I'm 20 years old, from Bath, United Kingdom but studying in Cornwall.

I've recently started dating someone and it's been going on for a few months now. What makes this particularly special is that I've never felt this way about another person before. I mean, I've been romantically involved with a girl before but this time it's different.

We have pretty regular and intense s** and we do a lot of sexting when we're away from each other.

Anyway, throughout the last few months she's occasionally talked about how much she'd love a threesome and every time she does I end up feeling incredibly upset and sick to the stomach.

The thought of her getting sexual gratification from another person just sends me to rock bottom. She's fully aware that I hate this, but she still drives home how hot she thinks it'd be and I know I wouldn't last 5 minutes before having to leave the room if ever it came to be.

It leaves me feeling entirely inadequate and that I am not, nor will I ever be, really enough for her.

I know these thoughts are entirely ridiculous as, as she rightly pointed out, it's very irregular (particularly for a guy my age) to feel this way and not be comfortable with the idea of a threesome with two girls, but the fact of the matter is that I do feel this way.

I know I could never speak to her properly about this because it'd be selfish of me to put this on her.

Please, if anyone out there has any advice can I get some help? Like I said, she's so important to me and I'd hate to lose her just because I'm being frigid.

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  • You are not being frigid. I feel this same way about my wife. I know many people do it, but if it's not your thing, then it's not your thing, and there's nothing wrong with that! Just let her know how you feel and that it's a sign of how much you love her. Maybe she'll understand.

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