Now???? Really???!!!???

About 9 years ago I had a one night stand with a guy I met online. We only met the one time. We did a lot of phone sexing and explicit emails over the course of a couple of months. I told him I was done with the whole affair and we stopped communicating. This was COMPLETELY out of character for me and I have regretted it ever since.

Fast forward to today-almost 10 years later. I have met my soulmate. We totally get each other. It's like we were together in a past life. I have never felt so whole before - now I know what 'You complete me' means. He's been telling me about his best friend and telling his best friend about me. The more he tells me the more I start to remember that one night stand. Well of course, as it turns out, it's him.

I am devastated. I have not 'met' him yet but I know it's him. (Same name, same town (small midwestern town), same profession, same hometown (Honolulu).

What do I do? Do I tell my boyfriend ahead of time (He would be MORTIFIED!!!) or do I wait to meet his best friend and hope that he doesn't remember me?



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  • I agree with the above. The past is the past... To put it bluntly who the f*ck cares. It happen 9 years ago. If anything I bet you he's had s** with a random girl before. Why not share your experience with him. If he has a problem then he isn't met to be

  • Were you two together during that time? If not, it's just a real real strange coincidence. Meeting a soulmate is an amazing experience. Unlike physical relationships, the soulmate love is a timeless love, and it's also an unconditional love. If you didn't cheat on the guy you're with. I don't think you'd have to tell him other than that you two have met, when you meet him.

    Now, I want you to forgive yourself for this one night stand. You messed around. You has s**. There is nothing dirty or wrong about doing so. What brings on guilt is that it's out of your character. Accept that it's okay that in that moment you did something you wouldn't normally do. But you recognized it, and you ended it. So, be okay with that fact.

    Let me ask you this. Your having s** with him.... Change who you are? Of course not. You are you, and you are not your acts or mistakes. You are with your soulmate. Focus on that love, and now. Don't focus on the past. I will mention though, soulmates get challenged. Therefore, if this is him, there is purpose to why he's your soulmates friend, and why he's who you met for this one night stand. It might be a simple challenge or a difficult one. It might be just to simply recognize that your s** with him is irrelevant to today, because one purpose of soulmates is to break through the ego (what's causing your guilt), so you may heal and return to the perfection of love that soulmates are to hold for one another.

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