I hate being a parent

That I hate being a parent. I should have never given into my wife's want for a child. I'd rather spend my time in my garage or reading, or anything than spending time with my daughter. She's happy and healthy but lately doesn't like going to sleep at night. Everyone keeps saying that I'm such a good father etc, and yes I may be good at it, but just because you are good at something doesn't mean you enjoy it. I can't have any down time to just relax, shes always there. One day I'll let my wife onto this but until then Ill just have to deal with it.

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  • I just spent the last 6 hours writing a guide for a lawyer to use in writing a custody order for a nasty custody case with international connections.I spent hours reading about the Geneva's The Parental Kidnapping Prevention Act and the Uniform Child Abduction Prevention Act. This is my second set of kids from two different women.My older ones are in college.I love them all so dealy and I just hope I never get to resent them.
    I wish u the very best,just love your daughter and maybe talk to a therapist so u dont have to fake the love for her. I am a guy in his mid 40s and reading and replying to your post is making me cry.Sorry man.

  • That's a shame for your daughter, although I understand. Try not to make it too obvious for your daughter's sake. Kids need to feel loved and they are smart - she will sense it. I hope it gets better for you and that you can enjoy a more fulfilling relationship with her as she grows older.

  • OP here.
    NO ONE has any idea about this. I hide it now, and I will continue to probably forever.

  • Do your wife a favor and keep this a secret from her. Go to a counselor and talk about it to him or her. Trust me, you will steal joy from your wife. My husband feels this way. he hates the burden of having a child. This is his third but my first. He was happy and acted like having a family was what he wanted at first. Now I find out he "gave in" to my want to be a mother.
    Well...I would rather he leave us then this. i don't want a partner who doesnt want to be the part of the family. I pray my daughter never feels this pain.

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