Coming out.

I'm not sure what 'man hating' lesbians you have come across but I find this a very stereotypically mediated image that has been created. I'm sure lesbians have full respect for men, just as gay men do for women; there is just obviously never any romantic interest. It is incredibly difficult to come out but don't live in fear of other gay people being radical or crazy - they are normal people just trying to live their lives. There are plenty of radical homosexuals AND heterosexuals in this world, I suppose we should expect them to crop up in all walks of life! Just define yourself and don't let your identity be stereotyped by the media or popular groups; be your own person and be proud of staying true to yourself :)

Oh please. There is a certain type of unevolved person (gay and straight, male and female) who will be --ACTIVELY NASTY-- to people they don't want to bang. Maybe those are the radical types you're talking about, but being a petty little a$$hole has nothing to do with which way you swing.

Yes, it won't be easy. There is far more acceptance these days but homophobia is still alive. As a word of caution, coming out can be made more difficult if you are sucked into the world of man-hating hard-core lesbianism. It may seem the only place to go but that crowd will use and abuse you while messing up your head. They can be as harmful as the homophobes. And they almost always have their own deep-seated gender confusion issues. Love, relationships and feelings should not require militantism. Good luck.

>>Love, relationships and feelings should not require militarism*.

Except that's exactly how ALL kinds of relationships are talked about now, complete with special pronouns and constant, just under the surface Offendedness just waiting for an excuse to burst forth on a flood of "triggered" virtual tears.

>>Good luck.

We could use some as a society. People are indeed starting to get tired of the "feelings" types constantly moving the goalposts and having almost as many tantrums as the MAGAt types. We don't need luck, we need a moratorium on people looking for reasons to be loud and stupid!!

I'm in the same position as you except everyone thinks I'm straight which is even worse. I guess the only thing to do for your sanity is to eventually come out (same goes for me!) It's a shame it's such a painful, lonely & emotional journey to endure. I hope you have the strength to be true to yourself one day, I wish I did. Good luck **