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I hate being a parent
I don't hate my kids, but I hate being a parent.
I hate not having anything even remotely resembling a social life. I hate changing diapers. I hate cleaning up after my kids. I hate driving some of them to school. I hate having to cook for them all the time. I hate listening to them fight, or cry, or beg for something. I hate having to take them to sports or activities so they're not bored. I hate having to keep watch over them when friends come over to play.
I hate being trapped in ** broiling desert, backwards ** Arizona, just because a job pays well enough to support four kids and moving would mean working for about 1/2 the pay. I've wasted a third of my life in this ** place because I can't afford to move because of these kids. I hate having to keep a close watch over my kids because I live in a ** huge beige and cement city...the more people there are, the more sick ** you gotta worry about taking kids.
I hate never being able to go anywhere new, see anything new, do anything new. School, meals, naps, sleep. I can't wait for them all to grow up and go away to college. Until then, I'm responsible for them. I'll be 52 when the last leave the house...I'd say half my life will be gone, and I'll have nothing but regrets.
The first kid was ok, I was 28 and figured I would make a good parent. The second got annoying by the time he turned 3. The third and fourth were definitely a mistake in judgement on my part. Should have just said "no ** way" to the wife after the first two. There's times I can't stand the sound of their voices. A couple times I've even gone so far as to wear earplugs and ignore them for an hour or two.
I usually stay up late and deprive myself of hours of sleep, just because I know that the sooner I go to sleep, the sooner another day of dealing with my children will start for me. **, I've gotta get up in 3 1/2 hours to take the older ones to school.
The brief moments of "oh, that's cute" are far overshadowed by the sheer level of ** I hate about parenthood. Passing on my genes is not worth this. If I would have known I'd hate parenthood so much, I'd have gotten a vasectomy at 18.
And to top it all off, I don't drink alcohol. I never acquired a taste for it, and earlier in life had no desire to kill off brain or liver cells, nor give up any self-control. I think I'd like to learn to appreciate a good beer or well-crafted spirit, but I won't. How much more miserable would my life be if I let slip to the wife or others how much I regret almost all of my decisions of the past 18 years (moving to Arizona, having kids, and sometimes even including marriage)?
Why even bother typing this up? I feels a little better just to put it out there, and I know that nobody I know will see this or be able to connect this to me. I put on a pretty decent act as a responsible (and almost caring) parent. I've been living the lie for years.
Well! Today's the day where you lousy, ungrateful and regretful "mothers" can feel self-intitled and worthy of a miniscule praise. Maybe you guys always been looking forward to this day so that you procreated. (Applause) for doing something that any animal can do, which is natural.
This post is from the same bitter childless person who posts again and again trying to rub it in to parents. Seems as you are angry at the world and need to pick on parents because they have what you never will.
Blah blah blah. Copied and paste. Again, so glad I got your attention. Looks like I have a fan. Awwwwww sorry you have nothing else to say. Can't think of anything else huh? Pity.
This post is from the same bitter child-less person who posts again and again trying to rub it in to parents. Seems as you are angry at the world and need to pick on parents because they have what you never will.
Please shut up
The word 'ungreatful' says it all..this persons a barren ** who is bitter she can't have kids. Boo boo 😂😂
When you have a child or children, YOU owe them everything, NOT the other way around
I couldn't agree more but that is not how regret works. He seems to be doing his best under extremely difficult circumstances.
Kids are not something you can take back if it is not for you. It is the only descision that will irrevocably change a moral and responsible persons existence. The gravity of which should be openly discussed with kids at far greater length than it currently is in our pro-natalism orientated society.
I'm in a very similar boat. On one hand the 5% of goodness is AMAZING, but the other 95% is a complete life **.
I remember my dad (who is also a self-proclaimed child disliker) saying "it's hard but it's worth it".... "Or we're all just lying to you"... as of now I subscribe to the latter. I think parents are in a big club devoted to lying to people without kids to join the misery. It's a huge conspiracy. I'll bet there's a private Facebook group somewhere with a couple hundred million members where they get together and chat about how to convince otherwise pseudo-happily childless people to join the group.
But maybe there isn't happiness anywhere. I joke with my wife that we could have had a boat. But boats are expensive and require constant maintenance too... and are a pain in the ** to get rid of, just like kids. 🤔
Nothing false about childFREE (by choice) but if you're referring to the bitter, childLESS who are not by choice, then yeah, those are pseudo-happily childless. Then again, don't assume but you're probably right. I've met other childfree people who are actually happy being. I cherish my childfree life that The Lord blessed me.
Maybe my or our freedom is a reminder to those who simply gave up on their life and had nothing going for them. Life is beautiful!! I just love being alive. God Bless.
First off, thank you for being so completely honest. I know how you feel. I love my kids but parenthood ** **. It's not for everyone and I didn't realize that until it was too late.
You ** and ** and ** but forgot that you chose this, FOH now deal with the consequences like an adult.
"To bear children into this world is like carrying wood to a burning house" Peter Wessel Zapffe.
To those expecting...HOW DARE YOU?
Glad I struck your nerve ya crazy breeder haha. Projecting your anger upon me, I see. That's sad. Don't act sanctimonious because you're just a ** mom or dad, don't matter. I chose what now? Parenthood...? I mean your **? Thank God I didn't, adamantly Childfree sweetie. You must be immensely stupid to think I am apart of the hard. Nope!! Now YOU live with your PERMANENT consequences. I'll be chillin with no stress or worry.😏 toodles!
Why are So many non children having people on this page responding? Clearly your bored go enjoy your stress free life and let those with kids vent in peace.
Why would you even be on this post if you aren't a mom 😂😂 you're so lonely ** you need kids. She just needed someone to talk to. Forgive her lol clown
Exactly! Why are you even here?!? Don't you have anything better to do with your stress free wonderful life than post on this site? Apoatently not. You clearly seem to have other "issues" . You'll probably die lonely and alone. Karma's a **.
And so will you. Kids don't GUARANTEE company. Oh wait, you're ** at the truth because you've been lied to. ** to be you. This is fun. Are you hiding from your kids to get privacy?
You've just proved me right and thank you for going crazy. Good luck negotiating with your screaming ** trophy in grocery stores. Bahahahahaha!
You're a moron.
Haha ** trophies. For real
To parents on here who say the usual "I love my kids but..." and other synonymous terms of endearment. We get what you're saying. You really hate parenthood and probably the fact your kids ruined it just by existing. Well know this: YOU brought them here without their permission. Here's a logical solution: deal with your mistakes. Don't care if it's easy said than done, I'm just blessed that I'll never go through the ** you're all going through.
If children aren't a need, then they're wants. And me no want.
Unfortunately there's no possible way to know the feeling and predicting the future, parenting is overrated! Once they're here you can't return them! Parenting is not meant for everyone but that's something people find out after they have them then it's too ** late!
I've seen parents, even divorced, whom are really passionate and very nurturing to their kids and do a phenomenal job doing so. Smile and in a cheerful mood, still keep in touch with their ex spouse. The kids are so polite, loved, so cute. But I still don't want kids. Some are cute but a lot of work that doesn't have to be extremely hard.
Parents below who complain about their kids bringing them ** by crying and not sleeping and acting unruly, well that's your guys' fault for ALLOWING to happen CONTINUOUSLY and not fixing it. Apparently YOU guys must really loathe your lil darlings. It's like a passive mother who've never disciplined her son, he kills someone, she hides the evidence
Do yourselves and your kids a favor and whip them fools. A bamboo stick and pour water on them, more pain inflicted. Maybe the kids will turn out well mannered and polite, if not, then you guys are really screwed.
Your a ** idiot
I'm a genius compared to your regretful **. Haha. Hey now, don't call yourself an idiot dude. It'll get better...probably not. Looks like someone hates their own spawn....awwwwwww HAHAHAHAHAHA
You're just butthurt because you know I'm right. I know, I know. I'm referring to coddling. It's being lazy. Like breastfeeding a 1 year old. Cut that ** umbilical cord already.
Awww was that too much for your breeder mind to comprehend or convey? Of course another idiot liked it. Typical. Truth hurts doesn't it? Too late for youuuuu!
This post is from the same bitter childless person who posts again and again trying to rub it in to parents.
Hey now, don't beat yourself up for breeding buddy. I know, it's a nightmare for you.
You have no clue, clearly. Go away.
Wow. I feel for you. I understand. I can't write much I have to drive my oldest to their friends house on the first day I've had of work in months.
Anyone YouTube Catch me outside girl? Good luck lousy parents. It's SO worth it.
That's what happens when parents don't use discipline or a switch/belt. I don't have ANY sympathy for them. None.
I have kids.. my newest is a month old. I could just f***ing run away and start a life in Cuba or off the cost of some tropical island. I want to party and meet different people. I want to have **, get drunk and go off the ** rails!! I want to drink and smoke weed till I pass out.. NOPE! "Can't do that Mr. Dad. You have to be responsible now, Mr. Dad." When I was single life had its obstacles but it was fun-ish.. now I've ** up and I'm in to deep.. these aren't obstacles anymore. It's just a massive brick wall that enlarges when you try to climb it. I love em dearly but I'd rather rip my own intestines out through my knee caps than be a dad.
You sound like a stupid teen. Should've thought ahead before permanently and impetuously brought forth a child. Where's Casey Anthony?
I understand this on such a deep level
I've had fantasies of just running away and living cheaply on a beach in Costa Rica. I justify it by saying, well I'd be so much more relaxed and living a healthy lifestyle that I would live longer both for myself and... for the kids!
Of course, I'm far too responsible to do that even though they are driving me into the ground. I don't enjoy my life like I used to but I endure.
I bet you're one of the ones who tells people how wonderful it is, and it's all worth it.
I suspect parents say that to their childfree friends because they're jealous of us. And why oh why did you have MORE kids if you were so miserable?
The world is overpopulated as it is!!
We call that "breeders Remorse"
I am actively and adamantly childfree. This is the sort of thing that terrifies me about having kids. My mom had me one week after her 22nd birthday. My birth father left when I was 6 weeks old. My dad I grew up with adopted me when I was 4. My mom was pregnant with my sister at her wedding when I was 4. I know they love us, but they struggled. My mom was constantly run down, my dad had a drinking and gambling problem and had no education and broke himself down working in factories his whole life until he had a stroke a few years ago and retired disabled. My mom retired disabled as well after years of working on her feet as first a teaching assistant, and then a teacher when she was finally able to go back to school.
They never left the ** hole of a town our family lived in for generations. Then I look at my aunts. One has a hellion of a kid who has two kids by two different baby daddys and no education. Lives at home with my aunts. The other has a severely disabled daughter and a son who is in his 30s and a ** with no job (never had one).
In short, kids are a ** ** shoot and they ruin your life. I am glad I never had them. People call me an old maid at 36 and warn me that if I don't change my mind I'll die alone, but I don't give a **. Any HINT of parental role in a potential partner - biological, adoptive, step, whatever - and I run for the ** hills. I'll die alone before I parent ANYONE's kids. Thank god I'm a lesbian, too. No oops babies here.
36 means you're one of the smart ones. Let the doubters lie to you, they're eating their own words. It's blissful really. I'm happily childfree. Heeey!
Thank you, but I don't know if it was smarts or fear. I look around at all the miserable people with kids in just my own family and I'm like - no ** way. At least my mom's kids got the ** outta her house and stayed out so she can have a life, though it's bittersweet because now she's a caretaker for my father. I mean, he's okay, but the stroke gave him cognitive issues and he'll never be able to do things like take care of official business, pay bills, remember doctor's appointments and orders, etc. So, she's still giving her life to care for others, just like she's been doing since she was 22. It's a real shame.
Solo polyamory and no kids is the only way to avoid that **.
Nahhh I'm sure it's smarts dear. You're good, we'd end up like these poor fools on here. Nope!!! I rather regret NOT having kids and enjoy my carefree lifestyle, which is why they get so angry about....I would be too: stuck with a kid you never wanted. That **!!!!
At least maids get rewarded for their hard work, slaves, like these parents...chances are very slim to be rewarded. Kid ends up chronically ill or terminal, car accident, mental disabled, shot at, etc. flaunt yo blessings
Even if they do turn out okay, they still wind up with issues and blame the parents for it. I know I still look back at the ** that went on in our house when I was a kid and blame my mom, even though deep down I know she was doing what she thought was best at the time. I don't agree with her on much of anything, and I keep my distance from the shitshow that is my extended family.
You lost me on your first sentence. We really don't care what you have to say. No, REALLY, we don't give a ** about your opinion.
That's because you're a miserable and regretful parent. You cared enough to commit though HAHAAAAAA😝 You should've thought ahead. Also, speak for yourself. Go cry and lock yourself in a close. One of your few hidden, privacy spots LOL You must correlate with the "oops babies" comment. It's called abortion!! Now you're stuck and must deal with that mistake you made. Good news, it might leave you and never return.
Three and a half years later, they have 24 Likes and you have 3. So much for nobody giving a ** about *their* opinion. Stupid breeders like you do so love to project, don't you? LOL
I'm a single dad that's done raising children. I raised my two on my own, just finished that up and got remarried and spent ten more years raising 3 more. My wife got sick early to I did it all, work, cook, clean, caretake my wife and raise her kids. Their father paid nothing, she earned nothing and I never got a dime of child support from anybody. Well, I'm 62 now, just got done spending 36 years doing almost nothing I wanted to do. I have 5 kids that text me happy birthday and happy father's day and diligently call me when they need money or a car worked on. Was it worth it? Nope, all I am is a chump
You're a good man.
He is. But look what it has gotten him.
You're are a solid guy, I'm sorry your life turned out that way but how could it otherwise? Carry on, my friend.
It takes a lot of ** to raise another man's kids, even if the kids don't appreciate it, you know you are a good man.
Most of the time I feel like I hate being a parent as well. This is not fun or enjoyable 90% of the time.
Dude or girl, I admire your integrity.
** freak put a gun in your mouth and set your kids free
Spoken like somebody that hasn't sacrificed everything they ever thought they wanted for 5 people that wouldn't ** on them if they were on fire. Rather have somebody put the gun I'm your mouth
** ppl here. Cool!
Isnt this 4chan?
5? After about a month the first one I was able to realize "hey, this is an AFWUL experience! All the breeder propaganda has been lies! Total lies!! Like ** I am ever doing this again!!!"
How did you get all the way to five before figuring out that this is a bad idea?
I Hope you get hit by a bus
A magic school bus?
** you really lost and here you are getting g patted on the back by strangers as a reward.
Whoa now THATS harsh. Sounds like a projection.
Your confession helps me so much, because I have chosen not to go down the parenthood path. I work with children every day. I love my job. But I could not handle dealing with kids 24/7/365. I realized this while I was in college, thank goodness. And the longer I sat with that decision, the more right it felt...even when I hit my late twenties and through my thirties, when all my friends were procreating like it was their ** JOB. I know I chose right for myself and my life. Because I'm female I get some odd and/or pitying looks if someone figures out I'm not having kids...but weathering the flak from the herd is worth keeping my sanity, freedom, and sense of self. I know there are people out there who regret parenthood as you do. No one dares speak of it, because there's no point and because of the backlash from other parents.