i think im into polyamourous?

so all my life ive been taught that two people is a couple but lately i'm not satisfied by just having one guy in my life, im not having s** or anything like that i just like the emotional stability they provide me with. i think i would like to have a relationship with both of them at the same time? becuase i love them both....but i dont want to miss out if i choose one, and i dont want to cheat on either of them...i dont know i just think maybe i dont love them im just an attention w**** and feed off the positive energy they give me.

dont get me wrong i feel horrible about this right now because one of them wants to marry me, and the other talks about spending forever with me. i hate not being able to choose which one i really do love...if i even love them at all.

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  • You shoule b having s..

  • oh and we women always want attention from as many men as possible, itsw our nature.

  • read july july by tim obrien. dont stop reading it! you will get to a point in the book where obrien speaks of a women who loved to men and was married to both of them, they were ok with it, then.... read to find out.

  • So.....I think you're being TO harsh on yourself.

    Society tells us that we should be monogamous, it imprints on us the 'normality' of a couple - one man, one woman making a commitment for life.

    Research has shown that man is not designed to be monogamous as a species. This is maybe part of the reason why so many people are trapped in unhappy marriages and relationships, and why so many mariages end in divorce.
    Society is responsible.

    I think that you do need to discuss this with both parties involved though, dishonesty will only make you and those you love unhappy in the long run.
    I'm offering this advice as someone who has been through the same situation - I still don't feel able to commit to just one person and I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of.

    After all, in some cultures it is socially acceptable to be polyamorous, why should we be restricted in our choice of lifestyle just because society deems it so?

    I don't think you're an attention w****, altho I have often been accused of this myself. Instead, I think it's unrealistic to expect one person to provide everything that you need to behapy in your life. After all, I'm sure everyone has different friends in their life who provide them with different things - a friend to share hobies with, a friend who is a good listener, a quirky artistic friend, one who loves shopping etc etc.

    So why should relationships be any different? Why should you have unrealistic expectations that mean one person should be able to provide you with everything that you need?
    Maybe youre not the kind of person who will ever be able to pursue a monogamous committed relationship, and that's nothing to be ashamed of.

    However, maybe it is just that you haven't met the right person yet.

    Whatever you decide, best of luck

    xxx

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