I hate being a parent

Perhaps narcissists aren't meant to have children

Either you don't have children or you are so dependent on making others happy that you don't ever think about yourself. Either way, you don't have room to judge.

Perhaps people with low intellect and no lives are the ones meant to have and enjoy children.

Bahahaha

But smug wankers are?

Perhaps you should shove your idiot opinion up your **.

You're so right, I love myself too much to share my life with a kid; NOT worth it. I love my selfishness (or is it?). Everything for ME! Earth doesn't deserve my kids.

I love my kid to the moon and back but there is no way in ** I would wver do this again for another. Blows my mind why anyone has more than one.

You sound JUST like me! I have said that countless times.

I was afraid of being lonely so I decided to stay with someone I did not love. We both stayed together out of fear of having to date again. She wanted kids and I never really liked the idea of having children. I had to break it off. I don't know how I got the courage as I hate being alone. I was ready to have kids so she would stay with me. We fought over almost everything. These posts help me see what could have been my future. Thanks for sharing

Not worth it.

Omg you made the right choice. !!! Heck yes

What is with ppl lacking communication and sharing interests? TALK. You sealed your fate eternally. Alone can be a blissful thing...something wrong with you. Need Jesus

Yeah, you could've been traveling to Italy by now, visiting Disneyland with a girlfriend, go on peaceful adult dates, movies every Friday night or movie night at your place or hers, shop around, walking your dog on your days off, taking her to Santa Cruz and flaunt her around, exercise, go on a Cruise ship (just the two of you), scuba diving in the Bahamas, discover new hobbies and friends, and most of all, have undisturbed and deep slumber in Slumberland on Saturdays, its limitless really. Now THAT'S worth it. But that's me.

Disney Land is mostly for kids u dope so if u don't like kids there will b plenty of them there

It must be u cuz stiff coklards don't do stuff other than try to stuff

That's a good life of luxury. Oh wait. No kids. HAHAHAHA you ** them off! OMG this is hilarious! Everything you listed they probably could NEVER achieve of doing. They're just upset cuz they have rug-apes at home to "care" for and regret their irreversible yet dumb decision to breed BAHAHAHAHAAAAA I bet the "undisturbed and deep slumber" comment got to them. Lack of sleep DOES cause one to become irate and surly. They had no idea of the what ifs and settled for less and ** because they're not smart like us and thought beforehand. Of course they'd be mad, but ** for and to be them. Probably fat slobs babysitting with chains on their ankles. There are adult only restaurants and cinemas... I'd be ** at MYSELF too if I was them, since I wouldn't be able to do ANYTHING with kids around. They're trying to play the martyr bs. As usual!!!! Your bragging was awesome and they exposed themselves! Dumbass(es)!!!!

Majority in reality will state otherwise like its all rainbows and unicorns so we can join in their misery. Only a few with ** will tell and advise you not to have kids and how much they wish to be in my shoes and say how lucky I am.

It is crying, it is feeding, it is clothing, it is cleaning, it is pain, it is torture, it is depression and it is forever.
It has felt good to let this out. I wish someone would have told me all of these things before I had children. I heard that it was rewarding and hard and that it was worth it and that motherhood was the greatest job a woman could ever have.
There are many things I would do differently if I could go back. My greatest hope is that when my children get older, they will look back and have more good memories than bad ones. And I know that it will ONLY be when they are adults with brats of their own, that they will realize how much i sacrificed for them and how hard I truly worked to ensure they had everything they wanted and needed and how Momma done without everything so that they could have.

If you love them tell them what a thankless soul sucking job being a parent is. Why would you wish this on them?

Oh boy...the same lie that's hitting gullible fools like you and turned you into a martyr. Whomever told you that having kids is a woman's greatest job, was a chauvinistic idiot that's going through their own ** raising their own demons and wearing a mask to hide their inner, true, miserable self. Why would you wish that on your own kids? You're something else alright. It's like wishing a childfree person/couple to have kids but you know they'll get rid of it before their lives become like yours...that's ridiculously psychotic. YOU...a mom?

Unwanted advice. This is on the top 5 of my list. You will have anybody and everybody giving you advice about how you should and should not raise your child.

Envy. There is always that one mother or father who seems to freaking be doing so much better than you at parenthood. They have the nice house with the spotless lawn and the bright blue mailbox with a fancy Holiday bow tied around the clean sparkling pole, the nice cars, the ironed clothes. They post status updates with the countdown to their beach vacation and you prepare yourself for their 50 picture posts a day. You look at them and then you look at your family and all you can do is shake your god damned head in amazement wondering why you couldn't do that, wishing you could be more like that. It's not happening though, ever. Those people may even be the reason you wanted a family to start with. It looks great! It sounds fun! It is not.

From my experience those people actually have the most f***** up families. Behind the perfect facade it's pretty much ** for each one of them in one way or another.

Yeah look at 19 kids and counting. They have no lives... they're not happy. Just plastered smiles. Oh well. Disgusting

Just because THEY'RE lives SEEMS like Heaven, doesn't mean yours will...false facade. I've heard such awful stories. Some grown kids complaining how selfish their parents are...hmmm. Reddit! 19 kids and counting...now THAT'S **. The mother is a moo. A CF term

Then it starts school and demands even more money. It tells anyone who will listen all of your business.

"Momma sleeps with no clothes on." ONE freaking time I sleep without clothes since the little heifer was bored and she tells everyone she meets. You have no personal life whatsoever anymore.
"My Momma said she doesn't like you."
"My Momma has hair on her **."
"My Momma says she doesn't want to be here and she hates you."
"My Momma sweeps everything up under the stove."
"My Momma doesn't clip her toenails, she gets them off with her fingers."

You lose your body. You lose your money, You lose your home. You lose your freedom. You lose your car. You lose your parents and family because now it's all about the freaking baby. Nobody calls to see how you are anymore, they call to see how the freaking baby is.

Why do you say that type of stuff around her???? I can agree with everyone else's plight but honestly all of your issues are your own fault. Stope saying you "don't like" certain people while she's around...it's not that hard.

Wow. You actually referred your own flesh and blood as "it" haha amazing...you deserve to be on here. Thanks for the heads up I already know! Your social life must be dead if you're telling your "little heifer" that.

Some of us don't really care for the baby. We miss our traitorous friend who decided to become a slave. It's just obligated to ask how the baby is and then they start ranting and venting and bawling how they miss their old lives. Oh well. I can't help. You sealed your ccrappy fate. Why give up a fun of limitless choices and festive life for a boring kid? Soon I forget abt that friend and find more and better ones.

My friend literally texted me to see how I'm doing and it's been YEARS. She has 2 kids, a philandering husband and oblivious of why her life is in turmoil. I texted her those many years ago, but no reply, hmmmm. So I ignored her, seems like she wants something off her chest and complain. I moved on, and I'm no therapist. I refuse to babysit. Can't believe I was friends with an immature, selfish putz.

That's one of the reasons why us childfree don't want that. Moochers. Kids will leech until youre in your deathbed (The Will). YOU brought them to this world. So do your job with a fake smile on your face. But we ALREADY see and know of the ** that goes with having kids. It's not worth it at all. We aren't missing nothing!

You just can't hold water around your nosey kid. I remember back in the day when parents parent very well, including disciplining and when there are other adults around conversing, and kids are present, my mom would tell me "adults are talking" and that'd be our cue to leave and play elsewhere. I can't stand nosey kids. They're too vacuous to know adult conversations so what's their purpose to be around and listen. Send it outside to exercise and play. Problem solved. Speak softly if you can. Idk how you're making it so difficult for yourself. Just utter negligence.

You don't have to be a parent to know how to raise kids. Foolish

The little brats elbows and fingers. They will hit you, head but you, bite you, kick the ** out if you, pinch you, pull your hair and cause you great physical pain. You will spend the first few months loving your newborn baby. Their sweet little coo's and tiny cry is warm biscuits and God damned gravy until you realize that it's getting louder and louder and it's happening more and more often and the little ** starts doing it all throughout the night every single ** night. Then, it starts ** crawling and crying at the same time. It starts crawling to you and crying and making it loud and clear that it is now becoming even more demanding. A year later, you've changed 15 thousand ** filled diapers and you decide that either the little ** will start crapping in the toilet, or whatever, just that you're not wasting another freaking dime on a 30 dollar box if diapers that it's starting to fill up with bigger dumps that are now leaking out the sides of the diapers, running down its legs and onto the carpet and you spend hours on your knees cleaning up ** and ** stains out of the carpet. There's a bottle that's been left out and stuck between the couch cushions with clabbered milk in it for weeks now and you wonder what that foul smell is that's been lingering all this time. You can't decide if it's the babies ** diaper, the ** stains, or if it's your own bodily fluids from where you haven't been allowed to shower for days on end because Junior won't stop crawling and crying and demanding your undivided constant attention.

You allowed that to happen. Continue being a slave. You have unruly bastards. YOU need to fix it. Take responsibility for once. I'm not surprised parents like you reek. Baths don't hurt btw. Or give him up and live the life you wished it would be...but you'd be deemed as a lousy, deadbeat, selfish mom. You'll still be a mom. Just spitallin the obvious and stuff.

If you are even a little bit broke, don't have kids. They constantly need new ** that you will also eventually need to buy for yourself, but you will not be able to. You'll wear shoes with holes in the soles and you'll do without so that the kid can have. Sleep will never be the same. Your ** life will be over. You not only will give up your body for 9 months, but you'll share your body with an unintelligent shameless tiny human who is incapable of knowing any boundaries. You will have never ending bruises forming on your flesh in places you should never get them from

Well you repugnantly had ** DURING pregnancy. So karma, no sympathy here, they are not miracles, its just like defecating. Pregnant women gross me out. It's a phobia. Get over it. Doctors should sterilize broke idiots who "want a baby" before there's another Octomom accident rather telling them to wait at a certain age or marital status, suggesting or declining an intellectual who chose not to have kids and refuse to sterilize them. Messed up society. Ew. High population=another plague=high mortality rates.

Government, well US govt is trying to kill us anyway. NWO planning things...

Kids are just walking diseases, so I won't be surprised if parents go. I don't want none of that ** in my nice clean home.

I refuse to share my body with an annoyingly, bothersome, probably ungrateful lil parasite that'll develop some random problem that I'll probably hate, order me around, determine when I sleep and for how long, give up **, give up freedom, and anything I enjoy/cherish/love, for a kid. It's just not worth it and I'm only 25. Puppies are far better, c'mon, they STAY adorable and they're easier and cleaner.

Fools won't listen. They'll keep reproducing like rabbits. But broke rabbits that should get licensed to breed. Haha stupids!

Im a mom of 2 and feel the same way. Dont feel bad.

More like dont feel bad 'coz you can't go back!

I love your comment. I wish i can give you so many likes. Hilarious! Hahahahaha

Dude. Thank you for putting into word what i cant.

I love my children. I have 2 children of my own, 1 foster, and 1 I have raised since he was 2.

I hate being a parent. Maybe if it was just 2 of my own I would feel differently about the way things have gone. That just isnt reality.

I met my wife about 2 years after going through potential suitors. Yes, men can be picky just like women. I had alot going for me back in the late 90's. Ambition, direction, and the ability to overcome obstacles due to financial responsibility.

I had gone through women due to personality incompatibility. Whether it being wants, religion, or even chemistry with one another. It wasnt much for me to date 1 week and just totally cut the relationship off after a couple of dates.

Why waste your time?

Well, this one, we had great chemistry and it just seemed she needed a little support to become successful. It came out later, about 2 weeks, that she indeed had a child. Less than 2 years old I gave it a chance. In fact, I was a stepchild and maybe this could right some of the wrongs, I felt happened to me growing up.

I had a terrible stepfather who, honestly, hated my exsistence. Literally. i even broke it off, with my future wife, but found her on the doorstep with this beautiful boy the next morning. She apologized sincerely. I just could not let my gut tell me NO!!!

I worked 2 jobs for 4 years supporting us as a family, helping put her through school and living in a elite school district for her child. She then worked part time as a bartender and finished up her Masters degree in Psychology.

As she worked towards owning her own business, we decided to have another child. During this period, the EX came back into the life of her first son. Total and unfortunate fore sight on my part. That has been the degredation of this relationship ever since.

Regardless, we had another child and there is no way I'm having him grow up, like I did as a child. Things got worse as the first child grew older. He learned through his father, I have no right to raise him or punish him. In mom's eyes, that is her first born. In an argument, I would be fighting 2 people, not 2 supporting parents disciplining 1 child.

We never saw eye to eye on discipline. Me being raised military, and she being raised in poverty where simple things like "boyfriends not sleeping over" was not frowned upon in her household. The 2 differences in growing up, do not see eye to eye. I did not realize this until it was 10 years into the relationship and now she has her own financial stability, making decisions off of her liberal schooling.

So, being in her field and having this huge bleeding heart, she brought home a child in his teenage years that is an outstanding kid, but was in a bad home. Initially, it was temporary, 2 weeks at most. He has now been with us 3 years.

2 years ago we had an "oopsie" which is odd. She wanted a girl, and I was considering having 1 more but not quite ready.I had sperm issues and it took 2 years to have my own "first" child. The last? Well **, pregnant after the first week she apparently traded 1 birth control to another.

So now, I work shift work in which I am able to knock out 50 hours a week, in 2 days. I have had the youngest since birth till he was 1 year and 2 months old on my off days. Pretty much all the time. While working 50 hours a week, I became Daddy Daycare.

So now I have 4 children, 2 of whom, are not my seed. The child I fell in love with totally disrespects me because "Mother" gives him a different answer to a "want" when I feel he does not deserve. I work 50 hours a week, while making less than my wife by double, who works almost 40 hours a week. I have the kids on my off days, from noon till 7pm and she complains she needs help. Its absolutely terrible. I feel she "drops and runs" with the, now 2 year old, every moment she gets. If he whines any bit, she simply cannot handle it. She will find shopping to do on a moments notice if the youngest naps.

Leave. Save your sanity.

The 2 youngest are absolutely fine with me. Never have problems with them listening or lacking in direction when I'm around. Totally different when she is home and she cants stand 2 hours of it before "bailing".

Hey, I want my "me" time too.

I would not change the timeline, due to my 2 boys now. Lord in Heaven, I wish it just never would have happened this way. Why could I not just fuggin said, "Too bad", the morning when she came back on my doorstep.

Thank you for this ability to vent.

I dread 15 more years from now, when we divorce, and I lost 30 years I could have had children with and could have been happy at the same time.

I HATE KIDS!! I absolutely hate the little self centered selfish brats! WANT WANT WANT ....me me me is all they ever say! Destroy your car, house, sometimes clothes and turn you old real quick...they ** out your life force!! Leave you miserable, tired and A LOT closer to death!! I love my boyfriend but just him...but I ** hate his kids! I wish they a lot with his ex their mom would fall off a cliff!! I pray for a freak accident everyday!! I would cry my fake cry like I was sad when inside I would be dancing for joy and the happiest I have been in a year!! I mean i have him convinced I actually like them and want them around, so a fake cry would be easy! Now I would never risk jail time but please I pray for a hail storm or freak lighting or the car stalling on the train tracks SOMETHING freak accident to happen!! Their mom is a druggy who pops pills I mean maybe a car wreck because she popped to may pills...please god help me out here!! I pray everyday for this...or for their mom to move to another state or even country and take them!! I will pay the child support just to have them out of the picture! His youngest annoys the ** out of me...he never stops talking and he is adhd or something because he never sits the ** down either. I do love their father but not enough to put up with them! I am financially stuck or I would have moved already! I did not sign up for the kids nor do I want them! The boy friend is now talking he wants them full time...OH ** ** NO!! That is going to be a deal breaker and we will be finished and over if that happens!! I cannot find anyone in my age group that has grown kids or no kids! THEY ALL HAVE young kids!! WTF!! Keep your ** in your pants and use condoms men!! Some women do not to deal with kids.

I'm not going to judge you. You can not live your life being this unhappy. They're not you'rs, you have no responsibility to them. RUN while you can!!

Leave him!!!

Looks like that kid needs a good ** whipping. Problem solve for adhd brats or monsters. I love seeing good parents PARENT and discipline their offspring. Ahhhhh you don't have to be a parent or a genius to know how to "raise" a kid. Brat makes a scene in public and embarrasses you, put it back in its place quick. It's NOT abuse. The govt can't over jurisdicted your parenting. Wake up.

Real women who knew they didn't want nor like children would be smart enough to abort or be on the pill rather being stuck like in your unfortunate situation and men would be smart enough to wrap it up. No wonder God feels sorry for parents these days...myself and others see why

Why date a man WITH kids?! Thats settling for less or being desperate. Idk God's plans but ugh you could probably do a lot better. They're just in the way. Damage goods! Claim "I never loved her..." my friend's coworker, who dated a man with an autistic kid said she would purposely ask and bug her dad for her needs that she's capable of doing on her own. She swears never again. The kid got in between their intimate moments. That'd drive me away too.

Single parents can be deal breakers. Unless their ex is dead, maybe...but I'm too better for that HAM and baby mama drama. The stories!!!! Ew. I see it as, he'll want another kid from you, a kid you don't want, end up autistic as well, therefore I see it as a genetic defect. Me no like. I'm like a lion. Look what a coalition of lions or a lone lion will do, when their targeted pride ALREADY has cubs...I won't kill but the concept makes sense unfortunately. Kids are in the way. Why bother???!

Single parents with kids are excess baggage.

Thank you to everyone who posted on here. I read each and every single comment.

I find myself on here because I just ended a 2 year relationship because she wants kids. We are both 33. I went from
"maybe, but probably not" to "ok I will have kids if that makes you happy." I find myself wondering if that was the right decision. I had convinced myself I could still pursue my two careers. One during the day and one at night. I have a regular corporate job and a gig as a musician that has started to finally make me some money. I told myself I could record my music at home while the kids played around me... I am guessing that was not realistic from the stories I am reading here.

What a lot of parents here don't see is a life of not wanting kids can be lonely. I still think the dating pool that does not want kids isn't as big.

I guess I am still confused. What I do know is I have never really been around kids. My dad, boss, friends, coworkers all ask when will I have my baby. I know at least one friend has been pressuring me because he feels that he went into this alone. I always felt he wants me to go through this too so I can join his club of suffering.

I think I'll be okay. I've always loathed being alone but I realize that holding on to someone and having kids just not to be alone would cause more issues. I may need some help with feelings of loneliness, anxiety and depression because I have been on a thin line between settling down with someone and having a family to avoid loneliness, and between being true to myself and sticking to not wanting to have kids.

Any suggestions or advice from those of you who are more experienced is greatly appreciated.

It's a confusing situation. I'm not a father and I often have feelings that I would like children and then at other times I'm ok with the fact that I don't. My wife and I have both been on the fence over the issue but when EVERYONE around you has them and when you see parents playing with their children in the park it's easy to feel that you are missing out on something. I often think about my life choices when I'm working on my laptop in a cafe and the families come in (admittedly the parents always look harassed) and they are there with their children. However difficult it may/may not be being a parent being on the other side of the fence is also difficult. I watch them knowing that I may never have what is that I "imagine" they have with their children. I just wish we could live twice.

What you need to remember is when you go around on forums you will always find what you are looking for. If you want to find negative posts on parenting then you can find them and if you want to find positive posts you can find them also and it's easy to tune in to whatever channel supports how you feel at that moment in time. That's why the internet isn't really making people smarter or more knowledgable just more confused and introspective. But forums can't help you make decisions, they can be a good diversion, but I think the more you read the greater the confusion. At least that's the way it is for me.

I think whichever route you take you will get the good and bad and it's human nature to think about what the other option might have been like and to colour it as being better than your current reality. Man, I do that all the time with this issue. When it looked like my wife might have been pregnant I freaked out and all I saw were the negative comments on forums. When it turned out she wasn't pregnant all of a sudden I was a little sad and then I only saw the good and positive parent comments on forums.

If you feel you dont want kids, you made the right choice. My man and i had tge most passionate, fun relationship. Now after an oops resulting in a son, we fight all the time, are both very exhausted and havent had ** in months. I hate my life now. He hates his life now, and neither of us are the partner we want to be. I refuse to ever have another child. Its good you recognized your wishes before getting stuck.

Make sure you dont have another. Get him to get a vasectomy, and count down to Kindergarten. That's what I do!

Gosh it feels so good having uninterrupted **, spending time together, playing and flirting still, and already knowing our lives are perfect and complete without kids to ruin all of it.

The oops would've been taken care of before an innocent life was brought into existence unfortunately...you caused it after all.

No - staying w someone to keep from being lonely is bad enough (that's what I did) but once we had a kid (15months old) it drained our souls and hearts and because we stayed together out of fear of being alone, we can't parent together on the same wave length because we're not the right ppl for one another. Having a kid killed any bright aspect of our relationship that was left and I can't stand being a parent. My soul is sucked dry I'm constantly sick from being run down from no sleep working full time and taking care of everything while listening to a baby whine and throw tantrums - I whisper to myself at least once a day "God I wish I didn't have a kid" - have a kid if u meet ur soul mate and both agree on parenting style - also don't have a kid if ur not doing good financially -

Oh no dear God no you made the right choice. I am 30 and got pregnant with someone I was dating for 2 years and now I'm single parent thankfully the father takes her to but seriously it is the biggest mistake I've ever made in my life. I was so used to being free and independent and never wanted a child and I thought to that it wouldn't be quite this bad or that I would still be able to do this hobby or that with the child around but that's f****** impossible for like the first eight years at least

Well idk if you Read my other comments on here but I only had an still have 1kid I am a singer an now a DJ wen my kid was 4, 5 I would sing do demos all the time in the same recording studio an except 4 2times kid played wit toys quitely but again I only hav1kid so no biggie 4me now kid is a teen annoyed with my DJ equipment an just leave the recording studio 4another room so I guess hav1kid if u have other rooms or don't have any I don't recommend having mo then 1 tho especially if you do music

I hate being a parent so much. We never wanted children but are in our late 30s and had a vague notion we might regret not having them later. So we tried and it happened straight away. We've gone from going out all the time doing cool things, spontaneous trips and relaxing holidays, lie-ins, chilling out at weekends to being a slave to a toddler and up to neck in household chores, responsibility, exhausted and no social life at all. Would do anything to have my old life back, we have both had breakdowns and been prescribed anti-depressants and I miss our old life and relationship as it was so much.

I get it. I wish I were not a parent as well. Gad my daughter @ 41 because I thought 1) my husband will hate me if we dont have a family 2) I may regret it later and especially when I am old....how's that for selfish?

I find myself making excuses of why mommy can't play. Sometimes her voice sends me into irritability. She does not understand and will tell me "Mommy you never play with me and it makes me sad."

So freakishly what I have found out is when I make sure I do the things I love, music, I am a singer and will be putting together my 1st band @ 48! I do my kundalini yoga and work a job that I love (self employed ) and keep in touch with a few select friends I am happier and don't feel trapped by my kid.

I can't be gone all the time but I make sure I do something I love 3 times a week even if it is only 30mins and EVERYONE KNOWS if mommy is focused on music or in a lesson or working from home you don't dusturb her and sometimes you can't come into the same room. However, I will make it a point to let my spouse and my daughter know when I need this alone time. And let my daughter know I am not mad at her.

I will watch my daughter when my husband needs the same thing and will often tell him to go. And my husband and I are going to a mediator to structure a divorce and are ** ** broke.

If you let a kid run your entire life of course you will resent it. Think about somethings you want in the future start doing it and get excited about that. Ultimately it is your life and you do not have to sacrafice everything. If you resent your kid they will know it and kids dont believe about themselves what is true, they believe what you believe about them.

Plus you, ** me as well am ** myself for what kind of teen I will have created. The real truth is my daughter got here because of my ** up fears I mentioned in the 1st paragraph. That some how in my great pre parent wisdom I decided the yet to be born was capable of taking care of me.

L admire your approach to parenting
l need to do this

We we were on the fence too and in our late thirties now. Some days I find myself wondering what the ** I've done. It's awful bc he really is a great kid. I just find parenting so boring!! We are definitely only having one! And then I feel bad that I brought him into this world and I'm not willing to bring another one in so he can have a sibling because I can't stand parenting! Ugg!

I was there. Luckily they get older fast and u get your life back. Mine is 14 now and i can date again.

Your dating life will be ruined by your own kid...

Regret having them or regret NOT having them?

I honestly can't fathom how you people cannot see this coming. Childfree KNOW. We know about anti-depressants that are used to cope with your mistakes/dead ends.

Uh, you can still have a social life, still go on holidays etc. Just learn to manage your time. Quit ** complaining and playing the victim. You have one kid to look after. BOO HOO

I feel u. If i could turn back time...i will not have kids or even get married

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