I hate my stepson w/ a passion! His

My step daughter does the same thing! She lied to us and told us that she was being mistreated by her step father. Then she told her mother that I was mistreating her. Then one day we all sat down, her two parents and two step parents, and confronted her and she busted out crying and said that she just wants her dad to herself. Idiot.

Having been the child who was trashed by a stepmother and separated from her father I can attest to the fact that the child does get over it. She's dead and I'm beginning to have a relationship with my father.

On the other side I have had my 18 y/o stepson move in with us after begging to get out of the abusive house of his mother and stepfather. Fast forward 4 months and he's been asked to find other living arrangements as he does not wish to be part of this house but rather come and go as he pleases. He is welcome to do that when he has his own place and pays his own bills. What did he do... went back to that oh sooooo abusive household he begged us to get him out of and now we're receiving emails from his mother filled with the lies that he has told her about what he had to endure here. I've learned he'll say/do exactly what is needed to get him what he wants.

I'm so pleased to have found a place where others feel the same way about their stepchildren.

lol, you ** ppl need a ** life.

NO, you do. Obviously you are reading this not for help or advice, but because you are bored.
People have real issues with stepchildren. It is not like ll are bad. SOme people have wonderful stepchildren. My brother for instance, but others have been unfortunate to get really spoiled, selfish and sometimes criminal children.

U get a step, then come back with ur smart remarks.

YES once you have been a step parent comeback with ur opinion until then go to other site **!

Eat a **.

The guy who said he would chose his wife over his own children is an idiot. She's probably ** your best friend on your couch right now.

Who cares if the kid is ADHD? or if he is a monster?
Get over yourself already.
That kid means more to his father than you ever will be.

I'm a devoted husband and my daughter and my wife (not her mother) do not get along at all.
I would chose my daughter anyday.
Women come and go, but you can't replace the kid you made.

I don't think stepchild and stepparents are arch-enemy by nature. It has nothing to do with who should choose who over who. It's not a choice by anyone but it certainly is work. If everyone (including your own sibling, your own friends, your child's friends, your child's teacher or even the grandparents) is telling you that your child is not being respectful to others, then there IS a problem and it needs to be dealt with. This has NOTHING to do with who the biological dad or mom should choose over who. People talking about how kids are irreplaceable and spouses are are missing the point big time.

I wouldn't want a man who wouldn't choose his kids! However, boundaries need to be set with grown-** children... my home is not my stepson's party pad.

Wow, I feel sorry for your wife...

Seriously!

OMG finally someone sees my point of view on this. =) Thanks, to the above commenter.

First of all I'm a guy and I would choose my wife over my kid. Especially if the kids a teenager. Kids are dumb and don't understand the big picture. At the end of the day when the kid has left the house and is grown up and forgot about you, your dumb a$$ will be sitting there all alone wishing you had that special person you let your kid run away. Kids will get over it. And when they do it's best to still have that some one special for you. Plus we need to start teaching our kids that it's not all about them. Thats why they are so bad. Not because of ADHD or ADD. It's because we spoil them into thinking life is about getting their way and it's not. Sometimes they are just not going to like what's happening and they have to learn to deal with it.

True story!

I get so sick of rude people shooting down the people who make confessions on this site.

Rude people don't bother me I could give a rats AS* what they think of me... I feel some type of way and their comment doesn't really matter.... end of story!

hateful and bitter women? i'm sorry... but have you been in this particular situation?? if not... shut your mouth! we're not all perfect like you i guess. my stepson is adhd and bipolar and is usually behaves like a complete monster! I realize that due to mental disorders it isnt entirely his fault.. but, being a stepparent it makes it even harder to love him when all he presents to the family is chaos. Everyone has different situations and curcumstances that we all deal w/ differently. I dont think any of us are the evil vs the good just bcause some of us can be thruthful about our feelings no matter how unflattering they may be. Isn't that what this site is for?

These hateful bitter ** women need to get over themselves.
The kids will ALWAYS remain top priority.
The dad and your "husband" would pick his children over your childish, immature, and pathetic ways I assure you!
Jealous ** these days, I swear!

No they don't! Kids are not and shouldn't always be a priority. They are part of a family, not THE family. Smarten up, they've become THE excuse for not taking responsibility for our own lives!!!!

I SO AGREE KIDS SHOULDN'T BE A PRIORITY..... MORE SO WHEN THEY ARE 23 YRS OLD !!

I love all these people who respond with put downs!! Obviously you have nothing better to do with your time & nothing remotely beneficial to offer, which comes across as distasteful bitterness to make yourselves feel like like your actually ok! Who are any of you to judge anyone's situation, it's not yours to judge. This is place for normal people in real sutuations to be able to find comfort & advice, it's for people who are looking for solutions! These people are not bitter they are just reaching out as a last resort!! I bet if you asked any person On here i bet they want the best scenario!! Which would be to live as a happy blended family! why else would they be trying so hard. Family is everything and when there is termoil it effects every aspect of your life, I wish every family the best of luck finding solutions & harmony because obviously you are all very committed to making the "blended family" work..

This is really sad to read why a person would call a person childish,immature ect not that i would no but by reading what you have just posted clearly indicates to me that you have never been in this predicament i have been battling a ss situation for over 5 years now and i really have tried to love and cherish this child but he is sad that his father is with me and not his mum he is 17 now and the attitude and complete disrespect has gotten worse i force my husband to take him on trips and camping but he dosnt so my ss thinks i am keeping his dad from him when all i do is push my husband to do things without me but with him i really cant win i have kicked him out of the house now because he got violent towards me he is now living back at his mothers who is just as bad.So to end my comment please dont judge and put down people on here because you truely dont no what they are going through and if you did no what they were going through you would be the converted not the detester

Noo, men need to learn to be a father insteed of their kids friend. man and wife are the adults and kids are what they are, kids, parent need to make sure they know they are not full grown and if they were they need to get out into the real world and take care of themselves, dumbass men, i swear!!

You're such a **...do you seriously think any person in their right mind would pick a rotten immature self centered ** stepson or stepdaughter over their spouse? WRONG! This is not a control situation or jealousy issue by any means. It is about trying to instilling good values and morals in some kid(s) who can't be bothered. After much effort and years of trying to get respect, if a parent's efforts are in vain, then they have no choice but to go on with their lives, with their significant other. One day that immature ungrateful kid will grow the ** up and maybe....i say maybe...realize that their parents (step or not) efforts had good intentions and ask for forgiveness for having been such a moron.
What does is say when a teen doesn't love his biological parent enough to just be happy that they have found someone they love. Many of these teens are so insecure that they will jeopardize their parent's new relationship just because they can. Fucken self centered little **!

You're a ** moron. I've BEEN on both sides of the coin, and I still agree with most of those comments. Get **.

I bet your kid (s) are ** too, huh?

I was a kid once, and not too long ago. I am only 24. So for the kid who commented, I do understand your side of this. But I also know that my step daughter is lazy, does nothing at home to help out. Summer is here, so she doesn't go to school. She has no friends, so she sits at home all day, on the couch, drawing. I get so sick of walking into a dirty house that has not been touched and seeing her sit on her fat **. Then she tries to talk to me, like nothing should be wrong- like I shouldn't be upset at her for being useless. And she says the same thing that you did- that she does alot to help us out, which leads me to believe that she is ignorant, because I can so obviously see that she did nothing. And the way I see it, her home has been broken for several years, she should be used to it by now so she can't use that one. And dealing with her dad marrying a stranger will not seem like such a big deal to you when you get older. You will grow up and realize that what should have mattered is your parents' happiness. You will get married yourself. You will have your own life, job, maybe kids. And you will see what I have been reminding her all along, that you were just a temporary member of the household. Imagine this... Your Dad married someone that you just can't stand. She yells at you so much that you just want to slit your wrist, just so that you don't have to hear the ** anymore. You finally torment her to the point that she can't stand it anymore, and she packs her stuff and leaves your dad. Your dad is lonely, and miserable. He has you, but hey, that's just you, and let's face it, sometimes adults need adults to keep them company. Talking to their kid iis great, but there is nothing like good ole adult conversation with someone you care about. Then you grow older, leave for college, or move out and start your own life with someone you care about. Your dad is still stuck at home and wanting to kill HIMSELF because he has noone, not even his kids. Get the message? Kids that try to run their parent's spouses off are very selfish. Even if you don't like the person, just try to remember that your parent is happy, and that you will be out of the house soon enough anyway.
And for the one that wrote the confession, what does your step son do that makes you feel this way about him?

DEAR ANONYMOUS THIS WAS THE BEST POST I READ !!! IT IS EXACTLY WHAT I TELL MY HUSBAND BOUT HIS SON....... STEPSON WILL LIE TO MU HUSBAND OF 18 YRS JUST TO SEE IF HE WILL LEAVE ME ...... HIS SON IS 23 YRS OLD...... OMG YOU WROTE EXACTLY HOW I FEEL !!!IM GLAD IM NOT ALONE !!!

wow... being on the other side of the hateful stepparent/child relationship, I have to stick in a word for the kids. I lived with my father for a while who is remarried, and his wife never actually wanted me to move in in the first place, but lied to him and said she did. I did nothing to her, I tried to help around the house and do what I could, but it was worse than living with strangers. She emotionally abused me, yelled and cursed at me, every day was a living **. I would have ended my life if it weren't for my real family. I stopped eating, I barely slept, my only escape was my friends and school. My father tried to stick up for me, but she kept ** him out and threatened to leave. Eventually he moved me to a neighbour's house.

Long story short, instead of hating your stepchildren, why don't you make an effort to understand them and bridge that divide? You may not be related to them by blood, but they are still your responsibility to at least try to get a long with. They may be going through worse times than you realise, dealing with a broken home as well as the fact that their real parent decided to marry a stranger. Can you imagine that trauma? What would you do in that sort of situation? Try thinking about someone other than yourselves for a change.

When I married it was a package deal, he came with her, dad told me not to adopt him, that I'd regret it, well to keep peice in the family I adopted the damm brat, and I've regretted it ever since, should've drownd the ** back when I had the chance.

I feel you.

I am glad to know that I am not the only one that feels this way. When I confessed to feeling that way about my fiance's kids, I got trashed for it. Everyone told me not to marry him. I have made some progress with my situation though, just by completely ignoring my future step-daughter. I have cut her out of my wedding, since she got in my face and yelled at me, and I don't speak to her. I don't even acknowledge that she is in the room. I know that's hateful, but she deserves it for being so evil to me all this time. Now my fiance is going on the road (he is a truck driver) and I cannot wait for some alone time with the little **. =P