse.

Jul 8, 2010

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  • When our parents were living my middle brother would take care of them till the hospitals put them in a nursing home which the state paid the bills till they both died

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  • Put the old b**** in a home somewhere.
    Give her 2 weeks to get her s*** together and let her know that the quality of the establishment will be the direct result of her attitude before the big move.
    That should shut her up for a minute or two.

  • I would leave the ungrateful old bag. Tell her you are leaving in 30 days and tell her to make other arrangements. Just because they are family does not mean they can abuse you. I walked away from my family years ago and have never missed them.

  • yeah , i think you need a break as well , but i do commend you for taking care of your mother . I think before you spend any extra money you should have a talk with your mom and let her know she is not being kind to you . I know it is difficult when she is ill , but that is no excuse for her to be so mean to you.....if you are doing it for the money than think of how cool it is to take care of your mom and get paid for it , maybe one day a week would be good for you to have all to your self?

  • Are you self employed or on assistance of some sort? If its insurance and stuff, get a service to do it all. It costs of course but isn't it worth it? Saving your own life? Sell everything that isn't used daily, weekly, monthly. Start cutting back on your services. So don't cook a meal on a certain day. Perhaps every Tuesday you go to a pool for laps and a hot tub / sauna for relaxation.

    You have to make a break from your duties. Also, you need to tell her to appreciate you. It'll be hard to stand up to her, but you don't have to be her punching bag for her own depression and anger for her situation. Is she doing anything to attempt rehabilitation? Is she doing anything for herself?

  • I am sorry. I know it does not help you, but it is all I can offer. Best of luck to you as tomorrow is always a new day and may bring what you least expect.

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