I have been dating a guy for two years, and finally moved into his house last week. Our relationship has been good, and he comes across as a guy who has decent morals, in the time that I've known him. While he was at work, I was moving a few of my things into one of his closets, and noticed that he had a box of p*** magazines and some video tapes. It was just "guy stuff," I figured.
Being curious, I played one of the video tapes, and to my horror it was a homemade p*** video of my boyfriend, three of his male friends, and two women at what was clearly a s** party at my boyfriend's house. (I knew the guys, but have no idea who the women were.) The video had a time stamp on it, and it dates from about five years ago, before we were together.
I'm more than a little disturbed that my boyfriend would: a) partake in such sleazy behavior, and b) feel the need to keep a film of it for posterity. In the video he and his friends take turns f****** the girls, and generally behave like drunken animals. The worst of it is that my boyfriend f***** both girls without using a condom (and "nutted" in one of them), which was reckless behavior. (Luckily, he didn't get an STD.)
I'm about ready to toss this tape into the garbage, as it bothers me immensely, but I'm sure he would recognize that it was missing, and I don't want him to think that I have been snooping on him. He has never told me about this tape or this "party," and I'm not sure if I should bring this topic up to him, because maybe his past life is simply none of my business. I don't know. I'm p***** off and feel betrayed, although I recognize that all of this occurred long before we were together. I guess I'm just disappointed that I've learned that my boyfriend is probably a s***.