I don't want to marry him...

My wedding is a month away, everything is booked, the dress is hanging in my closet...and I couldn't be more miserable. I care for him, but because of his job (armed forces) I'm always alone. And nothing will change once we're married. In fact, it will be even worse because I'm moving to another country to be with him, and then he'll be leaving me (in that country, by myself) to go on another deployment.

I love him, but I sometimes wonder if "love" is enough. A marriage is supposed to be a partnership, but since I spent 6-8 months of every year by myself, I don't really even feel like I'm in a relationship. How do military souses manage this? Is the terrible fear I'm feeling normal?

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  • No love isn't enough. If you're going to be a military wife, you're going to have to know how to be your own best friend. If you can't manage, stop the wedding- THIS IS YOU R LIFE. And for the love of god - don't go having kids just to keep yourself from being lonely. That's no reason to bring another person into the world. You don't have to feel bad. Playing the martyr and being miserable for someone else will earn you NOTHING in the end. It won't make him love you more or prove that you're some kind of saint- only that you're the kind of dolt who puts up with s*** you don't have to. You will likely end up divorced anyway in the longrun anyway- most military couples do. And for the record- military men AND women are the biggest whores I have EVER come across in my entire life- so don't ANYONE get down on the wives.

  • Don't listen to the idiot above.

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