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I hate being a parent
I don't hate my kids, but I hate being a parent.
I hate not having anything even remotely resembling a social life. I hate changing diapers. I hate cleaning up after my kids. I hate driving some of them to school. I hate having to cook for them all the time. I hate listening to them fight, or cry, or beg for something. I hate having to take them to sports or activities so they're not bored. I hate having to keep watch over them when friends come over to play.
I hate being trapped in ** broiling desert, backwards ** Arizona, just because a job pays well enough to support four kids and moving would mean working for about 1/2 the pay. I've wasted a third of my life in this ** place because I can't afford to move because of these kids. I hate having to keep a close watch over my kids because I live in a ** huge beige and cement city...the more people there are, the more sick ** you gotta worry about taking kids.
I hate never being able to go anywhere new, see anything new, do anything new. School, meals, naps, sleep. I can't wait for them all to grow up and go away to college. Until then, I'm responsible for them. I'll be 52 when the last leave the house...I'd say half my life will be gone, and I'll have nothing but regrets.
The first kid was ok, I was 28 and figured I would make a good parent. The second got annoying by the time he turned 3. The third and fourth were definitely a mistake in judgement on my part. Should have just said "no ** way" to the wife after the first two. There's times I can't stand the sound of their voices. A couple times I've even gone so far as to wear earplugs and ignore them for an hour or two.
I usually stay up late and deprive myself of hours of sleep, just because I know that the sooner I go to sleep, the sooner another day of dealing with my children will start for me. **, I've gotta get up in 3 1/2 hours to take the older ones to school.
The brief moments of "oh, that's cute" are far overshadowed by the sheer level of ** I hate about parenthood. Passing on my genes is not worth this. If I would have known I'd hate parenthood so much, I'd have gotten a vasectomy at 18.
And to top it all off, I don't drink alcohol. I never acquired a taste for it, and earlier in life had no desire to kill off brain or liver cells, nor give up any self-control. I think I'd like to learn to appreciate a good beer or well-crafted spirit, but I won't. How much more miserable would my life be if I let slip to the wife or others how much I regret almost all of my decisions of the past 18 years (moving to Arizona, having kids, and sometimes even including marriage)?
Why even bother typing this up? I feels a little better just to put it out there, and I know that nobody I know will see this or be able to connect this to me. I put on a pretty decent act as a responsible (and almost caring) parent. I've been living the lie for years.
3) It's refreshing to hear from parents breaking free from the bandwagon pretending parenthood is the best thing ever; everyone has their own happiness. I love how you parents on here are honest, get all that ** of your chests! It's a great deal of pressure for you parents. Whew!!! T the person/people gloating, I get it, it's condescending whenever boastful parents state how they pity us and forget it's a choice. I just hope those fake parents are on here tbh, then the "I told you so's" are applied, but to the parents on here venting in tears and rage, I'm sorry for the ** you seem to be in, it gets better, I pray it does. 4) People like to gloat, who doesn't?! it's what they're proud of but I believe in a cocky way. Kids gloat all the time, "Look ma I found a puppy!", "Hey guys my mom made cookies and I helped" or "I'm pregnant!" just ignore them. I apologize for being or seeming like a **, then again, I'm not, because I'm explaining MY 2 cents. Sometimes the "I told you so's" are on point but still...not wanted, again, sorry, just being honest. I wish you all the best, God bless, Vaya con Dios
You seem to have completely missed the point on the post above. whenever someone writes a paragraph about how great their life is on a thread which is meant for parents to vent, you know that person is trying to convince themselves their life is great. mine is too but i do not need to on detail. who cares.
LOL looks like I affected you, good, but you cared ENOUGH to comment. Bothered much? Get out of your feelings ya crazy broad. You childfree? More like childless. To the dude above...good for you. Now that I know it bothers you, I'll continue. Hahaaaaaaaaaa!!!😝
Sounds like someone's salty about their screaming baked potato
LOL Love it!
Well you do apparently. You don't like people who gloat, move on and ignore.